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angelbluez · 03-30-2006, 03:46 PM

Has there ever been a time when you've wished that you had another job that was outside of the home?

And for the women who USE to be stay at home moms, but now who's children are now adults. Do you feel as if you've missed out on something because you were a stay at home mom?

I have a friend who's been really depressed lately because she feels like she's missing out on something because she's a stay at home mom.

Brieannas21 · 03-30-2006, 04:20 PM

I'm on a 2 week vacation from my Job, and I'm staying home with my two little ones, and it's hard work keeping them entertained. So I praise all the stay at home moms and dads.

Ireneparalegal · 03-30-2006, 04:52 PM

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Originally Posted by angelbluez

Has there ever been a time when you've wished that you had another job that was outside of the home?

And for the women who USE to be stay at home moms, but now who's children are now adults. Do you feel as if you've missed out on something because you were a stay at home mom?

I have a friend who's been really depressed lately because she feels like she's missing out on something because she's a stay at home mom.

i despised stay at home moms. I guess because I always worked, ever since I was a teen. I started out in my dad's business and went from there. I had always wanted a career. That's how I ended up being a paralegal. Several years ago I hurt my back and surgery didn't help. I had to quit working outside of the home because of the pain that would flare up. I now work at home. But I was sooo depressed when I wasn't working shortly after I hurt myself. It got soooo bad. I had to see a therapist and take medication. I wasn't used to being home. I hated it. Now, owning my own businesses and being home are wonderful. I am still working, yet, I get to be home and do alot of things with my youngest child. I regret not being there for my middle child because I went right back to work after giving birth FOUR WEEKS PRIOR. I missed out on alot. I get this last chance and I am enjoying it. I don't wish at all to be at work outside of the home. I now have many things to keep me busy.

MsOrange · 03-30-2006, 05:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Ireneparalegal

i despised stay at home moms. I guess because I always worked, ever since I was a teen. I started out in my dad's business and went from there. I had always wanted a career. That's how I ended up being a paralegal. Several years ago I hurt my back and surgery didn't help. I had to quit working outside of the home because of the pain that would flare up. I now work at home. But I was sooo depressed when I wasn't working shortly after I hurt myself. It got soooo bad. I had to see a therapist and take medication. I wasn't used to being home. I hated it. Now, owning my own businesses and being home are wonderful. I am still working, yet, I get to be home and do alot of things with my youngest child. I regret not being there for my middle child because I went right back to work after giving birth FOUR WEEKS PRIOR. I missed out on alot. I get this last chance and I am enjoying it. I don't wish at all to be at work outside of the home. I now have many things to keep me busy.

you might wanna reword your first sentence. Surely u didn't mean you "despised stay at home moms".. did you mean you dispised BEING a stay at home mom?

Brieannas21 · 03-30-2006, 05:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Ireneparalegal

i despised stay at home moms. I guess because I always worked, ever since I was a teen. I started out in my dad's business and went from there. I had always wanted a career. That's how I ended up being a paralegal. Several years ago I hurt my back and surgery didn't help. I had to quit working outside of the home because of the pain that would flare up. I now work at home. But I was sooo depressed when I wasn't working shortly after I hurt myself. It got soooo bad. I had to see a therapist and take medication. I wasn't used to being home. I hated it. Now, owning my own businesses and being home are wonderful. I am still working, yet, I get to be home and do alot of things with my youngest child. I regret not being there for my middle child because I went right back to work after giving birth FOUR WEEKS PRIOR. I missed out on alot. I get this last chance and I am enjoying it. I don't wish at all to be at work outside of the home. I now have many things to keep me busy.

If I were FORCED to stop working outside the home, I think that I would go crazy LOL, I think that I would be so depressed. I'm use to being on the go all the time and then to just suddenly stop, would be a shock to my system LOL. I'm on a 2 week vacation now and I'm still calling the office to check up on clients and I'm still faxing papers to clients and emailing people LOL. Yesterday morning I went to the office with my two girls and my assistant told me to GO HOME LOL. I just have to keep busy, I'm not saying that Stay at Home moms aren't busy because my girls have been keeping me on my toes.

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Originally Posted by MsOrange

you might wanna reword your first sentence. Surely u didn't mean you "despised stay at home moms".. did you mean you dispised BEING a stay at home mom?

I think she means, she USE to

Ireneparalegal · 03-30-2006, 05:21 PM

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Originally Posted by MsOrange

you might wanna reword your first sentence. Surely u didn't mean you "despised stay at home moms".. did you mean you dispised BEING a stay at home mom?

No, i did mean it that way. That was how I felt THEN. I had this thinking that stay at home moms were not wanting to work and what a life they were wasting away. It's a shame that I had to have the tables turned on me for me to realize that not all stay at home moms are lazy, have no goals, have no skills, etc. That was my thinking THEN, not now.

Stay at home moms really have it hard. They have a million and one things to do and their days don't begin at 8 and end at 5pm.

MsOrange · 03-30-2006, 05:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Ireneparalegal

No, i did mean it that way. That was how I felt THEN. I had this thinking that stay at home moms were not wanting to work and what a life they were wasting away. It's a shame that I had to have the tables turned on me for me to realize that not all stay at home moms are lazy, have no goals, have no skills, etc. That was my thinking THEN, not now.

Stay at home moms really have it hard. They have a million and one things to do and their days don't begin at 8 and end at 5pm.

aww, i see, alright read the wording wrong.

Ireneparalegal · 03-30-2006, 05:26 PM

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Originally Posted by MsOrange

aww, i see, alright read the wording wrong.

no prob. as a matter of fact, i reread it cuz you never know how something sounds when it is posted.

Kazza · 03-30-2006, 07:19 PM

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Originally Posted by angelbluez

Has there ever been a time when you've wished that you had another job that was outside of the home?

And for the women who USE to be stay at home moms, but now who's children are now adults. Do you feel as if you've missed out on something because you were a stay at home mom?

I have a friend who's been really depressed lately because she feels like she's missing out on something because she's a stay at home mom.

It's normal to feel that something's missing when you are a SAHM. I've been single for the past 4years and it is really difficult because you miss the adult interaction. There are groups like MOPS for moms that have the same situation.

I always have to deal with people that put me down or judge me because I decided to do things a little different than others.

Mijada · 03-31-2006, 06:52 AM

I'm a stay at home mom and I love it. I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything. I spent about 10 years living by myself and working full time, that was the time when I was bored and felt like I was missing out on stuff, watching all my friends get married and have kids. I'm glad I did get married later though and had the experience of working outside the home and being on my own for a while.

Brian Damage · 03-31-2006, 09:58 AM

I was a stay at home Dad for a very brief time and I was driving myself nuts. I didn't know what to do with myself. I respect what my wife goes through on a daily basis. She is a stay at home Mom now and juggles that with running a business from home, being on the PTA and taking care of both my girls.

Penny Lane · 03-31-2006, 11:15 AM

I never worked outside of the home. Believe me, There was plenty to do around there!. I was fortunate in that my husband had a good paying job. He was our sole support. In my case I never felt the need for anything more. And I think that this was better for the kids having me home. My daughter works full time but she is always home before the kids get home from school. I think that this is very important. Kids can get into a lot of trouble if left alone . JMO

Penny Lane · 03-31-2006, 11:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Mijada

I'm a stay at home mom and I love it. I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything. I spent about 10 years living by myself and working full time, that was the time when I was bored and felt like I was missing out on stuff, watching all my friends get married and have kids. I'm glad I did get married later though and had the experience of working outside the home and being on my own for a while.

I am glad that you are home with your baby. They grow up so quickly and you would be missing out on something very very special. Good for you!

*MIBabe03* · 03-31-2006, 11:34 AM

My mom has always worked and I applaud that. One thing that I've learned from her is that you shouldn't have to depend on a man for money. My mom is happily married but if God forbid she and my dad ever were to get divorced, she wouldn't have to depend on him for money. My aunt is in that situation right now. She stayed home with her kids and put my mom down for being a "workaholic." Guess what? Now she can't support herself at all. She's in her late 40s and now will probably have to settle for any old job that comes her way, and I doubt she'll be happy. I'm not putting stay at home moms down or belittling what they do. I don't have kids, but I do understand stay at home moms do work. My mom stayed home for a short amount of time after my little sister was born. I was 6 at the time, but I could tell she didn't like it. I knew that she loved us and that it didn't mean she didn't want to be with us. I plan on working if I have children in the future. I like the fact that I would know that I'd be able to take care of myself and hopefully my children if something were to happen.

Brieannas21 · 03-31-2006, 02:53 PM

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Originally Posted by *MIBabe03*

My mom has always worked and I applaud that. One thing that I've learned from her is that you shouldn't have to depend on a man for money. My mom is happily married but if God forbid she and my dad ever were to get divorced, she wouldn't have to depend on him for money. My aunt is in that situation right now. She stayed home with her kids and put my mom down for being a "workaholic." Guess what? Now she can't support herself at all. She's in her late 40s and now will probably have to settle for any old job that comes her way, and I doubt she'll be happy. I'm not putting stay at home moms down or belittling what they do. I don't have kids, but I do understand stay at home moms do work. My mom stayed home for a short amount of time after my little sister was born. I was 6 at the time, but I could tell she didn't like it. I knew that she loved us and that it didn't mean she didn't want to be with us. I plan on working if I have children in the future. I like the fact that I would know that I'd be able to take care of myself and hopefully my children if something were to happen.

That's how I feel, if something were to happen to my husband or we divorce (God forbid) I have the comfort in knowing that I will be able to provide for our daughters and they will have a good life. I will not be stuck without any experience and I will not have the stress of trying to get back into the work place and trying to find a decent job that pays well. That's why I work so hard at my job so that I can provide for them and their future.

My friends Mom had been married for 15+ years and her husband left her, and she was stuck with 3 kids and no work experience. And if you haven't worked in years, it's hard to find a good job that pays well so that you can support yourself and your children. You never know what will happen in the future, everything may seem wonderful now, but 5 or 10 years down the road things can change.

I'm not putting down stay at home moms, that's a really hard job with tons of responsibility, But I LOVE being a Mom, and having a job outside the home that pays me financially is a bonus and peace of mind.

03-30-2006, 03:46 PM	#1
angelbluez Member Occasional Poster Join Date: Jan 18, 2006 Posts: 75	Question for Stay At Home Moms/Dads Has there ever been a time when you've wished that you had another job that was outside of the home? And for the women who USE to be stay at home moms, but now who's children are now adults. Do you feel as if you've missed out on something because you were a stay at home mom? I have a friend who's been really depressed lately because she feels like she's missing out on something because she's a stay at home mom.

03-31-2006, 06:52 AM	#10
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03-31-2006, 09:58 AM	#11
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03-31-2006, 11:15 AM	#12
Penny Lane Butter Pie Forum Icon Join Date: Jul 03, 2001 Location: Beneath the blue suburban skies Posts: 51,263	I never worked outside of the home. Believe me, There was plenty to do around there!. I was fortunate in that my husband had a good paying job. He was our sole support. In my case I never felt the need for anything more. And I think that this was better for the kids having me home. My daughter works full time but she is always home before the kids get home from school. I think that this is very important. Kids can get into a lot of trouble if left alone . JMO
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03-31-2006, 11:34 AM	#14
MIBabe03 Loving Swingtown! Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 28, 2002 Location: TX Posts: 4,646	My mom has always worked and I applaud that. One thing that I've learned from her is that you shouldn't have to depend on a man for money. My mom is happily married but if God forbid she and my dad ever were to get divorced, she wouldn't have to depend on him for money. My aunt is in that situation right now. She stayed home with her kids and put my mom down for being a "workaholic." Guess what? Now she can't support herself at all. She's in her late 40s and now will probably have to settle for any old job that comes her way, and I doubt she'll be happy. I'm not putting stay at home moms down or belittling what they do. I don't have kids, but I do understand stay at home moms do work. My mom stayed home for a short amount of time after my little sister was born. I was 6 at the time, but I could tell she didn't like it. I knew that she loved us and that it didn't mean she didn't want to be with us. I plan on working if I have children in the future. I like the fact that I would know that I'd be able to take care of myself and hopefully my children if something were to happen.
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03-30-2006, 04:20 PM	#2
Brieannas21 Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Apr 05, 2004 Location: Texas Posts: 9,792	I'm on a 2 week vacation from my Job, and I'm staying home with my two little ones, and it's hard work keeping them entertained. So I praise all the stay at home moms and dads.