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Nanny Fine · 02-19-2004, 09:31 PM

This is for all you adults and single parents out there.

I get child support sporadically. Never any sort of schedule to rely on even though we need it to live. So in December I get a $100 payment with a letter from the state saying the "payer" now has his wages garnished and I thought GREAT he has a job! (We dont' speak, have not had anything to do with each other in 10 years - he has never made any contact with my daughter).

Then I get a letter in mid December telling me he's filing a petition to modify his child support because he's "sick" and can't work! I get a letter after that telling me I have a court hearing date February 19th and I need to show up with all this new information requested, they wanted my earnings, my expenses, etc for the month/year. In the meantime the amount of money he owes me is just wracking up and he's not paying it because he thinks since he has this petition on file he doesn't have to pay.

I had to take off work today, hire a lawyer and drive an hour to court...and guess what?

HE DID NOT SHOW UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So they tell me he claims he has severe anxiety and depression and all I can think is LIVE MY LIFE! Then they proceed to dismiss, yes dismiss his petition, the entire thing went in my favor! THe judge said he'd not ever had someone FILE a petition to modify an order and then not show up. HOw stupid is he? Well I know how stupid but geez. So they were sending him a letter, certified, today stating he has 14 days to pay the money he owes me from December through now or they will put him in jail. HA.

I live up to my obligations and responsilbities to my daughter. Why shouldn't he?

Justice will be served, as Toby says

That is my news of the day. The rest of my day was just normal

dawsongirl · 02-19-2004, 11:33 PM

<harshness alert>Perhaps it would be better for all if he just died.

And I'm not saying that just because he sounds like a lowlife. But I have a cousin that gets (or got...she's 18 now) money because her dad (who was a lowlife alcoholic) died. It might not apply here...but...

And no one yell at me like I think all alcoholics are lowlifes. I don't.

dawsongirl · 02-19-2004, 11:36 PM

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Originally posted by Nanny Fine
So they tell me he claims he has severe anxiety and depression

Yeah right.

Brian · 02-19-2004, 11:42 PM

I think it is selfish of him to do that. I say if you don't show, it's a no-go.

About the severe anxiety and depression, that kind of excuse would not wash with me and I'll tell you why. I have stated several times over the years that I am a high-functioning Autistic. If you don't understand what high-fuctioning means, think about a scale from 1-10, 1 being very Autistic to the point where you are withdrawn and very quiet and 10 where you are the opposite. I am at an 8. Even with my learning difference (I don't like to call it a disability) I will have obligations in life. In fact I have succeeded in many things despite my mental disorder so saying that I can't do something because I am Autistic would be no excuse.

I am Him · 02-19-2004, 11:47 PM

I believe the custodial parent should assume all financial responsibility to raise a child.

Of course the non custodial parent should contribute, but he/she should not be forced to by the government.

dawsongirl · 02-19-2004, 11:53 PM

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Originally posted by I am Him
Of course the non custodial parent should contribute, but he/she should not be forced to by the government.

If they don't do it voluntarily, who's going to force them? Yay Government!

robyrob · 02-19-2004, 11:55 PM

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Originally posted by I am Him
I believe the custodial parent should assume all financial responsibility to raise a child.

Of course the non custodial parent should contribute, but he/she should not be forced to by the government.

i take it you didnt grow up in a household where one parent didn't abandon his family ?

I am Him · 02-20-2004, 12:00 AM

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Originally posted by dawsongirl
If they don't do it voluntarily, who's going to force them? Yay Government!

Why should the government have the right to tell a parent how much to spend on their kids?

dawsongirl · 02-20-2004, 12:02 AM

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Originally posted by I am Him
Why should the government have the right to tell a parent how much to spend on their kids?

Because if they refuse to pay their children anything, and it's proven that the child could really use the money just to live, someone's got to force them to pay. I consider it child abuse if they care so little that they'd rather have their children live in a box than pay child support. Child abuse is illegal. Government again.

robyrob · 02-20-2004, 12:02 AM

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Originally posted by I am Him
Why should the government have the right to tell a parent how much to spend on their kids?

the government doesnt decide, a court of LAW decides - the government just makes laws to help enforce those decisions

PZelda · 02-20-2004, 12:07 AM

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Originally posted by dawsongirl
Because if they refuse to pay their children anything, and it's proven that the child could really use the money just to live, someone's got to force them to pay. I consider it child abuse if they care so little that they'd rather have their children live in a box than pay child support. Child abuse is illegal. Government again.

Hear, hear!

Jenya · 02-20-2004, 12:11 AM

I like what they do to deadbeat parents in Manitoba. If you continually don't pay child support, the courts can arrange to have your car and other property stripped away from you, and auctioned off. The money from the auction would go towards the other parent and child(ren).

I am Him · 02-20-2004, 12:37 AM

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Originally posted by dawsongirl
Because if they refuse to pay their children anything, and it's proven that the child could really use the money just to live, someone's got to force them to pay.

The parent that has full custody should assume the financial responsibility. If that parent is unable to provide then the child should be placed with someone that can.

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Originally posted by dawsongirl
I consider it child abuse if they care so little that they'd rather have their children live in a box than pay child support. Child abuse is illegal.

I consider it child abuse to take a child away from one parent to live exclusively with the other.

I am Him · 02-20-2004, 12:42 AM

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Originally posted by robyrob
the government doesnt decide, a court of LAW decides - the government just makes laws to help enforce those decisions

The courts are part of the government. Furthurmore, the government makes the laws. The courts make decisions based on the laws the legislature creates.

robyrob · 02-20-2004, 12:47 AM

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Originally posted by I am Him
The courts are part of the government. Furthurmore, the government makes the laws. The courts make decisions based on the laws the legislature creates.

oh, so we should change all the laws just to protect deadbeat parents that would rather be irresponsible and let children suffer because you think its unfair somehow?

02-19-2004, 09:31 PM	#1
Nanny Fine Justine and Holden.. Senior Member Join Date: Jan 01, 2003 Location: Watching The Ellen Degeneres Show and luvin' it Posts: 2,852	Child Support Court This is for all you adults and single parents out there. I get child support sporadically. Never any sort of schedule to rely on even though we need it to live. So in December I get a $100 payment with a letter from the state saying the "payer" now has his wages garnished and I thought GREAT he has a job! (We dont' speak, have not had anything to do with each other in 10 years - he has never made any contact with my daughter). Then I get a letter in mid December telling me he's filing a petition to modify his child support because he's "sick" and can't work! I get a letter after that telling me I have a court hearing date February 19th and I need to show up with all this new information requested, they wanted my earnings, my expenses, etc for the month/year. In the meantime the amount of money he owes me is just wracking up and he's not paying it because he thinks since he has this petition on file he doesn't have to pay. I had to take off work today, hire a lawyer and drive an hour to court...and guess what? HE DID NOT SHOW UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So they tell me he claims he has severe anxiety and depression and all I can think is LIVE MY LIFE! Then they proceed to dismiss, yes dismiss his petition, the entire thing went in my favor! THe judge said he'd not ever had someone FILE a petition to modify an order and then not show up. HOw stupid is he? Well I know how stupid but geez. So they were sending him a letter, certified, today stating he has 14 days to pay the money he owes me from December through now or they will put him in jail. HA. I live up to my obligations and responsilbities to my daughter. Why shouldn't he? Justice will be served, as Toby says That is my news of the day. The rest of my day was just normal
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02-19-2004, 11:33 PM	#2
dawsongirl Member Forum Icon Join Date: Jan 04, 2001 Posts: 53,140	<harshness alert>Perhaps it would be better for all if he just died. And I'm not saying that just because he sounds like a lowlife. But I have a cousin that gets (or got...she's 18 now) money because her dad (who was a lowlife alcoholic) died. It might not apply here...but... And no one yell at me like I think all alcoholics are lowlifes. I don't.

02-19-2004, 11:42 PM	#4
Brian Member Forum Celebrity Join Date: Jun 23, 2001 Posts: 20,451	I think it is selfish of him to do that. I say if you don't show, it's a no-go. About the severe anxiety and depression, that kind of excuse would not wash with me and I'll tell you why. I have stated several times over the years that I am a high-functioning Autistic. If you don't understand what high-fuctioning means, think about a scale from 1-10, 1 being very Autistic to the point where you are withdrawn and very quiet and 10 where you are the opposite. I am at an 8. Even with my learning difference (I don't like to call it a disability) I will have obligations in life. In fact I have succeeded in many things despite my mental disorder so saying that I can't do something because I am Autistic would be no excuse.

02-19-2004, 11:47 PM	#5
I am Him Six Senior Member Join Date: May 15, 2003 Posts: 1,529	I believe the custodial parent should assume all financial responsibility to raise a child. Of course the non custodial parent should contribute, but he/she should not be forced to by the government.

02-20-2004, 12:11 AM	#12
Jenya Supervisor Forum 3000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 20, 2003 Location: Canmore, Alberta Posts: 3,359	I like what they do to deadbeat parents in Manitoba. If you continually don't pay child support, the courts can arrange to have your car and other property stripped away from you, and auctioned off. The money from the auction would go towards the other parent and child(ren).