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TripperFan · 06-18-2007, 08:40 PM

Sounds like you were never pushed or encouraged enough. I have a brother like that. My parents took it almost too easy on him. Bailed him out of a lot of trouble. He just got muddled on drugs and booze and was there with my father until the day my dad died. He then lived with friends but had a lot of trouble with relationships. I've begged him in the past to get help - nothing to be ashamed of but he's too lazy to get off his a$$ even to help himself.

It has to come from you. Looks like you can identify your past mistakes. Now just find out WHY you did stuff like that and you can work through and deal with it so it's not repeated. You'll gain self respect and it snowballs from there.

platinumblondelife · 06-18-2007, 08:55 PM

I really do not think you are mentally slow, at least you do not seem like it here. I would take the prescriptions as long as you do not become hooked on antidepressants; this happened to my grandmother and my aunt. Making bad decisions does not mean you have a bad brain, everyone makes bad decisions. Some of the most successful people in the world have made terrible decisions, but they overcome it and didnt let those bad decisions define what they would become. There are countless people who are making bad decisions everyday. At least you recognize that you have made bad decisions, there are many people who wont even take the time to recognize it, and those are the ones who have a messed up head, not the ones who know that they have made bad decisions.

TVFactFan · 06-18-2007, 09:26 PM

I aways wondered if seeing a therapist was really the think to do when being depressed because they are getting PAID to see you so it's hard to really tell if they really care or just doing it for the money. I mean a pesron is really down in the dumps and now have to PAY to have someone hear what' going on.

TripperFan · 06-18-2007, 09:31 PM

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Originally Posted by TheAnalyzer

I aways wondered if seeing a therapist was really the think to do when being depressed because they are getting PAID to see you so it's hard to really tell if they really care or just doing it for the money. I mean a pesron is really down in the dumps and now have to PAY to have someone hear what' going on.

Well actually in therapy it's more a case of being taught how to work through your problems. At first they'll have you list the top five things that are really bothering you, then you prioritize them and work through each one by one. You identify them, and are coached through learning whether or not they're your fault, partial fault or what caused you to act that way. The drugs basically clear your head so you can concentrate better (depression kills that) and calm down emotionally. Then along with therapy by someone who does at least appear to give a crap (that DOES help

) you can figure it out. Frankly, I didn't really give a damn or not whether my therapist cared, just that I could feel comfortable telling him my darkest secrets and issues and him being able to connect with me.

dawsongirl · 06-18-2007, 10:04 PM

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Originally Posted by TheAnalyzer

I aways wondered if seeing a therapist was really the think to do when being depressed because they are getting PAID to see you so it's hard to really tell if they really care or just doing it for the money. I mean a pesron is really down in the dumps and now have to PAY to have someone hear what' going on.

Well, don't go to one that's only in it for the money. There are therapists/psychiatrists out there that do their job because they care to see people healthy.

I have a relative that's a very good doctor and much in demand. He can get a job anywhere, but for a very long time, he chose to stay at the county run hospital, making only half of what he's worth, because he wasn't in it for the money. They are out there.

My therapist is actually a licensed social worker working for the county, so she's not exactly rolling in the dough. And she listens to anything I tell her.

dawsongirl · 06-18-2007, 10:08 PM

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Originally Posted by isiahthomas

I used to do stupid stuff like give my brother's basketball cards away at school, throw away music albums, max out credit cards buying stuff i couldn't afford, pouring gas in a trash dumpster, pouring oil in a lawnmower when it didn't need oil. It never once crossed my mind when i was living with my grandparents that one day they were gonna die and i needed to be on my own. I just kept applying for low paying jobs expecting that my grandparents were always gonna be there for me when i lost a job so i would have a place to stay.

Let's be honest...haven't we all done dumb things like that? Gosh, I see at least one person everyday I go out that's doing something I think is just stupid, and these people look perfectly normal. And the maxing out your cards....oh, I bet you 1/8 of the US population has done that.

Don't be so hard on yourself. Making mistakes is how people learn.

isiahthomas · 06-19-2007, 05:27 PM

Well i don't think a job supervisor is gonna have sympathy for me when i apply for a good paying job and i tell the supervisor that i have a hard time figuring things out. You know what the supervisor is gonna tell me? I'm sorry sir but i'm gonna have to hire somebody who has experience and can do the job. I don't wanna get a check from the government to take care of myself because i know it's not gonna be enough money for me to take care of myself. I'd rather work than get a government check. I'm just so damn frustrated trying to get a good paying job. I can't even keep a damn job at Target and Walmart because i got fired from both of those jobs because my supervisors told me i was too slow stocking the shelves with merchandise. I applied for a job at Burger King before and i got interviewed but i never received a call to let me know if i got the job. The manager told me he had a job position for wiping off the trays and wiping off tables. I don't wanna do that because i know it doesn't pay enough and it's demeaning work. I thought he was gonna tell me he had a position for me helping to prepare the food or be a cashier. I never wanted to work at a fast food place but when your desperate for money, you apply for jobs you really don't want especially when you only have a high school education. If i don't get a better paying job soon, i'm gonna be very upset because not getting a better paying job is really starting to bother me and depress me. I want to move outta my parents house and be on my own so i don't have to deal with my father.

My father had a conversation with me last week asking me do i plan on working these 2 jobs i have now the rest of my life. I told him no. So then he asked me what am i gonna do because he said it seems to him that i'm content with the jobs i have. I told him i don't wanna go back to school because i never was a good student and i'm terrible at studying. I really need help bad and i don't know who i'm gonna turn to for help. I need some real money so i can take care of myself because the money i'm making now at both of my jobs isn't enough for me to take care of a car and be on my own. If my car was to break down right now, i'd be in trouble because i don't have any money to get it fixed. If my car got stolen, i wouldn't have any money to buy another car. This type of stuff really bothers me and this is why i know something is wrong with my brain because if nothing was wrong with my brain, i'd have a good paying job and a place of my own. I don't know how to fix a flat car tire. I got a car jack to fix a flat tire but i wouldn't know how to fix it even though my dad has shown me how to do it several times. I don't have a cellphone because i can't afford one and i need one just in case my car breaks down on the freeway so i can call triple A. Ya'll pray for me and i'll be praying because i don't think i'm gonna live long especially if i don't get a better job by next year. I wanna quit my 2nd job because it pays bullsh*t money and i'm tired of doing janitorial work. I want just one job. It would be nice for a change to come home and relax and watch tv after working just one job because i've worked 2 jobs most of my life.

isiahthomas · 06-19-2007, 05:32 PM

I meant to say that i don't make enough money to get my car fixed if it needed getting fixed instead of saying i don't have any money to get it fixed. One time my car wouldn't start when i was about to leave from my first job and i needed a battery because the battery i had was old. I didn't even have enough money to buy a battery. I was lucky my dad bought a battery for me. See this is the type of situation i'm talking about. My parents aren't gonna be around forever and i need to take care of situations like this when this stuff happens and i can't do it because of my financial situation.

06-18-2007, 08:40 PM	#31
TripperFan In God's Arms Now Forum Star Join Date: Sep 14, 2003 Location: Heartbreak Ridge Posts: 12,086	Sounds like you were never pushed or encouraged enough. I have a brother like that. My parents took it almost too easy on him. Bailed him out of a lot of trouble. He just got muddled on drugs and booze and was there with my father until the day my dad died. He then lived with friends but had a lot of trouble with relationships. I've begged him in the past to get help - nothing to be ashamed of but he's too lazy to get off his a$$ even to help himself. It has to come from you. Looks like you can identify your past mistakes. Now just find out WHY you did stuff like that and you can work through and deal with it so it's not repeated. You'll gain self respect and it snowballs from there.
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06-18-2007, 08:55 PM	#32
platinumblondelife smooches. Senior Member Join Date: Aug 14, 2005 Posts: 2,189	I really do not think you are mentally slow, at least you do not seem like it here. I would take the prescriptions as long as you do not become hooked on antidepressants; this happened to my grandmother and my aunt. Making bad decisions does not mean you have a bad brain, everyone makes bad decisions. Some of the most successful people in the world have made terrible decisions, but they overcome it and didnt let those bad decisions define what they would become. There are countless people who are making bad decisions everyday. At least you recognize that you have made bad decisions, there are many people who wont even take the time to recognize it, and those are the ones who have a messed up head, not the ones who know that they have made bad decisions.
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06-18-2007, 09:26 PM	#33
TVFactFan Member Forum Junkie Join Date: Aug 17, 2002 Posts: 99,119	I aways wondered if seeing a therapist was really the think to do when being depressed because they are getting PAID to see you so it's hard to really tell if they really care or just doing it for the money. I mean a pesron is really down in the dumps and now have to PAY to have someone hear what' going on.

06-19-2007, 05:27 PM	#37
isiahthomas Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Aug 20, 2002 Location: Cleveland, Ohio Posts: 10,704	Well i don't think a job supervisor is gonna have sympathy for me when i apply for a good paying job and i tell the supervisor that i have a hard time figuring things out. You know what the supervisor is gonna tell me? I'm sorry sir but i'm gonna have to hire somebody who has experience and can do the job. I don't wanna get a check from the government to take care of myself because i know it's not gonna be enough money for me to take care of myself. I'd rather work than get a government check. I'm just so damn frustrated trying to get a good paying job. I can't even keep a damn job at Target and Walmart because i got fired from both of those jobs because my supervisors told me i was too slow stocking the shelves with merchandise. I applied for a job at Burger King before and i got interviewed but i never received a call to let me know if i got the job. The manager told me he had a job position for wiping off the trays and wiping off tables. I don't wanna do that because i know it doesn't pay enough and it's demeaning work. I thought he was gonna tell me he had a position for me helping to prepare the food or be a cashier. I never wanted to work at a fast food place but when your desperate for money, you apply for jobs you really don't want especially when you only have a high school education. If i don't get a better paying job soon, i'm gonna be very upset because not getting a better paying job is really starting to bother me and depress me. I want to move outta my parents house and be on my own so i don't have to deal with my father. My father had a conversation with me last week asking me do i plan on working these 2 jobs i have now the rest of my life. I told him no. So then he asked me what am i gonna do because he said it seems to him that i'm content with the jobs i have. I told him i don't wanna go back to school because i never was a good student and i'm terrible at studying. I really need help bad and i don't know who i'm gonna turn to for help. I need some real money so i can take care of myself because the money i'm making now at both of my jobs isn't enough for me to take care of a car and be on my own. If my car was to break down right now, i'd be in trouble because i don't have any money to get it fixed. If my car got stolen, i wouldn't have any money to buy another car. This type of stuff really bothers me and this is why i know something is wrong with my brain because if nothing was wrong with my brain, i'd have a good paying job and a place of my own. I don't know how to fix a flat car tire. I got a car jack to fix a flat tire but i wouldn't know how to fix it even though my dad has shown me how to do it several times. I don't have a cellphone because i can't afford one and i need one just in case my car breaks down on the freeway so i can call triple A. Ya'll pray for me and i'll be praying because i don't think i'm gonna live long especially if i don't get a better job by next year. I wanna quit my 2nd job because it pays bullsh*t money and i'm tired of doing janitorial work. I want just one job. It would be nice for a change to come home and relax and watch tv after working just one job because i've worked 2 jobs most of my life.

06-19-2007, 05:32 PM	#38
isiahthomas Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Aug 20, 2002 Location: Cleveland, Ohio Posts: 10,704	I meant to say that i don't make enough money to get my car fixed if it needed getting fixed instead of saying i don't have any money to get it fixed. One time my car wouldn't start when i was about to leave from my first job and i needed a battery because the battery i had was old. I didn't even have enough money to buy a battery. I was lucky my dad bought a battery for me. See this is the type of situation i'm talking about. My parents aren't gonna be around forever and i need to take care of situations like this when this stuff happens and i can't do it because of my financial situation.