Should Alimony be outlawed? - Sitcoms Online Message Boards

Janice Johnson · 12-03-2023, 10:42 AM

Alimony is what is paid to an ex Spouse after Divorce. I honestly don't get why People have to financially suppor another Adult they are no longer legally or blood bonded too. I get having to financially support CHILDREN, but not an ex Spouse, especially if the reason for the divorce is because the ex spouse cheated. For example, a guy said something like,"My Friend didn't sign a Prenup and his ex wife cheated on him. He divorced her because of her cheating affair and he has to pay her $2,000 in Alimony every month." That pisses me off!

Why should the person who got cheated on have to pay Alimony?

In the case of cheating causing a divorce, the person who cheated should either get no Alimony money or have to be the one paying Alimony. People shouldn't get paid for being cheaters and people shouldn't have to pay people who cheated on them.

In another extreme case, a couple got divorced and the ex wife had to pay Alimony. She was always richer than her husband in the marriage and financially supported him throughout the marriage. I think they divorced because they mutually decided they didn't love each other anymore. Ex Husband won the Lottery and the Judge ruled that the ex Wife STILL needed to pay Alimony, despite the ex Husband now being RICHER than ex Wife....WHAT?

The ex wife understandably was pissed and is going to new courts to end the alimony. WHY would the judge still order her to pay Alimony to someone who won the Lottery?

She's POORER than him now.

Caroline13 · 12-03-2023, 01:39 PM

No, like MOST all in life, it all depends on finances between the people....Money walks and talks and is what is used to keep our lives going... There are parents living in shelters and streets with their children cause sperm donor skipped.... Think this all thru J J.

Janice, do you personally have experience in the alimony/spousal support world????

Do you have children to raise???

Babalu · 12-03-2023, 02:02 PM

Like most things in modern American life, the laws are gerrymandered to benefit woman and penalize men.

PaperClips · 12-03-2023, 02:15 PM

If you are having alimony issues you need to get a lawyer. Before people get married they should sign a Pre-Nup. If people don't take time to understand the legal implications of getting married - that is on them. If people make a dumb decision when they could just look up the law before they got married - that is on them. It's not that hard.

Dumbo Babalu - used to work in law. The laws by far benefit men.

Caroline13 · 12-03-2023, 02:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Babalu

Like most things in modern American life, the laws are gerrymandered to benefit woman and penalize men.

Oh good grief, the boys need to keep their zippers zipped up.
I'm going no further with this issue with YOU... Need another R.L. shirt??

Caroline13 · 12-03-2023, 02:53 PM

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Originally Posted by PaperClips

If you are having alimony issues you need to get a lawyer. Before people get married they should sign a Pre-Nup. If people don't take time to understand the legal implications of getting married - that is on them. If people make a dumb decision when they could just look up the law before they got married - that is on them. It's not that hard.

Dumbo Babalu - used to work in law. The laws by far benefit men.

Ohhhhh, my lawyer worked to protect a now single mother with a child from the marriage... there are So Many stories out there...again the Zippers...

Janice Johnson · 12-04-2023, 12:50 PM

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Originally Posted by PaperClips

If you are having alimony issues you need to get a lawyer. Before people get married they should sign a Pre-Nup. If people don't take time to understand the legal implications of getting married - that is on them. If people make a dumb decision when they could just look up the law before they got married - that is on them. It's not that hard.

Dumbo Babalu - used to work in law. The laws by far benefit men.

A lot of people before and when getting married only think short term and not long term. A WOMAN who ended up paying Alimony after her divorce said that she got advice to sign a Prenup before getting married, but she thought,"I owe a bunch of student loan money, I have a bunch of credit card debt and make $10 are hour. My Fiancee and I will be married until one of us dies. Prenups make zero sense for me." She didn't sign the Prenup . Lo and behold, she became a VERY wealthy Business during the marriage and she and her Husband divorced. She ended up having to pay him Alimony since she's now wealthy, ouch.

She advised people to ALWAYS sign a Prenup.

Caroline13 · 12-04-2023, 02:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Janice Johnson

A lot of people before and when getting married only think short term and not long term. A WOMAN who ended up paying Alimony after her divorce said that she got advice to sign a Prenup before getting married, but she thought,"I owe a bunch of student loan money, I have a bunch of credit card debt and make $10 are hour. My Fiancee and I will be married until one of us dies. Prenups make zero sense for me." She didn't sign the Prenup . Lo and behold, she became a VERY wealthy Business during the marriage and she and her Husband divorced. She ended up having to pay him Alimony since she's now wealthy, ouch.

She advised people to ALWAYS sign a Prenup.

I don't believe A LOT do prenups, those in high finances in their life may do this and probably do...the regular folks NOPE....I get the sense of a lot less marriages going on.

Yong Fang · 12-13-2023, 08:21 AM

There is a woman I graduated high school with who I connected on Facebook. I barely knew her if at all in school but she made herself responsible for keeping the rest of us informed about people in our class and reunions.

She is a bank Vice President who I am sure makes more than a $100,000 a year. She was married to a man who was a Memphis firefighter who probably made 40 percent of her salary. They seemed happy but they weren’t and she started divorce proceedings against him. I don’t think he was abusive (only met him once) but supposedly the “last straw” was her making so much money he wasn’t in public and that was that. He was also a “Facebook friend” who briefly married another woman which failed in under a year.

I think the subject of alimony came up and I asked him about thr arrangement between he and his ex-wife (who had no children, and she has no children and never will) and he said he had to pay her from part of his pension, or something. again she made probably over a 100k while he made probably 40k and they had no children and being married to him didnt ****** her career advancement.

12-03-2023, 10:42 AM	#1
Janice Johnson Commercial Lover Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: May 30, 2003 Location: Miami, Florida Posts: 4,740	Should Alimony be outlawed? Alimony is what is paid to an ex Spouse after Divorce. I honestly don't get why People have to financially suppor another Adult they are no longer legally or blood bonded too. I get having to financially support CHILDREN, but not an ex Spouse, especially if the reason for the divorce is because the ex spouse cheated. For example, a guy said something like,"My Friend didn't sign a Prenup and his ex wife cheated on him. He divorced her because of her cheating affair and he has to pay her $2,000 in Alimony every month." That pisses me off! Why should the person who got cheated on have to pay Alimony? In the case of cheating causing a divorce, the person who cheated should either get no Alimony money or have to be the one paying Alimony. People shouldn't get paid for being cheaters and people shouldn't have to pay people who cheated on them. In another extreme case, a couple got divorced and the ex wife had to pay Alimony. She was always richer than her husband in the marriage and financially supported him throughout the marriage. I think they divorced because they mutually decided they didn't love each other anymore. Ex Husband won the Lottery and the Judge ruled that the ex Wife STILL needed to pay Alimony, despite the ex Husband now being RICHER than ex Wife....WHAT? The ex wife understandably was pissed and is going to new courts to end the alimony. WHY would the judge still order her to pay Alimony to someone who won the Lottery? She's POORER than him now.

12-03-2023, 01:39 PM	#2
Caroline13 Member Forum Fanatic Join Date: Jan 30, 2021 Location: So Calif Posts: 14,483	No, like MOST all in life, it all depends on finances between the people....Money walks and talks and is what is used to keep our lives going... There are parents living in shelters and streets with their children cause sperm donor skipped.... Think this all thru J J. Janice, do you personally have experience in the alimony/spousal support world???? Do you have children to raise???
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12-03-2023, 02:02 PM	#3
Babalu Member Forum 4000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 22, 2014 Posts: 4,779	Like most things in modern American life, the laws are gerrymandered to benefit woman and penalize men.
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12-03-2023, 02:15 PM	#4
PaperClips Member Frequent Poster Join Date: Feb 09, 2021 Posts: 316	If you are having alimony issues you need to get a lawyer. Before people get married they should sign a Pre-Nup. If people don't take time to understand the legal implications of getting married - that is on them. If people make a dumb decision when they could just look up the law before they got married - that is on them. It's not that hard. Dumbo Babalu - used to work in law. The laws by far benefit men.

12-13-2023, 08:21 AM	#9
Yong Fang Member Forum 3000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 04, 2009 Location: Memphis Tennessee Posts: 3,073	There is a woman I graduated high school with who I connected on Facebook. I barely knew her if at all in school but she made herself responsible for keeping the rest of us informed about people in our class and reunions. She is a bank Vice President who I am sure makes more than a $100,000 a year. She was married to a man who was a Memphis firefighter who probably made 40 percent of her salary. They seemed happy but they weren’t and she started divorce proceedings against him. I don’t think he was abusive (only met him once) but supposedly the “last straw” was her making so much money he wasn’t in public and that was that. He was also a “Facebook friend” who briefly married another woman which failed in under a year. I think the subject of alimony came up and I asked him about thr arrangement between he and his ex-wife (who had no children, and she has no children and never will) and he said he had to pay her from part of his pension, or something. again she made probably over a 100k while he made probably 40k and they had no children and being married to him didnt ****** her career advancement.