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swedeace · 03-31-2007, 09:25 PM

....just to make sure things were all right? It just happened to me. Let me explain:

I left a friend a voice mail asking if she and her husband wanted to come with me to check out some dancing at this dance studio. I posted about this in a couple of threads already. She called me back just to chit-chat, and she apologized for not getting back to my call. I told her about the dance studio, and she declined. She didn't want to impose on anyone to care for their four-month baby boy, so she said they were just gonna hang out and eat pizza. Then, she asked if I was going, and I said I planned on it.

Suddenly, I hear her husband talking in the background about the pizza. With all that clutter of noise (like something fell on the ground), I couldn't hear what my friend said, so I just waited on the line.

I could hear her and her husband arguing over who burnt the pizza, how her husband dropped some of the pizza on their dog, etc. I couldn't catch every word, but I did catch some words here and there. I have a difficult time hearing a lot of background noise over the phone. Anyway, I stayed on the line for a couple of minutes wondering if my friend was going to return after tending to this "pizza incident." After about a minute, I thought that my friend probably didn't get to hang up her phone and meant to, so I kept staying on the line. Part of me wanted to wait on the line and listen in. I wanted to make sure nothing would happen, abuse-wise, to my friend. You know, I am paranoid because I grew up in a home where my dad physically, mentally, and verbally abused my mom quietly. It was purely domestic violence. No one else knew this. I just wanted to make sure for my friend's sake.

After about four minutes, I hung up the phone. This got me thinking.... Have you ever done this before? Listened in on a phone line after the other person didn't realize they hadn't fully hung up? Would you consider this an invasion or a measure of concern? Your thoughts?

Max Whittaker · 03-31-2007, 09:50 PM

I've listened in on many conversations to find out who the people around me truly are. But only when I suspect I'm being lied to, or am being talked about behind my back, or I feel I'm being otherwise deceived.

I did it a lot with my last roommate. Not that I'm proud of it. But that's the only time I eavesdrop.

Janice · 03-31-2007, 10:27 PM

I would in a minute if I thought I was being trash talked or deceived, but not just for the sake of eavesdropping. A few times, my phone rang and it was my husband's cell. He'd press it by mistake. I'd hear him talking with his employees, but I was so bored that I hung up. I joked and told him it's a good thing he wasn't cheating on me in some motel, lol.

cmcb06 · 03-31-2007, 11:54 PM

Only when I think that i'm being cheated on, or somebody is making a fool out of me. I don't purposely eavesdrop though, just when I need to for my own peace of mind.

swedeace · 04-02-2007, 08:44 AM

It seems like I took this a lot more seriously than others, as far as concern. Maybe I just got too paranoid with the arguing?

My friend did call back last night apologizing about the night before. She told me they had burnt the pizza. I told her it was okay. So, yeah, she was unaware I heard some of their pizza talk convo.

03-31-2007, 09:25 PM	#1
swedeace Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Sep 22, 2003 Posts: 9,009	Would You Accidentally Listen in on a Convo....? ....just to make sure things were all right? It just happened to me. Let me explain: I left a friend a voice mail asking if she and her husband wanted to come with me to check out some dancing at this dance studio. I posted about this in a couple of threads already. She called me back just to chit-chat, and she apologized for not getting back to my call. I told her about the dance studio, and she declined. She didn't want to impose on anyone to care for their four-month baby boy, so she said they were just gonna hang out and eat pizza. Then, she asked if I was going, and I said I planned on it. Suddenly, I hear her husband talking in the background about the pizza. With all that clutter of noise (like something fell on the ground), I couldn't hear what my friend said, so I just waited on the line. I could hear her and her husband arguing over who burnt the pizza, how her husband dropped some of the pizza on their dog, etc. I couldn't catch every word, but I did catch some words here and there. I have a difficult time hearing a lot of background noise over the phone. Anyway, I stayed on the line for a couple of minutes wondering if my friend was going to return after tending to this "pizza incident." After about a minute, I thought that my friend probably didn't get to hang up her phone and meant to, so I kept staying on the line. Part of me wanted to wait on the line and listen in. I wanted to make sure nothing would happen, abuse-wise, to my friend. You know, I am paranoid because I grew up in a home where my dad physically, mentally, and verbally abused my mom quietly. It was purely domestic violence. No one else knew this. I just wanted to make sure for my friend's sake. After about four minutes, I hung up the phone. This got me thinking.... Have you ever done this before? Listened in on a phone line after the other person didn't realize they hadn't fully hung up? Would you consider this an invasion or a measure of concern? Your thoughts?

03-31-2007, 09:50 PM	#2
Max Whittaker I want Serenity back Forum Veteran Join Date: Apr 30, 2001 Posts: 6,180	I've listened in on many conversations to find out who the people around me truly are. But only when I suspect I'm being lied to, or am being talked about behind my back, or I feel I'm being otherwise deceived. I did it a lot with my last roommate. Not that I'm proud of it. But that's the only time I eavesdrop.
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03-31-2007, 11:54 PM	#4
cmcb06 Member Frequent Poster Join Date: Jun 01, 2006 Posts: 370	Only when I think that i'm being cheated on, or somebody is making a fool out of me. I don't purposely eavesdrop though, just when I need to for my own peace of mind.
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03-31-2007, 10:27 PM	#3
Janice Retired Admin - Hollywood Swingin' Forum Legend Join Date: Aug 03, 2001 Location: Beantown Posts: 36,388	I would in a minute if I thought I was being trash talked or deceived, but not just for the sake of eavesdropping. A few times, my phone rang and it was my husband's cell. He'd press it by mistake. I'd hear him talking with his employees, but I was so bored that I hung up. I joked and told him it's a good thing he wasn't cheating on me in some motel, lol.

04-02-2007, 08:44 AM	#5
swedeace Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Sep 22, 2003 Posts: 9,009	It seems like I took this a lot more seriously than others, as far as concern. Maybe I just got too paranoid with the arguing? My friend did call back last night apologizing about the night before. She told me they had burnt the pizza. I told her it was okay. So, yeah, she was unaware I heard some of their pizza talk convo.