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Belair · 03-26-2005, 04:11 PM

If she can handle it,yes.But if you're going to neglect your family to go to
work,then maybe you shouldn't have a career.It all comes down to what you
value more.I admire women who can do both,but i am still an old fashioned
girl who believes that the woman should be home when the kids get home
from school.

Mijada · 03-26-2005, 04:26 PM

I don't think it's a good thing. In this day and age it's nearly impossible to manage a household on 1 income and that's sad but I believe in many cases it can be done if you just give up a few luxuries. After I get married and have kids I will not work full time outside of the home anymore. I told my fiance maybe 1 or 2 days a week and that's it and he supports my decision 100%. Sure we won't be able to enjoy having all the material things that we could if we were both working but I think after kids come along that stuff won't matter as much. I think it's more important to sit down at the dinner table with the family and watch the kids take their first steps, go to the kids school functions etc. Working mothers often miss out on those things. Sometimes you just can't have everything, you have to sacrifice one thing for another. Family and a career don't go together very well IMO.

Hollow · 03-26-2005, 04:43 PM

as long as she can support her family and spend at least some quality time with them.

Kay Scarpetta · 03-26-2005, 07:03 PM

I think she can have both- however, I'm not choosing that route. I don't want kids. Hell, I don't even want to be married. I want to work, work, work.

MaydayMalonesGirl · 03-26-2005, 07:09 PM

I hate women who stay at home all day while their children are at school and live off their husbands. It sucks that there are so many women who can afford to do that and still be wealthy while both of my parents work hard and can barely pay the bills.

Even if my husband made a good enough living for me not to work, I still would. I couldn't live with myself if I didn't.

TheHappyBurgerMeister · 03-26-2005, 09:10 PM

If they can spend enough time with their families then yes. I think that women who are working should NOT work at all when their children are very young- as in like not old enough to be in school yet. I don't like it when new mothers give birth and then like 3 weeks later they already go back to work. Mothers should spend TIME with their children. That's what my mom did when my brother and I were young. She didn't work at all when we were little and then when I started preschool (my bro is older) she started working. The only reason mothers should be working IMO when their children are that young is if the husbands job isn't enough to support the family or better yet she doesn't have a husband at all. When the children start school around 3 or 4 years old then I think it's OK for the mother to go to work.

TheGreatPretender · 03-26-2005, 09:16 PM

Yes it is VERY possible. My mom has been doing the balancing act since I was three. All that woman should stay home and wait for their man and take care of "his" kids and just be happy he is home from work is all ****ing bull****. I'm so glad it's not like that anymore.

robyrob · 03-26-2005, 09:32 PM

my mom did it by herself for almost 20 years...

Georgia's on my Mind · 03-26-2005, 09:34 PM

no, bitc.hes should go to the kitchen where they belong

EmoJoe · 03-26-2005, 09:44 PM

Yeah...

Janice · 03-26-2005, 10:44 PM

I think it's a personal decision, and I can only speak from my own experience growing up. We were fortunate that my father made a great living which enabled my mother to be a stay-at-home mother to their four kids.

I loved coming home from school everyday with my mother being home. She kept an incredible home, and we had great dinners every night of the week. She was always there for us and our friends too. I had friends who had mothers who worked, and it seemed strange going home to an empty house with them.

It was a decision my parents made early on, and I consider myself fortunate. They were quite a team. I know that things are a lot different today and two paychecks are often needed to raise a family. Every situation is different.

I LOVED having a stay-at-home mother.

*Pleasant Tomorrow* · 03-26-2005, 10:47 PM

I don't know, do you think a man can have a career and a family?

Belair · 03-26-2005, 10:48 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Janice

I loved coming home from school everyday with my mother being home. She kept an incredible home, and we had great dinners every night of the week. She was always there for us and our friends too. I had friends who had mothers who worked, and it seemed strange going home to an empty house with them.

That sounds very much like my upbringing.My Mum was always around and I am grateful to her for that.We weren't rich,but at least we weren't unloved or neglected.Now before anyone says anything about that 'unloved' comment,I dont mean all parents who work dont love their children,but I think My Mum showed the love she had for her kids by always being around for them,making the dinner,helping with homework,not coming home from work at 8pm.I had friends who had take away most nights because one of their parents would pick it up on their way home from work.I had home cooked meals,and the house was always immaculate,because my Mum spent her day doing housework.

Lee · 03-26-2005, 10:56 PM

I don't understand why there are people against the concept of mothers staying
at home raising children.

Belair · 03-26-2005, 11:00 PM

Well webwarrior,I am not against it at all.I think its how it should be.

03-26-2005, 04:11 PM	#1
Belair Back@SO&Loveit! Forum Veteran Join Date: Dec 13, 2004 Location: New York City Posts: 5,925	Do you think a woman can have a career and a family? If she can handle it,yes.But if you're going to neglect your family to go to work,then maybe you shouldn't have a career.It all comes down to what you value more.I admire women who can do both,but i am still an old fashioned girl who believes that the woman should be home when the kids get home from school.
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03-26-2005, 07:03 PM	#4
Kay Scarpetta Defy Gravity 8.26.05 Forum Superstar Join Date: Jul 04, 2001 Location: La Vie Boheme Posts: 28,013	I think she can have both- however, I'm not choosing that route. I don't want kids. Hell, I don't even want to be married. I want to work, work, work.
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03-26-2005, 09:10 PM	#6
TheHappyBurgerMeister Member Senior Member Join Date: Jul 23, 2002 Location: Wisconsin, USA Posts: 2,209	If they can spend enough time with their families then yes. I think that women who are working should NOT work at all when their children are very young- as in like not old enough to be in school yet. I don't like it when new mothers give birth and then like 3 weeks later they already go back to work. Mothers should spend TIME with their children. That's what my mom did when my brother and I were young. She didn't work at all when we were little and then when I started preschool (my bro is older) she started working. The only reason mothers should be working IMO when their children are that young is if the husbands job isn't enough to support the family or better yet she doesn't have a husband at all. When the children start school around 3 or 4 years old then I think it's OK for the mother to go to work.
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03-26-2005, 09:16 PM	#7
TheGreatPretender just because Forum Veteran Join Date: May 22, 2004 Location: Trying to think of a creative, witty location. Posts: 7,628	Yes it is VERY possible. My mom has been doing the balancing act since I was three. All that woman should stay home and wait for their man and take care of "his" kids and just be happy he is home from work is all **ing bull**. I'm so glad it's not like that anymore.
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03-26-2005, 09:32 PM	#8
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03-26-2005, 04:26 PM	#2
Mijada Spencers mom Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 02, 2001 Location: eastern US Posts: 4,093	I don't think it's a good thing. In this day and age it's nearly impossible to manage a household on 1 income and that's sad but I believe in many cases it can be done if you just give up a few luxuries. After I get married and have kids I will not work full time outside of the home anymore. I told my fiance maybe 1 or 2 days a week and that's it and he supports my decision 100%. Sure we won't be able to enjoy having all the material things that we could if we were both working but I think after kids come along that stuff won't matter as much. I think it's more important to sit down at the dinner table with the family and watch the kids take their first steps, go to the kids school functions etc. Working mothers often miss out on those things. Sometimes you just can't have everything, you have to sacrifice one thing for another. Family and a career don't go together very well IMO.

03-26-2005, 04:43 PM	#3
Hollow Member Forum Superstar Join Date: Dec 16, 2001 Posts: 30,406	as long as she can support her family and spend at least some quality time with them.

03-26-2005, 07:09 PM	#5
MaydayMalonesGirl ACID! POLICEHHHH! Forum Star Join Date: Apr 24, 2003 Location: in a van down by the river. Posts: 18,393	I hate women who stay at home all day while their children are at school and live off their husbands. It sucks that there are so many women who can afford to do that and still be wealthy while both of my parents work hard and can barely pay the bills. Even if my husband made a good enough living for me not to work, I still would. I couldn't live with myself if I didn't.

03-26-2005, 09:34 PM	#9
Georgia's on my Mind Senior Member Forum Superstar Join Date: Aug 19, 2001 Posts: 25,054	no, bitc.hes should go to the kitchen where they belong

03-26-2005, 09:44 PM	#10
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03-26-2005, 10:44 PM	#11
Janice Retired Admin - Hollywood Swingin' Forum Legend Join Date: Aug 03, 2001 Location: Beantown Posts: 36,388	I think it's a personal decision, and I can only speak from my own experience growing up. We were fortunate that my father made a great living which enabled my mother to be a stay-at-home mother to their four kids. I loved coming home from school everyday with my mother being home. She kept an incredible home, and we had great dinners every night of the week. She was always there for us and our friends too. I had friends who had mothers who worked, and it seemed strange going home to an empty house with them. It was a decision my parents made early on, and I consider myself fortunate. They were quite a team. I know that things are a lot different today and two paychecks are often needed to raise a family. Every situation is different. I LOVED having a stay-at-home mother.

03-26-2005, 10:47 PM	#12
Pleasant Tomorrow Member Forum Addict Join Date: Feb 19, 2003 Location: New York Posts: 69,525	I don't know, do you think a man can have a career and a family?
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03-26-2005, 10:56 PM	#14
Lee veteran member Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: May 23, 2001 Location: Pulaski, Tennessee Posts: 4,768	I don't understand why there are people against the concept of mothers staying at home raising children.

03-26-2005, 11:00 PM	#15
Belair Back@SO&Loveit! Forum Veteran Join Date: Dec 13, 2004 Location: New York City Posts: 5,925	Well webwarrior,I am not against it at all.I think its how it should be.