lets say you meet a guy and you two fall madly in love... he's out of college and has a good job, you've been in college for about 2 1/2 years and have about 1 1/2 left to go... your parents say if you marry this guy, you have their blessings, but that you wlil have to pay for any and all college expenses that you have.. so when you get out of college you and this guy will have YOUR college debts AND his... he's became a civil engineering and your a teacher... you might not have a lot of money.. but your freakin happy. what would you do?



... discuss amongest yourselfs...

oh and you've dated for nearly 3 years

if i was happy then id marry him and just hope that everything would work out.

Manda.................... ?

I would go ahead and marry him!:)

I guess I'm selfish and lonely. I put my happiness above bills. I'd marry him too.

Marry him. I hate sap, but when you love someone, its all worth it in the end.

I'd marry him. As long as we're happy, I don't care too much about the money factor.

Whatever you know will make you happy. :)

I'm playing Devil's Advocate- why would your parents make you pay the rest of your way through college?

Answer that and I'll state my conclusion :p

buy a lotto ticket and hope you win

Originally posted by Miss Karly
I'm playing Devil's Advocate- why would your parents make you pay the rest of your way through college?

Answer that and I'll state my conclusion :p
cause they don't approve of you getting married before you graduate from college.. they want you to wait till afterwards so you'll be more financially stable

Money problems can cause a huge strain on a marriage, even on one that would be very happy otherwise. It is better to wait until both are financially secure. If it is true love, it'll wait.

Originally posted by JoJoJoJoJoJoJoJoJo
cause they don't approve of you getting married before you graduate from college.. they want you to wait till afterwards so you'll be more financially stable
Oh duh...... it's 12:15 a.m. I'm tired. :D

Anyway... okay. You two talk it through; you could do one of two things-

1] Get married now. But... keep in mind you'll have debts, and you might even start a family... which is money put on top of debts.

2] Wait until you graduate with your degree. That way you can be sure that you'll be a little more financially stable than you were if you went with choice 1.

I don't understand why getting married will make life more expensive for the two people, except for the college debt of course. Unless one or both are living with their parents, which doesn't seem likely at that age, then they would end up sharing expences like rent and food and all of that. They should actually be able to live less expensively, in some ways, because of being married. Oh, and, don't have any children for awhile yet.

Originally posted by Max Whittaker
Money problems can cause a huge strain on a marriage, even on one that would be very happy otherwise. It is better to wait until both are financially secure. If it is true love, it'll wait.

Yes. The couple has the rest of their lives to be married. I don't see why waiting another year and a half to marry would be a problem. Putting the wedding off is a small price to pay, in my book. Certainly a smaller price than having to fund the rest of college without parental support.

I'm one of these people who lets her head rule over her heart....... and I'd wait until I got out of college. If he's worth marrying, he can wait on me a year longer. Money problems break up a lot of marriages, especially new marriages.

I agree with Karly. Ya never know what unexpected expenses can occur on top of those college debts. Car repairs, rent, food, bills, taxes, an unexpected child.

Like someone said ealier, true love will wait. You've waited 3 years, why not 1 and a half more?

Just my 2 cents.

If it was me I would wait till I graduated college, then get a job, and then I would marry him.

Originally posted by JDS84
If it was me I would wait till I graduated college, then get a job, and then I would marry him.

Ditto.

I think you're too young to be making marriage plans.

Finish school first. It's hard enough getting through college and planning a career, but doing all that while trying to maintain a marriage?

When I was younger, I'd say marry, but now I say wait out the year and a half. It will fly by. You can still spend a lot of time together. It's not good entering a marriage in heavy debt.

I agree with others, wait until you finish college. Obviously you're both wanting to spend the rest of your lives with each other, so a year and a half wouldn't hurt. A year and a half is a lot less time than years of paying off college debts. Take advantage of the help you get from your parents while you still can.

I'd say wait until after college, besides the financial strain, you also would be focusing a lot of your time on getting through college instead of your marriage. If you've been together three years and its the real deal, he'll understand and wait.