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Lamont · 12-10-2006, 11:29 PM

I found out today that a cousin of mine was killed last night in a car accident. We were not real close and only saw one another once or twice a year, but it still is horrible. He was only 38 years old and leaves behind a wife and a 7 year old child. Especially right here at Christmas time and all, it is so sad. I am still sort of shocked at the news. Doesn't seem real.

I am posting this here to just kind of let everyone remember that these boards are not the end all. We all get worked up online sometimes, and some of us dont always get along.... but when you come right down to it, its silly. I can say this, there is not a single person on the boards that I really have any issue with. Maybe we have argued, maybe we have had a spat or a heated mess.... maybe we have said some things that were not so kind. But noone that I would wish any harm or any misfortune on at all. And I mean noone... not even the ones I have bickered the most with. I wish all of you guys a long, healthy, safe and happy life.

Just kind of puts things in perspective. I spent about 2 hours on the phone making calls to loved ones and arranging with work to have the day off to drive up for the funeral and all. Then I clicked online and checked out the site and just really thought--- the whole bickering stuff really means nothing. We think it does at the time, but its so small. And over nothing. I have not always been kind of fair to some, and I apologize to anyone I have hurt with harsh words. No, I am not kissing up or anything like that. It is just that when things like this happen, it makes us realize what really IS important in real life. What really matters, and what really makes a difference. The boards are fun and all, but they are not real life.

So to all of you I say, Please remember what is important and what matters and cherish the loved ones you have and let them know what they mean to you. I have not been on the boards much lately because of new work schedule and a lack of time, but remember what matters folks. The time we have here really is short. Thanks for bearing with another long post and God bless you and yours.

*Pleasant Tomorrow* · 12-10-2006, 11:34 PM

That was a great post. I'm so sorry to hear about your cousin.

RIP.

Lex Luthor · 12-10-2006, 11:35 PM

My condolences Monty

That is sad news especially this close to Christmas, I hope your family can come together and support each other through this tragedy.

Take Care

J

Lamont · 12-10-2006, 11:39 PM

Thanks for your kind words. I really meant what I said. I know that I am have been a pot stirrer too, but life is really too short to waste time like that anymore. I think back to the time I have spent bickering over politics or trading or tv shows and I think why wasnt I playing with my kids instead? Why wasnt I calling up my mother and telling her I love her? These things matter... and I just hope that everyone else remembers what matters too. I like to think of myself as a good dad and a good Christian, but I have not always acted that way towards others. Not just on the boards, but at work or in day to day life. Bad things like this hurt a lot, not just me but a lot of people and it has really caused me to rethink a lot of things. The stuff that matters will be coming first and foremost from now on.

Brad Russ · 12-10-2006, 11:55 PM

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss Lamont, I truly am.

You're absolutely right, life is incredibly precious, and I think this new outlook you have on things, is a really good thing. It's unfortunate that it took such a tragedy to give you this realization, but atleast something positive has come out of this terrible tragedy. Hang in there man. You and your family will definitely be in my prayers!!!

tdf4077 · 12-11-2006, 12:21 AM

I'm sorry

Janice · 12-11-2006, 12:27 AM

I'm terribly sorry for your loss. Losing a loved one is always devastating, but when it's sudden, it truly compounds the loss. There's an entire psychological dynamic to it. When I lost my sister suddenly in 1991, I was looking for solace, comfort, answers, anything.

I found a book titled, 'No Time For Goodbyes'....or something very similiar. I got it at the library. It helped me understand my feelings better.

I'll say a prayer for your cousin and his family, and a special prayer for you. I'm really sorry.

savageamusement · 12-11-2006, 12:35 AM

I think Janice offers some good advice, if its the book I am thinking of-

My sympathies for your loss...please let any of us know if we can do anything..

FOLrocks1 · 12-11-2006, 12:37 AM

That's really sad. I'm sorry about it. We have a very small family and if that ever happened to one of my cousins, it'd be horrible.

Ireneparalegal · 12-11-2006, 01:26 AM

My condolences to you Lamont. I pray that his wife and child somehow, find the strength to deal with such a loss. I lost a beloved nephew at the age of 12 in a car accident. I know that horrible feeling of seeing a loved one and thinking that you will see them again, only to be told they are gone. It is a feeling that I can't explain.

I pray for them and will ask God in my prayers to "hold them" in his arms and give them comfort.

I just went to a rosary today for a beloved aunt of mine. I just got home. It is true what you said, death really puts into perspective the things that really matter in life.

GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY AT THIS TRAGIC TIME. GOD BE WITH YOU.

Yooch · 12-11-2006, 01:34 AM

First, I'm very sorry for your loss

Also, I thank you for your kind and insightful words.

About a month before my dad died back in 1988, when he was pretty sick, he told me in essence the same thing. He was sitting on the side of the bed. I told him I loved him. And he said, "You want to know something? All the things I used to think were so important in life--aren't." I couldn't come up with any verbal response for that. As we just looked at each other, we both knew he was right. Some of his progeny have followed this advice, and some have not, which accounts for some of the division within my family.

As for SO, too, like you--I have no ill feelings toward anyone. Life's too precious and short. SO are friends that I enjoy spending time with often.

Lamont (Monty), may you and your family be consoled during this loss.

Mr. Television · 12-11-2006, 03:37 AM

I know we have had our problems getting along but I want you to know that I am very sorry for your loss Lamont.

I've lost family members and each time it takes a little bit out of you and it does make you think about life in general. I'll say a prayer for you and your family and God Bless.

Karen* · 12-11-2006, 04:17 AM

That was a good post. Very true. Sorry for your loss, my condolences go out to you and your family.

Superstar · 12-11-2006, 04:29 AM

I'm so sorry for your loss

80sTrivia · 12-11-2006, 06:52 AM

A wonderful and meaningful post... I'm very sorry to hear of your cousin's tragic passing, Lamont...

12-10-2006, 11:29 PM	#1
Lamont Lamont says Smile! Forum Veteran Join Date: May 28, 2005 Location: Deep in the Heart of Nowhere Posts: 5,217	Just found out a cousin of mine died last night in a car accident. I found out today that a cousin of mine was killed last night in a car accident. We were not real close and only saw one another once or twice a year, but it still is horrible. He was only 38 years old and leaves behind a wife and a 7 year old child. Especially right here at Christmas time and all, it is so sad. I am still sort of shocked at the news. Doesn't seem real. I am posting this here to just kind of let everyone remember that these boards are not the end all. We all get worked up online sometimes, and some of us dont always get along.... but when you come right down to it, its silly. I can say this, there is not a single person on the boards that I really have any issue with. Maybe we have argued, maybe we have had a spat or a heated mess.... maybe we have said some things that were not so kind. But noone that I would wish any harm or any misfortune on at all. And I mean noone... not even the ones I have bickered the most with. I wish all of you guys a long, healthy, safe and happy life. Just kind of puts things in perspective. I spent about 2 hours on the phone making calls to loved ones and arranging with work to have the day off to drive up for the funeral and all. Then I clicked online and checked out the site and just really thought--- the whole bickering stuff really means nothing. We think it does at the time, but its so small. And over nothing. I have not always been kind of fair to some, and I apologize to anyone I have hurt with harsh words. No, I am not kissing up or anything like that. It is just that when things like this happen, it makes us realize what really IS important in real life. What really matters, and what really makes a difference. The boards are fun and all, but they are not real life. So to all of you I say, Please remember what is important and what matters and cherish the loved ones you have and let them know what they mean to you. I have not been on the boards much lately because of new work schedule and a lack of time, but remember what matters folks. The time we have here really is short. Thanks for bearing with another long post and God bless you and yours.
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12-10-2006, 11:34 PM	#2
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12-10-2006, 11:35 PM	#3
Lex Luthor I'm bringing Lexy back Senior Member Join Date: Jun 07, 2005 Location: The Great White North Posts: 2,374	My condolences Monty That is sad news especially this close to Christmas, I hope your family can come together and support each other through this tragedy. Take Care J
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12-10-2006, 11:55 PM	#5
Brad Russ Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Feb 17, 2002 Location: Portland, Oregon Posts: 10,085	I'm so sorry to hear about your loss Lamont, I truly am. You're absolutely right, life is incredibly precious, and I think this new outlook you have on things, is a really good thing. It's unfortunate that it took such a tragedy to give you this realization, but atleast something positive has come out of this terrible tragedy. Hang in there man. You and your family will definitely be in my prayers!!!
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12-11-2006, 12:21 AM	#6
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12-10-2006, 11:39 PM	#4
Lamont Lamont says Smile! Forum Veteran Join Date: May 28, 2005 Location: Deep in the Heart of Nowhere Posts: 5,217	Thanks for your kind words. I really meant what I said. I know that I am have been a pot stirrer too, but life is really too short to waste time like that anymore. I think back to the time I have spent bickering over politics or trading or tv shows and I think why wasnt I playing with my kids instead? Why wasnt I calling up my mother and telling her I love her? These things matter... and I just hope that everyone else remembers what matters too. I like to think of myself as a good dad and a good Christian, but I have not always acted that way towards others. Not just on the boards, but at work or in day to day life. Bad things like this hurt a lot, not just me but a lot of people and it has really caused me to rethink a lot of things. The stuff that matters will be coming first and foremost from now on.

12-11-2006, 12:27 AM	#7
Janice Retired Admin - Hollywood Swingin' Forum Legend Join Date: Aug 03, 2001 Location: Beantown Posts: 36,388	I'm terribly sorry for your loss. Losing a loved one is always devastating, but when it's sudden, it truly compounds the loss. There's an entire psychological dynamic to it. When I lost my sister suddenly in 1991, I was looking for solace, comfort, answers, anything. I found a book titled, 'No Time For Goodbyes'....or something very similiar. I got it at the library. It helped me understand my feelings better. I'll say a prayer for your cousin and his family, and a special prayer for you. I'm really sorry.

12-11-2006, 12:35 AM	#8
savageamusement Cutest Couch Potato Senior Member Join Date: Oct 21, 2003 Posts: 2,103	Echoed Sympathy I think Janice offers some good advice, if its the book I am thinking of- My sympathies for your loss...please let any of us know if we can do anything..

12-11-2006, 12:37 AM	#9
FOLrocks1 My favorite ladies! Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Mar 09, 2001 Location: Ohio Posts: 4,103	That's really sad. I'm sorry about it. We have a very small family and if that ever happened to one of my cousins, it'd be horrible.
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12-11-2006, 01:26 AM	#10
Ireneparalegal LEGAL SPICE ;) Forum Legend Join Date: Jul 25, 2005 Location: OXNARD, CA - WHERE THE DALLAS COWBOYS TRAIN & PRACTICE Posts: 38,691	My condolences to you Lamont. I pray that his wife and child somehow, find the strength to deal with such a loss. I lost a beloved nephew at the age of 12 in a car accident. I know that horrible feeling of seeing a loved one and thinking that you will see them again, only to be told they are gone. It is a feeling that I can't explain. I pray for them and will ask God in my prayers to "hold them" in his arms and give them comfort. I just went to a rosary today for a beloved aunt of mine. I just got home. It is true what you said, death really puts into perspective the things that really matter in life. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY AT THIS TRAGIC TIME. GOD BE WITH YOU.
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12-11-2006, 01:34 AM	#11
Yooch Member Forum 3000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 07, 2006 Location: California Posts: 3,180	First, I'm very sorry for your loss Also, I thank you for your kind and insightful words. About a month before my dad died back in 1988, when he was pretty sick, he told me in essence the same thing. He was sitting on the side of the bed. I told him I loved him. And he said, "You want to know something? All the things I used to think were so important in life--aren't." I couldn't come up with any verbal response for that. As we just looked at each other, we both knew he was right. Some of his progeny have followed this advice, and some have not, which accounts for some of the division within my family. As for SO, too, like you--I have no ill feelings toward anyone. Life's too precious and short. SO are friends that I enjoy spending time with often. Lamont (Monty), may you and your family be consoled during this loss.
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12-11-2006, 03:37 AM	#12
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12-11-2006, 04:17 AM	#13
Karen* paradox. Forum Superstar Join Date: Jan 08, 2005 Location: San Francisco, CA Posts: 28,365	That was a good post. Very true. Sorry for your loss, my condolences go out to you and your family.
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12-11-2006, 04:29 AM	#14
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12-11-2006, 06:52 AM	#15
80sTrivia Member Forum Celebrity Join Date: May 23, 2002 Posts: 21,714	A wonderful and meaningful post... I'm very sorry to hear of your cousin's tragic passing, Lamont...
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