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TVFactFan · 04-20-2006, 10:26 AM

hairstyle? This woman at my job came in with a new look and everyone has been talking to her about how good it looks and they know it looks like sh*T but I guess it's the polite thing to do-lol I haven;t complimented her at all i just said-"Oh you are changing on me with the new look" So do you feel like you have to compliment someone if they come in with a new look? I don;t-lol

80s_Fan · 04-20-2006, 10:30 AM

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Originally Posted by TVResearcher

hairstyle? This woman at my job came in with a new look and everyone has been talking to her about how good it looks and they know it looks like sh*T but I guess it's the polite thing to do-lol I haven;t complimented her at all i just said-"Oh you are changing on me with the new look" So do you feel like you have to compliment someone if they come in with a new look? I don;t-lol

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No, I don't feel pressured to compliment anybody at work for a new hairstyle and/or anything for that matter. If I come in with a new look; I don't expect others to compliment me but it's always nice to hear some remarks.

Brian Damage · 04-20-2006, 10:45 AM

Well, it is the polite thing to do. However, if I think it is a look that is bad for that person, it makes it very difficult to say something positive.

~LadyJess~ · 04-20-2006, 11:50 AM

I don't feel the need to compliment but, like you did Soloman, at least say something so you acknowledge it, if it's good or bad. I think just saying nothing at all makes you come off as self-centered so I always say something.

Moonlight Lady · 04-20-2006, 12:28 PM

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Originally Posted by TVResearcher

hairstyle? This woman at my job came in with a new look and everyone has been talking to her about how good it looks and they know it looks like sh*T but I guess it's the polite thing to do-lol I haven;t complimented her at all i just said-"Oh you are changing on me with the new look" So do you feel like you have to compliment someone if they come in with a new look? I don;t-lol

No, if it's not a good look, I just don't say anything.

Janice · 04-20-2006, 12:38 PM

That's a tough one. If you say you like the terrible hairstyle, she may continue to keep it that way. I guess I'd just say something cheery like, "Someone's got a new Spring hairstyle."

I don't offer my opinion unless I'm asked. I am honest when I give an opinion though.

TVFactFan · 04-20-2006, 01:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Janice

That's a tough one. If you say you like the terrible hairstyle, she may continue to keep it that way. I guess I'd just say something cheery like, "Someone's got a new Spring hairstyle."

I don't offer my opinion unless I'm asked. I am honest when I give an opinion though.

I hate when someone compliments me on a new haircut-lol I be like-"can't I just come to work and not hear-"wow sol your cut is looking good"

Brieannas21 · 04-20-2006, 01:33 PM

No, I never feel pressured, If it looks bad I just don't say anything.

Michael [hXc] · 04-20-2006, 01:37 PM

there's this girl in my classes at school who wears her hair a bunch of different ways, and she changes her clothes style too. she likes to reinvent herself but every time she does, everyone says "wow your hair looks so good!" or "that's a great look for you" even though i'm sure a lot of people don't mean it. i don't say anything unless i'm asked but nobody i know asks that kind of thing.

swedeace · 04-20-2006, 05:38 PM

No, I don't feel pressured to compliment anyone.

I am not being mean or anything, but I don't normally compliment people on changed appearances unless it's a huge change or something in clothes or accessories. Not just hairdos. It's just not really me.

I know that my supervisor does get a little hurt when I don't say anything whenever he gets a haircut. My other co-workers usually do, but he gets hurt. He then says in front of some of my co-workers, "She doesn't really say anything about my haircut." He said it recently about a month ago, and I straight-out told him, "I noticed, but I don't usually compliment too much on hairdos." I just say it like it is. I am not being mean. It's just part of my personality.

TVFactFan · 04-20-2006, 06:44 PM

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Originally Posted by swedeace

No, I don't feel pressured to compliment anyone.

I am not being mean or anything, but I don't normally compliment people on changed appearances unless it's a huge change or something in clothes or accessories. Not just hairdos. It's just not really me.

I know that my supervisor does get a little hurt when I don't say anything whenever he gets a haircut. My other co-workers usually do, but he gets hurt. He then says in front of some of my co-workers, "She doesn't really say anything about my haircut." He said it recently about a month ago, and I straight-out told him, "I noticed, but I don't usually compliment too much on hairdos." I just say it like it is. I am not being mean. It's just part of my personality.

Sounds like he has a crush on you-lol

James"Thunder"Early · 04-20-2006, 06:50 PM

I don't feel pressured. When I'm asked I don't want to say anything rude, so I might say "I've never seen anything like it before".

EmoJoe · 04-20-2006, 06:52 PM

no

if they ask me then i might say something nice.

Janice · 04-20-2006, 07:56 PM

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Originally Posted by TVResearcher

I hate when someone compliments me on a new haircut-lol I be like-"can't I just come to work and not hear-"wow sol your cut is looking good"

I would only consider commenting if it was a completely new look. If someone strolled in with just a haircut, I wouldn't say anything.

swedeace · 04-20-2006, 10:18 PM

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Sounds like he has a crush on you-lol

Nah. All of us in the tech office get along fairly well, and my boss is like a big softy and sometimes gets sensitive. When someone doesn't compliment him on something important to him, he gets touchy about it.

04-20-2006, 10:26 AM	#1
TVFactFan Member Forum Junkie Join Date: Aug 17, 2002 Posts: 99,097	Do you ever feel pressured to compliment someone at work or school if they have a new hairstyle? This woman at my job came in with a new look and everyone has been talking to her about how good it looks and they know it looks like sh*T but I guess it's the polite thing to do-lol I haven;t complimented her at all i just said-"Oh you are changing on me with the new look" So do you feel like you have to compliment someone if they come in with a new look? I don;t-lol

04-20-2006, 10:45 AM	#3
Brian Damage I'm Rich Bitch Forum Icon Join Date: Feb 03, 2002 Location: What Ain't No Country I Ever Heard Of...They Speak English in What? Posts: 63,107	Well, it is the polite thing to do. However, if I think it is a look that is bad for that person, it makes it very difficult to say something positive.
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04-20-2006, 11:50 AM	#4
~LadyJess~ Football Chick Forum Fanatic Join Date: Mar 15, 2002 Location: At the Shamrock doing shots with Mo Posts: 8,260	I don't feel the need to compliment but, like you did Soloman, at least say something so you acknowledge it, if it's good or bad. I think just saying nothing at all makes you come off as self-centered so I always say something.
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04-20-2006, 06:50 PM	#12
James"Thunder"Early Whoever's In New England Forum Veteran Join Date: Feb 23, 2004 Location: The Apollo Posts: 7,088	I don't feel pressured. When I'm asked I don't want to say anything rude, so I might say "I've never seen anything like it before".
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04-20-2006, 06:52 PM	#13
EmoJoe Cool cool cool Forum Addict Join Date: Apr 23, 2004 Location: New Jersey Posts: 71,478	no if they ask me then i might say something nice.
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04-20-2006, 12:38 PM	#6
Janice Retired Admin - Hollywood Swingin' Forum Legend Join Date: Aug 03, 2001 Location: Beantown Posts: 36,388	That's a tough one. If you say you like the terrible hairstyle, she may continue to keep it that way. I guess I'd just say something cheery like, "Someone's got a new Spring hairstyle." I don't offer my opinion unless I'm asked. I am honest when I give an opinion though.

04-20-2006, 01:33 PM	#8
Brieannas21 Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Apr 05, 2004 Location: Texas Posts: 9,792	No, I never feel pressured, If it looks bad I just don't say anything.

04-20-2006, 01:37 PM	#9
Michael [hXc] dying. Forum Fanatic Join Date: Feb 29, 2004 Posts: 8,532	there's this girl in my classes at school who wears her hair a bunch of different ways, and she changes her clothes style too. she likes to reinvent herself but every time she does, everyone says "wow your hair looks so good!" or "that's a great look for you" even though i'm sure a lot of people don't mean it. i don't say anything unless i'm asked but nobody i know asks that kind of thing.

04-20-2006, 05:38 PM	#10
swedeace Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Sep 22, 2003 Posts: 9,009	No, I don't feel pressured to compliment anyone. I am not being mean or anything, but I don't normally compliment people on changed appearances unless it's a huge change or something in clothes or accessories. Not just hairdos. It's just not really me. I know that my supervisor does get a little hurt when I don't say anything whenever he gets a haircut. My other co-workers usually do, but he gets hurt. He then says in front of some of my co-workers, "She doesn't really say anything about my haircut." He said it recently about a month ago, and I straight-out told him, "I noticed, but I don't usually compliment too much on hairdos." I just say it like it is. I am not being mean. It's just part of my personality.