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G-Force Glockstar · 08-15-2005, 10:06 AM

Is it too risky??

I have a few boys in mind that I'm going to ask out at school. I'm a little nervous, though but I know I have to do it. And if they say no, instead of being embarassed, I'll just simply ask what's wrong with me. Some of my cousins said they think it'd be fine to do that, but my family (parents and sisters) think it'd be a bad idea.

Anyway what's your opinion on girls asking boys out?

barwars · 08-15-2005, 10:14 AM

It's fine to ask them out, but don't ask "what's wrong with me?" I'd feel bad if a girl asked me that, and I certainly wouldn't ask a girl.

G-Force Glockstar · 08-15-2005, 10:18 AM

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Originally Posted by barwars

It's fine to ask them out, but don't ask "what's wrong with me?" I'd feel bad if a girl asked me that, and I certainly wouldn't ask a girl.

The reason why I'd ask them that is so I can try to work on whatever is wrong with me.

swedeace · 08-15-2005, 10:29 AM

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Originally Posted by Girl Meets World

Is it too risky??

I have a few boys in mind that I'm going to ask out at school. I'm a little nervous, though but I know I have to do it. And if they say no, instead of being embarassed, I'll just simply ask what's wrong with me. Some of my cousins said they think it'd be fine to do that, but my family (parents and sisters) think it'd be a bad idea.

Seriously keep in mind, Niki, that you will most-likely be turned down sometimes in your life. That's just life. So, you are going to have to psych your mind that it MIGHT happen. Don't always put high expectations that you will always get your way. Believe me, that will hurt if you do. It's happened for me in different events (asking guys out, befriending people, etc).

I am not saying you will always be turned down, but I am saying to be prepared and don't let it get you down. I've learned that things can't always go my way (and it IS very difficult, but I'm trying to help soften the blow should it happen).

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Anyway what's your opinion on girls asking boys out?

I'm ALL for it. It REALLY raises your self-esteem knowing that you CAN do it! I've done it twice, myself. The first time I asked a guy out, he was gay. He said he was "honored" but is gay. The second time I asked a guy out, he said he isn't into dating these days. He's going through some personal things at the moment, so dating isn't a priority in his life. BUT.... he did enjoy talking with me, and we have become friends now. Who knows what the future will bring in this scenario, but I don't think I should concentrate on that and rather concentrate on our friendship.

Even if the guy doesn't accept your asking him out, think about the fact that there may be MANY reasons - not always about YOU. I had to learn that about my friendship with my crush/friend. He is already picking up that I can be such a high maintenance person, and he's helping me see that not all hs answers are always about ME.

In any case, hold your head up high. I know it can be tough especially if it's a guy you really, really like. But keep in mind to just be proud of your "asking out" accomplishment. Hope that helps.

Brian Damage · 08-15-2005, 10:36 AM

I think it's great that girls ask out boys. It takes alot of pressure off the guys to have to do it all the time. And like barwars said, DO NOT ask What's wrong with me if you get turned down.

TripperFan · 08-15-2005, 11:58 AM

GO FOR IT GIRL!!!

It's about time we gave them a break! And guys love it!

MsOrange · 08-15-2005, 12:06 PM

I see nothing wrong with it.. the only thing is...

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I have a few boys in mind that I'm going to ask out at school.

only ask them out one at a time and don't go on a "i'm going to get a boyfriend in a month" rampage

MissZero · 08-15-2005, 12:08 PM

ask him out but DONT ask "whats worng with me?" you never wanna put people on the spot like that

G-Force Glockstar · 08-15-2005, 12:14 PM

Thanks for your support, everyone!

So I really shouldn't ask what's wrong with me? But then how will I know what to work on?

EmoJoe · 08-15-2005, 12:17 PM

Go for it

Titania · 08-15-2005, 12:24 PM

i wouldnt ask "whats wrong with me"...but theres nothing wrong with a girl asking a guy out.
just be confident and low-key about it

Superstar · 08-15-2005, 01:22 PM

Go for it, but don't ask whats wrong with me?. You'll make the boy uncomfortable and he'll be put on the spot.

G-Force Glockstar · 08-15-2005, 01:24 PM

If he says no, should I say "Am I too ugly?" instead? I need to say something so I won't be embarrassed.

EmoJoe · 08-15-2005, 01:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Superstar

Go for it, but don't ask whats wrong with me?. You'll make the boy uncomfortable and he'll be put on the spot.

EmoJoe · 08-15-2005, 01:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Girl Meets World

If he says no, should I say "Am I too ugly?" instead? I need to say something so I won't be embarrassed.

I would just say "ok" and act like its ok. Don't ask why, cause that'll make him feel uncomfortable.

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08-15-2005, 11:58 AM	#6
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08-15-2005, 12:08 PM	#8
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EmoJoe Cool cool cool Forum Addict Join Date: Apr 23, 2004 Location: New Jersey Posts: 71,478	Go for it
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Titania a part of that Forum 3000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 04, 2000 Posts: 3,694	i wouldnt ask "whats wrong with me"...but theres nothing wrong with a girl asking a guy out. just be confident and low-key about it
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08-15-2005, 10:14 AM	#2
barwars .. Forum Star Join Date: May 04, 2002 Posts: 13,273	It's fine to ask them out, but don't ask "what's wrong with me?" I'd feel bad if a girl asked me that, and I certainly wouldn't ask a girl.

08-15-2005, 10:36 AM	#5
Brian Damage I'm Rich Bitch Forum Icon Join Date: Feb 03, 2002 Location: What Ain't No Country I Ever Heard Of...They Speak English in What? Posts: 63,107	I think it's great that girls ask out boys. It takes alot of pressure off the guys to have to do it all the time. And like barwars said, DO NOT ask What's wrong with me if you get turned down.

08-15-2005, 12:14 PM	#9
G-Force Glockstar Member Forum Celebrity Join Date: Nov 22, 2003 Posts: 21,770	Thanks for your support, everyone! So I really shouldn't ask what's wrong with me? But then how will I know what to work on?

08-15-2005, 01:22 PM	#12
Superstar Member Forum Icon Join Date: Dec 08, 2003 Posts: 63,316	Go for it, but don't ask whats wrong with me?. You'll make the boy uncomfortable and he'll be put on the spot.

08-15-2005, 01:24 PM	#13
G-Force Glockstar Member Forum Celebrity Join Date: Nov 22, 2003 Posts: 21,770	If he says no, should I say "Am I too ugly?" instead? I need to say something so I won't be embarrassed.