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Kay Scarpetta · 09-10-2006, 02:06 PM

So I was informed today that my mother finally kicked him out. He's looking for another place to live and might possibly move in with his friend.

I have been waiting for this day to come for years (my father is an alcoholic- functioning, but nevertheless). I hate him, I hate being in the same general vicinity with him. I lost my father around 6th grade. This man is just a man who lives in my house and dishes out money to keep me happy... but you know what? I'd give back everything. All the concert tickets, the Broadway shows, the dance lessons, the vacations, everything... just to have my father back. And it kills me. I am just like my father when it comes to alcohol. I've already had my share of detoxes and AA meetings... but I swear on my soul, I will never become him. I won't ever destroy my family like he did.

Sorry guys, I just have to vent. I don't really know what to do. Anyone here have separated or divorced parents? If you don't mind, can you share your experiences with me?

KristinHerreraFan · 09-10-2006, 02:15 PM

Wow...I'm so sorry

My parents are currently seperated and have been so for nearly 2 years. It's tough, I know

Courtnee · 09-10-2006, 02:31 PM

I'm really sorry to hear this. I ,too, have a parent that suffers from an addiction. One day he'll come to his senses and quit the stuff for good

AllIWantIsYourClutch · 09-10-2006, 03:59 PM

That sucks, Karly...I'm sorry.

But if it's gone on that long, it's probably for the best. I can definitely relate...That actually sounds exactly like my dad. My mom has threatened to kick him out numerous times but has never actually gone through with it. And he thinks that just because he buys me stuff and takes me places that we should be "cool" with each other. But in reality, I hope I'm never like him when I get older.

I'm sure that didn't help. But yeah. This might actually be a relief on you and your mom. I know it would be for me.

ABlairican Pie · 09-10-2006, 04:42 PM

I am very sorry about this happening, I guess though, that I was not completely surprised. I have known about all the problems you have had with your family, and how it has just wore down on you. I know that you do not want to be what he has become, I know that you will overcome that temptation to do and to be that. You have gone so much that you don't need further devastation. If he is out of your house, I hope it becomes a positive step toward your own healing and help you from any further toxic behavior.

You've come further along!!

Lamont · 09-10-2006, 06:00 PM

i am sorry for the situation

but u might want to try to not "hate" your dad
it sounds as if u care a great deal about him or u wouldnt be so hurt by his addiction

i dont know the reasons why he has a drinking problem, but try to remember that under all the booze is still the dad u love and miss

hopefully one day he can overcome his demons

Mr. Stefani · 09-10-2006, 06:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Kay Scarpetta

So I was informed today that my mother finally kicked him out. He's looking for another place to live and might possibly move in with his friend.

I have been waiting for this day to come for years (my father is an alcoholic- functioning, but nevertheless). I hate him, I hate being in the same general vicinity with him. I lost my father around 6th grade. This man is just a man who lives in my house and dishes out money to keep me happy... but you know what? I'd give back everything. All the concert tickets, the Broadway shows, the dance lessons, the vacations, everything... just to have my father back. And it kills me. I am just like my father when it comes to alcohol. I've already had my share of detoxes and AA meetings... but I swear on my soul, I will never become him. I won't ever destroy my family like he did.

Sorry guys, I just have to vent. I don't really know what to do. Anyone here have separated or divorced parents? If you don't mind, can you share your experiences with me?

Karly, I understand where you're coming from. Same exact situation, add in abuse, drugs etc etc. My dad is a severe alocholic who to this day cannot admit to it, nor will he get help. His health has been greatly effected by it, he's 50 and apparently looks 70. My mom kicked him out when I was 8 or 9, for a few years we had somewhat of a relationship. Fast foward 10 years, I, and my brother and sister, no longer speak/see or have a relationship with him. He lives DOWN THE BLOCK. Always has. Havent seen him in about 2 years. We've finally realized it's not healthy for us to attempt having a relationship with someone like that. He's the cause of most of our unhappniess throughout life and we finally learned how to move on and let go. He did not walk his daugher down the isle last month. I don't know if this makes much sense, but, unless he can clean up his act you don't need that in your life. It's a terrible situation and I wish things wouldve been different for me, and I'm sorry that I have to hear that you're going through the same thing.

If you need to talk/vent, you know where to reach me.

Nighthawk76 · 09-10-2006, 07:49 PM

I'm sorry.

EmoJoe · 09-10-2006, 08:21 PM

im sorry, that sucks

-*Forever*- · 09-10-2006, 08:25 PM

Karly, I am so sorry.

You know you can always talk to me about anything. I love you.

Janice · 09-10-2006, 08:31 PM

I'm sorry to hear this Karly. You may find that your home is happier without your father living there. Alcohol destroys families, yet divorce is always sad. I think your mother should move on with her life while she's still young.

TheGreatPretender · 09-10-2006, 08:59 PM

I'm so sorry

No one deserves to have to watch that happen to someone they love.

D.J. · 09-10-2006, 10:53 PM

I'm sorry to hear about your father. My parents have been divorced for 4 years. It's not easy but you'll get through it.

*Pleasant Tomorrow* · 09-10-2006, 10:59 PM

I'm sorry Karly

I was so relieved when we stopped living with my dad too, he's a power hungry jerk. So I know what you mean by the relief, but at the same time you want the good guy back. My dad gets this good side to him around other people and I just hate that it goes away around us.

Babes_Cat · 09-10-2006, 11:04 PM

aw karly. i'm here for you babe. please don't hesitate to call / IM / e-mail.
i love you. <3

09-10-2006, 02:06 PM	#1
Kay Scarpetta Defy Gravity 8.26.05 Forum Superstar Join Date: Jul 04, 2001 Location: La Vie Boheme Posts: 28,013	My father is moving out. So I was informed today that my mother finally kicked him out. He's looking for another place to live and might possibly move in with his friend. I have been waiting for this day to come for years (my father is an alcoholic- functioning, but nevertheless). I hate him, I hate being in the same general vicinity with him. I lost my father around 6th grade. This man is just a man who lives in my house and dishes out money to keep me happy... but you know what? I'd give back everything. All the concert tickets, the Broadway shows, the dance lessons, the vacations, everything... just to have my father back. And it kills me. I am just like my father when it comes to alcohol. I've already had my share of detoxes and AA meetings... but I swear on my soul, I will never become him. I won't ever destroy my family like he did. Sorry guys, I just have to vent. I don't really know what to do. Anyone here have separated or divorced parents? If you don't mind, can you share your experiences with me?
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09-10-2006, 02:15 PM	#2
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09-10-2006, 02:31 PM	#3
Courtnee MAN VS SAMMICH. Forum Star Join Date: Mar 23, 2005 Location: Louisiana Posts: 16,413	I'm really sorry to hear this. I ,too, have a parent that suffers from an addiction. One day he'll come to his senses and quit the stuff for good
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09-10-2006, 04:42 PM	#5
ABlairican Pie Member Forum Superstar Join Date: Dec 12, 2001 Location: Living where cats reign more Supreme than a pizza. Posts: 31,619	I am very sorry about this happening, I guess though, that I was not completely surprised. I have known about all the problems you have had with your family, and how it has just wore down on you. I know that you do not want to be what he has become, I know that you will overcome that temptation to do and to be that. You have gone so much that you don't need further devastation. If he is out of your house, I hope it becomes a positive step toward your own healing and help you from any further toxic behavior. You've come further along!!
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09-10-2006, 06:00 PM	#6
Lamont Lamont says Smile! Forum Veteran Join Date: May 28, 2005 Location: Deep in the Heart of Nowhere Posts: 5,217	i am sorry for the situation but u might want to try to not "hate" your dad it sounds as if u care a great deal about him or u wouldnt be so hurt by his addiction i dont know the reasons why he has a drinking problem, but try to remember that under all the booze is still the dad u love and miss hopefully one day he can overcome his demons
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09-10-2006, 03:59 PM	#4
AllIWantIsYourClutch peaceout. Forum Icon Join Date: Aug 02, 2001 Location: Illinois. Posts: 53,424	That sucks, Karly...I'm sorry. But if it's gone on that long, it's probably for the best. I can definitely relate...That actually sounds exactly like my dad. My mom has threatened to kick him out numerous times but has never actually gone through with it. And he thinks that just because he buys me stuff and takes me places that we should be "cool" with each other. But in reality, I hope I'm never like him when I get older. I'm sure that didn't help. But yeah. This might actually be a relief on you and your mom. I know it would be for me.

09-10-2006, 07:49 PM	#8
Nighthawk76 Rachel Berry Forum Celebrity Join Date: Feb 28, 2003 Location: Illinois Posts: 23,254	I'm sorry.

09-10-2006, 08:21 PM	#9
EmoJoe Cool cool cool Forum Addict Join Date: Apr 23, 2004 Location: New Jersey Posts: 71,478	im sorry, that sucks
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09-10-2006, 08:25 PM	#10
-Forever- <3333333333333333333 Forum Superstar Join Date: Nov 22, 2001 Location: Manlius, NY in reality. Deerfield Beach, FL in my heart. Posts: 28,001	Karly, I am so sorry. You know you can always talk to me about anything. I love you.
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09-10-2006, 08:31 PM	#11
Janice Retired Admin - Hollywood Swingin' Forum Legend Join Date: Aug 03, 2001 Location: Beantown Posts: 36,388	I'm sorry to hear this Karly. You may find that your home is happier without your father living there. Alcohol destroys families, yet divorce is always sad. I think your mother should move on with her life while she's still young.

09-10-2006, 08:59 PM	#12
TheGreatPretender just because Forum Veteran Join Date: May 22, 2004 Location: Trying to think of a creative, witty location. Posts: 7,628	I'm so sorry No one deserves to have to watch that happen to someone they love.
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09-10-2006, 10:53 PM	#13
D.J. Member Forum Regular Join Date: Sep 28, 2005 Location: New York City Posts: 887	I'm sorry to hear about your father. My parents have been divorced for 4 years. It's not easy but you'll get through it.

09-10-2006, 10:59 PM	#14
Pleasant Tomorrow Member Forum Addict Join Date: Feb 19, 2003 Location: New York Posts: 69,525	I'm sorry Karly I was so relieved when we stopped living with my dad too, he's a power hungry jerk. So I know what you mean by the relief, but at the same time you want the good guy back. My dad gets this good side to him around other people and I just hate that it goes away around us.
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09-10-2006, 11:04 PM	#15
Babes_Cat Member Forum Superstar Join Date: Oct 11, 2001 Location: massachusetts Posts: 34,145	aw karly. i'm here for you babe. please don't hesitate to call / IM / e-mail. i love you. <3