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Chad Michael Murray · 12-05-2005, 10:23 AM

Okay, so...I don't like to feel like I'm unloading things on anybody, but this is just something I really feel like I need to get off of my chest.

At another message board I'm at, which I've been at for nearly a year and thought I was a respected member, things are starting to go not so nicely. There are a couple of members who are being pretty rude to me, but it's in that damn inadvertant way where you just KNOW they're trying to bait you but that you can't really prove it. I received a few PMs though that were clearly inappropriate, and so rather than create a fight, I alerted an Admin who decided that it wasn't 'that big of a deal'. Anyway, according to these people, I come across as having a superiority complex and that 'many people think so'.

So, I created a thread with an official apology to anyone who may have been hurt or unhappy by something I said by accident. I also asked that anybody who has felt that way to contact me so that we can work it out...NOBODY DID. Therefore, I feel that I've done my part.

Anyway, now one of those certain members is on my case again, saying that the only reason I wanted to clear the air was so I could fill it with more crap again. Something that annoys me is that basically, when I thought I was a respected member with a lot of friends there, NOBODY comes to my aid because they're afraid of 'causing waves'.

I'm just sick of being attacked and second-guessed left and right, and then having people act like I'm overreacting for no reason.

So, I guess what I'm asking is...what would you guys do in this situation? It's weird for me to think of just deleting my account at that board. I really don't want to...but at the same time, if this is how things are going to be, then staying there is just going to make me upset all the time.

Plus, now that I've joined SO, things here seem a lot more fun and less high strung.

Anyway, thank you all for listening.

MsOrange · 12-05-2005, 10:26 AM

what board is it?

Chad Michael Murray · 12-05-2005, 10:29 AM

It's a Buffy the Vampire Slayer forum...basically, a forum dedicated to all of the products and everything being made based on the show. People discuss the prototypes and announcements and all of that, but there are other sections too like this one where people can just discuss anything.

It's just the fact that I've been spoken to pretty rudely, via PM and on the board, and I've seen people get suspended there for a LOT less than that, so it offends me that when I'm genuinely displeased that an Admin says it's not a big deal.

MsOrange · 12-05-2005, 10:30 AM

i'd leave.. sounds like that board isn't ran by someone who is fair, and plus, sounds like it's filled with a bunch of bitches. I wouldn't wanna waste my time.

Dutabi84 · 12-05-2005, 12:26 PM

I'd get nasty right back at them. But that's just my style, you know. It's not for everybody. It's way too easy for some loser(s) to talk **** on the internet and get away with it. So why not fight **** with more ****?

Chad Michael Murray · 12-05-2005, 12:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dutabi84

I'd get nasty right back at them. But that's just my style, you know. It's not for everybody. It's way too easy for some loser(s) to talk **** on the internet and get away with it. So why not fight **** with more ****?

Oh believe me, that's something I'd love to do.

It's just that this is one of those cases where people say ALL of this crap, but then as quick as I say something back, I'm the one in trouble.

I think I'll probably just take MsOrange's advice. I'm going to stop contributing to that board and delete my account; I'll only visit the forum for product updates, and you don't need to be a registered user to do that anyway.

MsOrange · 12-05-2005, 01:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Clark Loves Lana

Oh believe me, that's something I'd love to do.

then do it... hell, your leaving, so why not?

Chad Michael Murray · 12-05-2005, 01:51 PM

It's just the fact that while I'd love to do it, it won't do any good at all.

I mean, if I'm going to tell people off and put them in their places, I want them to be taken aback and feel like *******s afterwards! Lmao

Instead, they'll just think I'm mouthing off for no reason and that they've done nothing wrong. When I tell someone off, it's always better if they think "Wow, I guess I really was as much of a jerk as he just said."

EDIT: Oops! I didn't know this board was censored. Lmao

Number 9 Dream · 12-05-2005, 01:51 PM

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Originally Posted by MsOrange

then do it... hell, your leaving, so why not?

Yea, I agree

I say you go postal on their asses and then disappear, leaving them to scratch their heads in wonder.

MsOrange · 12-05-2005, 01:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Clark Loves Lana

It's just the fact that while I'd love to do it, it won't do any good at all.

I mean, if I'm going to tell people off and put them in their places, I want them to be taken aback and feel like *******s afterwards! Lmao

Instead, they'll just think I'm mouthing off for no reason and that they've done nothing wrong. When I tell someone off, it's always better if they think "Wow, I guess I really was as much of a jerk as he just said."

EDIT: Oops! I didn't know this board was censored. Lmao

fine, fine, i'll write what you need to post... you don't have to beg

Chad Michael Murray · 12-05-2005, 01:54 PM

Lmao! Well. This is just rocktastic.

MsOrange · 12-05-2005, 02:54 PM

To Whom It May Concern:

You are all a bunch of fu(kers, ran by the king fu(ker and it's about time you all fu(k off.

Have a fu(kin nice day.

Sincerely yours.

Chad Michael Murray · 12-05-2005, 03:39 PM

UGH. That's it, I really am done with that place.

"And as for your obsession with being spoken to in what you deem a "rude" fashion, again I say you don't seem to have any problem with it if it's YOU making the rude comments. Clearly, you can only dish it out.
And I'm sure, in your head, amongst the Hilary Duff songs, and the cookies that taste of love in every bite, you've got some internal logic running that tells you it's okay to have one rule for yourself, and another for everyone else.

But this is the real world Matt, and people will give as good as they get, and not everyone is "nice" all the time.
You're trying to fix everything to your liking, so that everyone is innocuous, and everyone agrees with you, but so that you can swan around, passing judgement on everyone else from on high. Well if you want that, go start your own forum, with your own set of rules, and stop sucking the life out of this one."

That was just posted to me and just a mere example of the other stuff that's been going on lately. I so don't need to hang around a place where that's the way I'm going to be spoken to.

EDIT: Well, I just posted a parting message and deleted my account there...and boy do -I- feel liberated! Now...party at SO! WOO! ^_^

MsOrange · 12-05-2005, 04:37 PM

yayaya!!!1

musicradio77 · 12-05-2005, 10:10 PM

I posted everything on my forum called "Disney and More" and nobody replied.

That must be the problem.

12-05-2005, 10:23 AM	#1
Chad Michael Murray Member Senior Member Join Date: Oct 23, 2005 Location: Illinois Posts: 1,493	Problems at Another Board Okay, so...I don't like to feel like I'm unloading things on anybody, but this is just something I really feel like I need to get off of my chest. At another message board I'm at, which I've been at for nearly a year and thought I was a respected member, things are starting to go not so nicely. There are a couple of members who are being pretty rude to me, but it's in that damn inadvertant way where you just KNOW they're trying to bait you but that you can't really prove it. I received a few PMs though that were clearly inappropriate, and so rather than create a fight, I alerted an Admin who decided that it wasn't 'that big of a deal'. Anyway, according to these people, I come across as having a superiority complex and that 'many people think so'. So, I created a thread with an official apology to anyone who may have been hurt or unhappy by something I said by accident. I also asked that anybody who has felt that way to contact me so that we can work it out...NOBODY DID. Therefore, I feel that I've done my part. Anyway, now one of those certain members is on my case again, saying that the only reason I wanted to clear the air was so I could fill it with more crap again. Something that annoys me is that basically, when I thought I was a respected member with a lot of friends there, NOBODY comes to my aid because they're afraid of 'causing waves'. I'm just sick of being attacked and second-guessed left and right, and then having people act like I'm overreacting for no reason. So, I guess what I'm asking is...what would you guys do in this situation? It's weird for me to think of just deleting my account at that board. I really don't want to...but at the same time, if this is how things are going to be, then staying there is just going to make me upset all the time. Plus, now that I've joined SO, things here seem a lot more fun and less high strung. Anyway, thank you all for listening.
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12-05-2005, 03:39 PM	#13
Chad Michael Murray Member Senior Member Join Date: Oct 23, 2005 Location: Illinois Posts: 1,493	UGH. That's it, I really am done with that place. "And as for your obsession with being spoken to in what you deem a "rude" fashion, again I say you don't seem to have any problem with it if it's YOU making the rude comments. Clearly, you can only dish it out. And I'm sure, in your head, amongst the Hilary Duff songs, and the cookies that taste of love in every bite, you've got some internal logic running that tells you it's okay to have one rule for yourself, and another for everyone else. But this is the real world Matt, and people will give as good as they get, and not everyone is "nice" all the time. You're trying to fix everything to your liking, so that everyone is innocuous, and everyone agrees with you, but so that you can swan around, passing judgement on everyone else from on high. Well if you want that, go start your own forum, with your own set of rules, and stop sucking the life out of this one." That was just posted to me and just a mere example of the other stuff that's been going on lately. I so don't need to hang around a place where that's the way I'm going to be spoken to. EDIT: Well, I just posted a parting message and deleted my account there...and boy do -I- feel liberated! Now...party at SO! WOO! ^_^
	Last edited by Chad Michael Murray; 12-05-2005 at 03:58 PM.

12-05-2005, 10:10 PM	#15
musicradio77 Disney Expert Forum Veteran Join Date: Jul 14, 2003 Location: Brooklyn, NY USA Posts: 6,475	I posted everything on my forum called "Disney and More" and nobody replied. That must be the problem.
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12-05-2005, 10:26 AM	#2
MsOrange Bringin' Sexy Back Forum Veteran Join Date: Dec 27, 2004 Posts: 6,133	what board is it?

12-05-2005, 10:29 AM	#3
Chad Michael Murray Member Senior Member Join Date: Oct 23, 2005 Location: Illinois Posts: 1,493	It's a Buffy the Vampire Slayer forum...basically, a forum dedicated to all of the products and everything being made based on the show. People discuss the prototypes and announcements and all of that, but there are other sections too like this one where people can just discuss anything. It's just the fact that I've been spoken to pretty rudely, via PM and on the board, and I've seen people get suspended there for a LOT less than that, so it offends me that when I'm genuinely displeased that an Admin says it's not a big deal.

12-05-2005, 10:30 AM	#4
MsOrange Bringin' Sexy Back Forum Veteran Join Date: Dec 27, 2004 Posts: 6,133	i'd leave.. sounds like that board isn't ran by someone who is fair, and plus, sounds like it's filled with a bunch of bitches. I wouldn't wanna waste my time.

12-05-2005, 12:26 PM	#5
Dutabi84 kittens must die Forum Fanatic Join Date: Apr 22, 2003 Location: MN/TX Posts: 11,026	I'd get nasty right back at them. But that's just my style, you know. It's not for everybody. It's way too easy for some loser(s) to talk ** on the internet and get away with it. So why not fight with more **?

12-05-2005, 01:51 PM	#8
Chad Michael Murray Member Senior Member Join Date: Oct 23, 2005 Location: Illinois Posts: 1,493	It's just the fact that while I'd love to do it, it won't do any good at all. I mean, if I'm going to tell people off and put them in their places, I want them to be taken aback and feel like *******s afterwards! Lmao Instead, they'll just think I'm mouthing off for no reason and that they've done nothing wrong. When I tell someone off, it's always better if they think "Wow, I guess I really was as much of a jerk as he just said." EDIT: Oops! I didn't know this board was censored. Lmao

12-05-2005, 01:54 PM	#11
Chad Michael Murray Member Senior Member Join Date: Oct 23, 2005 Location: Illinois Posts: 1,493	Lmao! Well. This is just rocktastic.

12-05-2005, 02:54 PM	#12
MsOrange Bringin' Sexy Back Forum Veteran Join Date: Dec 27, 2004 Posts: 6,133	To Whom It May Concern: You are all a bunch of fu(kers, ran by the king fu(ker and it's about time you all fu(k off. Have a fu(kin nice day. Sincerely yours.

12-05-2005, 04:37 PM	#14
MsOrange Bringin' Sexy Back Forum Veteran Join Date: Dec 27, 2004 Posts: 6,133	yayaya!!!1