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Michael [hXc] · 05-24-2006, 03:25 PM

a few weeks ago, my so-called friend Chantel hooked me up with this girl Stephanie, who liked me. i didn't like her as anything but a friend, yet i hardly knew her. but i still said yes when she asked me out, thinking it would all work out. and it did, until recently.

she always acted like i couldn't talk to any of my friends who are girls (especially Crystal) without it being flirting. she and her friend accused me of flirting with Crystal, when we are only really good friends. and every time i told her something, she would tell all her friends. nothing i said could be kept a secret.

and this morning, i found out from my friend Leah that Stephanie has been flirting with my best friend Scott, who is also Leah's boyfriend. everyone in my homeroom class noticed it, and even the teacher noticed it. Leah and Stephanie were good friends, but Leah truly believed that she was flirting with Scott, and it upset me too. on top of it, all my friends have been making fun of me for liking Stephanie, because they said she's a bitch.

so at lunch today i went up to her and asked her "is it true you've been flirting with Scott? even Leah thinks you have been." and she said she wasn't. then her friend Caitlyn came up to me and said "they were not flirting, they are really good friends". yet why is it flirting when i talk to Crystal, but not when Stephanie talks to Scott? and then Caitlyn called me an ******* and said that if i broke up with Stephanie, she would do some awful things to me. and then she was yelling at me for listening to Leah and Crystal rather than Stephanie. but i have gotten really sick of Stephanie causing me to lose my friends. and then Leah and Crystal got into a fight with Caitlyn, and Leah said that i have every right to talk to whoever i want to, and i shouldn't be accused of flirting with Crystal if Stephanie can talk to Leah. and Leah has been really bothered about the whole thing, since she and Scott are going out.

i broke up with Stephanie, because i realized i only need my true friends, not a girlfriend who is influenced by her friends and causes me to lose my friends. also i have been very stressed out lately and i never was before. yet, why do i still feel bad, when i should feel better? what should i do?

advice is wanted.

MsOrange · 05-24-2006, 03:40 PM

just stick it out, this feeling will go away. It sounds like you made the RIGHT choise, even thought it might have been a hard one. You don't need a girlfriend whose got her friends stuck up her butt like that. You can do better!!!!!

Michael [hXc] · 05-24-2006, 03:50 PM

i feel like weights were lifted off my shoulders, and now i can have good friendships with my friends without thinking they will be broken. i think the reasons it didn't work for me were because it bothered me how Stephanie made fun of my friends (especially Crystal, because Crystal has frizzy hair), yet she cries when someone calls her fat. and she tells on everyone all the time, and one of my friends got detentions because of her. i just feel like while i thought she was filling some void in my life, i was really just better off with my close friends.

Chad Michael Murray · 05-24-2006, 03:52 PM

You did do the right thing. I wound up dating a couple of crazy bitches in high school (and before the PC police get on my case, I don't refer to all women as "bitches", just those particular ones) who were pretty similar to the girls you described.

You don't need them!

Michael [hXc] · 05-24-2006, 03:57 PM

i do feel like i did the right thing, but her friends at school think i am being an ******* about it.

Chad Michael Murray · 05-24-2006, 03:59 PM

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Originally Posted by american non_idiot

i do feel like i did the right thing, but her friends at school think i am being an ******* about it.

Yeah, but when the people who think that are just plain bitchy to begin with, then it kind of softens the blow because you can stop and think "Dude...YOU'RE a bitch! What the hell are you even doing talking trash about other people to begin with?"

Tuesday Weld · 05-24-2006, 04:05 PM

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Originally Posted by american non_idiot

i do feel like i did the right thing, but her friends at school think i am being an ******* about it.

I definately believe that you did the right thing, try not to worry about those jerks. I know it's easier said than done.

Michael [hXc] · 05-24-2006, 04:07 PM

i realized that relationship wasn't for me when i was enjoying talking to my friend Leah WAY MORE than talking to Stephanie, and i realized then, that all i really wanted was just some close friends.

i could always say to Stephanie "if you'd like to continue our relationship as friends, i'm always here."

Moonlight Lady · 05-24-2006, 07:58 PM

Yeah, but, after the way she treated you, why would you want to have her as a friend? Sounds like you have some good friends and you'll probably make more who are just as nice.

Michael [hXc] · 05-24-2006, 08:08 PM

she always said she really cared about me, but she also made fun of some of my close friends and got them in trouble because they didn't approve of us going out. and i just felt..trapped.

dawsongirl · 05-24-2006, 11:09 PM

Oh man....am I glad I didn't date in JH/HS.

Those girls are all clueless and insecure. You're better without them. Just have fun being a kid.

Nighthawk76 · 05-24-2006, 11:18 PM

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Originally Posted by dawsongirl

Just have fun being a kid.

I think this is great advice.

Mijada · 05-25-2006, 05:50 AM

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Originally Posted by dawsongirl

Oh man....am I glad I didn't date in JH/HS.

Those girls are all clueless and insecure. You're better without them. Just have fun being a kid.

I agree 100%. There will be plenty of time for dating and stuff when you get older

05-24-2006, 03:25 PM	#1
Michael [hXc] dying. Forum Fanatic Join Date: Feb 29, 2004 Posts: 8,532	i feel really, really bad- advice wanted a few weeks ago, my so-called friend Chantel hooked me up with this girl Stephanie, who liked me. i didn't like her as anything but a friend, yet i hardly knew her. but i still said yes when she asked me out, thinking it would all work out. and it did, until recently. she always acted like i couldn't talk to any of my friends who are girls (especially Crystal) without it being flirting. she and her friend accused me of flirting with Crystal, when we are only really good friends. and every time i told her something, she would tell all her friends. nothing i said could be kept a secret. and this morning, i found out from my friend Leah that Stephanie has been flirting with my best friend Scott, who is also Leah's boyfriend. everyone in my homeroom class noticed it, and even the teacher noticed it. Leah and Stephanie were good friends, but Leah truly believed that she was flirting with Scott, and it upset me too. on top of it, all my friends have been making fun of me for liking Stephanie, because they said she's a bitch. so at lunch today i went up to her and asked her "is it true you've been flirting with Scott? even Leah thinks you have been." and she said she wasn't. then her friend Caitlyn came up to me and said "they were not flirting, they are really good friends". yet why is it flirting when i talk to Crystal, but not when Stephanie talks to Scott? and then Caitlyn called me an ******* and said that if i broke up with Stephanie, she would do some awful things to me. and then she was yelling at me for listening to Leah and Crystal rather than Stephanie. but i have gotten really sick of Stephanie causing me to lose my friends. and then Leah and Crystal got into a fight with Caitlyn, and Leah said that i have every right to talk to whoever i want to, and i shouldn't be accused of flirting with Crystal if Stephanie can talk to Leah. and Leah has been really bothered about the whole thing, since she and Scott are going out. i broke up with Stephanie, because i realized i only need my true friends, not a girlfriend who is influenced by her friends and causes me to lose my friends. also i have been very stressed out lately and i never was before. yet, why do i still feel bad, when i should feel better? what should i do? advice is wanted.

05-24-2006, 03:52 PM	#4
Chad Michael Murray Member Senior Member Join Date: Oct 23, 2005 Location: Illinois Posts: 1,493	You did do the right thing. I wound up dating a couple of crazy bitches in high school (and before the PC police get on my case, I don't refer to all women as "bitches", just those particular ones) who were pretty similar to the girls you described. You don't need them!
	__________________ "I think that I’m definitely connected to my sensitive side. I pretty much wear my emotions on my sleeves for the people in my life." --Chad Michael Murray

05-24-2006, 07:58 PM	#9
Moonlight Lady Member Forum Star Join Date: Aug 18, 2002 Posts: 16,052	Yeah, but, after the way she treated you, why would you want to have her as a friend? Sounds like you have some good friends and you'll probably make more who are just as nice.
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05-24-2006, 03:40 PM	#2
MsOrange Bringin' Sexy Back Forum Veteran Join Date: Dec 27, 2004 Posts: 6,133	just stick it out, this feeling will go away. It sounds like you made the RIGHT choise, even thought it might have been a hard one. You don't need a girlfriend whose got her friends stuck up her butt like that. You can do better!!!!!

05-24-2006, 03:50 PM	#3
Michael [hXc] dying. Forum Fanatic Join Date: Feb 29, 2004 Posts: 8,532	i feel like weights were lifted off my shoulders, and now i can have good friendships with my friends without thinking they will be broken. i think the reasons it didn't work for me were because it bothered me how Stephanie made fun of my friends (especially Crystal, because Crystal has frizzy hair), yet she cries when someone calls her fat. and she tells on everyone all the time, and one of my friends got detentions because of her. i just feel like while i thought she was filling some void in my life, i was really just better off with my close friends.

05-24-2006, 03:57 PM	#5
Michael [hXc] dying. Forum Fanatic Join Date: Feb 29, 2004 Posts: 8,532	i do feel like i did the right thing, but her friends at school think i am being an ******* about it.

05-24-2006, 04:07 PM	#8
Michael [hXc] dying. Forum Fanatic Join Date: Feb 29, 2004 Posts: 8,532	i realized that relationship wasn't for me when i was enjoying talking to my friend Leah WAY MORE than talking to Stephanie, and i realized then, that all i really wanted was just some close friends. i could always say to Stephanie "if you'd like to continue our relationship as friends, i'm always here."

05-24-2006, 08:08 PM	#10
Michael [hXc] dying. Forum Fanatic Join Date: Feb 29, 2004 Posts: 8,532	she always said she really cared about me, but she also made fun of some of my close friends and got them in trouble because they didn't approve of us going out. and i just felt..trapped.

05-24-2006, 11:09 PM	#11
dawsongirl Member Forum Icon Join Date: Jan 04, 2001 Posts: 53,134	Oh man....am I glad I didn't date in JH/HS. Those girls are all clueless and insecure. You're better without them. Just have fun being a kid.