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Janice · 07-21-2006, 04:08 PM

Here's my proposition. The Sharks and The Jets aka Chit Chat and The Trading Post should just call a truce. I believe we're all good people who sometimes let our emotions get the best (worst?) of us. I include myself in that category.

I want to post in any thread at all, and not stop myself because the threadstarter is someone who irks me. Sometimes, we carry anger, resentment and bitterness around. It gets heavy lugging all that. It's a burden. You set it down, and it lightens your emotional load. Dr. Phil says that we forgive, not for the other person...but for ourselves.

Let's start fresh. There will always be problems and disagreements, and always members who don't like each other. Those dynamics are part of life.

It's an old cliche, but life's too short.

Let's take it a step further, and let go of our bad feelings towards other members. Maybe it's someone who you've been avoiding here for weeks or months or even longer. Remember what it was about that person that made you like them in the beginning. If you never liked them, give them another look.

I've often found that all it takes is to quote someone and agree with them or laugh at their joke to make things right again. One gesture can wash away months of bitterness. I think, for the most part, people don't want the burden of being on the outs with anyone, in regular or online life.

Before this starts sounding like a Hallmark card (as if it doesn't already, lol), I'll end by saying....let's have fun, tears, laughs, the occasional drama. Let's not carry grudges.

Okay, group hug. Who's in?

Jonathan · 07-21-2006, 04:11 PM

I agree. That is the logical thing to do.

Brian Damage · 07-21-2006, 04:15 PM

I apologize to both Lamont and Harvey. I have a big brother mentality and just like to defend people who I think need it.

I also apologize to vashti1999, I forget what it was that started a fight between us, but I apologize anyway.

I apologize to savageamuesment. I already apologized to her in private, but it doesn't hurt to say it again. She is a wonderful person and does a fantastic job moderating TP.

robyrob · 07-21-2006, 04:28 PM

i think that a lot of people have been holding grudges or whatever for too long - if someone bothers you that much, you need to learn to suck it up or just put them on ignore.

Brian Damage · 07-21-2006, 04:37 PM

I also want to apologize to Janice.

If loving you is so wrong, I don't want to be right!

Janice · 07-21-2006, 04:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Brian Damage

I also want to apologize to Janice.

If loving you is so wrong, I don't want to be right!

Back at ya!

Jo_Luvs_Ketchup · 07-21-2006, 11:00 PM

Courtnee · 07-21-2006, 11:02 PM

I apologize for pissing people off (If I ever do)

Brian Damage · 07-21-2006, 11:24 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Rock Princess

I apologize for pissing people off (If I ever do)

Not me, I love your posts!

consentida · 07-21-2006, 11:53 PM

Oh, thank God for this thread.

I had an argument (a dumb one, I might add) with Janice over a year ago about Mary Kay Letourneau (ha) and I said some pretty mean things to her. Its been weighing heavily on my mind ever since and I just never knew how to apologize. So, Janice, I'm sorry. I was arguing just for the hell of it and I realize it was a dumb thing to do. I'm not even going to make excuses for my behavior because there are none. So, once again, I apologize.

I also had a tiff with Fleet about illegal aliens (another dumb one). I know I wasn't very nice to him and every time I think about it, I feel bad. And I definitely can understand his side of it and I'm sorry for that whole mess.

Sometimes, I think about some of the stuff I've said to people here and wonder what kind of person it makes me. I feel so bad about what I say afterwards, but when its happening, its like I dont even think twice about the other person. I need to work on that...

Janice · 07-22-2006, 12:12 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by consentida

Oh, thank God for this thread.

I had an argument (a dumb one, I might add) with Janice over a year ago about Mary Kay Letourneau (ha) and I said some pretty mean things to her. Its been weighing heavily on my mind ever since and I just never knew how to apologize. So, Janice, I'm sorry. I was arguing just for the hell of it and I realize it was a dumb thing to do. I'm not even going to make excuses for my behavior because there are none. So, once again, I apologize.

There's no need to apologize consentida. You've been fretting for nothing because I don't recall any unkind words from you. When it comes to debating, I know things get heated, and I'm no angel myself. But no, I honestly don't recall an incident.

Thanks for the apology though.

dawsongirl · 07-22-2006, 01:20 AM

Did I miss a big fight or something?

Jo_Luvs_Ketchup · 07-22-2006, 02:06 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by dawsongirl

Did I miss a big fight or something?

Oh Cathy...

dawsongirl · 07-22-2006, 02:09 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jo_Luvs_Ketchup

Oh Cathy...

I saw what I missed.

Courtnee · 07-22-2006, 03:02 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Brian Damage

Not me, I love your posts!

awwww thanks, Brian

I love your posts, too!

07-21-2006, 04:08 PM	#1
Janice Retired Admin - Hollywood Swingin' Forum Legend Join Date: Aug 03, 2001 Location: Beantown Posts: 36,388	The Reconciliation Thread Here's my proposition. The Sharks and The Jets aka Chit Chat and The Trading Post should just call a truce. I believe we're all good people who sometimes let our emotions get the best (worst?) of us. I include myself in that category. I want to post in any thread at all, and not stop myself because the threadstarter is someone who irks me. Sometimes, we carry anger, resentment and bitterness around. It gets heavy lugging all that. It's a burden. You set it down, and it lightens your emotional load. Dr. Phil says that we forgive, not for the other person...but for ourselves. Let's start fresh. There will always be problems and disagreements, and always members who don't like each other. Those dynamics are part of life. It's an old cliche, but life's too short. Let's take it a step further, and let go of our bad feelings towards other members. Maybe it's someone who you've been avoiding here for weeks or months or even longer. Remember what it was about that person that made you like them in the beginning. If you never liked them, give them another look. I've often found that all it takes is to quote someone and agree with them or laugh at their joke to make things right again. One gesture can wash away months of bitterness. I think, for the most part, people don't want the burden of being on the outs with anyone, in regular or online life. Before this starts sounding like a Hallmark card (as if it doesn't already, lol), I'll end by saying....let's have fun, tears, laughs, the occasional drama. Let's not carry grudges. Okay, group hug. Who's in?

07-21-2006, 04:15 PM	#3
Brian Damage I'm Rich Bitch Forum Icon Join Date: Feb 03, 2002 Location: What Ain't No Country I Ever Heard Of...They Speak English in What? Posts: 63,107	I apologize to both Lamont and Harvey. I have a big brother mentality and just like to defend people who I think need it. I also apologize to vashti1999, I forget what it was that started a fight between us, but I apologize anyway. I apologize to savageamuesment. I already apologized to her in private, but it doesn't hurt to say it again. She is a wonderful person and does a fantastic job moderating TP.
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07-21-2006, 04:28 PM	#4
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07-21-2006, 11:02 PM	#8
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07-21-2006, 04:11 PM	#2
Jonathan ***** Senior Member** Join Date: Aug 28, 2004 Posts: 2,304	I agree. That is the logical thing to do.

07-21-2006, 04:37 PM	#5
Brian Damage I'm Rich Bitch Forum Icon Join Date: Feb 03, 2002 Location: What Ain't No Country I Ever Heard Of...They Speak English in What? Posts: 63,107	I also want to apologize to Janice. If loving you is so wrong, I don't want to be right!

07-21-2006, 11:00 PM	#7
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07-21-2006, 11:53 PM	#10
consentida oh, you pretty things Forum 3000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 21, 2002 Location: New York Posts: 3,841	Oh, thank God for this thread. I had an argument (a dumb one, I might add) with Janice over a year ago about Mary Kay Letourneau (ha) and I said some pretty mean things to her. Its been weighing heavily on my mind ever since and I just never knew how to apologize. So, Janice, I'm sorry. I was arguing just for the hell of it and I realize it was a dumb thing to do. I'm not even going to make excuses for my behavior because there are none. So, once again, I apologize. I also had a tiff with Fleet about illegal aliens (another dumb one). I know I wasn't very nice to him and every time I think about it, I feel bad. And I definitely can understand his side of it and I'm sorry for that whole mess. Sometimes, I think about some of the stuff I've said to people here and wonder what kind of person it makes me. I feel so bad about what I say afterwards, but when its happening, its like I dont even think twice about the other person. I need to work on that...

07-22-2006, 01:20 AM	#12
dawsongirl Member Forum Icon Join Date: Jan 04, 2001 Posts: 53,140	Did I miss a big fight or something?