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Brad Russ · 09-05-2006, 04:39 AM

Have any of you ever had this problem?? It could be that they didn't want you cause they were married, had a boyfriend, or just because they only wanted to be friends, but regardless of what the situation was, it's a pain that sure hurts like hell!! It's happened to me a few times, and currently, I have very strong feelings for someone I can't have, and I'm having an extremely difficult time dealing with it. It's so difficult being friends with someone that you like alot, because everytime you're around them, all you want to do is hold them in your arms, but you just can't. In a way, it can feel like torture at times!! To those of you who have felt this pain, my question is, do you have any secrets to getting through it, and dealing with the pain of knowing you'll never get to be with that particular person?? I'm an extremely sensitive guy, so it's really difficult for me to get over someone when I have strong feelings for them, so any advice you may have for me, as far as getting through it, would be appreciated. Thanks!!

TJL · 09-05-2006, 06:06 AM

It's the story of my life.

Pitooey · 09-05-2006, 09:49 AM

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Originally Posted by TJL

It's the story of my life.

TJL.......... Just look at your avatar it looks like Alan Alda is saying that.

KissMyGrits · 09-05-2006, 09:57 AM

I know exactly where you are coming from. I was in love with someone for almost 6 months. I finally told him how I felt. The next words out of his mouth were "I just want to be friends!" I can't tell you how hurt and depressed I was. I spent countless hours crying over him. There were situations in his life that made it impossible for us to be more than that. I understood it. I hated it, but I still remained friends. Soon, the situation resolved itself. We were still friends and even went out on a few dates. However, it wasn't meant to be. I swore off dating forever. I was going to be single until the day I died. God had other plans for me though. I got a new job and a new boyfriend. One that was emotionally and physically available to me. Now, almost 11 years later I thank God that I opened my heart to someone else.

Just take it one day at a time. It never gets easier, but time does heal all wounds and broken hearts. Trust me, mine has healed and I feel better than ever....

TJL · 09-05-2006, 10:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Pitooey

TJL.......... Just look at your avatar it looks like Alan Alda is saying that.

Actually, I'm also a surgeon for a M*A*S*H unit. I never told you guys that?

Brian Damage · 09-05-2006, 10:36 AM

It has happened to me a couple of times in my life. It does suck because you feel powerless. There was this one girl who was dating a good friend of mine. She was beautiful and we had so much in common. Everytime we hung out, my heart would skip a beat. The thing is, I couldn't do anything about it because it was my friend's girl.

I am now married to her with two kids.

Ireneparalegal · 09-05-2006, 10:42 AM

I have this guy friend that I have known since high school (1981) and to this day, he has made it clear that if I gave him a chance, he would sweep me off my feet and "give me the world." When I got a divorce, he was ecstatic that I may give him a chance. The only problem is, I don't find him physically attractive. Mind you, he is not ugly or anything like that, it's just that physical connection that I feel is important along with other factors that make you like/love someone. I feel for him, yet, I couldn't imagine myself being with someone who I couldn't be committed to 200 percent. I think it's more my fault, because I kind of gave him hopes back in high school, but I realized he was meant to be a friend and nothing else. I feel bad for him. I feel like he is waiting and waiting and waiting. If I became single again, he would NOT be the one I would want for a boyfriend/husband.

I have had feelings for a guy who was abt 7 years younger than me. Although our feelings were mutual, I felt it was best to leave that relationship. It hurt so much to leave that relationship and it got worse when he found a girlfriend. And then, it got worse when he told me he felt hurt by what I did and needed companionship. I was really bothered by the fact that he had a girlfriend, but yet, I knew it was by my actions that we ended up the way we did.

Brad, very interesting thread!

Karen* · 09-05-2006, 12:55 PM

I've had a lot of crushes on guys that were already taken, if that counts.

Nighthawk76 · 09-05-2006, 01:11 PM

Just like every other guy and girl, I have been in love with someone who I could never have. And yeah, it hurts like hell. It is like the Def Leppard song "Have You Ever Needed Someone So Bad". I really don't know of any secrets to stop the pain...just time. Time heals all wounds.

Pitooey · 09-05-2006, 01:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Hollywood Rock Chic

HONEY, this is the story of my life. I seriously think someone out there placed a jinx on my love life

; for the last year, I have been totally infatuated with this guy, whom is completely indifferent of me; and it kills me inside; this man has broken my heart so many times, that I cannot tell you how many times I have cried; his rejection was worse than my mom being ill (I know that sound callous and pathetic and it is); and I do not know why in the hell he does not find me attractive (because I am not ugly, a size 2, a great personality, intelligent and best of love I have a gorgeous heart); actually, typing this makes me cry (actually I am crying right now...*SIGH*); unrequired loves SUCKS the big one

; and I do not know why in the hell I find this person so desirable; he is all I think about, and this whole situation as been very very very very very painful!

How sad........ If it makes you feel any better I can guarantee you that you're worth more than that. Sometimes the person who you think is for you is not. You are worth more than that! Remember this......

cmcb06 · 09-05-2006, 01:36 PM

Yes my Ex, even though he cheated on me a couple months ago and we broke up I still love him to death and we still hang out. We went on a hike yesterday together and I'd take him back in a minnute but he's in a relationship with the guy he had fooled around with and just wants to be "friends". Was hard for me because i still love him dearly hopefully soon i'll get over it.

swedeace · 09-05-2006, 01:44 PM

I've mainly felt like this through crushes, so far. And I just experienced some butterflies in my stomach today over this guy I am interested in. Just seeing a smiling photo of him makes me want to try and date him even MORE. And, I have never been in love.

He has two kids, but I have heard he is such a funny guy. I like that in people, in general. I am just lost for words in how to approach him. I am feeling crushy over him now....

Ireneparalegal · 09-05-2006, 03:54 PM

Do John Travolta, James Cavezial and Joaquin Phoenix count???????

Lamont · 09-05-2006, 04:02 PM

hmmm JESSICA SIMPSON....

Nighthawk76 · 09-05-2006, 06:12 PM

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Originally Posted by swedeace

I've mainly felt like this through crushes, so far. And I just experienced some butterflies in my stomach today over this guy I am interested in. Just seeing a smiling photo of him makes me want to try and date him even MORE. And, I have never been in love.

He has two kids, but I have heard he is such a funny guy. I like that in people, in general. I am just lost for words in how to approach him. I am feeling crushy over him now....

I develop a crush for every pretty girl that I see.

Of course, 99.9% of them have no interest at all in me.

09-05-2006, 04:39 AM	#1
Brad Russ Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Feb 17, 2002 Location: Portland, Oregon Posts: 10,085	Being in love with someone that you can't have?? Have any of you ever had this problem?? It could be that they didn't want you cause they were married, had a boyfriend, or just because they only wanted to be friends, but regardless of what the situation was, it's a pain that sure hurts like hell!! It's happened to me a few times, and currently, I have very strong feelings for someone I can't have, and I'm having an extremely difficult time dealing with it. It's so difficult being friends with someone that you like alot, because everytime you're around them, all you want to do is hold them in your arms, but you just can't. In a way, it can feel like torture at times!! To those of you who have felt this pain, my question is, do you have any secrets to getting through it, and dealing with the pain of knowing you'll never get to be with that particular person?? I'm an extremely sensitive guy, so it's really difficult for me to get over someone when I have strong feelings for them, so any advice you may have for me, as far as getting through it, would be appreciated. Thanks!!
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09-05-2006, 06:06 AM	#2
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09-05-2006, 09:57 AM	#4
KissMyGrits HEGM! Senior Member Join Date: Jul 01, 2004 Location: Las Vegas Baby! Posts: 2,135	I know exactly where you are coming from. I was in love with someone for almost 6 months. I finally told him how I felt. The next words out of his mouth were "I just want to be friends!" I can't tell you how hurt and depressed I was. I spent countless hours crying over him. There were situations in his life that made it impossible for us to be more than that. I understood it. I hated it, but I still remained friends. Soon, the situation resolved itself. We were still friends and even went out on a few dates. However, it wasn't meant to be. I swore off dating forever. I was going to be single until the day I died. God had other plans for me though. I got a new job and a new boyfriend. One that was emotionally and physically available to me. Now, almost 11 years later I thank God that I opened my heart to someone else. Just take it one day at a time. It never gets easier, but time does heal all wounds and broken hearts. Trust me, mine has healed and I feel better than ever....
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09-05-2006, 10:36 AM	#6
Brian Damage I'm Rich Bitch Forum Icon Join Date: Feb 03, 2002 Location: What Ain't No Country I Ever Heard Of...They Speak English in What? Posts: 63,107	It has happened to me a couple of times in my life. It does suck because you feel powerless. There was this one girl who was dating a good friend of mine. She was beautiful and we had so much in common. Everytime we hung out, my heart would skip a beat. The thing is, I couldn't do anything about it because it was my friend's girl. I am now married to her with two kids.
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09-05-2006, 10:42 AM	#7
Ireneparalegal LEGAL SPICE ;) Forum Legend Join Date: Jul 25, 2005 Location: OXNARD, CA - WHERE THE DALLAS COWBOYS TRAIN & PRACTICE Posts: 38,691	I have this guy friend that I have known since high school (1981) and to this day, he has made it clear that if I gave him a chance, he would sweep me off my feet and "give me the world." When I got a divorce, he was ecstatic that I may give him a chance. The only problem is, I don't find him physically attractive. Mind you, he is not ugly or anything like that, it's just that physical connection that I feel is important along with other factors that make you like/love someone. I feel for him, yet, I couldn't imagine myself being with someone who I couldn't be committed to 200 percent. I think it's more my fault, because I kind of gave him hopes back in high school, but I realized he was meant to be a friend and nothing else. I feel bad for him. I feel like he is waiting and waiting and waiting. If I became single again, he would NOT be the one I would want for a boyfriend/husband. I have had feelings for a guy who was abt 7 years younger than me. Although our feelings were mutual, I felt it was best to leave that relationship. It hurt so much to leave that relationship and it got worse when he found a girlfriend. And then, it got worse when he told me he felt hurt by what I did and needed companionship. I was really bothered by the fact that he had a girlfriend, but yet, I knew it was by my actions that we ended up the way we did. Brad, very interesting thread!
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09-05-2006, 12:55 PM	#8
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09-05-2006, 01:11 PM	#9
Nighthawk76 Rachel Berry Forum Celebrity Join Date: Feb 28, 2003 Location: Illinois Posts: 23,254	Just like every other guy and girl, I have been in love with someone who I could never have. And yeah, it hurts like hell. It is like the Def Leppard song "Have You Ever Needed Someone So Bad". I really don't know of any secrets to stop the pain...just time. Time heals all wounds.

09-05-2006, 01:36 PM	#11
cmcb06 Member Frequent Poster Join Date: Jun 01, 2006 Posts: 370	Yes my Ex, even though he cheated on me a couple months ago and we broke up I still love him to death and we still hang out. We went on a hike yesterday together and I'd take him back in a minnute but he's in a relationship with the guy he had fooled around with and just wants to be "friends". Was hard for me because i still love him dearly hopefully soon i'll get over it.
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09-05-2006, 01:44 PM	#12
swedeace Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Sep 22, 2003 Posts: 9,009	I've mainly felt like this through crushes, so far. And I just experienced some butterflies in my stomach today over this guy I am interested in. Just seeing a smiling photo of him makes me want to try and date him even MORE. And, I have never been in love. He has two kids, but I have heard he is such a funny guy. I like that in people, in general. I am just lost for words in how to approach him. I am feeling crushy over him now....

09-05-2006, 03:54 PM	#13
Ireneparalegal LEGAL SPICE ;) Forum Legend Join Date: Jul 25, 2005 Location: OXNARD, CA - WHERE THE DALLAS COWBOYS TRAIN & PRACTICE Posts: 38,691	Do John Travolta, James Cavezial and Joaquin Phoenix count???????

09-05-2006, 04:02 PM	#14
Lamont Lamont says Smile! Forum Veteran Join Date: May 28, 2005 Location: Deep in the Heart of Nowhere Posts: 5,217	hmmm JESSICA SIMPSON....
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