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TVFactFan · 06-27-2006, 01:19 PM

I won't try and make this a debate but I informed my cousin I will be laid off on 6/30/06/ It's not a definite thing yet but it looks like it so yesterday she emailed and says-"HOW IS THE JOB SEARCH GOING?

Now let me just say I received this news on my birthday(june22nd) and it' only been 3 days so why would she email me and ask how the job search is going? How many of you would want to hear that question if you were unemployed? I see i'm going to have to tell my family DON"T ASK ME HOW THE JOB SEARCH IS GOING. It makes sense for me to let the family know if I found another job instead of being ASKED if I found one. My cousin seemed like she didn't take my comment too well after I expressed how I felt.

Ireneparalegal · 06-27-2006, 01:24 PM

i didn't bother reading your post because more than likely you said something rude and there is no convincing you that you may be wrong or are indeed wrong.

Brieannas21 · 06-27-2006, 01:25 PM

It depends on the email and what you said and how you said it. If you said "Don't ask me how my job search is going" then yeah I would take it the wrong way.

lilhave · 06-27-2006, 02:02 PM

The simplest solution would be to say "nothing yet, but I'll let you know when I land one. You answered the question but in a friendly way said "no need to ask again as I'll let you know" Oherwise you can come across confrontational. She didn't mean any harm so need need to put up a bridge.

Harvey

Jo_Luvs_Ketchup · 06-27-2006, 02:03 PM

I knew when I read the title, that this cousin would be female.

Solomon, don't talk to women, ever again!

dawsongirl · 06-27-2006, 02:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Jo_Luvs_Ketchup

I knew when I read the title, that this cousin would be female.

Solomon, don't talk to women, ever again!

No, I wouldn't want to hear that question, but I'd just do what lilhave said and just say I'll let you know. Some people are real gung ho about getting those resumes out right away, some people aren't. Maybe she thought you were the former.

Brian Damage · 06-27-2006, 02:48 PM

So Solomon, how is the job hunting going?

Seriously, it would bother the heck out of me too.

TVFactFan · 06-27-2006, 02:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Brieannas21

It depends on the email and what you said and how you said it. If you said "Don't ask me how my job search is going" then yeah I would take it the wrong way.

No the email was very pleasant and I even say please please and added a lol at the end. I just wanted her to understand that asking someone that question who is unemployed can become iritating. Plus it was too early for the question since the layoff period starts in July

Brian Damage · 06-27-2006, 02:50 PM

Do you even know if you are being laid off for sure?

TVFactFan · 06-27-2006, 02:53 PM

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Originally Posted by lilhave

The simplest solution would be to say "nothing yet, but I'll let you know when I land one. You answered the question but in a friendly way said "no need to ask again as I'll let you know" Oherwise you can come across confrontational. She didn't mean any harm so need need to put up a bridge.

Harvey

True Harvey but the thing is I had not started really looking yet because I was on vacation so I felt it was too early to ask me that question. I mean how well can it be going if I just got the news last thursday?-lol

TVFactFan · 06-27-2006, 02:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Brian Damage

Do you even know if you are being laid off for sure?

i will find out tomorrow when i return to work

Moonlight Lady · 06-27-2006, 03:01 PM

I always hated being asked that. I just answer politely with "Nothing Yet" or something to that effect and change the subject or i'll just smile and make up some excuse to walk away if i'm asked that at a family function.

lilhave · 06-27-2006, 03:04 PM

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Originally Posted by TVResearcher

True Harvey but the thing is I had not started really looking yet because I was on vacation so I felt it was too early to ask me that question. I mean how well can it be going if I just got the news last thursday?-lol

Then say "I haven't looked yet as it came as a big shock but I do intend to get my resume out as soon as I can" Again you answered the question ,didn't have to say it's to early, and what your plans are. Your cousin didn't mean harm as it's a logical question. Most people saying when they hear of job loss, "what are you going to do next". You follow sports, "No harm, no foul". Ride with it because others will ask the same question as it goes with the territory.

Harvey

TVFactFan · 06-27-2006, 03:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Moonlight Lady

I always hated being asked that. I just answer politely with "Nothing Yet" or something to that effect and change the subject or i'll just smile and make up some excuse to walk away if i'm asked that at a family function.

Which is why I will let everyone member of my family know, "DON'T ASK ME", let me come to you

Janice · 06-27-2006, 03:08 PM

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Originally Posted by TVResearcher

I won't try and make this a debate but

Where you go, debate follows, lol.

What exactly did you say to your cousin in the e:mail?

06-27-2006, 01:19 PM	#1
TVFactFan Member Forum Junkie Join Date: Aug 17, 2002 Posts: 99,104	Is there anything wrong with what I said to my cousin? I won't try and make this a debate but I informed my cousin I will be laid off on 6/30/06/ It's not a definite thing yet but it looks like it so yesterday she emailed and says-"HOW IS THE JOB SEARCH GOING? Now let me just say I received this news on my birthday(june22nd) and it' only been 3 days so why would she email me and ask how the job search is going? How many of you would want to hear that question if you were unemployed? I see i'm going to have to tell my family DON"T ASK ME HOW THE JOB SEARCH IS GOING. It makes sense for me to let the family know if I found another job instead of being ASKED if I found one. My cousin seemed like she didn't take my comment too well after I expressed how I felt.

06-27-2006, 01:24 PM	#2
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06-27-2006, 02:48 PM	#7
Brian Damage I'm Rich Bitch Forum Icon Join Date: Feb 03, 2002 Location: What Ain't No Country I Ever Heard Of...They Speak English in What? Posts: 63,107	So Solomon, how is the job hunting going? Seriously, it would bother the heck out of me too.
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06-27-2006, 03:01 PM	#12
Moonlight Lady Member Forum Star Join Date: Aug 18, 2002 Posts: 16,052	I always hated being asked that. I just answer politely with "Nothing Yet" or something to that effect and change the subject or i'll just smile and make up some excuse to walk away if i'm asked that at a family function.
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06-27-2006, 01:25 PM	#3
Brieannas21 Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Apr 05, 2004 Location: Texas Posts: 9,792	It depends on the email and what you said and how you said it. If you said "Don't ask me how my job search is going" then yeah I would take it the wrong way.

06-27-2006, 02:02 PM	#4
lilhave Member Senior Member Join Date: Jul 03, 2004 Location: N.Y.C. Posts: 2,294	The simplest solution would be to say "nothing yet, but I'll let you know when I land one. You answered the question but in a friendly way said "no need to ask again as I'll let you know" Oherwise you can come across confrontational. She didn't mean any harm so need need to put up a bridge. Harvey

06-27-2006, 02:03 PM	#5
Jo_Luvs_Ketchup Member Eternal Member Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 09, 2003 Posts: 4,195	I knew when I read the title, that this cousin would be female. Solomon, don't talk to women, ever again!

06-27-2006, 02:50 PM	#9
Brian Damage I'm Rich Bitch Forum Icon Join Date: Feb 03, 2002 Location: What Ain't No Country I Ever Heard Of...They Speak English in What? Posts: 63,107	Do you even know if you are being laid off for sure?