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LuLu Rogers · 05-10-2006, 11:49 AM

This has happened to me several times. I'll become best friends with someone, we'll be inseperable for years, then something comes up in our lives and we go our separate ways. I had a best friend from Preschool through the 8th grade and then we just grew apart. As you grow up, your interests change and your friends interests change, so what you used to have in common that made you so close is now gone. It's kind of sad. I really don't have a best friend right now, but I really wish I did.

swedeace · 05-10-2006, 01:00 PM

What about friendships in adulthood? It seems a bit easier - yet challenging - to maintain an adult friendship as far as a break/space goes. What do you all think?

AllIWantIsYourClutch · 05-10-2006, 01:59 PM

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Pretty much everyone I've been friends with at some point just sort of stops talking to me. It's like they grow tired of me. I don't know what I do, but apparently I annoy people. That and most people refuse to try and understand anxiety/depression.

I also seemed to have friended girls who thought they were better than me all of a sudden. This one girl I grew up with did that. She and I were inseperable when we were kids, but, I dunno, around JH I guess, she stopped acting like she even knew who I was. Popularity ruined her.

At my age, a bunch of them have gotten married or moved out of state, which is understandable, but an occasional email doesn't hurt. No one is that busy.

That is the story of my life. Seriously, everything you just said applies to me.

Tuesday Weld · 05-10-2006, 06:12 PM

I think this type of thing happens to everyone, unfortunately.

Nighthawk76 · 05-10-2006, 09:39 PM

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Originally Posted by musicrocksmyworld

I think this type of thing happens to everyone, unfortunately.

I think it does.

dawsongirl · 05-11-2006, 12:07 AM

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Originally Posted by AllIWantIsYourClutch

That is the story of my life. Seriously, everything you just said applies to me.

Doesn't exactly help our self esteem.

KissMyGrits · 05-11-2006, 11:03 AM

It happened to me back when I first got married. My best friend is a single girl for life. She does not want kids and is very happy being single. Well, I got married and had my son and we kind of drifted apart for awhile. Then about a year after he was born we reconnected and boy what a difference a year made. Now she is there for every major event in my life. She takes my son on the weekends and loves every minute of it.

We have been friends for most of my adult life and I am so glad we reconnected again!! She is taking me and my son to the Bahamas this summer for a week of fun in the sun! I can't wait and neither can my son!!

swedeace · 05-12-2006, 12:13 AM

I may be crazy, naive, or oblivious, but I still believe in the notion of "time heals all wounds." That phrase doesn't necessarily hold for arguments but more like "as time passes by." I dunno. It sounds silly, but even if people do grow apart/move on, they can still cosmically recur later in life in one form or another.

I just strongly believe in possibilities.

dawsongirl · 05-12-2006, 02:33 AM

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Originally Posted by swedeace

I may be crazy, naive, or oblivious, but I still believe in the notion of "time heals all wounds." That phrase doesn't necessarily hold for arguments but more like "as time passes by." I dunno. It sounds silly, but even if people do grow apart/move on, they can still cosmically recur later in life in one form or another.

I just strongly believe in possibilities.

There's nothing wrong with being optimistic.

I'm the kind of person who holds grudges forever and ever, so if you drifted away from me for lame reason, I'll probably never forgive you. Many of my HS friends are like that. I don't care to ever see those backstabber again.

Dude111 · 06-11-2026, 08:55 PM

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Originally Posted by swedeace

So, usually "growing apart" doesn't mean "the end?" Would you all say it's more sort of a "break" most of the time?

Yes if you really love someone and want to stay in thier lives,it can be a challenge..

Most people today dont have the willpower for anything hard like that so they just turn away which is sad... This world sucks pond water and alot of times things are very hard...

If you really want something,its good not to let go of it...

05-10-2006, 11:49 AM	#16
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KissMyGrits HEGM! Senior Member Join Date: Jul 01, 2004 Location: Las Vegas Baby! Posts: 2,135	It happened to me back when I first got married. My best friend is a single girl for life. She does not want kids and is very happy being single. Well, I got married and had my son and we kind of drifted apart for awhile. Then about a year after he was born we reconnected and boy what a difference a year made. Now she is there for every major event in my life. She takes my son on the weekends and loves every minute of it. We have been friends for most of my adult life and I am so glad we reconnected again!! She is taking me and my son to the Bahamas this summer for a week of fun in the sun! I can't wait and neither can my son!!
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05-10-2006, 01:00 PM	#17
swedeace Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Sep 22, 2003 Posts: 9,009	What about friendships in adulthood? It seems a bit easier - yet challenging - to maintain an adult friendship as far as a break/space goes. What do you all think?

05-12-2006, 12:13 AM	#23
swedeace Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Sep 22, 2003 Posts: 9,009	I may be crazy, naive, or oblivious, but I still believe in the notion of "time heals all wounds." That phrase doesn't necessarily hold for arguments but more like "as time passes by." I dunno. It sounds silly, but even if people do grow apart/move on, they can still cosmically recur later in life in one form or another. I just strongly believe in possibilities.