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Brian Damage · 04-29-2006, 11:49 PM

On Friday, a good friend of mine at work was fired. I was really upset about it because we will more than likely lose touch. We live in different states, I'm married and he is single so our lifestyles are pretty much different. I'll hang out with him next week as we are both going to the Tribeca film festival, but after that, we will probably lose touch. Has anybody lost a friend, whether they moved away or transferred to a new school or changed jobs?

Janice · 04-29-2006, 11:54 PM

It's happened to me a few times, with co-workers mostly. We all promise to stay in touch, and we do for a while, but it usually tapers off. Life is so busy, yet once it's not convenient anymore, it's usually a wrap.

I call these people 'situational friends'. Once the situation ends, be it work, school, a neighbor, etc...the friendship often ends with it. It's sad. I was so close with people at my last job. Now, we're down to the occasional e:mail.

consentida · 04-29-2006, 11:58 PM

I lost a friend about a year ago because she didn't like one of the teachers I was close to in high school. I mean, she was so jealous she couldn't even see straight. And I explained to her several times that she was my friend and the teacher was my teacher and that's all there was to it. But she didnt understand any of that. Needless to say, me and this person no longer speak to one another. I still keep in touch with the teacher though.

Brian Damage · 04-30-2006, 12:00 AM

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Originally Posted by Janice

It's happened to me a few times, with co-workers mostly. We all promise to stay in touch, and we do for a while, but it usually tapers off. Life is so busy, yet once it's not convenient anymore, it's usually a wrap.

I call these people 'situational friends'. Once the situation ends, be it work, school, a neighbor, etc...the friendship often ends with it. It's sad. I was so close with people at my last job. Now, we're down to the occasional e:mail.

It's so depressing to me because he was my only friend at work. Yes, I have other aquaintences at work, but this guy was a "buddy." He was the only person I would actually do stuff with.

swedeace · 04-30-2006, 12:02 AM

Just a couple of close or sorta close high school friends. Well, we sorta come and go. We can, literally, go years without hearing from one another and then suddenly "bump into" each other at a store or something or call one another and go see a movie or something. We have usually said "we should ALL (the group of us) have a lunch or dinner together to catch up on our lives sometime," but it never seems to happen due to busy lives or whatever. I guess we cosmically know we will never truly forget one another. We will, eventually, ALL get together and reminisce. Perhaps on our high school reunion.

dawsongirl · 04-30-2006, 12:04 AM

Almost all my offline friends. I have maybe one left, and that's just thanks to myspace, because they live in different states. I'm not worth remembering I guess.

Brian Damage · 04-30-2006, 12:06 AM

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Originally Posted by dawsongirl

Almost all my offline friends. I have maybe one left.

Yeah, me too. This was the last of my offline friends, that is why it is so depressing.

dawsongirl · 04-30-2006, 12:14 AM

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Originally Posted by Brian Damage

Yeah, me too. This was the last of my offline friends, that is why it is so depressing.

Totally know what that's like. Makes you feel kinda...empty I guess.

Number 9 Dream · 04-30-2006, 12:45 AM

Oh yes, and it definitely hurts big time. I had a close group of online friends in 2003 that I talked to almost every day--we even purchased phone cards so we could talk on a regular basis. We met very randomly through an online journal site (it originally started with one girl asking to friend me, and soon enough her twin sister followed suit because we'd see each other on her sister's journal. Then another girl came in to it a few months later and we all became fast friends). We had a LOT in common, mainly our tastes in music (we were all Beatles freaks) and we all loved to write. One of the twins started up a writing community which we all joined, and it became so much fun to post our stories with each other. The conversations in our chat rooms and on the phone were also amazing.

Anyway, needless to say, we grew apart over time. I'm not sure exactly how it happened, but one of the twins started to have a problem with me and we eventually had a fight and broke off contact with each other--her sister soon followed because she felt like she wanted to be loyal to her sister and her sister's problems became her problems. I continued to talk to the third girl because we were always the closest (I even met her the following summer in 2004). Well, meeting her kinda disappointed me, to say the least. I had a lot of expectations about her and, although it was nice to spend a week getting to know her, I was sorely disappointed. It goes a lot deeper than that, but it's kinda personal so I won't delve any more. We had an enormous blow out a few months after our meeting and exchanged nasty words.

So, yes, it does hurt. I considered these girls like I would any of my personal friends at home--they were like sisters to me. I am content with the fact that I learned from the experience and have all the memories to take with me. We did have some good times--I do miss them a lot.

Ags2000 · 04-30-2006, 02:32 AM

Every 3-4 years growing up I lost friends. I'm a Navy Brat and my family moved around ALOT. Some I still keep in contact with through email and letters, others I haven't talked to in over 20 years but I still remember them.

Cherish the time you had with your buddy and get his email address. Having the internet has really helped to stay intouch with friends I have met over the years. It is sad when it happens, but you move on and make new friends. That's life for ya.

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Hollow · 04-30-2006, 04:51 AM

bloody hell, all of my ****ing friends kept moving away when i was younger. it happens less often now but until i was eight or so it was horrible.

Michael [hXc] · 04-30-2006, 08:19 AM

since 6th grade, i had two friends that i talked to on the phone all the time, spent time with on the weekends, and sat with at lunch. but this year (after 2 years) we seemed to have all grown apart and none of us really talk too much to eachother. i don't know how it really happens, i guess when none of us called eachother over time. it was okay though because i realized they weren't the best of friends anyway

Mijada · 04-30-2006, 08:46 AM

I've lost a lot of friends that way. I don't see anyone that I went to HS/College with anymore. We lost touch a long time ago. Now that we have E-Mail, My Space, Classmates.com there are all kinds of ways to keep in touch if you really want to. I keep in touch with some of my former co workers thru E-Mail.
You can still E-Mail your friend Brian. You may not be able to hang out in person but at least you won't have to lose touch and you will still know what's going on in each others lives.

Pitooey · 04-30-2006, 09:25 AM

That's the one thing I realized in life is how everyone scatters.

Be it at the job, cousins, even some family. They just don't take the time to keep in touch and it only takes a phone call, email, a card at Christmas or anything. People are just too busy now.

I've never felt too busy for a friend but guess what? It's not the same for them.

The poster who said grab that email address is right. That's the only way a good friend communicates in this day and age. Good Luck Brian!!!! I hope he stays close to you.

80s_Fan · 04-30-2006, 11:15 AM

To make a long story short; I lost a childhood friend because I ended it.
We met in kindergarten and we were best friends for a long time but then
I noticed that our friendship had changed for the worst.

To this day; we still don't speak at all and she's still the same way.
I've tried to patch things up but she wants nothing to do with me.
So, I've moved on and who knows; maybe one day we will become
friends again but if we don't; so be it. I have other friends that I
grew up with and everything. It's a real shame that it ended between
us but she didn't leave me much of a choice.

04-29-2006, 11:49 PM	#1
Brian Damage I'm Rich Bitch Forum Icon Join Date: Feb 03, 2002 Location: What Ain't No Country I Ever Heard Of...They Speak English in What? Posts: 63,107	Anybody lose a friend? On Friday, a good friend of mine at work was fired. I was really upset about it because we will more than likely lose touch. We live in different states, I'm married and he is single so our lifestyles are pretty much different. I'll hang out with him next week as we are both going to the Tribeca film festival, but after that, we will probably lose touch. Has anybody lost a friend, whether they moved away or transferred to a new school or changed jobs?
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04-30-2006, 12:45 AM	#9
Number 9 Dream That '70s Girl Forum Veteran Join Date: Jan 18, 2005 Location: Long Island, NY Posts: 5,875	Oh yes, and it definitely hurts big time. I had a close group of online friends in 2003 that I talked to almost every day--we even purchased phone cards so we could talk on a regular basis. We met very randomly through an online journal site (it originally started with one girl asking to friend me, and soon enough her twin sister followed suit because we'd see each other on her sister's journal. Then another girl came in to it a few months later and we all became fast friends). We had a LOT in common, mainly our tastes in music (we were all Beatles freaks) and we all loved to write. One of the twins started up a writing community which we all joined, and it became so much fun to post our stories with each other. The conversations in our chat rooms and on the phone were also amazing. Anyway, needless to say, we grew apart over time. I'm not sure exactly how it happened, but one of the twins started to have a problem with me and we eventually had a fight and broke off contact with each other--her sister soon followed because she felt like she wanted to be loyal to her sister and her sister's problems became her problems. I continued to talk to the third girl because we were always the closest (I even met her the following summer in 2004). Well, meeting her kinda disappointed me, to say the least. I had a lot of expectations about her and, although it was nice to spend a week getting to know her, I was sorely disappointed. It goes a lot deeper than that, but it's kinda personal so I won't delve any more. We had an enormous blow out a few months after our meeting and exchanged nasty words. So, yes, it does hurt. I considered these girls like I would any of my personal friends at home--they were like sisters to me. I am content with the fact that I learned from the experience and have all the memories to take with me. We did have some good times--I do miss them a lot.
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04-30-2006, 02:32 AM	#10
Ags2000 Red 2/13/90 -1/5/06 Forum Veteran Join Date: May 02, 2001 Location: Candyland Posts: 5,544	Every 3-4 years growing up I lost friends. I'm a Navy Brat and my family moved around ALOT. Some I still keep in contact with through email and letters, others I haven't talked to in over 20 years but I still remember them. Cherish the time you had with your buddy and get his email address. Having the internet has really helped to stay intouch with friends I have met over the years. It is sad when it happens, but you move on and make new friends. That's life for ya. D
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04-30-2006, 08:46 AM	#13
Mijada Spencers mom Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 02, 2001 Location: eastern US Posts: 4,093	I've lost a lot of friends that way. I don't see anyone that I went to HS/College with anymore. We lost touch a long time ago. Now that we have E-Mail, My Space, Classmates.com there are all kinds of ways to keep in touch if you really want to. I keep in touch with some of my former co workers thru E-Mail. You can still E-Mail your friend Brian. You may not be able to hang out in person but at least you won't have to lose touch and you will still know what's going on in each others lives.
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04-30-2006, 09:25 AM	#14
Pitooey Member Forum Star Join Date: Feb 15, 2001 Location: Rocking in Transylvania. Posts: 15,042	That's the one thing I realized in life is how everyone scatters. Be it at the job, cousins, even some family. They just don't take the time to keep in touch and it only takes a phone call, email, a card at Christmas or anything. People are just too busy now. I've never felt too busy for a friend but guess what? It's not the same for them. The poster who said grab that email address is right. That's the only way a good friend communicates in this day and age. Good Luck Brian!!!! I hope he stays close to you.
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04-29-2006, 11:54 PM	#2
Janice Retired Admin - Hollywood Swingin' Forum Legend Join Date: Aug 03, 2001 Location: Beantown Posts: 36,388	It's happened to me a few times, with co-workers mostly. We all promise to stay in touch, and we do for a while, but it usually tapers off. Life is so busy, yet once it's not convenient anymore, it's usually a wrap. I call these people 'situational friends'. Once the situation ends, be it work, school, a neighbor, etc...the friendship often ends with it. It's sad. I was so close with people at my last job. Now, we're down to the occasional e:mail.

04-29-2006, 11:58 PM	#3
consentida oh, you pretty things Forum 3000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 21, 2002 Location: New York Posts: 3,841	I lost a friend about a year ago because she didn't like one of the teachers I was close to in high school. I mean, she was so jealous she couldn't even see straight. And I explained to her several times that she was my friend and the teacher was my teacher and that's all there was to it. But she didnt understand any of that. Needless to say, me and this person no longer speak to one another. I still keep in touch with the teacher though.

04-30-2006, 12:02 AM	#5
swedeace Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Sep 22, 2003 Posts: 9,009	Just a couple of close or sorta close high school friends. Well, we sorta come and go. We can, literally, go years without hearing from one another and then suddenly "bump into" each other at a store or something or call one another and go see a movie or something. We have usually said "we should ALL (the group of us) have a lunch or dinner together to catch up on our lives sometime," but it never seems to happen due to busy lives or whatever. I guess we cosmically know we will never truly forget one another. We will, eventually, ALL get together and reminisce. Perhaps on our high school reunion.

04-30-2006, 12:04 AM	#6
dawsongirl Member Forum Icon Join Date: Jan 04, 2001 Posts: 53,140	Almost all my offline friends. I have maybe one left, and that's just thanks to myspace, because they live in different states. I'm not worth remembering I guess.

04-30-2006, 04:51 AM	#11
Hollow Member Forum Superstar Join Date: Dec 16, 2001 Posts: 30,406	bloody hell, all of my ****ing friends kept moving away when i was younger. it happens less often now but until i was eight or so it was horrible.

04-30-2006, 08:19 AM	#12
Michael [hXc] dying. Forum Fanatic Join Date: Feb 29, 2004 Posts: 8,532	since 6th grade, i had two friends that i talked to on the phone all the time, spent time with on the weekends, and sat with at lunch. but this year (after 2 years) we seemed to have all grown apart and none of us really talk too much to eachother. i don't know how it really happens, i guess when none of us called eachother over time. it was okay though because i realized they weren't the best of friends anyway

04-30-2006, 11:15 AM	#15
80s_Fan Healthcare_Clerk Senior Member Join Date: May 26, 2004 Location: Montreal, Canada Posts: 1,697	Lost A Childhood Friend To make a long story short; I lost a childhood friend because I ended it. We met in kindergarten and we were best friends for a long time but then I noticed that our friendship had changed for the worst. To this day; we still don't speak at all and she's still the same way. I've tried to patch things up but she wants nothing to do with me. So, I've moved on and who knows; maybe one day we will become friends again but if we don't; so be it. I have other friends that I grew up with and everything. It's a real shame that it ended between us but she didn't leave me much of a choice.