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GARFIELDKOOL · 03-03-2006, 03:52 PM

I am talking about doing male things. My nephew's girlfriend does this, and I think it could hurt their relationship. For example, whenever he comes over and watches the game with me and my brothers, she tags along. She does not follow sports, and she looks out of place when she comes. And in December, my nephew's best friend had a birthday party, and she went. I don't know if she was invited, but everytime he goes somewhere, she has to follow him. I am sure he is not invited to her female functions, so she needs to back off. I personally don't care or give a damn, and he doesn't seem to mind, but he needs to put his foot down (or up her ass) if she continues to do this. It could hurt their relationship. I know I wouldn't want my girlfriend coming with me to watch sports with friends or brothers. Any thoughts?

swedeace · 03-03-2006, 04:21 PM

My belief is that ONLY if the girl really enjoys the event. I don't think she should do it "just because" she feels insecure in anyway or to force herself. It has to be mutual. And if she doesn't enjoy that sort of thing, she shouldn't have to do it.

By her following him around it certainly sounds like she's insecure or lonely. That doesn't look right. Maybe she can make some friends or hang out with someone else during these sporting sessions, since she seems out of place.

It's the same thing when we turn the tables around: Should males hang out with their girlfriends? Same answer as above. It works both ways.

Chad Michael Murray · 03-03-2006, 04:23 PM

Well, if you say he doesn't seem to mind then what's the problem?

If he wants her to stop, then that'll be their issue to address when they come to it. Every couple is different, and some enjoy being together more often than others. If this is what works for them, then you should be happy that your nephew is happy.

snl 70s show fan · 03-03-2006, 04:26 PM

i agree if she really enjoys the event she should hang out my ex girlfriend use to enjoy hanging out with me when i watched nba basketball

Fonzarelli · 03-03-2006, 05:01 PM

Yeah, my thoughts are:

-Your post makes no sense at all
-You need yourself checked

Amen.

GARFIELDKOOL · 03-03-2006, 08:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Fonzarelli

Yeah, my thoughts are:

-Your post makes no sense at all
-You need yourself checked

Amen.

I don't need myself checked! Read what I said above, I said I personally don't give a damn, the only reason why I posted this is because it could ruin their relationship. If my post makes no sense, why did you reply?

Bobby F. · 03-03-2006, 08:48 PM

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Originally Posted by GARFIELDKOOL

I don't need myself checked! Read what I said above, I said I personally don't give a damn, the only reason why I posted this is because it could ruin their relationship. If my post makes no sense, why did you reply?

You have to consider the source, GARFIELDKOOL. Typical fonzi.

Kazza · 03-03-2006, 09:05 PM

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Originally Posted by GARFIELDKOOL

I am talking about doing male things. My nephew's girlfriend does this, and I think it could hurt their relationship. For example, whenever he comes over and watches the game with me and my brothers, she tags along. She does not follow sports, and she looks out of place when she comes. And in December, my nephew's best friend had a birthday party, and she went. I don't know if she was invited, but everytime he goes somewhere, she has to follow him. I am sure he is not invited to her female functions, so she needs to back off. I personally don't care or give a damn, and he doesn't seem to mind, but he needs to put his foot down (or up her ass) if she continues to do this. It could hurt their relationship. I know I wouldn't want my girlfriend coming with me to watch sports with friends or brothers. Any thoughts?

If he doesn't seem to mind, then you are the one that needs to stop being so 'macho super 4 balls guy' and not say that she shouldn't be there. Why it can hurt their relationship? If they can do things that both enjoy there's nothing wrong with that, just in your mental attitude.

GARFIELDKOOL · 03-03-2006, 09:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Kazza

If he doesn't seem to mind, then you are the one that needs to stop being so 'macho super 4 balls guy' and not say that she shouldn't be there. Why it can hurt their relationship? If they can do things that both enjoy there's nothing wrong with that, just in your mental attitude.

Look, I know my nephew. Yes, he doesn't seem to mind, but I can tell when he's happy. Right now, he's just putting up with her. She lets him call all the shots. He's very independent and doessn't need anyone to call the shots for him. When he told me that HE was coming over, to watch the game, SHE came with him, leading me to believe she bullied her way over.

Both enjoy?! I stated from the get go that she don't follow sports. How can someone enjoy something they don't follow?

Kazza · 03-03-2006, 10:15 PM

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Originally Posted by GARFIELDKOOL

Look, I know my nephew. Yes, he doesn't seem to mind, but I can tell when he's happy. Right now, he's just putting up with her. She lets him call all the shots. He's very independent and doessn't need anyone to call the shots for him. When he told me that HE was coming over, to watch the game, SHE came with him, leading me to believe she bullied her way over.

Both enjoy?! I stated from the get go that she don't follow sports. How can someone enjoy something they don't follow?

That would be his call. Why he wouldn't want her to hang out even though she doesn't enjoy the sport or whatever; maybe it's just for the company.

dawsongirl · 03-03-2006, 10:16 PM

Well, lemme put myself in her shoes. If it were me, I wouldn't tag along, even if he asked me to go, because I don't enjoy hanging out where I'm not wanted or I won't have any fun. But at, like, the sports thing, if all the other guys knew me and I knew them, I might. It's just TV. But if sports bore you, then don't go.

Yet maybe she just wants to spend time with him, and share his interests. Nothing wrong with that.

Ireneparalegal · 03-03-2006, 11:11 PM

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Originally Posted by GARFIELDKOOL

I am talking about doing male things. My nephew's girlfriend does this, and I think it could hurt their relationship. For example, whenever he comes over and watches the game with me and my brothers, she tags along. She does not follow sports, and she looks out of place when she comes. And in December, my nephew's best friend had a birthday party, and she went. I don't know if she was invited, but everytime he goes somewhere, she has to follow him. I am sure he is not invited to her female functions, so she needs to back off. I personally don't care or give a damn, and he doesn't seem to mind, but he needs to put his foot down (or up her ass) if she continues to do this. It could hurt their relationship. I know I wouldn't want my girlfriend coming with me to watch sports with friends or brothers. Any thoughts?

What if your girlfriend was a sports fan? I will post my answer after. I need more info from you before I post. LOL

EmoJoe · 03-04-2006, 12:34 AM

if they want, but they dont need to be "OMGMGMGM HES MY BOYFRIEND I CANT SPEND ONE LIVING SECOND WITHOUT HIM". they can have seperate time, they dont have to be together every minute of every day.

but if she likes it, then fine.

Fonzarelli · 03-04-2006, 10:24 AM

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Originally Posted by GARFIELDKOOL

I don't need myself checked! Read what I said above, I said I personally don't give a damn, the only reason why I posted this is because it could ruin their relationship. If my post makes no sense, why did you reply?

To point out to you that your post didn't make sense. I'm kinda helpfull that way.

GARFIELDKOOL · 03-04-2006, 11:42 AM

It's obvious that I am outnumbered here! But the bottom line is, she needs to give her man some space! They live together, and she comes to his job every payday! What's wrong with bonding with your uncles and friends for a few hours?! Give the man some room! Let me just add to all you who don't see my point is that when she did come over to watch football with the guys, she was so uncomfortable, she was about to fall asleep! You could tell she didn't want to be there, and she should have stayed her ass home. I didn't say anything to her because it wasn't an atmosphere for her! My nephew couldn't get comfortable or stay as long as he wanted to because of her! So therefore, she needs to stop hanging out with her boyfriend who was male bonding!

03-03-2006, 03:52 PM	#1
GARFIELDKOOL Member Forum Veteran Join Date: Sep 02, 2004 Location: Rochester, NY Posts: 7,204	Should females hang out with their boyfriends? I am talking about doing male things. My nephew's girlfriend does this, and I think it could hurt their relationship. For example, whenever he comes over and watches the game with me and my brothers, she tags along. She does not follow sports, and she looks out of place when she comes. And in December, my nephew's best friend had a birthday party, and she went. I don't know if she was invited, but everytime he goes somewhere, she has to follow him. I am sure he is not invited to her female functions, so she needs to back off. I personally don't care or give a damn, and he doesn't seem to mind, but he needs to put his foot down (or up her ass) if she continues to do this. It could hurt their relationship. I know I wouldn't want my girlfriend coming with me to watch sports with friends or brothers. Any thoughts?

03-03-2006, 04:23 PM	#3
Chad Michael Murray Member Senior Member Join Date: Oct 23, 2005 Location: Illinois Posts: 1,493	Well, if you say he doesn't seem to mind then what's the problem? If he wants her to stop, then that'll be their issue to address when they come to it. Every couple is different, and some enjoy being together more often than others. If this is what works for them, then you should be happy that your nephew is happy.
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03-03-2006, 05:01 PM	#5
Fonzarelli Member Senior Member Join Date: Jan 19, 2002 Location: The Netherlands Posts: 1,996	Yeah, my thoughts are: -Your post makes no sense at all -You need yourself checked Amen.
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03-04-2006, 12:34 AM	#13
EmoJoe Cool cool cool Forum Addict Join Date: Apr 23, 2004 Location: New Jersey Posts: 71,478	if they want, but they dont need to be "OMGMGMGM HES MY BOYFRIEND I CANT SPEND ONE LIVING SECOND WITHOUT HIM". they can have seperate time, they dont have to be together every minute of every day. but if she likes it, then fine.
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03-04-2006, 11:42 AM	#15
GARFIELDKOOL Member Forum Veteran Join Date: Sep 02, 2004 Location: Rochester, NY Posts: 7,204	It's obvious that I am outnumbered here! But the bottom line is, she needs to give her man some space! They live together, and she comes to his job every payday! What's wrong with bonding with your uncles and friends for a few hours?! Give the man some room! Let me just add to all you who don't see my point is that when she did come over to watch football with the guys, she was so uncomfortable, she was about to fall asleep! You could tell she didn't want to be there, and she should have stayed her ass home. I didn't say anything to her because it wasn't an atmosphere for her! My nephew couldn't get comfortable or stay as long as he wanted to because of her! So therefore, she needs to stop hanging out with her boyfriend who was male bonding!
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03-03-2006, 04:21 PM	#2
swedeace Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Sep 22, 2003 Posts: 9,009	My belief is that ONLY if the girl really enjoys the event. I don't think she should do it "just because" she feels insecure in anyway or to force herself. It has to be mutual. And if she doesn't enjoy that sort of thing, she shouldn't have to do it. By her following him around it certainly sounds like she's insecure or lonely. That doesn't look right. Maybe she can make some friends or hang out with someone else during these sporting sessions, since she seems out of place. It's the same thing when we turn the tables around: Should males hang out with their girlfriends? Same answer as above. It works both ways.

03-03-2006, 04:26 PM	#4
snl 70s show fan Member Senior Member Join Date: Jun 14, 2005 Location: in the forman basment Posts: 2,454	i agree if she really enjoys the event she should hang out my ex girlfriend use to enjoy hanging out with me when i watched nba basketball

03-03-2006, 10:16 PM	#11
dawsongirl Member Forum Icon Join Date: Jan 04, 2001 Posts: 53,140	Well, lemme put myself in her shoes. If it were me, I wouldn't tag along, even if he asked me to go, because I don't enjoy hanging out where I'm not wanted or I won't have any fun. But at, like, the sports thing, if all the other guys knew me and I knew them, I might. It's just TV. But if sports bore you, then don't go. Yet maybe she just wants to spend time with him, and share his interests. Nothing wrong with that.