Guys - how differently do you treat women in your life?

[swedeace]

I would like to get guys' opinions over this, so the more opinions, suggestions, and explanations from personal experiences, the better.

I am not sure whether I want friendship or more with a guy friend of mine. I met him online. I got a chance to hang out with him twice. I really enjoyed talking with him. I paid attention to both of our non-verbals, and I see there is, at least, some interest.

While I am wondering what in the world I want from him, I don't want to appear too desperate and scare him off nor do I not want him to think I am not interested in him when I would definitely give him the chance of being interested in me. Ohhhhh....this is just too damn confusing!

I can't tell what he really thinks about me without actually communicating with him verbally and via online. I don't want to be too strong towards him, and I certainly don't want him to think I am NOT too interested.

So, guys, how do you act around girls you like-like as opposed to girls you just like as a friend? How different do you treat them while you're around them? I guess guys usually don't write long messages online. This guy's messages are generally shorter online than when he speaks in words.

Serious responses only, please.

[FOLrocks1]

Well actually, I'm the same way you are. I was just in this situation myself. Since all of mine "stuff" with her is apparently over now, I can look back and see what happened. My take on it is ASK. But don't explain much unless he asks back. And don't talk a lot either. Just tell him that you think you might like him and ask how he feels about it. It's simple enough but you're know hopefully and he'll know how you feel.

The first somewhat serious thing I had was over the summer and I think I talked about things like that way too much and it didn't end up working out...

This past relationship I had I didn't ask questions because of the previous one, But this approach came around and bit me in the ass anyway. I didn't figure out what we were and so things just tapered off. Big mistake. Just ask once and ask until you get some sort of reply that will answer your question. If you don't get a reply keep trying until you do because if you just say "ok" it's not a good thing to bring it up again a few days later. Then you'll seem desperate because everytime you get together all you're talking about it 'us'. Hope that makes sense and will help.

Jacob