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Brian Damage · 01-16-2006, 12:58 PM

My friend at work has been dating this girl for over a year. He constantly says that he thinks this girl is the nicest women he has ever met, but they don't have a lot in common. He also says that there is something lacking in the bedroom. I asked why does he stay with her and his answer to me was that he wants to stick it out to see if he develops strong feelings for her. He also says a main reason why he sticks with her is because when they first started dating, she was there for him when his aunt died. He says that he'llnever forget that. Is that a legitimate reason to stay with someone? I feel if you don't have strong feelings for someone after a year, you probably won't get them at all. He constantly complains about her text messaging him with cutesy little love messages. Although, I think he does that to show off.

Courtnee · 01-16-2006, 01:34 PM

I agree with you. If you don't have feelings for someone after a year, it's gone to hell.

Polniaczek033 · 01-16-2006, 01:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Rock Princess

I agree with you. If you don't have feelings for someone after a year, it's gone to hell.

agreed.

TheGreatPretender · 01-16-2006, 02:28 PM

He's most likely staying with her out of guilt.

robyrob · 01-16-2006, 02:30 PM

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Originally Posted by TheGreatPretender

He's most likely staying with her out of guilt.

or he's afraid to be single... or just waiting til something better comes along, which really isn't very fair to the girl at all.

Seinatra · 01-16-2006, 04:41 PM

Your right Brian, if its not great at the 1 year point, forget about it and just be friends.

Ireneparalegal · 01-16-2006, 10:20 PM

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Originally Posted by TheGreatPretender

He's most likely staying with her out of guilt.

Bingo!!!!!!! agreed.!!!!!!!! right on!!!!!!!!

Mr. Stefani · 01-16-2006, 10:28 PM

insecure, afraid of being alone. and or guilt. take your pick.

dawsongirl · 01-16-2006, 10:30 PM

Yeah, a year seems long enough to find out if you like someone more than just friends. If he thinks she's super nice though, they could just be friends.

EmoJoe · 01-16-2006, 10:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Rock Princess

I agree with you. If you don't have feelings for someone after a year, it's gone to hell.

yeah.

Janice · 01-18-2006, 01:35 AM

It sounds like your friend is with her for the wrong reasons. He may like and respect her a great deal, but if he's not in love with her by now, I don't see it happening.

I think he would be doing himself and her a favor by letting go and possibly salvaging the friendship.

She sounds like a nice person who deserves to be adored and have her partner head over heels in love with her. Everyone deserves that.

~*Hannah_Lee*~ · 01-18-2006, 02:22 AM

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She sounds like a nice person who deserves to be adored and have her partner head over heels in love with her. Everyone deserves that.

I agree with that, and from the sounds of your co-worker, he can't or doesn't really want to give that kind of adoration to her.

dawsongirl · 01-18-2006, 04:35 AM

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Originally Posted by Janice

deserves to be adored and have her partner head over heels in love with her. Everyone deserves that.

Awww....that's a sweet sentiment.

MsOrange · 01-18-2006, 09:11 AM

i agree w/ al of the above

Brian Damage · 01-18-2006, 11:46 AM

Everyone at work is perplexed as why he is with this girl. This past weekend was his 1 year anniversary with the girl. He complained that he went out of his way to give her a romantic evening and all she did was buy him flowers. He said he is a guy and shouldn't have gotten flowers. He also complained that it looked like the flowers weren't even from a florist, but from a supermarket. He also got upset when his grandmother invited her over for Christmas dinner without asking him first.

He also is attracted to a traffic reporter at work. He says all the time that if there was an opportunity with that woman, he would jump at the chance. He constantly says that he really thinks his girlfriend is a sweet and nice person, but doesn't have a heck of a lot in common with her.

01-16-2006, 12:58 PM	#1
Brian Damage I'm Rich Bitch Forum Icon Join Date: Feb 03, 2002 Location: What Ain't No Country I Ever Heard Of...They Speak English in What? Posts: 63,107	What's your opinion on this subject? My friend at work has been dating this girl for over a year. He constantly says that he thinks this girl is the nicest women he has ever met, but they don't have a lot in common. He also says that there is something lacking in the bedroom. I asked why does he stay with her and his answer to me was that he wants to stick it out to see if he develops strong feelings for her. He also says a main reason why he sticks with her is because when they first started dating, she was there for him when his aunt died. He says that he'llnever forget that. Is that a legitimate reason to stay with someone? I feel if you don't have strong feelings for someone after a year, you probably won't get them at all. He constantly complains about her text messaging him with cutesy little love messages. Although, I think he does that to show off.
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01-16-2006, 01:34 PM	#2
Courtnee MAN VS SAMMICH. Forum Star Join Date: Mar 23, 2005 Location: Louisiana Posts: 16,413	I agree with you. If you don't have feelings for someone after a year, it's gone to hell.
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01-16-2006, 02:28 PM	#4
TheGreatPretender just because Forum Veteran Join Date: May 22, 2004 Location: Trying to think of a creative, witty location. Posts: 7,628	He's most likely staying with her out of guilt.

01-16-2006, 04:41 PM	#6
Seinatra Member Senior Member Join Date: Aug 29, 2004 Location: Gran Chaco Posts: 1,840	Your right Brian, if its not great at the 1 year point, forget about it and just be friends.

01-16-2006, 10:28 PM	#8
Mr. Stefani Member Forum Celebrity Join Date: Jul 15, 2001 Posts: 20,757	insecure, afraid of being alone. and or guilt. take your pick.

01-16-2006, 10:30 PM	#9
dawsongirl Member Forum Icon Join Date: Jan 04, 2001 Posts: 53,140	Yeah, a year seems long enough to find out if you like someone more than just friends. If he thinks she's super nice though, they could just be friends.

01-18-2006, 01:35 AM	#11
Janice Retired Admin - Hollywood Swingin' Forum Legend Join Date: Aug 03, 2001 Location: Beantown Posts: 36,388	It sounds like your friend is with her for the wrong reasons. He may like and respect her a great deal, but if he's not in love with her by now, I don't see it happening. I think he would be doing himself and her a favor by letting go and possibly salvaging the friendship. She sounds like a nice person who deserves to be adored and have her partner head over heels in love with her. Everyone deserves that.

01-18-2006, 09:11 AM	#14
MsOrange Bringin' Sexy Back Forum Veteran Join Date: Dec 27, 2004 Posts: 6,133	i agree w/ al of the above

01-18-2006, 11:46 AM	#15
Brian Damage I'm Rich Bitch Forum Icon Join Date: Feb 03, 2002 Location: What Ain't No Country I Ever Heard Of...They Speak English in What? Posts: 63,107	Everyone at work is perplexed as why he is with this girl. This past weekend was his 1 year anniversary with the girl. He complained that he went out of his way to give her a romantic evening and all she did was buy him flowers. He said he is a guy and shouldn't have gotten flowers. He also complained that it looked like the flowers weren't even from a florist, but from a supermarket. He also got upset when his grandmother invited her over for Christmas dinner without asking him first. He also is attracted to a traffic reporter at work. He says all the time that if there was an opportunity with that woman, he would jump at the chance. He constantly says that he really thinks his girlfriend is a sweet and nice person, but doesn't have a heck of a lot in common with her.