I was at work today and in the back kitchen there's a bulletin board with all stuff on it. Somebody put up this quote that said "The more you complain the longer God let's you live". I thought about it for awhile and it STILL doesn't make sense to me. It had a name after it for whoever said it, but I can't remember the name. So, does anyone get it?

god let's those who are not happy with life live long so they can stay unhappy... i'm guessing....

If you complain then God will make you live with the stuff you complain about longer to punish you? Maybe.. i dunno.

Hmm, good guesses. But I'm thinking wouldn't God punish you by dying early. I just don't see how living longer could be a punishment. Well, i guess it all depends on how your life is.

If God thinks hes gonna make me live longer cause i'm unhappy then he is dead wrong. Cause I'm killing myself tonight. I'd rather be dead then live an unhappy life.

It means the longer you complain about the things in your life and how you hate the world, yadda, yadda, yadda. You will live a longer and more miserable life until you finally accept the world as it is. Hence, my problem.

Originally posted by T.a.T.u Gurl18
If God thinks hes gonna make me live longer cause i'm unhappy then he is dead wrong. Cause I'm killing myself tonight. I'd rather be dead then live an unhappy life.

If you ARE serious.... DON'T!! You have us here at the board. STAY ALIVE!:hug: :)

Maybe it means that acting on your environment instead of letting it act on you is a survival strategy. Maybe it doesn't. But it might be like, if you go to the doctor and report a pain, you might catch a disease early. Maybe I don't know what I'm talking about.

Also, even humorous references to killing oneself, as in a previous post, are a bit worrisome. I'm assuming it was a joke.

Originally posted by BrandonS
Also, even humorous references to killing oneself, as in a previous post, are a bit worrisome. I'm assuming it was a joke.


Yeah, but something like that you should NEVER assume it's a joke, just to be safe. If it IS a joke, it's not funny! :( But then again, I'd be glad she wasn't serious!

You're right of course. Was that a joke or are you feeling bad?

It was not a joke. I'm sick of hearing people say...

'Oh my life is so bad' You don't know what a bad life is until you have walked in my shoes.

So if i don't come back tomorrow you'll know i was not joking.

I have gotten to know you a little bit through your posts and I think that would be a loss to the world. Is your life situation so bad? Why don't you discuss it with us? This can be a good place for you to vent for even serious problems. We can all put our heads together and come up with some answers. Even if your situation is bad, a few years from now, your situation might be completely different.

Originally posted by T.a.T.u Gurl18
It was not a joke. I'm sick of hearing people say...

'Oh my life is so bad' You don't know what a bad life is until you have walked in my shoes.

So if i don't come back tomorrow you'll know i was not joking.

Please don't talk like that Dorothy. :(

Originally posted by BrandonS
I have gotten to know you a little bit through your posts and I think that would be a loss to the world. Is your life situation so bad? Why don't you discuss it with us? This can be a good place for you to vent for even serious problems. We can all put our heads together and come up with some answers. Even if your situation is bad, a few years from now, your situation might be completely different.

A loss to the world? I seriously doubt that. My problem is..I hide my real life behind lies. Here is my life story. So to all the people on here who think they have a bad life maybe we ought to switch places.

When i was 18 months old my real father died of cancer. My mom remarried this drunk assh*le (Who was hispanic) He would drink every night and beat on her, I'd lay in bed at night listning to them fighting and him smacking her around. Once he even put her in the hospitle. Every time she would leave him, a few weeks later she would crawl back to him. He even hit me and my sisters or he would make us stand with our hands up for 2 and 3 hours at a time. When i was 12 years old he moved us all to Texas and divorced my mom, leaving her with three children to take care of. My mom had to work 3 jobs to support us. And he started screwing my aunt. When i was 16 me and my mom had to live in a motel for a year and whenever we did get our own place we only stayed there for a month cause we couldn't pay our bills. So we had to go back to the motel. Then my oldest sister got married and pregnent and my middle sister was sent off to a foster home cause she thretened to kill us. After my sister had her baby her husband got deported and she ran off after him leaving her child with us (So he's not really my son. But i consider him mine cause i always take care of him. :blush: sorry i lied about that) And now my mom has full costody of him. We now live in a house that my mom is buying but it costs 50.000 and its getting hard for us to pay our bills because my mom does not make alot of money. Thats why i got a job, to help with the bills. But our water bill just came and it is 60$ and if we don't pay it in 4 days our water will be shut off. We don't even have cable enymore cause we couldn't afford it, Our computer is about ready to crash and we can't buy another one. Thats pretty much my life.


Who wants to live like that? I sure as hell don't. I'd rather die then live the way i have to.

Originally posted by T.a.T.u Gurl18
A loss to the world? I seriously doubt that. My problem is..I hide my real life behind lies. Here is my life story. So to all the people on here who think they have a bad life maybe we ought to switch places.

When i was 18 months old my real father died of cancer. My mom remarried this drunk assh*le (Who was hispanic) He would drink every night and beat on her, I'd lay in bed at night listning to them fighting and him smacking her around. Once he even put her in the hospitle. Every time she would leave him, a few weeks later she would crawl back to him. He even hit me and my sisters or he would make us stand with our hands up for 2 and 3 hours at a time. When i was 12 years old he moved us all to Texas and divorced my mom, leaving her with three children to take care of. My mom had to work 3 jobs to support us. And he started screwing my aunt. When i was 16 me and my mom had to live in a motel for a year and whenever we did get our own place we only stayed there for a month cause we couldn't pay our bills. So we had to go back to the motel. Then my oldest sister got married and pregnent and my middle sister was sent off to a foster home cause she thretened to kill us. After my sister had her baby her husband got deported and she ran off after him leaving her child with us (So he's not really my son. But i consider him mine cause i always take care of him. :blush: sorry i lied about that) And now my mom has full costody of him. We now live in a house that my mom is buying but it costs 50.000 and its getting hard for us to pay our bills because my mom does not make alot of money. Thats why i got a job, to help with the bills. But our water bill just came and it is 60$ and if we don't pay it in 4 days our water will be shut off. We don't even have cable enymore cause we couldn't afford it, Our computer is about ready to crash and we can't buy another one. Thats pretty much my life.


Who wants to live like that? I sure as hell don't. I'd rather die then live the way i have to.

I'm sorry. :( But look at it this way, your life can only get better. I know you'll go on to do great things with your life!

Originally posted by Ravey
I'm sorry. :( But look at it this way, your life can only get better. I know you'll go on to do great things with your life!

Your right. Life would be better if i die. I have nothing left to live for enyways. Life would be good if i could have the one thing i can't have. *looks at avatar* :crying:

First of all, I'd like to suggest that you not keep so much of this bottled up and rather tell us, your friends on the board. I am not very knowledgeable about the sources of help in your community, but I believe there are some.

Yes, it sounds like you got dealt a very difficult hand to play. But your problems seem to be mostly confined to your family, which means that people you can meet in the outside world, may behave much differently. I don't mean to say that your problem about the money isn't serious and unpleasant, but you have a lot of company, since many people have great difficulty with their bills. What I'm trying to say is that it isn't only you.

It sounds like you would be better off moving out, if possible and making your own friends. I think you're 18, aren't you? I know that's easier said than done, but it is a possibility.

Please don't do anything rash. The chances are that in five years, your life will be much better and it would be such a shame to harm yourself now, when something better may lie in your future.

Originally posted by T.a.T.u Gurl18
Your right. Life would be better if i die. I have nothing left to live for enyways. Life would be good if i could have the one thing i can't have. *looks at avatar* :crying:

That's not true! Life would not be better if you died! :( And you never know! You may get to meet Joyce some day!

Originally posted by T.a.T.u Gurl18
Your right. Life would be better if i die. I have nothing left to live for enyways. Life would be good if i could have the one thing i can't have. *looks at avatar* :crying:
Dorothy, there are billions of people in the world besides Joyce, and I am positive there are some who would love you if they got to know you.

Originally posted by BrandonS
First of all, I'd like to suggest that you not keep so much of this bottled up and rather tell us, your friends on the board. I am not very knowledgeable about the sources of help in your community, but I believe there are some.

Yes, it sounds like you got dealt a very difficult hand to play. But your problems seem to be mostly confined to your family, which means that people you can meet in the outside world, may behave much differently. I don't mean to say that your problem about the money isn't serious and unpleasant, but you have a lot of company, since many people have great difficulty with their bills. What I'm trying to say is that it isn't only you.

It sounds like you would be better off moving out, if possible and making your own friends. I think you're 18, aren't you? I know that's easier said than done, but it is a possibility.

Please don't do anything rash. The chances are that in five years, your life will be much better and it would be such a shame to harm yourself now, when something better may lie in your future.

I can't move out. If i did my mom would never be able to handle the bills by herself. I don't know what i'm going to do just yet.


And i know there are billions of people out there besides Joyce but, i don't want enyone else. She is the only one i want.

I just don't know what i'll do....

Originally posted by T.a.T.u Gurl18
I just don't know what i'll do....
You'll talk to us about it either in threads or in PMs. I know, also, that there are suicide prevention hotlines. Someone on one of those hotlines is probably much more knowledgeable about solutions than I am. Sooner or later, though, you have to get yourself away from that environment, even if you continue to help Mom.

Dorothy, don't you DARE kill yourself.

Think about this... the funeral costs will only put your mom further behind, it will cause your mom more psychological damage than she already has suffered through, and you're doing a WONDERFUL thing by getting a job to help your mom with the bills. You are helping your mom, your 'son' and us a lot better by staying alive than by killing yourself.

You always have us to talk to. Don't be afraid to ask for help. Ever. :bighug:

From the fact that I see you posting elsewhere, I hope it means you feel a little more upbeat, and that you know that you can always talk to us about problems. PM me any time you like, and we'll talk.

Brandon

Originally posted by Rockapella722
Dorothy, don't you DARE kill yourself.

Think about this... the funeral costs will only put your mom further behind, it will cause your mom more psychological damage than she already has suffered through, and you're doing a WONDERFUL thing by getting a job to help your mom with the bills. You are helping your mom, your 'son' and us a lot better by staying alive than by killing yourself.

You always have us to talk to. Don't be afraid to ask for help. Ever. :bighug:

That's right. People need you. Your family needs you. And not only do they need you, they want to have you around. From what I can tell on the boards, you seem to be a wonderful person. A funny, nice, friendly, caring person and there are a lot of people out there who appreciate that.

Dorothy, you know I love ya. Don't kill yourself. I know it's hard for you probably harder than my life and also because basically the world of death could possibly just be as bad. Why do you think I'm still here? That and the fact that you've talked me out of it so many times. At least, Joyce is still alive for you. My sweetheart isn't. :( Except for her spirit and I believe in that. ;)

I don't wanna lose you either. I care too much about you to lose you. Besides, who else would I talk about Liz with? :(

Who needs you? I NEED YOU!:crying:

yeah....life sux. but i just HATE cliffhangers, so i'm gonna stick around to see what happens.

and dorothy, my mom is making great money by being a bartender. the weekly check sucks, but tips are great. on a good night, she makes over $200.... But she's just a bartender, my sister used to strip, and made more, but i think bartending is easier and you still get good money... maybe ur mom could look for a bartending job, and if she already has one, it can't be a good bar... ~~ she works hard for the money, but it's good money and we get all that we need + the normal wants like computer with internet and cable (lol. actually, the cable is free. they accidentally turned it on to our house and forgot to turn in off, and they never send bills). i earn my own money from babysitting for other stuff like dvds and cds, though... and we used to be poor (living in a nasty trailer with ugly cloths and little to eat) so i'll now break into song (i can't on the computer, so just picture me singing to you 'you are not alone' by michael jackson:) ) and living in a motel couldn't be all too bad, as long as you don't go hungry.... i think it would be cool. free swimming pool! woohoo!

I think it means,



"u stay here to a point. until u live life to the fullest. until u live up to what u can be. until u have done what u came to live to do. until u r gtatful for ur life. until u respect god. ------ and if u whine and dont live life to the fullest then shame on u"

I think that is what it means. I think that all of you should respect life, and live it to the fullest. And if u do feal loney and unloved. Just remember, there is someone up there, that cares about u.

BTW, that was very well said, Littleputz114.

Originally posted by TheHappyBurgerMeister
I was at work today and in the back kitchen there's a bulletin board with all stuff on it. Somebody put up this quote that said "The more you complain the longer God let's you live". I thought about it for awhile and it STILL doesn't make sense to me. It had a name after it for whoever said it, but I can't remember the name. So, does anyone get it?

But I think it means that God doesn't want people who constantly complain with him in heaven. I guess not even God would want to put up with that! :D

......

dorothy, please dont do this! i need you, madlyn needs you, holly needs you, your family and friends need you! please dorothy! get help somewhere. go talk to someone about this, work it out please dorothy! i love you, you are one of the best people ever! i cant imagine this board or this world without you...please...

Originally posted by T.a.T.u Gurl18
If God thinks hes gonna make me live longer cause i'm unhappy then he is dead wrong. Cause I'm killing myself tonight. I'd rather be dead then live an unhappy life.

If you are serious-don't. You will always have us here at the boards. If you ever need som,eone to talk to feel free to PM me any time. You should never feel like no one loves you, because someone will always love you, your family, friends- nand us here at the boards. So please- don't kill yourself :(

Originally posted by T.a.T.u Gurl18
It was not a joke. I'm sick of hearing people say...

'Oh my life is so bad' You don't know what a bad life is until you have walked in my shoes.

So if i don't come back tomorrow you'll know i was not joking.

:( In a few years, your life could be great, right now your probably just goiing through a rough time, would you want to ahrm yourself when you don't know what the futre holds? And of course because we all here at SO would miss you terribly :(

Originally posted by pandora_spocks
Dorothy, you know I love ya. Don't kill yourself. I know it's hard for you probably harder than my life and also because basically the world of death could possibly just be as bad. Why do you think I'm still here? That and the fact that you've talked me out of it so many times. At least, Joyce is still alive for you. My sweetheart isn't. :( Except for her spirit and I believe in that. ;)

I don't wanna lose you either. I care too much about you to lose you. Besides, who else would I talk about Liz with? :(

Who needs you? I NEED YOU!:crying:

Yes, and i need you to Holly. I was just really down last night. I felt like no one needed me, But i can now see that alot of people care and need me. I had a long talk with my mom and she promised me that things would get better and i believe her. As for killing myself...That was a stupid thing to say. I almost did it to
but then my mom's face flashed into my head and knowing that i would never see her again brought tears to my eyes. I love my mother more then life itself and her life is hard enough. So why should i make it eny harder? The point is I'm alive, I'm thankful for my mother and God and all of my friends here at SO. I love you guys and Thanks once again. :)

Yes, I'm lucky my sweetheart is still alive. If i was God i'd bring Liz back to life just for you Holly. ;) And i'd make her fall in love with you.

Originally posted by T.a.T.u Gurl18
Yes, and i need you to Holly. I was just really down last night. I felt like no one needed me, But i can now see that alot of people care and need me. I had a long talk with my mom and she promised me that things would get better and i believe her. As for killing myself...That was a stupid thing to say. I almost did it to
but then my mom's face flashed into my head and knowing that i would never see her again brought tears to my eyes. I love my mother more then life itself and her life is hard enough. So why should i make it eny harder? The point is I'm alive, I'm thankful for my mother and God and all of my friends here at SO. I love you guys and Thanks once again. :)

Yes, I'm lucky my sweetheart is still alive. If i was God i'd bring Liz back to life just for you Holly. ;) And i'd make her fall in love with you.

oh god, dorothy. i was thinking about you ALL DAY today praying for you and hoping you would change your mind. i'll always love ya dorothy! ;) thank you for staying. :bighug:

Originally posted by OLdsk00L87
oh god, dorothy. i was thinking about you ALL DAY today praying for you and hoping you would change your mind. i'll always love ya dorothy! ;) thank you for staying. :bighug:

Your welcome. :)

Originally posted by T.a.T.u Gurl18
Your welcome. :)

I was worried about you Dorothy! Im glad u came to your senses. :bighug: :)

Originally posted by MaRtInA_GuRL
I was worried about you Dorothy! Im glad u came to your senses. :bighug: :)

I'm glad i came to my senses to. ;)

Originally posted by T.a.T.u Gurl18
I'm glad i came to my senses to. ;)

We all are

Originally posted by T.a.T.u Gurl18
Yes, and i need you to Holly. I was just really down last night. I felt like no one needed me, But i can now see that alot of people care and need me. I had a long talk with my mom and she promised me that things would get better and i believe her. As for killing myself...That was a stupid thing to say. I almost did it to
but then my mom's face flashed into my head and knowing that i would never see her again brought tears to my eyes. I love my mother more then life itself and her life is hard enough. So why should i make it eny harder? The point is I'm alive, I'm thankful for my mother and God and all of my friends here at SO. I love you guys and Thanks once again. :)

Yes, I'm lucky my sweetheart is still alive. If i was God i'd bring Liz back to life just for you Holly. ;) And i'd make her fall in love with you.


I'm feel so glad that you're feeling a lot better! So, maybe us telling you to stay alive and things will get better DID work work after all! That makes me feel really good. That's good you had a long talk with your mom, talking is always good!:)