High school friends to College

[CollegeDropout]

for those elder members on so....I have best friends and close friends, but we just graduated from high school, so now we are all going off to different schools, in a variety of different states, we've made promises to stay close and to go to each others wedding no matter what...but realistically, i know some I wont see again, or care that much but the others who Im closest too, I want to remain as close, and they claim to as well, so the question I pose- between all our new friends at college, and life changing in general, is it possible to still be bestfriends when it is all said and done? I know we will all change but I hope to grow old with a few of them...ahh im nervous for college

[barwars]

I'm absolutely dreading leaving high school for this reason. Luckily, I still have a year left, and I realize that after this it'll never be the same, so I'm going to try to make the best of it. I'm dreading graduation, I'll probably end up crying like a little bitch, and I never cry.

[CollegeDropout]

Originally Posted by barwars

I'm absolutely dreading leaving high school for this reason. Luckily, I still have a year left, and I realize that after this it'll never be the same, so I'm going to try to make the best of it. I'm dreading graduation, I'll probably end up crying like a little bitch, and I never cry.

dude that was like me...the one time i cry is when im drunk and cuz of graduation...and well my friends are starting to leave (i dont go till sept..) but my bfff is leaving monday and shes going 12 hrs away by car...its not fun to think about

[¤I Love Clay Aiken¤]

I couldve pretty much cared less about the friends I had in HS when I got out. Most of them werent 'real' friends, and were more of school friends. And the friends that I was close with, werent really going too far anyways.

[robyrob]

my best friends in highschool were the same friends I had since the 3rd grade, and i wasn't friends with any of them after about 5 years... i think I went to one old friend's bachelor party - not the wedding - and that was the last time I saw any of them.

It probably isnt that big of a deal, you'll make new friends in college and whatnot - it doesnt hurt to TRY and stay close with old friends, but if you want it to work, you will have to WORK at it.

[Number 9 Dream]

I have a couple of friends that have gone on to other schools in Upstate, N.Y. for college...whenever they are home, we always hang out, have sleepovers, go places, etc. So, yea, it depends on the situation, really and if your friends change much(or you, for that matter). My friends seem like the same people I knew in high school

[theshark8777]

I dont really talk to many people I graduated with that often. Just a select few. I do think though as that song says, the older you get, the more you need the people you knew when you were younger. I miss alot of my elementary school friends I lost when I moved!

[Titania]

I'm going into my second year of college...most of my friends from home are scattered from boston to seattle....
the first summer home is a real reality check as to which friends you're going to really care about keeping...of my group of friends from high school, about 8 of us have really kept in touch and plan to stay that way...the others you see around and say hello but dont really go out of your way to stay close to.
you'll also make soooooooooo many new friends, that are practically family after awhile, that your focus will shift, itll be your really close friends from home that you'll put in the time to keep (and yes, go to each others weddings).

[Hollow]

i hate that issue so much. i'm emotionally unstable in the first place and i cannot deal with changes like that. i seriously don't know how i'm going to deal with going my own separate way from everyone i've been going to school with since like fourth grade and never seeing them again. trying to keep in touch with them is just depressing. not to spiral too off topic but that's one of the reasons i don't want to live much longer, i HATE the idea that my life hasn't really begun yet, i feel like i've lived long enough. there are just a few things i want to do, which is the only reason i'd have a problem with dying now, and 5-10 years from now i feel like my life will be complete and i'll be done with it.

[vienna waits]

from what I understand most of the people from HS won't matter much anymore after you meet new people at college.

[Zions Mother]

Originally Posted by CollegeDropout

for those elder members on so....I have best friends and close friends, but we just graduated from high school, so now we are all going off to different schools, in a variety of different states, we've made promises to stay close and to go to each others wedding no matter what...but realistically, i know some I wont see again, or care that much but the others who Im closest too, I want to remain as close, and they claim to as well, so the question I pose- between all our new friends at college, and life changing in general, is it possible to still be bestfriends when it is all said and done? I know we will all change but I hope to grow old with a few of them...ahh im nervous for college

Always remember, regardless of how often you stay in touch, your frienship with each person on whatever level is in your hearts.

Because of personal life changes, you will marry at different times, some may never marry, some may have children, job demands will vary, all of which will contribute to the frequency or infrequency of your contact with one another.

But whenever you do speak or meet, you will pick right up from where you left off, but as true friends, it will feel as if it were just yesterday that you just spoke or saw each other.

[CollegeDropout]

within my group of friends there is 5 of us and we call one another our best friends...one is going to school near me, and we are wicked tight, and I feel like you just know and I believe she is someone who I will be friends with forever...I strongly value my friendships so hopefully that will be true. My best friend though is going like 12 hrs away, and so her family and I joke about how I get her room when she goes to college...I dont know what will happen but these are the two friendships I would love to still see entact when its all said and done

[Chelsea]

It's easier in a small, more rural, town. There's fewer colleges that people will realistically go to (sure, the occasional person goes to UCLA or West Point, but....), so more groups of people go together. Most people come back to their parents' with decent frequency, so it's easier to just go over there and see them. Most people are able to retain their friendships with a greater deal of ease.

Of course, this isn't necessarily the case. Even though I actually went with around 8 other friends/acquaintances from high school, I really only keep even occasional contact with two...and see the others now and then.

The opportunity exists, at least, for most of us to stay relatively in touch, but people just...grow apart (large campuses don't help this). Really, I only have COMPLETELY lost contact with four people from high school - three went to UK (two of whom actually got married [both of which were really good friends of mine....I wasn't at the wedding]), and one just kinda...disappeared.

[Pitooey]

Being one of the older ones here.... all my friends who I knew back in the day are no longer in my life. They have all chosen different routes. Some have passed away. Others have gone their own way and never bothered to contac me even if they have my phone #.

I am one of those people who open communications with friends but they choose not to open communication with me. The friends I have now are all new.

[Pitooey]

Wait a minute......... I do have a friend whos been my friend for 25 odd years.