very odd question to post here, but i'm doing it anyway...

[MsOrange]

...Ok, so for those of you who don't like to talk about sex, please move on to the next post...

OK, so over the weekend I went into my fiance's sister's room looking for a pair of scissors, instead i found a used condom. Now his sister is 17 years old, and has only known the guy she's been dating for like 2 months now, and she started dating him only like a week after breaking up with her boyfriend of like 2 years. So anyway, i freak out...i run down stairs and i run into jonathan. I'm torn, b/c he loves his sister's boyfriend (We'll call him Bob), and thinks he's a great guy... so the last thing I wanted to do was get Bob killed. But i'm sitting there, my stomach in knots, so Jonathan knows something is up, so I crack and tell him. He just sits there. He can't belive his little sister, who watns to go into the ministry, who use to preach about not having sex before marriage, has just become a high school statistic. Now ,t het hing that gets it is that me and him aren't innocent either. We didn't wait before marriage, but our situation is a bit different. We're both out of high school, about to graduate from college, and we KNOW we're going to get married. She's only 17, still in high school, and I think she's taken her feelings from her 2 year relatinoship and kind of "transferred" them over to this new guy. I mean, she barely knows him. So anyway, Jonathan says he doesn't want to tell any1 cause it's her life and her decision... but he says he will hate himself if she gets preg. because he'll feel like he could have stopped it. So we've decided to just forget we found out (God, how I wish I hadn't went looking for scissors)... but I can't get the pukey nervous feeling out of my stomach everytime I know they are across the room in her room alone, or even when I see the two of them together. Poor Jonathan just wants to forget, he says he just can't look at her the same.

My question, why do I feel so upset over something that I have done myself and feel absolutley no guilt about it? How do I forget i found out and just move on and not look at them differently? This is the one time where I REALLY REALLY WISH I hadn't found out the "dirt" on someone. It's so weird looking at her, and I know what she doesn't think anyone knows, and i'm suppose to pretend like nothing is up when Bob starts making jokes about "making out" and stuff. I feel so weird! HELP!

[TVFactFan]

Originally Posted by MsOrange

...Ok, so for those of you who don't like to talk about sex, please move on to the next post...

OK, so over the weekend I went into my fiance's sister's room looking for a pair of scissors, instead i found a used condom. Now his sister is 17 years old, and has only known the guy she's been dating for like 2 months now, and she started dating him only like a week after breaking up with her boyfriend of like 2 years. So anyway, i freak out...i run down stairs and i run into jonathan. I'm torn, b/c he loves his sister's boyfriend (We'll call him Bob), and thinks he's a great guy... so the last thing I wanted to do was get Bob killed. But i'm sitting there, my stomach in knots, so Jonathan knows something is up, so I crack and tell him. He just sits there. He can't belive his little sister, who watns to go into the ministry, who use to preach about not having sex before marriage, has just become a high school statistic. Now ,t het hing that gets it is that me and him aren't innocent either. We didn't wait before marriage, but our situation is a bit different. We're both out of high school, about to graduate from college, and we KNOW we're going to get married. She's only 17, still in high school, and I think she's taken her feelings from her 2 year relatinoship and kind of "transferred" them over to this new guy. I mean, she barely knows him. So anyway, Jonathan says he doesn't want to tell any1 cause it's her life and her decision... but he says he will hate himself if she gets preg. because he'll feel like he could have stopped it. So we've decided to just forget we found out (God, how I wish I hadn't went looking for scissors)... but I can't get the pukey nervous feeling out of my stomach everytime I know they are across the room in her room alone, or even when I see the two of them together. Poor Jonathan just wants to forget, he says he just can't look at her the same.

My question, why do I feel so upset over something that I have done myself and feel absolutley no guilt about it? How do I forget i found out and just move on and not look at them differently? This is the one time where I REALLY REALLY WISH I hadn't found out the "dirty" on someone. It's so weird looking at her, and I know what she doesn't think anyone knows, and i'm suppose to pretend like nothing is up when Bob starts making jokes about "making out" and stuff. I feel so weird! HELP!

Has anyone ever tried the FRENCH FRIES at Wendy's? They are so delicious

[MsOrange]

Originally Posted by RetroTVCollector

Has anyone ever tried the FRENCH FRIES at Wendy's? They are so delicious

well you suck...


if all i'm gonna get is snide remarks, I can edit my post and have the thread deleted. I just seriously don't know what to do... it's not cool finding that out about your "little sister". It's not that I even care... I just want this nervous-gut-feeling in my stomach to go away.

or maybe i'm just a prude that needs to get over it.

[The Chauffeur]

Originally Posted by MsOrange

...Ok, so for those of you who don't like to talk about sex, please move on to the next post...

OK, so over the weekend I went into my fiance's sister's room looking for a pair of scissors, instead i found a used condom. Now his sister is 17 years old, and has only known the guy she's been dating for like 2 months now, and she started dating him only like a week after breaking up with her boyfriend of like 2 years. So anyway, i freak out...i run down stairs and i run into jonathan. I'm torn, b/c he loves his sister's boyfriend (We'll call him Bob), and thinks he's a great guy... so the last thing I wanted to do was get Bob killed. But i'm sitting there, my stomach in knots, so Jonathan knows something is up, so I crack and tell him. He just sits there. He can't belive his little sister, who watns to go into the ministry, who use to preach about not having sex before marriage, has just become a high school statistic. Now ,t het hing that gets it is that me and him aren't innocent either. We didn't wait before marriage, but our situation is a bit different. We're both out of high school, about to graduate from college, and we KNOW we're going to get married. She's only 17, still in high school, and I think she's taken her feelings from her 2 year relatinoship and kind of "transferred" them over to this new guy. I mean, she barely knows him. So anyway, Jonathan says he doesn't want to tell any1 cause it's her life and her decision... but he says he will hate himself if she gets preg. because he'll feel like he could have stopped it. So we've decided to just forget we found out (God, how I wish I hadn't went looking for scissors)... but I can't get the pukey nervous feeling out of my stomach everytime I know they are across the room in her room alone, or even when I see the two of them together. Poor Jonathan just wants to forget, he says he just can't look at her the same.

My question, why do I feel so upset over something that I have done myself and feel absolutley no guilt about it? How do I forget i found out and just move on and not look at them differently? This is the one time where I REALLY REALLY WISH I hadn't found out the "dirty" on someone. It's so weird looking at her, and I know what she doesn't think anyone knows, and i'm suppose to pretend like nothing is up when Bob starts making jokes about "making out" and stuff. I feel so weird! HELP!

I know how you feel, I went through it with my niece when we moved back from Canada. I actually walked in on her and her boyfriend having sex. I was a little bold about the situation and just sat down in the room and said " Umm...what do you think your doing?" ( they didn't even realize I was there ) and threw her boyfriends pants at him. I had a loooong talk with them about it. It was awkward for them, but, I had hoped the shock may shake them up enough to rethink what they were doing. It wasn't, after that I caught them a few more times. Months later she now has a baby girl, though she didn't let that stop her from graduating ( at least I'm proud of her for that ) I had a hard time looking at them for a pretty long time too, but they won't learn til they make their own mistakes. I think you were probably so upset because you expected more common sense from her and probably because you found out something about her that no one knows. And you probably won't feel entirely comfortable with it till it is out in the open, honestly. I'm sorry your in that situation though, speaking from experience , I know your pain

[MsOrange]

I mean, if she wants too fine... obviously shes' attempting to be safe... but I just want to forget that I found out anything...

[gilligan fanatic]

Originally Posted by RetroTVCollector

Has anyone ever tried the FRENCH FRIES at Wendy's? They are so delicious

I know, they are great

[The Chauffeur]

Originally Posted by MsOrange

I mean, if she wants too fine... obviously shes' attempting to be safe... but I just want to forget that I found out anything...

You can't, once it's in the brain, it don't come out! We're human, we dwell

[MsOrange]

well I just talked to him some, and he said he was "pretty much over it"... so I guess him being over it, helps me get over it. I still don't even get why i'm upset, but oh well! lol

[The Chauffeur]

Originally Posted by MsOrange

well I just talked to him some, and he said he was "pretty much over it"... so I guess him being over it, helps me get over it. I still don't even get why i'm upset, but oh well! lol

I'm glad you found a way to deal with it

[Fonzarelli]

The girl is 17, she's old enough. She uses condoms, that's good. Maybe she takes the pill too? Do you know? That's safe. The fact that she uses condoms shows that she's wise and responsible enough to do what she thinks is right. She is taking pregnacy and sexually transmitted diseases (not to mention HIV) serious (otherwise she wouldn't be using condoms). That's a good sign. It's perfectly normal for young people to have sex. They're young, it feels good, they enjoy it. It's not like she's 13, right? Most of my friends (guys and girls) were 16 or 17 when they first had sex. Nobody got pregnant, nobody got a disease, nobody had an abortion, they all used contraception and were serious about it, not 'sleeping around'. I think that's normal. Am I alone on this?

[MsOrange]

I'm not trying to condone what she's doing... I mean, it's up to her. No, she's not on the pill, but like you said, obviously she is being safe. Great, Terrifice... but that doesn't mean I want to know about it! I just want to know how I can get rid of this gut-wrenching feeling in my stomach. You never had that? I don't know why I feel weird about it... it's not weird, I realize that... but it's diff. when it's (practicaly) your little sister. I just want to know how to get rid of the nervous feeling in my stomach... that's all.

[The Chauffeur]

Originally Posted by Fonzarelli

The girl is 17, she's old enough. She uses condoms, that's good. Maybe she takes the pill too? Do you know? That's safe. The fact that she uses condoms shows that she's wise and responsible enough to do what she thinks is right. She is taking pregnacy and sexually transmitted diseases (not to mention HIV) serious (otherwise she wouldn't be using condoms). That's a good sign. It's perfectly normal for young people to have sex. They're young, it feels good, they enjoy it. It's not like she's 13, right? Most of my friends (guys and girls) were 16 or 17 when they first had sex. Nobody got pregnant, nobody got a disease, nobody had an abortion, they all used contraception and were serious about it, not 'sleeping around'. I think that's normal. Am I alone on this?

No, your right. It just strikes fear in us when we see the younger ones that we've been protective about are gowing up. At least I think that's why we react that way.

[Mijada]

At least they are using protection. As long as they keep using it, the chances of her becoming pregnant are pretty slim. I assume that she still lives at home with her parents. If so why the heck are they allowing their 17 year old daughter to have her boyfriend in her room if they don't approve of sex before marriage? My mom would have never allowed me to do that in her house at any age. My mom was very old fashioned though. What your boyfriends sister and her boyfriend are doing isn't all that uncommon among people that age these days and if she dated the previous guy for 2 years I kind of find it hard to believe that that relationship was totally innocent anyway. Heck my nephew is only 20 and has been sexually active with at least 3 girls since he was 16 and just had a baby with his present girlfriend and I don't think they have any intentions of getting married. My niece is only 19, engaged and expecting a kid in May and her current boyfriend isn't the only guy she's been with either. I don't condone teenage sex especially if you haven't been with your partner for very long but if I were you I'd just stay out of it, sticking your nose in will only cause resentment between you and her and you wouldn't want that especially since you plan on becoming a member of that family someday.

[Fonzarelli]

Originally Posted by MsOrange

I'm not trying to condone what she's doing... I mean, it's up to her. No, she's not on the pill, but like you said, obviously she is being safe. Great, Terrifice... but that doesn't mean I want to know about it! I just want to know how I can get rid of this gut-wrenching feeling in my stomach. You never had that? I don't know why I feel weird about it... it's not weird, I realize that... but it's diff. when it's (practicaly) your little sister. I just want to know how to get rid of the nervous feeling in my stomach... that's all.

Yes, one night I was at home, my folks were out, and I was alone in the living room and you could hear a needle falling. My sister (who is 17) and her boyfriend were in her room, and suddenly... I hear them moan (having sex). So I yell: "Heeeey! Shut up!" Didn't hear them ever again.

I accidentally heard my parents have sex too. That's a real nightmare! Waking up in the middel of the night and walking to the bathroom, hearing them...

What I did? Well, I just forced myself to forget it. (Untill I read this post )

[The Chauffeur]

Originally Posted by Fonzarelli

Yes, one night I was at home, my folks were out, and I was alone in the living room and you could hear a needle falling. My sister (who is 17) and her boyfriend were in her room, and suddenly... I hear them moan (having sex). So I yell: "Heeeey! Shut up!" Didn't hear them ever again.

I accidentally heard my parents have sex too. That's a real nightmare! Waking up in the middel of the night and walking to the bathroom, hearing them...

What I did? Well, I just forced myself to forget it. (Untill I read this post )

HAHA..I heard my parents having sex once, the trouble was so did the friend I had staying over that night. I banged on their door and said "what do you think your doing!?!" and they replied very coy " Shakin hands" I was mortified!