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Michael [hXc] · 12-28-2006, 11:27 AM

I am not looking for sympathy and people saying "ooh im sooo sorry that happened", but I want some of you to give your opinions on what this story could mean.

I really liked this one girl, who I only met in person one time. Last year, she was a grade behind me in school. I found her Myspace and sent her a friend request about a month ago, and she accepted. We talked a little bit and it turned out that I really liked her. I thought about her more than any other person.

That was about a month ago. Now, I don't like her as much anymore for various reasons. One of them is that I don't see her in person and don't know her well enough to go to the movies/mall with her. Also, I know about her, like she gets into fights a lot and that she flirts with a lot of guys. So I sent my friend a message about it, since she knows the girl I liked and she knew I liked her. I said in my message that I stopped liking the other one, mostly because I don't talk to her enough. It actually said "I don't really like Evangeline anymore, I don't know why. Probably because I don't know her in real life. Just thought I'd let you know".

It turns out that the girl the message was about was sitting right there reading it. Either she read the message while my friend got up to do something else, or my friend clicked into the message without knowing what was in it. So then, the one I liked sent me a message and it said "wow your an ass. could you get any more rude?"

I don't know why she would say that. Unless she misunderstood my message. She might have thought that I hate her and that's what I meant by not liking her anymore, or she could have understood what I was really saying. Either way, what reasons would she have from either of those situations to say what she said to me?

Are there any other ways she could have misunderstood my original message? Why would it piss her off? I am hoping someone else will be able to explain it.

tdf4077 · 12-28-2006, 11:54 AM

Maybe she thought that you were sending it to this friend because you liked this friend. Evangeline maybe felt like you were bad-mouthing her behind her back. It seems innocent enough to you, and honestly, what you did doesn't seem like that big a deal to me, either, but teenage girls respond drastically to every little thing (trust me...talking from experience).

If you still wan to be friends with Evangeline, you could message her, and just say:

"Look, I'm sorry that you read what I wrote. I was just asking for advice from a friend. I didn't want to hurt you, but now I think I hurt you more. I'm sorry. It's just that I don't really know you that well, and I found myself developing feelings for you. But, I rationalized that I don't really know you well enough for such to materialize. It doesn't mean that I won't like you again somewhere down the road, but I want to know you better first."

Idk.

MsOrange · 12-28-2006, 01:15 PM

The girl might have saw the "i don't like her anymore" as "i hate her now", ya know? Sounds like you just need to talk to Evangaline directly and explain what's going on.

Michael [hXc] · 12-28-2006, 03:08 PM

It's all worked out now, but both of you brought up good points. She thought I didn't like her, but that's because people told me she talked about me behind my back when she didn't. So I told her I liked her for nothing.

But they say everything happens for a reason, so maybe she was supposed to see that original message.

Courtnee · 12-28-2006, 03:09 PM

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Originally Posted by MsOrange

The girl might have saw the "i don't like her anymore" as "i hate her now", ya know? Sounds like you just need to talk to Evangaline directly and explain what's going on.

^^ yes

tdf4077 · 12-28-2006, 03:43 PM

I'm glad everything worked out for you!

12-28-2006, 11:27 AM	#1
Michael [hXc] dying. Forum Fanatic Join Date: Feb 29, 2004 Posts: 8,532	What could this possibly mean? I am not looking for sympathy and people saying "ooh im sooo sorry that happened", but I want some of you to give your opinions on what this story could mean. I really liked this one girl, who I only met in person one time. Last year, she was a grade behind me in school. I found her Myspace and sent her a friend request about a month ago, and she accepted. We talked a little bit and it turned out that I really liked her. I thought about her more than any other person. That was about a month ago. Now, I don't like her as much anymore for various reasons. One of them is that I don't see her in person and don't know her well enough to go to the movies/mall with her. Also, I know about her, like she gets into fights a lot and that she flirts with a lot of guys. So I sent my friend a message about it, since she knows the girl I liked and she knew I liked her. I said in my message that I stopped liking the other one, mostly because I don't talk to her enough. It actually said "I don't really like Evangeline anymore, I don't know why. Probably because I don't know her in real life. Just thought I'd let you know". It turns out that the girl the message was about was sitting right there reading it. Either she read the message while my friend got up to do something else, or my friend clicked into the message without knowing what was in it. So then, the one I liked sent me a message and it said "wow your an ass. could you get any more rude?" I don't know why she would say that. Unless she misunderstood my message. She might have thought that I hate her and that's what I meant by not liking her anymore, or she could have understood what I was really saying. Either way, what reasons would she have from either of those situations to say what she said to me? Are there any other ways she could have misunderstood my original message? Why would it piss her off? I am hoping someone else will be able to explain it.

12-28-2006, 11:54 AM	#2
tdf4077 JaJa Senior Member Join Date: Jan 17, 2006 Location: Ohio Posts: 1,678	Maybe she thought that you were sending it to this friend because you liked this friend. Evangeline maybe felt like you were bad-mouthing her behind her back. It seems innocent enough to you, and honestly, what you did doesn't seem like that big a deal to me, either, but teenage girls respond drastically to every little thing (trust me...talking from experience). If you still wan to be friends with Evangeline, you could message her, and just say: "Look, I'm sorry that you read what I wrote. I was just asking for advice from a friend. I didn't want to hurt you, but now I think I hurt you more. I'm sorry. It's just that I don't really know you that well, and I found myself developing feelings for you. But, I rationalized that I don't really know you well enough for such to materialize. It doesn't mean that I won't like you again somewhere down the road, but I want to know you better first." Idk.
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12-28-2006, 01:15 PM	#3
MsOrange Bringin' Sexy Back Forum Veteran Join Date: Dec 27, 2004 Posts: 6,133	The girl might have saw the "i don't like her anymore" as "i hate her now", ya know? Sounds like you just need to talk to Evangaline directly and explain what's going on.

12-28-2006, 03:08 PM	#4
Michael [hXc] dying. Forum Fanatic Join Date: Feb 29, 2004 Posts: 8,532	It's all worked out now, but both of you brought up good points. She thought I didn't like her, but that's because people told me she talked about me behind my back when she didn't. So I told her I liked her for nothing. But they say everything happens for a reason, so maybe she was supposed to see that original message.

12-28-2006, 03:43 PM	#6
tdf4077 JaJa Senior Member Join Date: Jan 17, 2006 Location: Ohio Posts: 1,678	I'm glad everything worked out for you!