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TVFactFan · 01-22-2006, 02:33 PM

overweight? "I see you are losing weight"

I just don't think that's a compliment. I never have said to anyone -"WOW you are slimming down" I will see that they have but unless it's a close friend or relative I just don't think it should be said at all. I recently stopped eating fried foods and lost 15 points in 10 weeks and a co-worker says-"I see you are starting to slim down" So I said to myself-"Damm she must have thought I was BIG as a House 10 weeks ago"-lol Anyone Agree?

MandieR1980 · 01-22-2006, 03:05 PM

are you kidding? I LOVE IT! I used to be almost 400 lbs and now I'm 193! I take any compliment I can get!

Mr. Television · 01-22-2006, 03:34 PM

The only time I like it is when people know I'm on a diet. If I don't make it public and they say something like that it would bother me.

Moonlight Lady · 01-22-2006, 03:36 PM

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Originally Posted by TVResearcher

overweight? "I see you are losing weight"

I just don't think that's a compliment. I never have said to anyone -"WOW you are slimming down" I will see that they have but unless it's a close friend or relative I just don't think it should be said at all. I recently stopped eating fried foods and lost 15 points in 10 weeks and a co-worker says-"I see you are starting to slim down" So I said to myself-"Damm she must have thought I was BIG as a House 10 weeks ago"-lol Anyone Agree?

If they had said "You look great, have you been working out?" or "You look terrific. Have you lost weight?" it would be more flattering.

Courtnee · 01-22-2006, 04:13 PM

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Originally Posted by MandieR1980

are you kidding? I LOVE IT! I used to be almost 400 lbs and now I'm 193! I take any compliment I can get!

WOW!

thats fantastic!!!

Number 9 Dream · 01-22-2006, 04:31 PM

Congrats on the weight loss, Mandie! That's fantastic

Anyway, to answer your question-- I really think it depends on how it was said. Saying, "Wow, you lost a lot of weight!" sounds more like a compliment than "I see you are losing weight." It's basically the same sentence but it sounds completely different depending on how it's said.

Jo_Luvs_Ketchup · 01-22-2006, 04:40 PM

Every Christmas my great aunt always tells me I'm loosing weight, even though most of the time I'm not. Just last week my grandma told me in one hour that I'm loosing weight and I look great, then the next hour asked if I would go to weight watchers. Yeah, that was nice lol

TVFactFan · 01-22-2006, 05:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Diamond Girl

If they had said "You look great, have you been working out?" or "You look terrific. Have you lost weight?" it would be more flattering.

Nope. I just want to slim down without any comments about it. By them saying something about it lets you know that they always thought of you as a fat slob-lol By someone not saying anything means they never judged on on your size and could care less that you lose weight.

Polniaczek033 · 01-22-2006, 05:46 PM

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Originally Posted by retrogirl82

Anyway, to answer your question-- I really think it depends on how it was said. Saying, "Wow, you lost a lot of weight!" sounds more like a compliment than "I see you are losing weight." It's basically the same sentence but it sounds completely different depending on how it's said.

agreed.

Mijada · 01-22-2006, 07:01 PM

I'd much rather someone tell me that I'm losing weight than have them tell me I'm getting fat. It seems like whenever I see my dad he always mentions how much weight I've gained. My mom would say the same thing just not as much. Those are the times when I think people should keep their opinions to themselves. If I'm trying to lose weight and someone notices than I take that as a compliment.

G-Force Glockstar · 01-22-2006, 08:44 PM

I kind of take it as a compliment.

MsOrange · 01-23-2006, 07:51 AM

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Originally Posted by MandieR1980

are you kidding? I LOVE IT! I used to be almost 400 lbs and now I'm 193! I take any compliment I can get!

Lexx82 · 01-23-2006, 10:01 PM

r u crazy??? im 5'9 and weigh i dunno newhere between 220 to 240 but im not that big....i look slimmer than wut ur reading but newayz when sum1 says "alex ur losing weight" i feel soooo so happy!!! like wow that just motivates me more to eating right and working out

EmoJoe · 01-23-2006, 10:04 PM

i would take it as a compliment -_-

Courtnee · 01-23-2006, 10:55 PM

really in a sense it's kind of mean.

You wouldn't want someone comming up to you and asking

"Hey are you less stupid?"

I WAS JUST KIDDING!

01-22-2006, 02:33 PM	#1
TVFactFan Member Forum Junkie Join Date: Aug 17, 2002 Posts: 99,106	Should this ever be brought to someone's attention who is overweight or used to be overweight? "I see you are losing weight" I just don't think that's a compliment. I never have said to anyone -"WOW you are slimming down" I will see that they have but unless it's a close friend or relative I just don't think it should be said at all. I recently stopped eating fried foods and lost 15 points in 10 weeks and a co-worker says-"I see you are starting to slim down" So I said to myself-"Damm she must have thought I was BIG as a House 10 weeks ago"-lol Anyone Agree?

01-22-2006, 03:05 PM	#2
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01-22-2006, 03:34 PM	#3
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01-22-2006, 04:31 PM	#6
Number 9 Dream That '70s Girl Forum Veteran Join Date: Jan 18, 2005 Location: Long Island, NY Posts: 5,875	Congrats on the weight loss, Mandie! That's fantastic Anyway, to answer your question-- I really think it depends on how it was said. Saying, "Wow, you lost a lot of weight!" sounds more like a compliment than "I see you are losing weight." It's basically the same sentence but it sounds completely different depending on how it's said.
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01-22-2006, 07:01 PM	#10
Mijada Spencers mom Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 02, 2001 Location: eastern US Posts: 4,093	I'd much rather someone tell me that I'm losing weight than have them tell me I'm getting fat. It seems like whenever I see my dad he always mentions how much weight I've gained. My mom would say the same thing just not as much. Those are the times when I think people should keep their opinions to themselves. If I'm trying to lose weight and someone notices than I take that as a compliment.
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01-22-2006, 04:40 PM	#7
Jo_Luvs_Ketchup Member Eternal Member Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 09, 2003 Posts: 4,195	Every Christmas my great aunt always tells me I'm loosing weight, even though most of the time I'm not. Just last week my grandma told me in one hour that I'm loosing weight and I look great, then the next hour asked if I would go to weight watchers. Yeah, that was nice lol

01-22-2006, 08:44 PM	#11
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01-23-2006, 10:01 PM	#13
Lexx82 The Honeymooners #1 Frequent Poster Join Date: Jan 23, 2006 Location: Jerz Posts: 262	r u crazy??? im 5'9 and weigh i dunno newhere between 220 to 240 but im not that big....i look slimmer than wut ur reading but newayz when sum1 says "alex ur losing weight" i feel soooo so happy!!! like wow that just motivates me more to eating right and working out
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01-23-2006, 10:04 PM	#14
EmoJoe Cool cool cool Forum Addict Join Date: Apr 23, 2004 Location: New Jersey Posts: 71,478	i would take it as a compliment -_-
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01-23-2006, 10:55 PM	#15
Courtnee MAN VS SAMMICH. Forum Star Join Date: Mar 23, 2005 Location: Louisiana Posts: 16,413	really in a sense it's kind of mean. You wouldn't want someone comming up to you and asking "Hey are you less stupid?" *I WAS JUST KIDDING!*
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