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80s_Fan · 06-16-2006, 09:24 AM

I need some advice quickly about how to patch up a former friendship.
To make a long story short; I ended my friendship with a childhood friend
almost 10 years ago I think it was and I want to make up with her and everything but she doesn't want. I've tried over and over again but no such luck. I really blew it this time and feel bad and part of me regrets it.

To make matters worse now; I just found out that she has breast cancer and I want to talk with her and be there for her but how can I when she won't give me the time of day? Not only because I found out about this that I want to talk to her but I do miss her and having her around and all that.

Can somebody give me any advice about how I could patch things up?
How can I get her to forgive me and to give me one more chance?
I know that I really hurt her and all that but now I see that good friends are hard to come by and it was stupid of me to end the friendship.

Mijada · 06-16-2006, 10:22 AM

You could try writing her a letter/E-Mail. That way you can say everything you want to say without any interruptions an apologize for what ever it was you did. If she still tells you to leave her alone thoug I would respect her wishes. In the end at least you'll know you tried.

Brad Russ · 06-16-2006, 10:25 AM

I think the best thing you can do is let her know how you feel. Apologize, and just say exactly what's on your heart. She may not forgive you, but you really can't do anything to change that. As long as you've apologized for whatever it is that you did wrong, and have forgiven yourself, then I think you've done all you can. Let her know that you love her, that you have no more hard feelings, and that you're always there for her, and pray that God puts it in her heart to forgive you. That's the best advice I can give. I hope it helps.

MsOrange · 06-16-2006, 11:28 AM

why did you end the relationship 10 years ago, if you don't mind me asking?

Sharop · 06-16-2006, 11:47 AM

I agree with the others...it might be useful to send her a letter or an email and tell her everything you want to say that way. And as Brad says, you could tell her your feelings and that you're really sorry, and that you would really love to be friends again.

I really hope you can work it out. Friendships are precious. There's a person I know that I really, really, really, really, really, really, really, really, really want to be friends with, but I'm struggling with going about it...I've no idea how to become friends with this person.

80s_Fan · 06-16-2006, 01:09 PM

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Originally Posted by MsOrange

why did you end the relationship 10 years ago, if you don't mind me asking?

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I don't mind telling you and the others why I ended it; believe me if I could turn back time, I wouldn't of done it but as the saying goes; what's done, is done. I just wish that she could forgive me and allow me back in her life.

About 10 years ago (more or less) when we were friends; I was fed up of hearing her complain about not having a job and about her mother's boyfriend, etc... I had tried to help her and give her advice but she wouldn't take it and fix her problems. It got to the point where I didn't want to speak with her as much anymore. So, the only solution that I could think of at the time was to end it once and for all; she didn't give me any other choice.
I knew that telling her over the phone or in person would be hard and she would cry and everything so I sent her a letter telling her everything.

Well, of course she was hurt and wrote me back telling me her point of view and telling me that I'm not a friend, etc.... We went a long time not speaking and then one day as well as other times; I tried to speak with her to make up but she wanted nothing to do with me. Even now, after looking back at all that, I do regret ending it and wish that I could take it back but I can't.

Now, I want to make amends especially after hearing that she has breast cancer which I still can't believe; I don't wish that on anybody. I have realized that good friends like we were once are hard to come by.
As far as I know; she's still not working but regardless, I want us to be friends again and I know that we could never have the kind of friendship that we used to have but at least we could be a part of each others lives once again. I'm thinking about contacting her mother and try talking to her about it and maybe she could convince her daughter (my ex-friend) to forgive me and to give me another chance. I know she will never forget it; I know that I
won't but I believe that we could resolve it and be friends again even if we are more like acquaintances. I'll take what I can get. It's her call.

80s_Fan · 08-10-2006, 04:58 PM

I still want to patch things up and I've decided to speak to her mother first which she has agreed and we'll see from there. If this doesn't work then I won't bother her anymore. I will have to live with that for the rest of my life.

I will keep you posted on how it's going and everything. Wish Me Luck!!

06-16-2006, 09:24 AM	#1
80s_Fan Healthcare_Clerk Senior Member Join Date: May 26, 2004 Location: Montreal, Canada Posts: 1,697	Help....Need Advice Quickly Please!!!! I need some advice quickly about how to patch up a former friendship. To make a long story short; I ended my friendship with a childhood friend almost 10 years ago I think it was and I want to make up with her and everything but she doesn't want. I've tried over and over again but no such luck. I really blew it this time and feel bad and part of me regrets it. To make matters worse now; I just found out that she has breast cancer and I want to talk with her and be there for her but how can I when she won't give me the time of day? Not only because I found out about this that I want to talk to her but I do miss her and having her around and all that. Can somebody give me any advice about how I could patch things up? How can I get her to forgive me and to give me one more chance? I know that I really hurt her and all that but now I see that good friends are hard to come by and it was stupid of me to end the friendship.

06-16-2006, 10:22 AM	#2
Mijada Spencers mom Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 02, 2001 Location: eastern US Posts: 4,093	You could try writing her a letter/E-Mail. That way you can say everything you want to say without any interruptions an apologize for what ever it was you did. If she still tells you to leave her alone thoug I would respect her wishes. In the end at least you'll know you tried.
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06-16-2006, 10:25 AM	#3
Brad Russ Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Feb 17, 2002 Location: Portland, Oregon Posts: 10,085	I think the best thing you can do is let her know how you feel. Apologize, and just say exactly what's on your heart. She may not forgive you, but you really can't do anything to change that. As long as you've apologized for whatever it is that you did wrong, and have forgiven yourself, then I think you've done all you can. Let her know that you love her, that you have no more hard feelings, and that you're always there for her, and pray that God puts it in her heart to forgive you. That's the best advice I can give. I hope it helps.
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06-16-2006, 11:47 AM	#5
Sharop Andy Gibb aged 12 Forum 3000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 03, 2004 Location: Courthouse Square, Hill Valley, beside the clocktower, 10:04 p.m., November 12th 1955 Posts: 3,912	I agree with the others...it might be useful to send her a letter or an email and tell her everything you want to say that way. And as Brad says, you could tell her your feelings and that you're really sorry, and that you would really love to be friends again. I really hope you can work it out. Friendships are precious. There's a person I know that I really, really, really, really, really, really, really, really, really want to be friends with, but I'm struggling with going about it...I've no idea how to become friends with this person.
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08-10-2006, 04:58 PM	#7
80s_Fan Healthcare_Clerk Senior Member Join Date: May 26, 2004 Location: Montreal, Canada Posts: 1,697	I Still Want To Patch Things Up I still want to patch things up and I've decided to speak to her mother first which she has agreed and we'll see from there. If this doesn't work then I won't bother her anymore. I will have to live with that for the rest of my life. I will keep you posted on how it's going and everything. Wish Me Luck!!

06-16-2006, 11:28 AM	#4
MsOrange Bringin' Sexy Back Forum Veteran Join Date: Dec 27, 2004 Posts: 6,133	why did you end the relationship 10 years ago, if you don't mind me asking?