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dawsongirl · 07-18-2005, 05:15 AM

Can you handle people telling you your faults and shortcomings?

I can't. I cry and get defensive.

Hollow · 07-18-2005, 05:27 AM

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Originally Posted by dawsongirl

Can you handle people telling you your faults and shortcomings?

I can't. I cry and get defensive.

me too. but i hate myself and usually agree with whatever they're saying anyway.

ABlairican Pie · 07-18-2005, 08:29 AM

I CANNOT stand criticism. I shrivel and break. No such thing as "constructive criticism." Makes about as much sense as "helpful humiliation."

MsOrange · 07-18-2005, 09:22 AM

I wish I could, but 9 times out of 10 they are just saying it to help, but most of the time I over analyze it and end up thinking they hate me

*MIBabe03* · 07-18-2005, 09:23 AM

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Originally Posted by MsOrange

I wish I could, but 9 times out of 10 they are just saying it to help, but most of the time I over analyze it and end up thinking they hate me

Yep, same here. It depends on what they are talking about, sometimes I can shake it off.

TripperFan · 07-18-2005, 11:13 AM

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I CANNOT stand criticism. I shrivel and break. No such thing as "constructive criticism." Makes about as much sense as "helpful humiliation."

Yep - I used to be the same way. I hated it when the person was putting you down, but then adds, "Its just some CONSTRUCTIVE criticism". Yeah right.

I have become a lot better at accepting it though that I've become a lot less insecure. A lot has to do with the way its presented to you also I find. There really IS a way of criticising someone while still keeping their dignity intact. It's a real skill I think. Janice is someone that has that gift.

I've also worked on how to give it as much as receive it.

Moonlight Lady · 07-18-2005, 11:30 AM

I hate criticsm, I can't take it. My feeling is, if you don't like what i'm doing, keep it to yourself, I don't wanna hear it.

Courtnee · 07-18-2005, 11:35 AM

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Originally Posted by dawsongirl

Can you handle people telling you your faults and shortcomings?

I can't. I cry and get defensive.

I take it okay.

swedeace · 07-18-2005, 11:58 AM

It all depends who it is coming from and HOW they say it. Yes, how they say it. If it's in a sincere manner and it comes from a friend, then I can take usually take it into consideration. If it's in a raunchy and pissy mood and coming from my sister, then we argue over "how" it was said. I hate when she tells me, "You are so touchy and cannot take it! You just can't accept it." Hmmm... well, I am a firm believer in what tone it is said. Non-verbals are everything to me....

Rachel3118 · 07-18-2005, 02:11 PM

I don't take it well. I have trouble getting what they said out of my head.

Sara Micelli · 07-18-2005, 02:57 PM

I can take constructive criticism.

Tuesday Weld · 07-18-2005, 03:21 PM

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Originally Posted by swedeace

It all depends who it is coming from and HOW they say it. Yes, how they say it. If it's in a sincere manner and it comes from a friend, then I can take usually take it into consideration. If it's in a raunchy and pissy mood and coming from my sister, then we argue over "how" it was said. I hate when she tells me, "You are so touchy and cannot take it! You just can't accept it." Hmmm... well, I am a firm believer in what tone it is said. Non-verbals are everything to me....

This is how I feel. If the person is sincere and telling me, as a friend, I won't get upset. If the person is just trying to piss me off and agitate me, I usually get really upset.

*Pleasant Tomorrow* · 07-18-2005, 04:22 PM

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Originally Posted by dawsongirl

Can you handle people telling you your faults and shortcomings?

I can't. I cry and get defensive.

MMmmhmm, ditto. I hate being that way. I think if anyone finds something wrong with me, I'm a worthless piece of **** and I could be better.

I don't show it, though, actually. I just smile and go "okay okay" but that's not how I feel.

Janice · 07-18-2005, 04:48 PM

WHY, WHO'S CRITICIZING ME?!? You talking to me?? You want a piece of me?? You have no right to criticize me. I don't need to listen to this crap!!

Kidding, I'm okay as long as it's done with respect and sincerity.

Mr. Television · 07-18-2005, 05:06 PM

I hate being criticized. It stays with me for a long time.

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swedeace Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Sep 22, 2003 Posts: 9,009	It all depends who it is coming from and HOW they say it. Yes, how they say it. If it's in a sincere manner and it comes from a friend, then I can take usually take it into consideration. If it's in a raunchy and pissy mood and coming from my sister, then we argue over "how" it was said. I hate when she tells me, "You are so touchy and cannot take it! You just can't accept it." Hmmm... well, I am a firm believer in what tone it is said. Non-verbals are everything to me....

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