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Nighthawk76 · 05-29-2007, 11:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Jo_Luvs_Ketchup

Even though I feel what you said to Irene was extremely ignorant, I'm going to give you this advice because it can be beneficial.

About two years ago, I was put on an antidepressant. I wasn't interested in taking it because I didn't believe I was depressed, but my mom and doctor both said I was. So I took the pill and slowly with work, things seemed to get better for me. A few weeks ago, I ran out of this medication and forgot to tell my mom about it so she can call it in. This was on a Friday and for some reason, they were closed that Monday too. That weekend was the looongest weekend of my life. I felt very angry, tired, and I cried every 30 minutes, not to mention I had awful thoughts. It was terrible but it was also a turning point in my life. I realized maybe I do have a chemical imbalance and if I just stay on these meds, I will stay fine.

I know it's hard to think that a pill can't solve your problems, and you're right. You still have to do the work, but the pills can help. You just have to find the right one for you. Obviously, your doctor felt the need to put you on those meds and you refused to take them. You should give them another chance. You should also talk to someone about this racism. It is not healthy. I mean, quitting a job because of black people, come on.

I hope some of this helped you and you follow some of the advice we at SO gave you.

This is a very mature additude, Kelly. Many people never will admit to themselves that medication could be a big help to them.

dandelion wine · 05-29-2007, 11:45 PM

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Originally Posted by isiahthomas

I went to see a psychiatrist last year because i'm concerned about my life because i think i'm gonna eventually end up homeless and that scares me because when your homeless, nobody cares about you and the government damn sure doesn't care about homeless people because they think every homeless person has a mental problem, are drug addicts and alcoholics and that's not true. I believe some homeless people do wanna have a better life but they don't know what to do to make their lives better. The psychiatrist told me that he thinks i have a.d.d. which is attention deficit disorder. He gave me some pills to take but i didn't take them because i don't believe that pills can make my brain think better. I'm depressed all the time and i think about suicide sometimes. I even talked to a suicide hotline and that didn't really help. I don't wanna go back to school because i never was a good student. I didn't get d's and f's a lot but i did get mostly c's and b's. I think my high school teachers just passed me along because i never caused trouble in class and i always did my homework but i think i didn't deserve to graduate on time. I just don't know what to do. I'm not good at any job skill besides cleaning and i'm tired of doing cleaning work because it doesn't pay enough for me to live in a nice neighborhood and drive a nice car which is what i want. I don't have any kids and i'm single. What should i do?

Please take your medication, Isiah. While I don't have A.D.D. and can't speak from experience in that regard, I do know.. all too well, what it's like to live with depression and that you've gotta keep up with your medication and therapy. No matter how well you think you're doing, no matter how much you start to feel better once you're on them at first, don't just stop taking them. Coming from my own experiences, the medicine has definately helped.

A few months ago I wasn't doing well at all, to say the least, and it's been very hard.. it's been pretty damn scary, but after what happened with me (a few months ago), I realize now that suicide is absolutely not the answer. It feels like it is, but it isn't. Also, keeping to yourself and shutting others out, especially those who care about you and love you, is not the answer at all, either. Sometimes, we end up learning that the hard way. I know I did. I'm sorry that you're going through this. I really and truly hope that you give what everybody has said a lot of thought and consideration. If there's just one person in your life that you can talk to, don't ever hesitate to go to them. If you need someone to live with, talk to them about what's going on. It doesn't mean you're worthless or can't make it on your own. We all need a little help sometimes.

Zoneboy · 05-30-2007, 02:30 AM

Isiah, If you're not going to take the medication then may I suggest that you look into natural alternatives. I've been suffering from mild-moderate depression for years and I take St. Johns Wort for it. It's a safe natural alternative with no known side-effects. You can find it at any health food or drug store. It comes in several forms including pills, liquid etc.... I can tell you that I wouldn't be without it and that it has helped me tremendously but it's just like your medication, You have to take it everyday to see results.

St John's Wort has been used for years in many countries for the treatment of depression however a new but inconclusive study has shown that it might not be as effective for severe cases of depression. Natural alternatives are just like prescription meds in the fact that what's good for one person might not be for another. I would also suggest that you do your own research on St John's Wort and the meds your Dr. prescribed.

Zoneboy · 05-30-2007, 03:44 AM

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Originally Posted by isiahthomas

I'm not good at any job skill besides cleaning and i'm tired of doing cleaning work because it doesn't pay enough for me.

Are you working for someone else & if so, Have you ever considered starting your own cleaning service? I noticed that you live in Cleveland and with a city that big, There has to be a demand for your line of work. Cleaning contractors around here make good money, I know because I used to work for one myself.

TripperFan · 05-30-2007, 10:48 AM

I've "talked" to you many times on different threads and you are NOT stupid. I don't see any "lack of intelligence" one bit.

You may have other problems, but you are certainly not stupid at all. Please take the meds the doctor offered. They're not the kind that affect you like tranquilizers. They won't change your personality, they'll just settle the confusion in your mind so that you can focus on things. I think that's your problem. Believe me, I took Prozac for a couple of years and it, along with a good therapist and counselling made all the difference in the world.

From anything I've seen - you've got a really good head on your shoulders - you just need to find your way.

I think you're very astute - afterall, you clued in that Solomon is GAY!

Courtnee · 05-30-2007, 01:54 PM

it seems to me like you're making excuses for your life instead of at least being open minded to some of the advice given to you.

I learned the hard way that if you ever want your life to get better, you have to DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT and STOP WHINING.

Nighthawk76 · 05-30-2007, 06:46 PM

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Originally Posted by littleinsomniac

A few months ago I wasn't doing well at all, to say the least, and it's been very hard.. it's been pretty damn scary, but after what happened with me (a few months ago), I realize now that suicide is absolutely not the answer. It feels like it is, but it isn't.

I think I know what you are saying here, Kate, and I just would like to say how terrible I feel that you were feeling this depressed. I am very glad that you are still with us. You are a special person and this board (and world) would never be the same without you.

Elizabeth Smith · 05-30-2007, 09:26 PM

I haven't posted on here in for ever but I guess I'll put my two cents in....

First, I think that you should try to look into some type of trade school if you're not into the whole college thing. You could make really good money in a relatively short period of time. Electricans, plummers, roofers all do pretty well.

I was in a situation similar to yours and it really depressed me for bit. I moved out on my own but had to move back with my mom for a year at age 25! I managed to clean my credit up and buy a house but at the time I felt so badly I didn't even want to date because I felt that I had nothing to offer. Now I realize that it wasn't that bad and that life is made of highs and lows. I'm a 27 y/o black woman and I understand the whole racism thing but you have to work with all types of people in this world so you might want to learn to suck it up for your own sanity. Also I think that your comments about not wanting to work with all black people because they are ignorant is more of a class thing rather than a race thing. Once you get that job that you want you'll find that people(black, white, purple) have better attitudes when they have something good going on. Try prayer. Please look into trade schools or google your local airport or high end department store or freight line like CSX or your local freight line. I hope that this helps

dandelion wine · 05-31-2007, 03:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Blair's Number #1 Fan

I think I know what you are saying here, Kate, and I just would like to say how terrible I feel that you were feeling this depressed. I am very glad that you are still with us. You are a special person and this board (and world) would never be the same without you.

I really only mentioned that because Isiah, and everybody else out there who's ever thought about it or tried, who's been that depressed at some point in their lives, needs to know that they aren't alone.

Me, too. It's very kind of you to say that about me, Mike, and it means a lot. Thank you so much.

I am Roboto · 06-01-2007, 10:14 AM

If you don't want to take prescription medication then I'll add another vote for St. John's Wort. If you don't find it helps, you can always go off of it. The side effects are almost non-existant.

I'd recommend the Nature's Resource/Nature Made brand of products. With natural/herbal medicine, the brand repudability is very important because it's your only real way to know that you are actually getting what you are buying (and the correct amount). Nature Made/Nature's Resource has met the USP-DSVP certified criteria and was the first to do so. - www.uspverified.org

http://naturemade.com/ProductDatabas...?productid=156

Haha, I sound like a paid spokesman but I really am an advocate of these natural things. You may be surprised as to what they can do.

It should also be pointed out that taking pills/herbs/ect does not constitute 'failure' on your part - if that is in any way a barrier to your treatment.

coffield3 · 06-01-2007, 10:22 AM

But like geez arent like most people depressed these days?

isiahthomas · 06-18-2007, 07:50 PM

Thanks for the advice everybody. I'm gonna schedule a appointment again with a psychiatrist and i'm gonna go ahead and take the medication he gives me to see if it'll work. If it doesn't work, i wanna try another psychiatrist and see if i can get some tests run on my brain to see what's wrong with my brain and why i can't figure things out so i can get a good paying job. I wanna move outta my parents house so bad because my father gets on my nerves and i know he hates me and i hate him too. He had a talk with me this morning at 4:30am to talk about some stuff that i thought was stupid. He said to me that if he was a shrewd person, he'd put me outta his house. I don't know why he said that but he mentioned something else about the father's day card i gave him yesterday and i don't think he liked the card. I thought the card was funny. The card said that my dad shouldn't cut the grass, clean out the garage and wash his car because today is father's day. The card also said that if he won't do that stuff, i won't do it either. I guess he didn't like that because he likes to do those things and i guess he took offense to what the card said so he brought it to my attention this morning. I'm so sick of him threatening me talking about putting me outta his house. This isn't the first time he's threatened me about that. I didn't ask him to come get me from my grandparents house to move back in with him and my mom. That was his decision he made. I will be so glad when the day comes when i get me a good paying job so i can move outta my parents house because i'm tired of his sh*t.

What ya'll don't realize is that i have a serious brain problem. My brain is messed up and that's why i've never had a good paying job. I'm scared to apply for good paying jobs because i know i won't be able to keep a good paying job because i'll do something stupid or i won't figure something out so i can keep a job. Good paying jobs are a challenge and a supervisor isn't gonna tell me everything to do. If i can't do what my supervisor tells me, the supervisor is gonna hire somebody else who will do the job right. My dad thinks that i only wanna work low paying sh*tty jobs because that's all i can do and that's the truth. If i had the brains to get a good paying job, i would but i can't. I'm gonna wind up a homeless man and i'm gonna die at a young age. That's my reality. God forbid my parents die before me, i'm gonna be all alone on the streets which will lead to me killing myself because i'd rather die than live in a homeless shelter.

Ireneparalegal · 06-18-2007, 07:57 PM

Well, seeing a psychiatrist is a step in the right direction. When you do that, you can then work on the other issues in your life that seem to be a symptom of what is going on with you mentally. Good Luck.

TripperFan · 06-18-2007, 08:03 PM

So glad to hear you're making the appointment Isiah. And you're right, if you don't feel comfortable with the first shrink, then move on until you find one you can really talk to. They're out there - and there's medication out there to help you. You just need to meet it halfway and have as positive an attitude towards it as you can. Luckily you do live in a day and age where this is available to us and they don't use shock treatments like they used to.

Get to the root of your problems - whether it is something medically wrong or your problems or a combination of both.

WE can see that you're worth it. The important thing is for you to be able to. Your relationship with your father will improve. If things have been tense between you recently, then that's why he probably took offensive to the Father's Day card. Maybe approach him again, and just say you're sorry - that it really wasn't meant the way it came across - you meant to be funny. That's a start at mending things. It's just your both adults and there's a point where the kids do need to go.
There must be some sort of trade you would like that you could train for - many pay well and they're in demand again. Enjoying what you're doing is half the battle.

Hang in there Buddy and keep us posted on your progress.

isiahthomas · 06-18-2007, 08:25 PM

If i had a good paying job, i would've moved outta my parents house a long time ago. I hope my dad doesn't think i like living with him and my mom because i don't. I've made a lot of terrible decisions and done a lot of stupid things and that's why i know something is wrong with my brain because people with normal brains wouldn't do the stuff i've done. I used to do stupid stuff like give my brother's basketball cards away at school, throw away music albums, max out credit cards buying stuff i couldn't afford, pouring gas in a trash dumpster, pouring oil in a lawnmower when it didn't need oil. It never once crossed my mind when i was living with my grandparents that one day they were gonna die and i needed to be on my own. I just kept applying for low paying jobs expecting that my grandparents were always gonna be there for me when i lost a job so i would have a place to stay.

05-30-2007, 02:30 AM	#18
Zoneboy RIP, I'LL NEVER FORGET YOU :( Moderator Forum Superstar Join Date: Jul 13, 2003 Location: AT HOME WISHING ALL THIS WAS JUST A DREAM AND THAT I'LL WAKE UP FROM THIS NIGHTMARE. Posts: 34,454	Isiah, If you're not going to take the medication then may I suggest that you look into natural alternatives. I've been suffering from mild-moderate depression for years and I take St. Johns Wort for it. It's a safe natural alternative with no known side-effects. You can find it at any health food or drug store. It comes in several forms including pills, liquid etc.... I can tell you that I wouldn't be without it and that it has helped me tremendously but it's just like your medication, You have to take it everyday to see results. St John's Wort has been used for years in many countries for the treatment of depression however a new but inconclusive study has shown that it might not be as effective for severe cases of depression. Natural alternatives are just like prescription meds in the fact that what's good for one person might not be for another. I would also suggest that you do your own research on St John's Wort and the meds your Dr. prescribed.
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05-30-2007, 10:48 AM	#20
TripperFan In God's Arms Now Forum Star Join Date: Sep 14, 2003 Location: Heartbreak Ridge Posts: 12,086	I've "talked" to you many times on different threads and you are NOT stupid. I don't see any "lack of intelligence" one bit. You may have other problems, but you are certainly not stupid at all. Please take the meds the doctor offered. They're not the kind that affect you like tranquilizers. They won't change your personality, they'll just settle the confusion in your mind so that you can focus on things. I think that's your problem. Believe me, I took Prozac for a couple of years and it, along with a good therapist and counselling made all the difference in the world. From anything I've seen - you've got a really good head on your shoulders - you just need to find your way. I think you're very astute - afterall, you clued in that Solomon is GAY!
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05-30-2007, 01:54 PM	#21
Courtnee MAN VS SAMMICH. Forum Star Join Date: Mar 23, 2005 Location: Louisiana Posts: 16,413	it seems to me like you're making excuses for your life instead of at least being open minded to some of the advice given to you. I learned the hard way that if you ever want your life to get better, you have to DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT and STOP WHINING.
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06-01-2007, 10:14 AM	#25
I am Roboto wtfmate Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 17, 2003 Location: Virginia Posts: 4,224	If you don't want to take prescription medication then I'll add another vote for St. John's Wort. If you don't find it helps, you can always go off of it. The side effects are almost non-existant. I'd recommend the Nature's Resource/Nature Made brand of products. With natural/herbal medicine, the brand repudability is very important because it's your only real way to know that you are actually getting what you are buying (and the correct amount). Nature Made/Nature's Resource has met the USP-DSVP certified criteria and was the first to do so. - www.uspverified.org http://naturemade.com/ProductDatabas...?productid=156 Haha, I sound like a paid spokesman but I really am an advocate of these natural things. You may be surprised as to what they can do. It should also be pointed out that taking pills/herbs/ect does not constitute 'failure' on your part - if that is in any way a barrier to your treatment.
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06-18-2007, 07:57 PM	#28
Ireneparalegal LEGAL SPICE ;) Forum Legend Join Date: Jul 25, 2005 Location: OXNARD, CA - WHERE THE DALLAS COWBOYS TRAIN & PRACTICE Posts: 38,691	Well, seeing a psychiatrist is a step in the right direction. When you do that, you can then work on the other issues in your life that seem to be a symptom of what is going on with you mentally. Good Luck.
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05-30-2007, 09:26 PM	#23
Elizabeth Smith You talking to me??? Frequent Poster Join Date: Oct 23, 2003 Location: Philadelphia Posts: 208	I haven't posted on here in for ever but I guess I'll put my two cents in.... First, I think that you should try to look into some type of trade school if you're not into the whole college thing. You could make really good money in a relatively short period of time. Electricans, plummers, roofers all do pretty well. I was in a situation similar to yours and it really depressed me for bit. I moved out on my own but had to move back with my mom for a year at age 25! I managed to clean my credit up and buy a house but at the time I felt so badly I didn't even want to date because I felt that I had nothing to offer. Now I realize that it wasn't that bad and that life is made of highs and lows. I'm a 27 y/o black woman and I understand the whole racism thing but you have to work with all types of people in this world so you might want to learn to suck it up for your own sanity. Also I think that your comments about not wanting to work with all black people because they are ignorant is more of a class thing rather than a race thing. Once you get that job that you want you'll find that people(black, white, purple) have better attitudes when they have something good going on. Try prayer. Please look into trade schools or google your local airport or high end department store or freight line like CSX or your local freight line. I hope that this helps

06-01-2007, 10:22 AM	#26
coffield3 <3 Forum Veteran Join Date: Jul 23, 2006 Location: England Posts: 7,379	But like geez arent like most people depressed these days?

06-18-2007, 07:50 PM	#27
isiahthomas Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Aug 20, 2002 Location: Cleveland, Ohio Posts: 10,704	Thanks for the advice everybody. I'm gonna schedule a appointment again with a psychiatrist and i'm gonna go ahead and take the medication he gives me to see if it'll work. If it doesn't work, i wanna try another psychiatrist and see if i can get some tests run on my brain to see what's wrong with my brain and why i can't figure things out so i can get a good paying job. I wanna move outta my parents house so bad because my father gets on my nerves and i know he hates me and i hate him too. He had a talk with me this morning at 4:30am to talk about some stuff that i thought was stupid. He said to me that if he was a shrewd person, he'd put me outta his house. I don't know why he said that but he mentioned something else about the father's day card i gave him yesterday and i don't think he liked the card. I thought the card was funny. The card said that my dad shouldn't cut the grass, clean out the garage and wash his car because today is father's day. The card also said that if he won't do that stuff, i won't do it either. I guess he didn't like that because he likes to do those things and i guess he took offense to what the card said so he brought it to my attention this morning. I'm so sick of him threatening me talking about putting me outta his house. This isn't the first time he's threatened me about that. I didn't ask him to come get me from my grandparents house to move back in with him and my mom. That was his decision he made. I will be so glad when the day comes when i get me a good paying job so i can move outta my parents house because i'm tired of his sht. What ya'll don't realize is that i have a serious brain problem. My brain is messed up and that's why i've never had a good paying job. I'm scared to apply for good paying jobs because i know i won't be able to keep a good paying job because i'll do something stupid or i won't figure something out so i can keep a job. Good paying jobs are a challenge and a supervisor isn't gonna tell me everything to do. If i can't do what my supervisor tells me, the supervisor is gonna hire somebody else who will do the job right. My dad thinks that i only wanna work low paying shtty jobs because that's all i can do and that's the truth. If i had the brains to get a good paying job, i would but i can't. I'm gonna wind up a homeless man and i'm gonna die at a young age. That's my reality. God forbid my parents die before me, i'm gonna be all alone on the streets which will lead to me killing myself because i'd rather die than live in a homeless shelter.

06-18-2007, 08:03 PM	#29
TripperFan In God's Arms Now Forum Star Join Date: Sep 14, 2003 Location: Heartbreak Ridge Posts: 12,086	So glad to hear you're making the appointment Isiah. And you're right, if you don't feel comfortable with the first shrink, then move on until you find one you can really talk to. They're out there - and there's medication out there to help you. You just need to meet it halfway and have as positive an attitude towards it as you can. Luckily you do live in a day and age where this is available to us and they don't use shock treatments like they used to. Get to the root of your problems - whether it is something medically wrong or your problems or a combination of both. WE can see that you're worth it. The important thing is for you to be able to. Your relationship with your father will improve. If things have been tense between you recently, then that's why he probably took offensive to the Father's Day card. Maybe approach him again, and just say you're sorry - that it really wasn't meant the way it came across - you meant to be funny. That's a start at mending things. It's just your both adults and there's a point where the kids do need to go. There must be some sort of trade you would like that you could train for - many pay well and they're in demand again. Enjoying what you're doing is half the battle. Hang in there Buddy and keep us posted on your progress.

06-18-2007, 08:25 PM	#30
isiahthomas Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Aug 20, 2002 Location: Cleveland, Ohio Posts: 10,704	If i had a good paying job, i would've moved outta my parents house a long time ago. I hope my dad doesn't think i like living with him and my mom because i don't. I've made a lot of terrible decisions and done a lot of stupid things and that's why i know something is wrong with my brain because people with normal brains wouldn't do the stuff i've done. I used to do stupid stuff like give my brother's basketball cards away at school, throw away music albums, max out credit cards buying stuff i couldn't afford, pouring gas in a trash dumpster, pouring oil in a lawnmower when it didn't need oil. It never once crossed my mind when i was living with my grandparents that one day they were gonna die and i needed to be on my own. I just kept applying for low paying jobs expecting that my grandparents were always gonna be there for me when i lost a job so i would have a place to stay.