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*Pleasant Tomorrow* · 03-11-2005, 10:36 PM

They say teenagers don't know what love is because they really don't have a concept of it yet. They say that what we get are just crushes, right? And none of it can be serious to them, really. But how do you know? Who here can say what's just a crush and what isn't? Because I sure as hell don't know what's going on.

robyrob · 03-11-2005, 10:49 PM

Love is a very hard concept for anyone to understand, and it truly does take a fair amount of experience and possibly some heartbreaks to realize what is what.

go make some mistakes (but stay out of trouble) - you can figure out if its love or a crush later.

*Pleasant Tomorrow* · 03-11-2005, 10:57 PM

I'm too shy to make mistakes

Janet McFarland · 03-12-2005, 12:14 AM

Love is so confusing. It's like, with me, I just wish I could find a really guy friend, not a boyfriend but just a really good guy friend. But most guys I know are jerks so there goes that thought.

dawsongirl · 03-12-2005, 02:09 AM

I feel your pain. I've been contemplating that for years, and actually right now. Do I just have a crush on Mr. X? Am I just in love with the whole concept of being in love and not in love with him? *sigh* Before I was like, oh, he's not my type and we'd make a horrible couple. But then I did something stupid and I was all afraid he'd never talk to me again and when I found out I was wrong about all that, I was thrilled. Man....

But yeah, I have a horrible fear of rejection and making myself look like an ass.

Belair · 03-12-2005, 07:32 AM

I've had tons of "crushes" and thought I was in love with all of them and would die without them,but I soon discovered that its nothing more than a temporary infatuation,not true love.I look back on the boys who I got really upset about and thought I'd never get over,and now I just have to laugh,because they now seem so unimportant.
But my biggest downfall is that I love being "in love" and I am too idealistic.If I 'like' someone I start imagining that they are the perfect human being who can no wrong,and I get a nasty awakening when I discover that they are only human and screw up like we all do.
And,in my experience,having a crush that doesn't know you,know of your love for them,or doesn't like you can really break your heart.Trust me,I've been there.

Michael [hXc] · 03-12-2005, 08:23 AM

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Originally Posted by dawsongirl

But yeah, I have a horrible fear of rejection and making myself look like an ass.

omg me too. sometimes i try to do things in a good way but i end up making myself look like an ass. it sucks.

Lady T · 03-12-2005, 09:16 AM

Personally I do not like being in love..I do not handle relationships very well because I feel once I have feelings for someone that individual has a part of my heart and my soul. And having that person has such power over you (in an emotional way) scares the hell out of me and it still does and I am in my 30s. I have been in a lot of relationships over the years, and honestly, I like being single...

Kay Scarpetta · 03-12-2005, 10:31 AM

I have only been in love once, and once only. I doubt I will ever feel the same way about anyone again. It was horrible... after she broke my heart [twice, might I add] I couldn't get over her. She occupied my thoughts, my dreams, it's like she was taking over me. I'm happy with my boyfriend of 3 months, but she is STILL in my life. I just cannot get rid of her.

Love, in my opinion, is a pain in the ****ing ass.

swedeace · 03-12-2005, 12:19 PM

I've had two major crushes throughout my life (one in middle school 10+ years ago and the other last summer). Strong crushes are very powerful. If you've never had a major crush, then it would be difficult to describe in detail, but it just feels like the crushee has so much control just because of their existence that made you notice them.

One of the reasonable answers of not wanting to approach a crush would be because of fear of rejection. It's very understandable. But how would you know if you don't approach the person?

*Pleasant Tomorrow* · 03-12-2005, 12:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Kay Scarpetta

Love, in my opinion, is a pain in the ****ing ass.

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*Pleasant Tomorrow* · 03-12-2005, 12:42 PM

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Originally Posted by swedeace

But how would you know if you don't approach the person?

I really honestly don't even want a boyfriend. I'm not ready for that junk yet. And plus, like others have said...it's probably just a crush and you're wasting your time. That's why I hate being a teenager, all of the stuff you feel and think is most likely bull****.

Brian Damage · 03-12-2005, 12:51 PM

Love is when you can go through hell and back with that person. Love is when you can accept that person's flaws. Love is sticking with a person through thick and thin.

Crushes come and go, but love lasts a long time. (Most times forever) I don't think you can honestly know what love is until you go through that stuff. Teenagers need to date different people and just have a good time. There's no sense in rushing into anything with anybody.

The Chauffeur · 03-12-2005, 01:24 PM

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Originally Posted by *Pleasant Tomorrow*

I really honestly don't even want a boyfriend. I'm not ready for that junk yet. And plus, like others have said...it's probably just a crush and you're wasting your time. That's why I hate being a teenager, all of the stuff you feel and think is most likely bull****.

I'm glad to see your not rushing into love like a lot of teenagers. That is a good thing. I had a similar outlook when I was a teenager, it gave me a chance to see things from the outside looking in. That is when I believe you truly learn things about yourself and what you want in a person. I still dated ,mind you, but I kept it at an observing level. You have to be objective when dating , or it will break you down. People get caught up in a lot of pointless drama just because they want to force someone to be the their " ideal " person. That is a setup to failure. The best thing is to concentrate on yourself, someone will see and appreciate the person you've grown into, and want to be apart of that ( and vice versa, of course ) That is the beginnings of love, and of course what Brain Damage said is about right!

The Chauffeur · 03-12-2005, 01:32 PM

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03-11-2005, 10:36 PM	#1
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03-12-2005, 07:32 AM	#6
Belair Back@SO&Loveit! Forum Veteran Join Date: Dec 13, 2004 Location: New York City Posts: 5,925	I've had tons of "crushes" and thought I was in love with all of them and would die without them,but I soon discovered that its nothing more than a temporary infatuation,not true love.I look back on the boys who I got really upset about and thought I'd never get over,and now I just have to laugh,because they now seem so unimportant. But my biggest downfall is that I love being "in love" and I am too idealistic.If I 'like' someone I start imagining that they are the perfect human being who can no wrong,and I get a nasty awakening when I discover that they are only human and screw up like we all do. And,in my experience,having a crush that doesn't know you,know of your love for them,or doesn't like you can really break your heart.Trust me,I've been there.
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03-12-2005, 10:31 AM	#9
Kay Scarpetta Defy Gravity 8.26.05 Forum Superstar Join Date: Jul 04, 2001 Location: La Vie Boheme Posts: 28,013	I have only been in love once, and once only. I doubt I will ever feel the same way about anyone again. It was horrible... after she broke my heart [twice, might I add] I couldn't get over her. She occupied my thoughts, my dreams, it's like she was taking over me. I'm happy with my boyfriend of 3 months, but she is STILL in my life. I just cannot get rid of her. Love, in my opinion, is a pain in the ****ing ass.
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03-12-2005, 12:51 PM	#13
Brian Damage I'm Rich Bitch Forum Icon Join Date: Feb 03, 2002 Location: What Ain't No Country I Ever Heard Of...They Speak English in What? Posts: 63,107	Love is when you can go through hell and back with that person. Love is when you can accept that person's flaws. Love is sticking with a person through thick and thin. Crushes come and go, but love lasts a long time. (Most times forever) I don't think you can honestly know what love is until you go through that stuff. Teenagers need to date different people and just have a good time. There's no sense in rushing into anything with anybody.
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03-11-2005, 10:57 PM	#3
Pleasant Tomorrow Member Forum Addict Join Date: Feb 19, 2003 Location: New York Posts: 69,525	I'm too shy to make mistakes

03-12-2005, 12:14 AM	#4
Janet McFarland Member Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Mar 09, 2004 Posts: 4,344	Love is so confusing. It's like, with me, I just wish I could find a really guy friend, not a boyfriend but just a really good guy friend. But most guys I know are jerks so there goes that thought.

03-12-2005, 02:09 AM	#5
dawsongirl Member Forum Icon Join Date: Jan 04, 2001 Posts: 53,140	I feel your pain. I've been contemplating that for years, and actually right now. Do I just have a crush on Mr. X? Am I just in love with the whole concept of being in love and not in love with him? sigh Before I was like, oh, he's not my type and we'd make a horrible couple. But then I did something stupid and I was all afraid he'd never talk to me again and when I found out I was wrong about all that, I was thrilled. Man.... But yeah, I have a horrible fear of rejection and making myself look like an ass.

03-12-2005, 09:16 AM	#8
Lady T Member Forum Star Join Date: Apr 20, 2003 Posts: 17,361	Personally I do not like being in love..I do not handle relationships very well because I feel once I have feelings for someone that individual has a part of my heart and my soul. And having that person has such power over you (in an emotional way) scares the hell out of me and it still does and I am in my 30s. I have been in a lot of relationships over the years, and honestly, I like being single...

03-12-2005, 12:19 PM	#10
swedeace Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Sep 22, 2003 Posts: 9,009	I've had two major crushes throughout my life (one in middle school 10+ years ago and the other last summer). Strong crushes are very powerful. If you've never had a major crush, then it would be difficult to describe in detail, but it just feels like the crushee has so much control just because of their existence that made you notice them. One of the reasonable answers of not wanting to approach a crush would be because of fear of rejection. It's very understandable. But how would you know if you don't approach the person?

03-12-2005, 01:32 PM	#15
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