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Belair · 01-14-2005, 07:36 AM

Ok,there's this guy at work who i REALLLLLLLY like,i know i sound like a 13 year old school girl,but i'm infatuated with him.I'm currently going out with another guy who has tons of female friends who fancy him,and i get really jealous-and its tearing us apart,so if we break up,i'm willing to go out with this 30 year old guy.We get along great and i think we could have a good relationship,but i am kinda worried about the age gap.I dont want people to say he's robbing the cradle,etc.He says age is just a number,so its fine with him,but i thought i'd ask a second opinion.Could anyone give me some advice? Keep in mind that despite the 11 year age gap,we have the same interests,and we have heaps in common.What do you think? Anyone else experienced age differences in relationships?

theanswerman · 01-14-2005, 08:12 AM

the first time i read this, i thought it said "he is currently going out with another guy."

Michael [hXc] · 01-14-2005, 09:55 AM

do what you think is right

Seinatra · 01-14-2005, 10:36 AM

Does he know that you are currently seeing someone else? If so neither of you seem to think that should stand in your way so that is one thing you have in common. He sounds like a pervert, your not even 20 yet! Does he have a history of going for youger gals? You may just be the flavor of the month.

Mijada · 01-14-2005, 12:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Seinatra

He sounds like a pervert, your not even 20 yet! Does he have a history of going for youger gals? You may just be the flavor of the month.

Yep. I agree with this statement. It would be different if you were 30 and he was 40 because by then you would have more experience in relationships. Most 19 year old girls are impressionable and easy to manipulate and older guys are quick to take advantage of that. There are exceptions to every rule though. I guess going to a movie with him or something wouldn't hurt, just be careful and make sure he isn't just after one thing.

MandieR1980 · 01-14-2005, 01:36 PM

Yuck, I'm 24 and the oldest I'd go out with is 31.

*MIBabe03* · 01-14-2005, 01:37 PM

I'm also 19 and to me that is way too old. The oldest guy I would go out with would be like 25.

MissZero · 01-14-2005, 04:04 PM

hey, dont worry about what other people think. You need to find happiness in yourself not in everyone elses opinions. If he makes you happy then go ahead.

Superstar · 01-14-2005, 04:12 PM

Its up to you. If you really like this person and think it may have a chance, there is no harm in giving a relationship a try.

TheGreatPretender · 01-14-2005, 04:34 PM

Age doesn't matter. If you were younger it would be different. But as for this other guy you are going out with you should just break up with him now. What are you waiting around for if you are obviously not interested?

dawsongirl · 01-14-2005, 04:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Pretty in Purple

Ok,there's this guy at work who i REALLLLLLLY like,i know i sound like a 13 year old school girl,but i'm infatuated with him.I'm currently going out with another guy who has tons of female friends who fancy him,and i get really jealous-and its tearing us apart,so if we break up,i'm willing to go out with this 30 year old guy.We get along great and i think we could have a good relationship,but i am kinda worried about the age gap.I dont want people to say he's robbing the cradle,etc.He says age is just a number,so its fine with him,but i thought i'd ask a second opinion.Could anyone give me some advice? Keep in mind that despite the 11 year age gap,we have the same interests,and we have heaps in common.What do you think? Anyone else experienced age differences in relationships?

If you 2 like each other and don't mind, then no one else should care either. You're both adults.

Penny Lane · 01-14-2005, 04:51 PM

When my husband and I got married I was 18 he was 25. There was a little "generation gap" thing there. He was a 50's guy. I was a 60's girl. Well it worked out just fine after I convinced him that The Beatles were better than Elvis!

Actually that was about the only MAJOR difference that we had.

Anyway, I personally think that your age gap is way to large considering your young age. But as we all do, we do what we think is best. If you decide to date this guy, I wish you good luck and BE CAREFUL!

Kay Scarpetta · 01-14-2005, 04:59 PM

In my opinion, age doesn't mean a thing. If you really love him, you have to learn to ignore what people will say. Trust me, they will say something... people have a comment for everything. But follow your heart. Remember, you're the one dating him, not other people. Good luck

Hollow · 01-14-2005, 05:06 PM

it could work, you're both adults. i wouldn't date anymore more than 2 years older than me or so.

bandito · 01-14-2005, 06:12 PM

Go for it! You never know it might work out great.

01-14-2005, 07:36 AM	#1
Belair Back@SO&Loveit! Forum Veteran Join Date: Dec 13, 2004 Location: New York City Posts: 5,925	He's 30, I'm 19. Could it work? Ok,there's this guy at work who i REALLLLLLLY like,i know i sound like a 13 year old school girl,but i'm infatuated with him.I'm currently going out with another guy who has tons of female friends who fancy him,and i get really jealous-and its tearing us apart,so if we break up,i'm willing to go out with this 30 year old guy.We get along great and i think we could have a good relationship,but i am kinda worried about the age gap.I dont want people to say he's robbing the cradle,etc.He says age is just a number,so its fine with him,but i thought i'd ask a second opinion.Could anyone give me some advice? Keep in mind that despite the 11 year age gap,we have the same interests,and we have heaps in common.What do you think? Anyone else experienced age differences in relationships?
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01-14-2005, 08:12 AM	#2
theanswerman OMGWTFLOLZ Senior Member Join Date: Jun 04, 2003 Location: i lurve you! (israel) Posts: 2,636	the first time i read this, i thought it said "he is currently going out with another guy."
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01-14-2005, 09:55 AM	#3
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01-14-2005, 01:36 PM	#6
MandieR1980 Member Senior Member Join Date: Mar 03, 2001 Location: East Taunton, Massachusetts Posts: 2,635	Yuck, I'm 24 and the oldest I'd go out with is 31.
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01-14-2005, 01:37 PM	#7
MIBabe03 Loving Swingtown! Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 28, 2002 Location: TX Posts: 4,646	I'm also 19 and to me that is way too old. The oldest guy I would go out with would be like 25.
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01-14-2005, 10:36 AM	#4
Seinatra Member Senior Member Join Date: Aug 29, 2004 Location: Gran Chaco Posts: 1,840	Does he know that you are currently seeing someone else? If so neither of you seem to think that should stand in your way so that is one thing you have in common. He sounds like a pervert, your not even 20 yet! Does he have a history of going for youger gals? You may just be the flavor of the month.

01-14-2005, 04:04 PM	#8
MissZero serve it up baby Senior Member Join Date: Sep 12, 2004 Location: Pa (Blah) Posts: 1,901	hey, dont worry about what other people think. You need to find happiness in yourself not in everyone elses opinions. If he makes you happy then go ahead.
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01-14-2005, 04:12 PM	#9
Superstar Member Forum Icon Join Date: Dec 08, 2003 Posts: 63,316	Its up to you. If you really like this person and think it may have a chance, there is no harm in giving a relationship a try.

01-14-2005, 04:34 PM	#10
TheGreatPretender just because Forum Veteran Join Date: May 22, 2004 Location: Trying to think of a creative, witty location. Posts: 7,628	Age doesn't matter. If you were younger it would be different. But as for this other guy you are going out with you should just break up with him now. What are you waiting around for if you are obviously not interested?
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01-14-2005, 04:51 PM	#12
Penny Lane Butter Pie Forum Icon Join Date: Jul 03, 2001 Location: Beneath the blue suburban skies Posts: 51,263	When my husband and I got married I was 18 he was 25. There was a little "generation gap" thing there. He was a 50's guy. I was a 60's girl. Well it worked out just fine after I convinced him that The Beatles were better than Elvis! Actually that was about the only MAJOR difference that we had. Anyway, I personally think that your age gap is way to large considering your young age. But as we all do, we do what we think is best. If you decide to date this guy, I wish you good luck and BE CAREFUL!
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01-14-2005, 04:59 PM	#13
Kay Scarpetta Defy Gravity 8.26.05 Forum Superstar Join Date: Jul 04, 2001 Location: La Vie Boheme Posts: 28,013	In my opinion, age doesn't mean a thing. If you really love him, you have to learn to ignore what people will say. Trust me, they will say something... people have a comment for everything. But follow your heart. Remember, you're the one dating him, not other people. Good luck
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01-14-2005, 05:06 PM	#14
Hollow Member Forum Superstar Join Date: Dec 16, 2001 Posts: 30,406	it could work, you're both adults. i wouldn't date anymore more than 2 years older than me or so.

01-14-2005, 06:12 PM	#15
bandito Going Topless Forum Veteran Join Date: Sep 28, 2002 Location: The Steel City Posts: 6,320	Go for it! You never know it might work out great.
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