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Michael [hXc] · 10-19-2006, 06:41 PM

My ex girlfriend always comes up to me and asks if I think she is fat. I don't like to hurt people's feelings, but I don't like to lie especially when it's so obvious I am lying. I said to her "YOU must think you're fat, otherwise you wouldn't be asking."

I've learned that when people ask questions about themselves, like "does my hair look good?" (not an honest question, but more for reassurance in the cases i mean), or "am i fat?" they are usually looking for reassurance or expecting to get the answer they want. I don't think people really want to know the person's TRUE answer.

How do you guys answer self based questions, especially if someone asks if they are fat/ugly/etc. and you think they are?

Ireneparalegal · 10-19-2006, 06:45 PM

you already answered your own question. they are expecting to hear WHAT THEY WANT.

Michael [hXc] · 10-19-2006, 07:19 PM

and if someone asked you these questions, would you give them the answer they want, even if you didn't mean it?

Ireneparalegal · 10-19-2006, 07:22 PM

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Originally Posted by american non_idiot

and if someone asked you these questions, would you give them the answer they want, even if you didn't mean it?

Depends what question is being asked and by whom.

10-19-2006, 06:41 PM	#1
Michael [hXc] dying. Forum Fanatic Join Date: Feb 29, 2004 Posts: 8,532	How do you answer other people's self based questions? My ex girlfriend always comes up to me and asks if I think she is fat. I don't like to hurt people's feelings, but I don't like to lie especially when it's so obvious I am lying. I said to her "YOU must think you're fat, otherwise you wouldn't be asking." I've learned that when people ask questions about themselves, like "does my hair look good?" (not an honest question, but more for reassurance in the cases i mean), or "am i fat?" they are usually looking for reassurance or expecting to get the answer they want. I don't think people really want to know the person's TRUE answer. How do you guys answer self based questions, especially if someone asks if they are fat/ugly/etc. and you think they are?

10-19-2006, 06:45 PM	#2
Ireneparalegal LEGAL SPICE ;) Forum Legend Join Date: Jul 25, 2005 Location: OXNARD, CA - WHERE THE DALLAS COWBOYS TRAIN & PRACTICE Posts: 38,691	you already answered your own question. they are expecting to hear WHAT THEY WANT.
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10-19-2006, 07:19 PM	#3
Michael [hXc] dying. Forum Fanatic Join Date: Feb 29, 2004 Posts: 8,532	and if someone asked you these questions, would you give them the answer they want, even if you didn't mean it?