What Do You Think About Being A Single Mom?

[LuLu Rogers]

A friend of mine wants to have a baby, but feels that she's not ready to get married, so she wants to raise the baby on her own.

What do you think of this?

[Sterling Holobyte]

If she's not ready for a responsible relationship, there is no way she would be ready for responsibilities of a baby.
Sorry, just my opinion.

[Brieannas21]

Originally Posted by Sterling Holobyte

If she's not ready for a responsible relationship, there is no way she would be ready for responsibilities of a baby.
Sorry, just my opinion

I have no problem with women who are single parents. Being mother is a very hard job, let alone being single and trying to raise a kid and working isn't a easy task. Your friend sounds a bit immature JMO

[Mikado]

To be a woman who has a child and finds herself alone, do to divorce, or widowhood is one thing, but to havce a baby cause you arent ready to marry makes NO sense, as Sterling so elequently put it : "If she's not ready for a responsible relationship, there is no way she would be ready for responsibilities of a baby."

[Ireneparalegal]

Originally Posted by Mikado

To be a woman who has a child and finds herself alone, do to divorce, or widowhood is one thing, but to havce a baby cause you arent ready to marry makes NO sense, as Sterling so elequently put it : "If she's not ready for a responsible relationship, there is no way she would be ready for responsibilities of a baby."

Yep. exactly.

However, there are exceptions. Women who don't want to ever marry but want to have children. But women like that are women who are financially capable, emotionally capable and overall capable of dealing with raising a child without a father around.

[Mijada]

I think she is being unfair to the child. A child needs a father as well as a mother.

[Pitooey]

Not a good idea.

I was in these shoes once and believe me it's no picnic.

[Kazza]

Originally Posted by Mijada

I think she is being unfair to the child. A child needs a father as well as a mother.

Not in every case. I'm a single mom and raise my kids as their mom and their dad; just better.

It really depends on the case, I was watching this Lisa Loeb show #1 single and she wants to have children because her biological clock is ticking but she doesn't really want to get married. She's got the support system and is financially stable; as long as there are those things I would think it's ok.

[Bobby F.]

I don't think just because she doesn't want a relationship doesn't measn she's not ready to raise a child. It's two different things really. She may not want the hassles of having to deal with someone else in her life so that she can devote more time to the child.

[LuLu Rogers]

I told her that it will be tough and it's a lot of responcibility, but she just shrugged it off. I just hate to see her do something that she'll regret if she's not ready.

[~LadyJess~]

Originally Posted by Spike-Maguire's Lady

I told her that it will be tough and it's a lot of responcibility, but she just shrugged it off. I just hate to see her do something that she'll regret if she's not ready.

Shurgging off someone telling you that it will be tough and a lot of responsiblity shows that she just wants a baby but she's not ready. I don't think there is anything wrong with single parents, many of them do a great job, but this seems like a bad situation to bring a child in to.

[LuLu Rogers]

That's exactly what I'm thinking

[KissMyGrits]

It's hard enough raising a child with two parents. I couldn't imagine trying to do it on my own!

I think she sees the baby as a way to get attention. She doesn't actually see the 2 a.m. feedings, the baby getting sick at all hours of the night, teething, changing diapers etc.

I have a neighbor that was 14 and had a baby the same time I had my son. That baby was raised by the girls parents. My advice is to wait.

[Ireneparalegal]

God, i think some girls don't really see the hard work of raising a child. Like what was posted here^^^^^^^ abt the child getting sick, the feedings, the diapers, buying clothes. Children grow at a rapid pace, clothes have to be bought every few months' shoes, diapers, medical visits, children getting their vaccines and the pain they are in afterwards; going to work to support a child and then missing work because that child is sick; having a boss that doesn't put up with the fact that you are a single parent and will replace you in a heartbeat because of your absences; childcare costs. My girlfriend pays $200 a week for her son's childcare. Then, when that provider is ill or "takes time off" my friend needs to find a replacement temporary sitter. Going out on a whim is out because who will watch your kid? Will your child behave? Will a guy want to date you because of your child? If the child has an illness that requires special meds/diet? You may then have to deal with braces; the cost of regular dental and medical check-ups, prescriptions...should i stop or keep going?

[Mr. Television]

Originally Posted by Ireneparalegal

God, i think some girls don't really see the hard work of raising a child. Like what was posted here^^^^^^^ abt the child getting sick, the feedings, the diapers, buying clothes. Children grow at a rapid pace, clothes have to be bought every few months' shoes, diapers, medical visits, children getting their vaccines and the pain they are in afterwards; going to work to support a child and then missing work because that child is sick; having a boss that doesn't put up with the fact that you are a single parent and will replace you in a heartbeat because of your absences; childcare costs. My girlfriend pays $200 a week for her son's childcare. Then, when that provider is ill or "takes time off" my friend needs to find a replacement temporary sitter. Going out on a whim is out because who will watch your kid? Will your child behave? Will a guy want to date you because of your child? If the child has an illness that requires special meds/diet? You may then have to deal with braces; the cost of regular dental and medical check-ups, prescriptions...should i stop or keep going?

Her friend should read your post Irene.