I really need some advice

[Chocoholic]

I have always told myself that I would never let intelligence (or lack thereof) be a factor in whether or not I would remain friends with a person. That was until two summers ago when I started working at the local school. There was this girl working there who has several disabilities including slight mental retardation. She seemed to think that because we both had disabilities, then we were best friends. We rode the same van home together and for a while, I didn't mind chatting with her while we were waiting. We even went out and did things together a couple of times after work and I agreed to let her call and E-mail me when our summer jobs were over. My feelings towards her started to change after awhile when I started to get to know her better.

This girl has the mentality of a young teenager. She is still into clothing, music, books, movies, and TV shows that I outgrew years ago, if I was ever even interested in them in the first place. (Actually, very little of the things that interest her are of much interest to me.) The only subject she seems to enjoy talking about is herself. She tells me the most mundane things about her life ad nauseum and she "loops" constantly. She is like a broken, inane record you just can't shut up. Any attempts I make to steer the conversation away from her is ignored. She also asks me the dumbest questions and can't seem to understand the fact that I do not have the ability to read people's minds or know why they are doing certain things. She follows me around constantly at work.

Any subtle attempts to make this idiot realize that I'm not interested in remaining friends anymore go unnoticed by her. I blocked her from IM-ing me after I tired of her dull messages that make absolutely no sense to me. She E-mailed me instead. I blocked her from that too. She just called me on the phone even more. I tell her I'll call later when I'm not busy. She calls me back later asking if I'm still busy. At work, I tried talking to other people more often. She just gets right in my face with her usual asinine chatter, preventing the other person and me from continuing our conversation. I tried outright avoiding her and walking away when I saw her coming towards me. She would just follow me and keep on talking. I brought a book to read while we were waiting for our van. She kept right on blathering away, not realizing that I wasn't paying the slightest attention.

I just don't know how to deal with this anymore. This girl is just too much of a clueless clod to realize I'm not interested in being her friend. How can I get this ****** off my back permanently without having to resort to screaming at her to F-ing leave me alone? (I already know that probably won't deter her.)

Sorry for the long rant. I just needed to get that all off my chest.

[Sterling Holobyte]

Sounds like you're in love.

Seriously though, I think if she is really bothering you that bad, you may have to just tell her straight up to stop bothering you. You don't have to scream obscenities at her, just look her straight in the eye and tell her how you feel. You may think it might not work, but you never know until you do it. And if she sees that you are serious, it just might get through to her. Good Luck.

[Janice]

That's a tough situation. I think you just have to lay it on the line since she can't take a hint. Explain to her that you have different interests in life and that you only have so much time for friends. You have to tell her that you can't be friends with her. Casual friends is as far as you can go.

It will be an uncomfortable conversation, but it needs to happen. If she stalks you after that, get a restraining order. Good luck.

[swedeace]

Originally Posted by Homeriffic

Any subtle attempts to make this idiot realize that I'm not interested in remaining friends anymore go unnoticed by her. I blocked her from IM-ing me after I tired of her dull messages that make absolutely no sense to me. She E-mailed me instead. I blocked her from that too. She just called me on the phone even more. I tell her I'll call later when I'm not busy. She calls me back later asking if I'm still busy. At work, I tried talking to other people more often. She just gets right in my face with her usual asinine chatter, preventing the other person and me from continuing our conversation. I tried outright avoiding her and walking away when I saw her coming towards me. She would just follow me and keep on talking. I brought a book to read while we were waiting for our van. She kept right on blathering away, not realizing that I wasn't paying the slightest attention.

I just don't know how to deal with this anymore. This girl is just too much of a clueless clod to realize I'm not interested in being her friend. How can I get this ****** off my back permanently without having to resort to screaming at her to F-ing leave me alone? (I already know that probably won't deter her.)

Sorry for the long rant. I just needed to get that all off my chest.

Gosh, this girl sounds a lot like me but only via online. I'm going through the same thing.

[Chocoholic]

Thanks for the advice, guys. I'll try telling her straight out that I do not wish to remain more than casual acquaintances. Hopefully, that will help get her out of my hair. I do feel bad for her because she is intellectually-challenged, but I just can't take being her "buddy" anymore.

[dawsongirl]

This sounds like stuff I've gone thru. Fortunately all the stuff you've tried worked. One time I hid in a tree during recess to get away from a girl.

[swedeace]

Okay...then anyone have advice for me?