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Janice · 07-10-2005, 06:28 PM

Are you estranged from anyone? I am with my first cousin. Long story, and not even that interesting, but yeah, it's been a few years since we've spoken.

My husband's family is fractured in certain sections of his large family. It's very sad, and I see no end in sight. We try to stay out of it. It's harder being estranged from family than with a friend. Family is harder to avoid.

My mother had a friend who didn't speak to her sister for 25 years, and they didn't even remember what it was about. One died, then the other a few years later. All those years wasted. So sad.

Mr. Television · 07-10-2005, 06:42 PM

Yea I'm estranged from My Aunt and her children. In fact my whole family is. It stems from an incident that happened when My Grandmother was still alive. She was living with my Aunt and Uncle and then after my Uncle had a heart attack , she called one of my other Aunts telling her to come pick her up or she was tossing her out on the street. She then decided to put her in a nursing home. When it looked like my Uncle was going to recover she changed her mind because he never would alow it. He was her son. But he died so afterward she had one of my cousins admit her to a nursing home without telling anyone in the family. It had to be a blood relative who admitted her although at the time their were 3 other children still alive. We had to track her down just to find out where she was. It was a mess. They had guardianship over her even though they never visited her. After my Grandmother died everyone had a fight with them over where she was to be burried. She had always wanted to be burried with my Grandfather. They finally burried her there in an unmarked grave. The other members of the family chipped in to buy a headstone. This was in 1991 and nobody's talked to them since.

Janet McFarland · 07-10-2005, 06:50 PM

My mom is estranged from her side of the family, except her mom and sister. It started a couple years ago at my great-grandma's 90th birthday party, and all I remember is my mom and her aunt screaming at each other. We left early with my mom crying hysterically. She hasn't talked to her aunt since. She's friendly with her cousins if she runs into them somewhere, but other then that, we never see them. I don't even remember what their fight was about.

swedeace · 07-10-2005, 06:52 PM

My mom is estranged with her youngest sister because of my aunt's jerk husband. It's a long, tedious story, but the aunt basically believes her lying husband over her own oldest sister who helped care for her! They see each other at family parties and get-togethers, but they just ignore each other... My jerk of an aunt even had the guts to call my mom and tell her to NEVER call or visit. This was around August 2003 - nearly two years ago!

And to think that blood is thicker than water. Geez. *snickers*

EmoJoe · 07-10-2005, 06:54 PM

If estrained means in a fight, then yes

My mom is estrained from one of my aunts (and uncle and cousins) because of something about the will when my grandfather died, it was supposed to be divided equally, but my aunt and uncle fought to have it not be divided equally (or something) and I guess have more go to them then it was supposed to. My jerk "uncle" (I cant stand to call him that) talked her into trying to get most of the will money. Keep in mind, this guy always hated my grandfather and has always been a greedy jerk. She's actually starting to get along with her though, they're starting to email each other and stuff, and their planning on having lunch one day, so it's strating to get better.

My dad is estrained from his sister because she basically robbed his side of the family. I dont even know the whole story, but I doubt things will ever be ok again on that side of the family. On my mom's side, things are starting to look a little better. My mom is starting to talk to my aunt, so that's good

James"Thunder"Early · 07-10-2005, 06:57 PM

My half-sister. She's like 16 years older than me and she holds resentment against our Father because he was never around for her when she was a kid and her mother was a deadbeat. He was around more when I was growing up and more supportive, so she holds sort of a silent grudge against me, which is ridiculous because it isn't even my fault what my father did.

Then there's my great Aunt who my dad resents. When my paternal grandmother died, she left money and the house to the family, well my great aunt got greedy and took everything for her and her children leaving my dad and his sisters and brother with very little. Her oldest daughter still lives in some gated community. I knew he didn't like her, but I really saw how much he didn't when we we're at a Christmas party at his sister's and when she came in he almost ran out the door so he didn't have to see her.

Hollow · 07-10-2005, 07:02 PM

we almost got estranged from my uncle's family when he was drunk and kicked us out of his house the morning of the second day we were there (we were staying there for a week). i was woken up by he and my dad yelling at each other, and my dad said me and my brother would probably never see our cousins again. so we were getting ready to leave and stuff and my uncle's all "what are you doing? you can stay here"

otherwise, no i don't think there are any estrangements in my family. but i probably will be estranged from my dad when i'm older, and i'm speaking relistically.

Brian Damage · 07-10-2005, 07:07 PM

I really try not to hold grudges against anybody, but the only one I have any sort of ill feelings for is a woman who use to be good friends with my mother. You see she was a tenant of my grandparents and after a few years, she became a part of the family. She totally took advantage of that and began to manipulate my grandparents. She started to lay claim to some of my family's heirlooms and convinced my grandparents to give up their basement so she could have more room in her apartment. If that wasn't bad enough, she felt a weird sort of competition from my mother, so she would purposely not invite her to certain things. That hurt my mother deeply. I decided to cut her off and not speak to her again and that eventually led to my mother to cut off ties with her too.

Titania · 07-10-2005, 07:08 PM

sadly we has a lot of these going on...just a sampling:
-my familys estranged from my uncle's illegitimate son (a few years older than me) and ex girlfriend, when the son came back for awhile most of my family stopped speaking to my uncle as well.
-my great aunts have been estranged for over 40 years and they live in the same small town.
my grandfather didnt speak to his half-uncle for most of his life because of a fight w/ his father, we reconciled w/ him after my grandfather died.

Mijada · 07-10-2005, 07:30 PM

I'm estranged from my mom, have been for a couple years now. Our relationship has always been rocky even when I was a kid. She's very controlling and is the type of person if you don't do things her way she just quits talking to you. She probably won't be there to see my first child be born. She did the same thing with her own grandson (my nephew) He's 20 years old now and she hasn't seen him since he was around 13 because she disapproved of the way his foster parents were raising him. He also has a child on the way and my mom won't be around for that either. I really wish things were different but we would all have to go to some kind of family counseling to work through these issues and she will never go for that. I don't see my dad very often either but we are still on speaking terms. I don't know what's up with my oldest brother. He called me at Christmas and left a message on my machine wishing me a Merry Christmas but didn't leave a # where I could reach him. But he's always been that way, in and out of our lives regardless if we had an arguement or not.

Janice · 07-10-2005, 07:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Mijada

I'm estranged from my mom, have been for a couple years now.

That's very unfortunate. Not to knock her, but your mother seems very immature. She's missing out on so much. It's sad all around, especially for you, at this time.

AllIWantIsYourClutch · 07-10-2005, 07:41 PM

My mother has a habit of making people in our family hate her.

My dad's brother's wife (aka: my aunt) was having cheating on my uncle and my mom found out about it, but she never told anyone. Somehow, the whole thing came out to my family and (dont ask me how this happened) but my aunt freaked out on my mom and said "EVERYONE HAS FORGIVEN ME BUT YOU," and she pretty much hates my mom. One time, my uncle bought me a scanner for my birthday and it had to be taken back and we went to pick it up from their house and she threw it in the middle of the street. She doesn't let my uncle call my house and if my mom calls him (they used to work together), she'll hang up on her. If she catches him on the phone with my mom, she makes him hang up. He's not allowed to come to my house anymore and I havent seen my cousins in a long time.

Now on her side of the family, there was a point where she didnt speak to any of her siblings and this is all because of my grandma. My grandma moved in with us 8 years ago and since then, she never ever leaves us alone. On weekends and stuff she always has to go with us anywhere we go. She's constantly putting my mother down and stuff and when I was in 7th grade my mom had a grand maul seizure that the doctors said was because of stress. My aunt Barb came to see her in the hospital and she met my dad outside and my dad started screaming at her about how it was all her fault and blahblahblah and my mom hasn't spoken to her since. Her biggest thing is that my aunt has nothing to do with my grandma unless its a holiday, so we're forced to deal with her every single day. But this sucks because I have one cousin whos close to my age and it's her son and I never see him, and when I do, he doesnt speak to me. My mom refuses to go to any family parties or anything because my aunt will be there. It drives me insane. She called once when my mom had bypass surgery a few months ago and hasn't called since. She has the same issue with my uncle (her brother) but that's not really as bad, because we see him every once in a while.

Yeah. That's about it. I think.

Mijada · 07-10-2005, 07:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Janice

That's very unfortunate. Not to knock her, but your mother seems very immature. She's missing out on so much. It's sad all around, especially for you, at this time.

Yes, she can be like that at times. It's like she never wanted me to grow up and have a life of my own, probably because I was the youngest kid. If she had her own way I'd be a 33 year old virgin still living at home.

TripperFan · 07-10-2005, 10:18 PM

I'm estranged from a brother, his wife and son. Don't miss 'em a bit. It's their choice and the rest of us don't mind.

barwars · 07-10-2005, 10:25 PM

....nobody.
We actually just had a family reunion for my mom's side of the family. It was all of her cousins, and their kids, and their grandkids. It was crazy, there was about 150 of us, and half of the people still didn't show up.

07-10-2005, 06:28 PM	#1
Janice Retired Admin - Hollywood Swingin' Forum Legend Join Date: Aug 03, 2001 Location: Beantown Posts: 36,388	Estrangements Are you estranged from anyone? I am with my first cousin. Long story, and not even that interesting, but yeah, it's been a few years since we've spoken. My husband's family is fractured in certain sections of his large family. It's very sad, and I see no end in sight. We try to stay out of it. It's harder being estranged from family than with a friend. Family is harder to avoid. My mother had a friend who didn't speak to her sister for 25 years, and they didn't even remember what it was about. One died, then the other a few years later. All those years wasted. So sad.

07-10-2005, 06:42 PM	#2
Mr. Television 23 Years at Sitcoms Online Forum Icon Join Date: Jun 06, 2003 Location: Somewhere you're Not Posts: 62,132	Yea I'm estranged from My Aunt and her children. In fact my whole family is. It stems from an incident that happened when My Grandmother was still alive. She was living with my Aunt and Uncle and then after my Uncle had a heart attack , she called one of my other Aunts telling her to come pick her up or she was tossing her out on the street. She then decided to put her in a nursing home. When it looked like my Uncle was going to recover she changed her mind because he never would alow it. He was her son. But he died so afterward she had one of my cousins admit her to a nursing home without telling anyone in the family. It had to be a blood relative who admitted her although at the time their were 3 other children still alive. We had to track her down just to find out where she was. It was a mess. They had guardianship over her even though they never visited her. After my Grandmother died everyone had a fight with them over where she was to be burried. She had always wanted to be burried with my Grandfather. They finally burried her there in an unmarked grave. The other members of the family chipped in to buy a headstone. This was in 1991 and nobody's talked to them since.
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07-10-2005, 06:54 PM	#5
EmoJoe Cool cool cool Forum Addict Join Date: Apr 23, 2004 Location: New Jersey Posts: 71,478	If estrained means in a fight, then yes My mom is estrained from one of my aunts (and uncle and cousins) because of something about the will when my grandfather died, it was supposed to be divided equally, but my aunt and uncle fought to have it not be divided equally (or something) and I guess have more go to them then it was supposed to. My jerk "uncle" (I cant stand to call him that) talked her into trying to get most of the will money. Keep in mind, this guy always hated my grandfather and has always been a greedy jerk. She's actually starting to get along with her though, they're starting to email each other and stuff, and their planning on having lunch one day, so it's strating to get better. My dad is estrained from his sister because she basically robbed his side of the family. I dont even know the whole story, but I doubt things will ever be ok again on that side of the family. On my mom's side, things are starting to look a little better. My mom is starting to talk to my aunt, so that's good
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07-10-2005, 06:57 PM	#6
James"Thunder"Early Whoever's In New England Forum Veteran Join Date: Feb 23, 2004 Location: The Apollo Posts: 7,088	My half-sister. She's like 16 years older than me and she holds resentment against our Father because he was never around for her when she was a kid and her mother was a deadbeat. He was around more when I was growing up and more supportive, so she holds sort of a silent grudge against me, which is ridiculous because it isn't even my fault what my father did. Then there's my great Aunt who my dad resents. When my paternal grandmother died, she left money and the house to the family, well my great aunt got greedy and took everything for her and her children leaving my dad and his sisters and brother with very little. Her oldest daughter still lives in some gated community. I knew he didn't like her, but I really saw how much he didn't when we we're at a Christmas party at his sister's and when she came in he almost ran out the door so he didn't have to see her.
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07-10-2005, 07:08 PM	#9
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07-10-2005, 06:50 PM	#3
Janet McFarland Member Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Mar 09, 2004 Posts: 4,344	My mom is estranged from her side of the family, except her mom and sister. It started a couple years ago at my great-grandma's 90th birthday party, and all I remember is my mom and her aunt screaming at each other. We left early with my mom crying hysterically. She hasn't talked to her aunt since. She's friendly with her cousins if she runs into them somewhere, but other then that, we never see them. I don't even remember what their fight was about.

07-10-2005, 06:52 PM	#4
swedeace Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Sep 22, 2003 Posts: 9,009	My mom is estranged with her youngest sister because of my aunt's jerk husband. It's a long, tedious story, but the aunt basically believes her lying husband over her own oldest sister who helped care for her! They see each other at family parties and get-togethers, but they just ignore each other... My jerk of an aunt even had the guts to call my mom and tell her to NEVER call or visit. This was around August 2003 - nearly two years ago! And to think that blood is thicker than water. Geez. snickers

07-10-2005, 07:02 PM	#7
Hollow Member Forum Superstar Join Date: Dec 16, 2001 Posts: 30,406	we almost got estranged from my uncle's family when he was drunk and kicked us out of his house the morning of the second day we were there (we were staying there for a week). i was woken up by he and my dad yelling at each other, and my dad said me and my brother would probably never see our cousins again. so we were getting ready to leave and stuff and my uncle's all "what are you doing? you can stay here" otherwise, no i don't think there are any estrangements in my family. but i probably will be estranged from my dad when i'm older, and i'm speaking relistically.

07-10-2005, 07:07 PM	#8
Brian Damage I'm Rich Bitch Forum Icon Join Date: Feb 03, 2002 Location: What Ain't No Country I Ever Heard Of...They Speak English in What? Posts: 63,107	I really try not to hold grudges against anybody, but the only one I have any sort of ill feelings for is a woman who use to be good friends with my mother. You see she was a tenant of my grandparents and after a few years, she became a part of the family. She totally took advantage of that and began to manipulate my grandparents. She started to lay claim to some of my family's heirlooms and convinced my grandparents to give up their basement so she could have more room in her apartment. If that wasn't bad enough, she felt a weird sort of competition from my mother, so she would purposely not invite her to certain things. That hurt my mother deeply. I decided to cut her off and not speak to her again and that eventually led to my mother to cut off ties with her too.

07-10-2005, 07:30 PM	#10
Mijada Spencers mom Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 02, 2001 Location: eastern US Posts: 4,093	I'm estranged from my mom, have been for a couple years now. Our relationship has always been rocky even when I was a kid. She's very controlling and is the type of person if you don't do things her way she just quits talking to you. She probably won't be there to see my first child be born. She did the same thing with her own grandson (my nephew) He's 20 years old now and she hasn't seen him since he was around 13 because she disapproved of the way his foster parents were raising him. He also has a child on the way and my mom won't be around for that either. I really wish things were different but we would all have to go to some kind of family counseling to work through these issues and she will never go for that. I don't see my dad very often either but we are still on speaking terms. I don't know what's up with my oldest brother. He called me at Christmas and left a message on my machine wishing me a Merry Christmas but didn't leave a # where I could reach him. But he's always been that way, in and out of our lives regardless if we had an arguement or not.
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07-10-2005, 07:41 PM	#12
AllIWantIsYourClutch peaceout. Forum Icon Join Date: Aug 02, 2001 Location: Illinois. Posts: 53,424	My mother has a habit of making people in our family hate her. My dad's brother's wife (aka: my aunt) was having cheating on my uncle and my mom found out about it, but she never told anyone. Somehow, the whole thing came out to my family and (dont ask me how this happened) but my aunt freaked out on my mom and said "EVERYONE HAS FORGIVEN ME BUT YOU," and she pretty much hates my mom. One time, my uncle bought me a scanner for my birthday and it had to be taken back and we went to pick it up from their house and she threw it in the middle of the street. She doesn't let my uncle call my house and if my mom calls him (they used to work together), she'll hang up on her. If she catches him on the phone with my mom, she makes him hang up. He's not allowed to come to my house anymore and I havent seen my cousins in a long time. Now on her side of the family, there was a point where she didnt speak to any of her siblings and this is all because of my grandma. My grandma moved in with us 8 years ago and since then, she never ever leaves us alone. On weekends and stuff she always has to go with us anywhere we go. She's constantly putting my mother down and stuff and when I was in 7th grade my mom had a grand maul seizure that the doctors said was because of stress. My aunt Barb came to see her in the hospital and she met my dad outside and my dad started screaming at her about how it was all her fault and blahblahblah and my mom hasn't spoken to her since. Her biggest thing is that my aunt has nothing to do with my grandma unless its a holiday, so we're forced to deal with her every single day. But this sucks because I have one cousin whos close to my age and it's her son and I never see him, and when I do, he doesnt speak to me. My mom refuses to go to any family parties or anything because my aunt will be there. It drives me insane. She called once when my mom had bypass surgery a few months ago and hasn't called since. She has the same issue with my uncle (her brother) but that's not really as bad, because we see him every once in a while. Yeah. That's about it. I think.

07-10-2005, 10:18 PM	#14
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07-10-2005, 10:25 PM	#15
barwars .. Forum Star Join Date: May 04, 2002 Posts: 13,273	....nobody. We actually just had a family reunion for my mom's side of the family. It was all of her cousins, and their kids, and their grandkids. It was crazy, there was about 150 of us, and half of the people still didn't show up.