This is why I HATE this time of year....

[Brian Damage]

Originally Posted by swedeace

To the "lurking" LiveJournal user who sent me a message carrying out the attack further: Nice try trying to be anonymous. I didn't bother to read more than a couple of sentences. If you want to talk to me, send me a PM through here, not anonymously....

I'm no stalker, and if I was, you'd be the last person I'd want to read more about at another site, considering you vent your spleen here on a daily basis. You're the most emotionally needy member I've ever seen. I've seen you get impatient and even mad many times when members don't respond quickly enough to your sympathy requests....oops, I mean, advice requests.
You bet your single life that I'm a loving family man. I have a great job that I love, a gorgeous wife of 10 happy years, and two adorable little girls. I even have a dog and a white picket fence! Maybe you'll have it someday, MOANa. Maybe not. Maybe that guy who's going to see you next month will be Mr. Right.

Tip of the Day: Get off the computer, unless you want to stay single forever.
Tip #2: Sitcoms Online isn't your therapist's office.
Tip #3: Offer someone else some advice here, once in a while. Believe it or not, it's not all about you.

If you think I'm the only one who thought your post was ridiculous, think again.

[EmoJoe]

Originally Posted by safety pin

if you don't feel that everyone here is entitled to know about your life, that's up to you and there's nothing wrong with that. but if she wants to share her personal problems here, it's HER choice, and there ARE people here who listen to her. she's not causing harm to you or anyone else. if you don't like her threads then be mature about it and ignore them.

exactly. a lot of people use these boards to vent, and i dont see a problem with that. its not like your being forced to read her posts. there's also the Ignore List feature if you really cant stand her posts. just because your happy with your life right now doesnt mean everyone else has to be.

[KissMyGrits]

Originally Posted by Brian Damage

I'm no stalker, and if I was, you'd be the last person I'd want to read more about at another site, considering you vent your spleen here on a daily basis. You're the most emotionally needy member I've ever seen. I've seen you get impatient and even mad many times when members don't respond quickly enough to your sympathy requests....oops, I mean, advice requests.
You bet your single life that I'm a loving family man. I have a great job that I love, a gorgeous wife of 10 happy years, and two adorable little girls. I even have a dog and a white picket fence! Maybe you'll have it someday, MOANa. Maybe not. Maybe that guy who's going to see you next month will be Mr. Right.

Tip of the Day: Get off the computer, unless you want to stay single forever.
Tip #2: Sitcoms Online isn't your therapist's office.
Tip #3: Offer someone else some advice here, once in a while. Believe it or not, it's not all about you.

If you think I'm the only one who thought your post was ridiculous, think again.

Great points Brian!

[KissMyGrits]

Originally Posted by Muppet Joe®

exactly. a lot of people use these boards to vent, and i dont see a problem with that. its not like your being forced to read her posts. there's also the Ignore List feature if you really cant stand her posts. just because your happy with your life right now doesnt mean everyone else has to be.

Did you even read my post? Go back a reread it. Never said I was happy with my life, but if that's the way you read it then so be it....

[EmoJoe]

Originally Posted by HomeInAlabama

Did you even read my post? Go back a reread it. Never said I was happy with my life, but if that's the way you read it then so be it....

i wasnt responding to only you...i was just saying in general.

[Brian Damage]

Originally Posted by HomeInAlabama

Great points Brian!

Thank you!

No, not everybody's life is perfect. We all have problems, but she seems to take the cake with problems. What gets me, is she throws a fit when people don't respond to her when she see's fit.

[Hollow]

Originally Posted by HomeInAlabama

It's also my choice to resond in threads where I feel others that I can call friends are being attacked for stating their opinions.

She could have ignored Brian, but instead chose to respond in a hostile manner. She is entitled to express herself, just as I am entitled to express myself. If someone doesn't like me or what I have to write, then feel free to put me on ignore.

I can and will respond to any thread I want to. I will say it again, don't like my posts, put me on ignore and get over it already.

that wasn't the issue i was addressing. i agree that it is silly to get mad over people not responding to a post within an hour, but i was referring to the other part of your post.

[dawsongirl]

Originally Posted by safety pin

if you don't feel that everyone here is entitled to know about your life, that's up to you and there's nothing wrong with that. but if she wants to share her personal problems here, it's HER choice, and there ARE people here who listen to her. she's not causing harm to you or anyone else. if you don't like her threads then be mature about it and ignore them.

Exactly. And Mona has a right to defend herself if she feels someone's "opinion" is more a personal attack than an opinion. This board has been this way since day one...sorry if you can't handle it.

[dawsongirl]

Originally Posted by HomeInAlabama

She could have ignored Brian, but instead chose to respond in a hostile manner.

And his response couldn't be classified a tad hostile? To her it was. You can't tell her how to think.

[swedeace]

Good Lord....

Originally Posted by Brian Damage

Maybe you'll have it someday, MOANa.

That doesn't sound very mature to be name calling.

Tip of the Day: Get off the computer, unless you want to stay single forever.

If you have been paying attention much closer apart from my depressing posts, I am quite busy with two jobs and a social life. I haven't been much online apart from this past weekend. Again, this is a false assumption just solely paying attention to my depressing posts. I am not the only one who is depressed, if you read posts throughout the forum.

Tip #2: Sitcoms Online isn't your therapist's office.

That is just mean. I never said it was, nor did I make that a point. There are two departments where I post. Plus, others ask for advice, why can't I?

Tip #3: Offer someone else some advice here, once in a while. Believe it or not, it's not all about you.

Oh, I have given a lot of advice, believe it or not. You are just annoyed with my depression posts, so you focus on me as though I am depressed 24/7. Read my other threads, please. You will see otherwise. I do admit I am MORE depressed these days because I have the case of the winter blues. A lot of others have posted similar situations as well, but you just keep picking on me.

You have never given me advice, but at the same time, I have never asked it from you. I don't even really talk with you at all, so I don't know why you are attacking me.

If you think I'm the only one who thought your post was ridiculous, think again.

I never said you were the only one, nor did I never said anyone else would disagree. There are two sides to every story.

I think that the person who posted anonymously to me was handling this quite immaturely. In fact, I like for people to be honest. It's easy to hide behind a computer, so this person felt the need to send something anonymously instead of being honest about it. I didn't even read past the first two sentences because I knew it was just an immature behavior, so I just marked it as a spammed message and blocked the user.

Depression is a serious matter, and feeling safe, comfortable and trustworthy within an online community is certainly a therapeutic behavior. I am not saying I am totally depending on this forum, but I do find it relaxing to gain others' views and opinions from time-to-time is okay. I am not here all the time.

[swedeace]

Originally Posted by safety pin

that wasn't the issue i was addressing. i agree that it is silly to get mad over people not responding to a post within an hour, but i was referring to the other part of your post.

Yeah, I do admit that being impatient was rather a silly behavior. I would take it back if I could.

[dawsongirl]

Originally Posted by Brian Damage

I'm no stalker, and if I was, you'd be the last person I'd want to read more about at another site, considering you vent your spleen here on a daily basis. You're the most emotionally needy member I've ever seen. I've seen you get impatient and even mad many times when members don't respond quickly enough to your sympathy requests....oops, I mean, advice requests.
You bet your single life that I'm a loving family man. I have a great job that I love, a gorgeous wife of 10 happy years, and two adorable little girls. I even have a dog and a white picket fence! Maybe you'll have it someday, MOANa. Maybe not. Maybe that guy who's going to see you next month will be Mr. Right.

Tip of the Day: Get off the computer, unless you want to stay single forever.
Tip #2: Sitcoms Online isn't your therapist's office.
Tip #3: Offer someone else some advice here, once in a while. Believe it or not, it's not all about you.

If you think I'm the only one who thought your post was ridiculous, think again.

Dude, was name calling necessary? I mean, is this whole issue that big of a deal to you? I'm sure you have better things in your life than to even read this thread in the first place. Calm down. You're not going to change her.

[Janice]

I think everyone has had their say on this matter, so please stop. There was name calling on both sides, and I think enough blame to go around. Brian's initial remark was uncalled for, but not terrible enough to be called heartless, cold, a "so-called" family man, etc. Insinuating that Brian was stalking wasn't necessary either. He wouldn't do that. Mona reacted to Brian's remark, and he reacted in return. People defend themselves.

It's Christmas. Can the parties involved (and those who are not involved), just take a deep breath and stop the jabs.

[MrCleveland]

Originally Posted by swedeace

....I can't explain it, but I feel it. This is a serious thread....

Every year around this time of the year, I tend to feel super depressed. And, every year I anticipate trying to fight these feelings by keeping myself together and just keeping my mind occupied. This year, I have a part-time job, I had a birthday party, and I was (was?) dating this really nice guy. I just got home after I walked out on a new member social event this evening. I wasn't so happy and I felt left out. I don't know why. No one was purposely excluding me. Even the guy I dated was invited by me, but then it seems like he is talking in actual conversations with everyone else but me. I started to feel sad, jealous, hurt, and even sensitive. Therefore, I just finished my Blue Moon, grabbed my purse and walked out without saying goodbye to anyone. I JUST received a text from this guy saying, "You should talk more." Ugh! It's pissing me off and hurting my heart SO much.

I then started crying sooooo much on my drive back home. Suddenly, I started to feel like my self-esteem has just sunken to an all-time low. I just feel like my heart has been shattered into a million and one pieces. It hurts SO much! You don't understand how much.

But....I am still feeling super depressed and overly-sensitive. I TRIED to be happier and even more in the Christmas spirit, but then I am feeling easily sensitive. If someone ignores me, I am taking it WAY to heart. I easily don't do that, but it seems like these days I am doing that.

I need serious insight. I feel like there is just NO light at the end of my tunnel. I feel lonely and as though I will never find actual love. I am just.....lost in my ravine. My heart is aching SO much!

I suffer a little with depression everytime before Christmas, I'm a Charlie Brown in this world.

Watch "It's a Wonderful Life", it'll make you feel better.

[swedeace]

Originally Posted by MrCleveland

I suffer a little with depression everytime before Christmas, I'm a Charlie Brown in this world.

Watch "It's a Wonderful Life", it'll make you feel better.

Hehe...Thank you for the suggestion. A pick-me-up is always welcomed.