Need Advice

[tdf4077]

Ok....here I go:

So this past week, I have been feeling really, really sad lately. I mean...I feel like I've actually hit the bottom of a cliff. The problem is that there is no apparent reason for me to feel so sad. I mean sure, I have a bunch of little things that continue to pile up and all, but nothing severe or out of the normal really. Believe me...if I could just "get over it," I would. And I have been trying, but it seems the harder I try to act like nothing's wrong, the more I snap!

Well, the past two days, I've become even more sad because I'm sad for no reason. There are people out there who have a lot worse lives than I do. I should be happy for what I do have and all. I know this, but no matter what I do, I can't overcome this feeling of weight pushing down on me.

I tried calling my doctor today to try to get an appointment to talk to him about it...and I haven't been to a doctor for non-emergency purposes in probably about 5 years!

I guess I just don't know what to do...I know it's pathetic, but I don't really have anybody in my life that I can turn to just to talk, so does any body have any advice?

[Ireneparalegal]

((((((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))))))) to both of you.

[tdf4077]

Originally Posted by _Jen_

I'm sorry that you have been feeling so sad. I hope things get better for you. It might help to go to your doctor.

I understand all to well what it's like to deal with sadness. I, myself, am feeling so rotten right now.... I feel like I'm losing my friends both offline and online. I keep trying to figure out what I've done wrong, what I might have said, etc. All I feel like doing right now is crying and it's taking everything I have to not cry. I'm not sure I can keep myself from not cry for much longer. I really need a friend right now.

Thank you! You get it! That's exactly what I feel like! I only have one friend, and he's usually two busy for me! I have a couple other people who are kinda, sometimes friends, but they have their own lives....and I want to talk to them about my sadness 'cause they're more available and see me everyday, but they just get angry or aloof with me! I don't mean to, and I know they are not at all to blame for anything...but I push. I just feel so destructive and hollow at this point!

[dawsongirl]

I've been exactly where Jen is. I seem to lose friends all the time, then I wonder why I suck so much, then I think I wallow in depression just because. Then I think about work and it has the same affect on me. I have basically no self-esteem anymore.

I hope this isn't a long term thing for you, but talking to a doctor could be beneficial. Maybe you just need someone to talk to once a month or something.

[EmpressDR]

How sad --I can't think of advice, but offer support. I have recently been down in the dumps, too.
The weekend I moved in with my new landlords, last December 1, 2006, I felt absolutely distraught, and depressed. I was nearly in tears. Others wondered why? Because I had been homeless since Oct 25, and had slept in my storage unit for most of that time. So I should've been happy to have a room to rent, right?
No, I was depressed.
There could've been the impact of realization hitting me that I was on track to this sort of lifestyle --renting one room after another, never again owning a home.
OR it could've been a fore-knowledge of what was to come. These jerks were child abusers and made their little puppies go without food and water for long stretches of time in a dark basement. Eventually, the rotten hag throws me out, and it doesn't hurt, just outraged me that the old **** blamed ME?
I moved out, and am totally happier with decent landlords.

What I'm saying is, are there HIDDEN things in your life that may be troubling you? You might be hiding some pain from yourself, or maybe have foresight that some relationship has something wrong with it.
Are there recent changes? Maybe you can FEEL something wrong.

[AB]

Finding someone to talk to might help, and maybe doing something you enjoy.
Hope you feel better soon.

[tdf4077]

Originally Posted by annball1957

Finding someone to talk to might help, and maybe doing something you enjoy.
Hope you feel better soon.

I've tried the things I enjoy...they don't bring me almost anywhere near the enjoyment they used to. I've sought solstice in new activites as well, but alas, they've all failed.

I don't know. I just hope I don't sabotage everything. I wish I had one person I knew would always be in my corner--even when I get down like this and oh so difficult. And the problem with a therapist from my perspective is that they care, but only because they're being paid to...and that doesn't work for me. I know it's not completely true, but it's true enough to not fly for me!

[PZelda]

I am in a situation like that. Only, it's dealing with post-traumatic experiences of my past. I lived in this town for 10 years, and I was often unhappy while I was living there - LOOOONG story. Anyway, I moved away from this town in September of 2003 and have been the happiest I've been while living here. But, it's like all of a sudden... BAM! No reason why, but my past is finally catching up to me AND helping me fall off the cliff. The more I try to push it out of my mind, the more it pushes me over the edge.

There are some other things that are really weighing down on me right now, not just the above. And I'm afraid I've been doing some rather self-destructive things to try to make me forget about the pain for a bit. It was then that I realized I needed to see somebody ASAP.

Lucky for me, I'm in college right now, which means my college has a counseling center that is open to the student body. So, I stopped in yesterday to get the ball rolling.

I would really, Really, REALLY strongly suggest finding a counselor - they will be more than happy to take you on and help you. That's what they are for.

[tdf4077]

For some reason, I find it comforting to know that I'm not alone in my misery...

But there has to be some solution for all of us?

[Chocoholic]

I feel sad a lot of the time too. I don't feel like anyone really understands me. I feel so hollow and alone. I don't think I'll ever find someone who really loves me. I always seem to choose the wrong people to be friends with.

[¤I Love Clay Aiken¤]

Maybe its the winter blues? I know a lot of people get down during the winter time, and if you have no real set reason.. maybe its that?

[tdf4077]

Originally Posted by Homeriffic

I feel sad a lot of the time too. I don't feel like anyone really understands me. I feel so hollow and alone. I don't think I'll ever find someone who really loves me. I always seem to choose the wrong people to be friends with.

Exactly. Well, except the last bit for me. I like my friends. It's not completely their fault it's not an even friendship I suppose. I just need one really strong, health friendship, and I don't know where to start!

[swedeace]

I know what you are all going through. I have fallen into such major depression over the simplest little things. It seems like it has been really bad for me since last summer. I struggle with this on a daily basis. Sometimes I especially feel extra sensitive while I am at work, but I try very hard to hold back the tears. I can't just go and "hide" and bawl like a baby. For one thing, I am working and see/face so many people (co-workers and students) on a daily basis, and my face and eyes get soooooo red when I cry. It then gets too obvious, and I don't want people to stop me and ask what's wrong. Frankly, there are just soooo many personal things I opt not to discuss with so many individuals, so I try to hide this. I often find that I just am not happy. No matter what I do or what I say. I cannot help it, but I am tired of this crap. I wish this depression would go away....

[tdf4077]

Originally Posted by swedeace

I know what you are all going through. I have fallen into such major depression over the simplest little things. It seems like it has been really bad for me since last summer. I struggle with this on a daily basis. Sometimes I especially feel extra sensitive while I am at work, but I try very hard to hold back the tears. I can't just go and "hide" and bawl like a baby. For one thing, I am working and see/face so many people (co-workers and students) on a daily basis, and my face and eyes get soooooo red when I cry. It then gets too obvious, and I don't want people to stop me and ask what's wrong. Frankly, there are just soooo many personal things I opt not to discuss with so many individuals, so I try to hide this. I often find that I just am not happy. No matter what I do or what I say. I cannot help it, but I am tired of this crap. I wish this depression would go away....

I hear you! My students are so dang perceptive (and I'm honestly not good at masking when I'm upset), but I don't want to try to explain everything...especially when half the time I don't know what's wrong, anyways. So, I say, "Nothing. No big deal. Never mind." But then people get angry at me for being short. I don't really know how to reply in these instances I guess.

On top of my Depression or whatever it is right now, I've been having panic attacks left and right the past few weeks...shortness of breath, I start physically shaking...the works. And my isolation makes me panic more!

[Sharop]

There are times when I feel really miserable for no reason. At other times, I'll think of something sad, and then be upset for a long time. I have quite a brooding nature, and I tend to dwell on things.

I really feel sorry for everyone; I know what it must be like. It's horrible. I sometimes find that listening to music can help; especially "feel-good" songs. You're Only Human (Second Wind) by Billy Joel cheers me up temporarily.