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swedeace · 06-19-2006, 08:15 AM

Do you think it's a good or bad idea to befriend your friends' siblings? I am not talking about childhood siblings you grew up with. I am more talking about befriending a friend's sibling in your adulthood. Do you think it's a good idea? Bad idea? Can it make things awkward, or does it really matter all that much, in your opinion? Why? Why not?

crystals · 06-19-2006, 10:09 AM

I don't think it would be a bad idea. I haven't befriended any siblings of friends in my life, but I don't see it being awkward. I mean, sure sometimes people don't want to be around their siblings and just be with their friends by themselves, but I think that's more when you're children you'd feel that way, in adulthood it would be nice to think that things would be different.

Mijada · 06-19-2006, 10:16 AM

As long as it doesn't go beyond a friendship I think it's fine. If you get romantically involved it can become awkward especially if the relationship doesn't work out.

AllIWantIsYourClutch · 06-19-2006, 10:33 AM

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Originally Posted by Mijada

As long as it doesn't go beyond a friendship I think it's fine. If you get romantically involved it can become awkward especially if the relationship doesn't work out.

I agree with that. One of my friend's started dating my other friend's brother almost a year ago and, even though their relationship is good, it's super awkward to be around them.

Jonathan · 06-19-2006, 11:49 AM

It could probably turn out to be a bad situation.

cmcb06 · 06-19-2006, 12:37 PM

Umm,

Well as long as their hott and look like they'd be great in bed, why not!?!

Lol jk. I don't see any problems with being friends, but anything more than that dunno.

swedeace · 06-20-2006, 09:19 AM

Whoa... I think the last couple of posts are turning this thread into a totally different direction.

I was just curious what people thought about befriending friends' siblings. Hahahaha....

One thing I think could be a little awkward would be if you are really close to one or both friends and confident in both siblings. How weird would that seem when you are, basically, almost in the middle of that? Or, what if one sibling is upset with the other sibling.

Thanks to those who replied! Any others care to share opinions and/or experiences?

Ags2000 · 06-20-2006, 02:19 PM

I'm friends with alot of my siblings friends, as they are with mine. Friends come to the house when all of us are home and we have gotten to be really good friends with all of them. Infact, most of the really close friends are more like family then friends. I mean they call my parents mom and dad and come over on holidays. We even took one friend with us when we had a sibling weekend.

I see no problem with being friends with your siblings friends. It makes for more fun when you all get together.

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Janice · 06-20-2006, 02:22 PM

Many years ago, I was friends with a co-worker. I was in my 20s, and we used to party a lot. My sister hung out with me and my friend. We were all single. When I got married, I stopped my wild ways, lol.

Of course, my friend and sister were still single, and they used to go out all the time, without me. I never said anything to them, but I remember that it bothered me.

swedeace · 07-22-2006, 12:27 PM

Thanks for your responses, guys.

Another thought-provoking question: Do you all see similarities between those siblings? If so, do you treat those similiar personalities similarly in the sibling friends? Why? Why not?

LuLu Rogers · 07-22-2006, 01:53 PM

Take it from my experience, it's best just to stay away. I became friends with my best friend's older brother, and we soon became more than friends. We dated for about two weeks, then he broke it off. I found out later that she was the reason he dumped me because she didn't want him taking away our time together as friends. Needless to say, she and I haven't spoken since. It might work for some people, but it's really not a great idea.

06-19-2006, 08:15 AM	#1
swedeace Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Sep 22, 2003 Posts: 9,009	Befriending Your Friends' Siblings: good or bad idea? Do you think it's a good or bad idea to befriend your friends' siblings? I am not talking about childhood siblings you grew up with. I am more talking about befriending a friend's sibling in your adulthood. Do you think it's a good idea? Bad idea? Can it make things awkward, or does it really matter all that much, in your opinion? Why? Why not?

06-19-2006, 10:09 AM	#2
crystals Member Senior Member Join Date: Feb 02, 2004 Location: Canada Posts: 1,829	I don't think it would be a bad idea. I haven't befriended any siblings of friends in my life, but I don't see it being awkward. I mean, sure sometimes people don't want to be around their siblings and just be with their friends by themselves, but I think that's more when you're children you'd feel that way, in adulthood it would be nice to think that things would be different.
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06-19-2006, 10:16 AM	#3
Mijada Spencers mom Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 02, 2001 Location: eastern US Posts: 4,093	As long as it doesn't go beyond a friendship I think it's fine. If you get romantically involved it can become awkward especially if the relationship doesn't work out.
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Jonathan ***** Senior Member** Join Date: Aug 28, 2004 Posts: 2,304	It could probably turn out to be a bad situation.
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06-20-2006, 02:19 PM	#8
Ags2000 Red 2/13/90 -1/5/06 Forum Veteran Join Date: May 02, 2001 Location: Candyland Posts: 5,544	I'm friends with alot of my siblings friends, as they are with mine. Friends come to the house when all of us are home and we have gotten to be really good friends with all of them. Infact, most of the really close friends are more like family then friends. I mean they call my parents mom and dad and come over on holidays. We even took one friend with us when we had a sibling weekend. I see no problem with being friends with your siblings friends. It makes for more fun when you all get together. D
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06-19-2006, 12:37 PM	#6
cmcb06 Member Frequent Poster Join Date: Jun 01, 2006 Posts: 370	Umm, Well as long as their hott and look like they'd be great in bed, why not!?! Lol jk. I don't see any problems with being friends, but anything more than that dunno.

06-20-2006, 09:19 AM	#7
swedeace Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Sep 22, 2003 Posts: 9,009	Whoa... I think the last couple of posts are turning this thread into a totally different direction. I was just curious what people thought about befriending friends' siblings. Hahahaha.... One thing I think could be a little awkward would be if you are really close to one or both friends and confident in both siblings. How weird would that seem when you are, basically, almost in the middle of that? Or, what if one sibling is upset with the other sibling. Thanks to those who replied! Any others care to share opinions and/or experiences?

06-20-2006, 02:22 PM	#9
Janice Retired Admin - Hollywood Swingin' Forum Legend Join Date: Aug 03, 2001 Location: Beantown Posts: 36,388	Many years ago, I was friends with a co-worker. I was in my 20s, and we used to party a lot. My sister hung out with me and my friend. We were all single. When I got married, I stopped my wild ways, lol. Of course, my friend and sister were still single, and they used to go out all the time, without me. I never said anything to them, but I remember that it bothered me.

07-22-2006, 12:27 PM	#10
swedeace Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Sep 22, 2003 Posts: 9,009	Thanks for your responses, guys. Another thought-provoking question: Do you all see similarities between those siblings? If so, do you treat those similiar personalities similarly in the sibling friends? Why? Why not?

07-22-2006, 01:53 PM	#11
LuLu Rogers Colonel Brandon Forum Fanatic Join Date: Mar 23, 2004 Location: The Hogwarts Dungeons Posts: 11,013	Take it from my experience, it's best just to stay away. I became friends with my best friend's older brother, and we soon became more than friends. We dated for about two weeks, then he broke it off. I found out later that she was the reason he dumped me because she didn't want him taking away our time together as friends. Needless to say, she and I haven't spoken since. It might work for some people, but it's really not a great idea.
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