They say that there's someone for someone, but I'm in my 30's and about to reach the mid-30's. It seems that there is no one for me. No one to pass my name on, no one to be around with, I'm meant to be miserable until Cleveland wins a Championship.

I might as well have an imaginary girlfriend...I even made a parody about it from BNL's "Alternative Girlfriend"...

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It's called "Invisible Girlfriend"...

1-She plays drums in her Rock Band,
Works at the second-hand...store.
Her Parents are Italian-American.
She likes the Blue-collars,
Just like her own father.
I make ends meet all the best I can.
We're not getting young, we keep on getting old...
My love-life still on hold, so I have a solution.

Chorus-I have an Invisible Girlfriend.
I love her, though I'm playing pretend!
Asexuality is the higher order.

2-Tonight I made dinner for two,
It's Bolognese Ragu.
Looks like it's more pasta for me!
My life is such a bore,
Unlike my friends...I can't score.
I'll just get married in my dreams!
Too old to be young, too young to be old...
This towel's been thrown down like Issac Newton!

Chorus-So I have an Invisible Girlfriend.
I love her, though I'm playing pretend!
Asexuality is the higher order.

Bridge-She live in the 'burb of Garfield Heights,
She called me to see her tonight.
She has a U-haul and she can drive stick.
Now we can leave town lickety-split!

Chorus-So I have an Invisible Girlfriend.
I love her, though I'm playing pretend!
Asexuality is the higher order.

Am I doing something wrong?

I like being alone......... The world has become so messed up,i want nothing to do really with the programmed robots of today!!

They say that there's someone for someone, but I'm in my 30's and about to reach the mid-30's. It seems that there is no one for me. No one to pass my name on, no one to be around with, I'm meant to be miserable until Cleveland wins a Championship.


I know how difficult and frustrating it can be (I'm almost 38 and I'm still single) but you're too young to be giving up on love. I know of at least 2 guys who didn't find love until they were in their 50's. You'll be a lot more likely to find love if you don't give up.

I know how difficult and frustrating it can be (I'm almost 38 and I'm still single) but you're too young to be giving up on love. I know of at least 2 guys who didn't find love until they were in their 50's. You'll be a lot more likely to find love if you don't give up.

I tried the don't look for it, it will find you for years...it doesn't work!

I tried dating sites...they really don't work!

I even tried praying...that doesn't work either!

There is NO MsCleveland for me! God just wants me to be alone and miserable...I'm thinking of moving-out of my city...I've lost hope with this city as well as love!

It's like Dude111 said. Programmed Robots. Society has programmed many people on the hunt for their so called quote-unquote perfect mate,to spot success and good looks. This is all many people care about anymore in America. And guess what? They are now being taught this same rule all over the world. Society is not as giving to someone who does not posses good looks and sometimes even money. I know loneliness feel horrible and even hurts when you see a beautiful couple enjoying their lives together. Or even when you just spot a good looking girl you wish you could date, who will most times just blow you off, and sometimes not even look at you.

And then there's Craigslist where you see an ad placed by another lonely person saying. "I am single and tired of the games. I am looking for a LTR (long term relationship) I am a real person and all I want is another real person to spend my life with. We can start out as friends and see where it goes from there"

Then you send your pic and a short story about yourself, and either they don't get back to you, or they turn out to be, many times, the exact person they said they wanted to avoid lol.

I date but I am alone sometimes too and I like it. Especially when I see the games people play with eachother, it makes me all the more content with loneliness.

Here! Check this video out.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zc8vH1lQ8N8

I tried the don't look for it, it will find you for years...it doesn't work!

Worked for me, I pretty much had it in my mind I would never marry, and pretty much stopped going out on dates, then I met her. Now it's been 20 years of marriage and a daughter.

But I know people who have gotten married for the first time in their 40s and older.

Best advice I can give: You attract what you project.

You know I'm not big on getting married and having kids. Too much responsibility etc. But congrats to those on here who are married. I'm 33 and I'm pretty much alone. I understand the robots part. Believe me there are times where I want to be alone, you know? Whether it be sports or wrestling or whatever. I dont want somebody to clingy. Although I would like to have somebody especially on all those romantic days like Valentines Day or New Year's Eve etc. I mean there has to be women who just want to date and not worry about getting married?? Right??

Being married doesn't mean you do every single thing together 24/7. My wife and I have our own interests, hobbies, etc There's lots of movies we watch together, and there's lots of movies we watch separately because we don't like all of the same films. Same with TV shows.

I actually love being single. And I do not think anyone should feel ashamed because they are not married or in a relationship. You can be involved with someone and still be miserable and feel lonely. I know my future husband is out there, and one of these days we will meet, but meanwhile I have having fun and enjoying life :)

And that's the best attitude to have, if you're miserable alone, being with someone isn't a guarantee you won't still be miserable. And like I said above you attract what you project :)

Your right. I'd rather be single then be with somebody and be miserable. I mean isnt the point of trying to find somebody was that you dont want to be miserable?

As I mentioned I know my future spouse is out there. I do have a positive attitude, life is too short to be cynical and pessimistic

Exactly.

I actually love being single. And I do not think anyone should feel ashamed because they are not married or in a relationship. You can be involved with someone and still be miserable and feel lonely. I know my future husband is out there, and one of these days we will meet, but meanwhile I have having fun and enjoying life :)

This is probably the most intelligent paragraph that I have ever read on this site. There is so much ridiculous pressure to "couple" in our society, like you are somehow lacking if you are on your own. We make people feel like there is something wrong with them if they haven't found "the one". What a joke...

I'm married, but I enjoyed being single. Dating was fun! It was an adventure, and even a horrible date became funny when I described it to my girlfriends. I liked having time to myself and the lack of alone time is one of my few complaints about my marriage. I wish more people would value their successes (fulfilling careers and friendships) and backburner relationships.

I do want to pass my name on and get married since I see most of my friends married.

But I'm afraid that my name will be buried alongside with my body. I can't see my brother passing on the name...I'm afraid it'll be dead when I'm dead!
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I may just admit it that I should date disabled people since I am disabled myself (I have PDD-NOS).

I'm done with friendships and relationships. I'm tired of encountering fake and phony people. Nowadays that's how most people are. Fake, phony, and into themselves.

There is no such thing as love. When someone says I love you, what they really mean is they love themselves, and they like something that they get from you. When that something is no longer provided, you can kiss that person goodbye, they are gone.

I've said this here before, and I'll say it again: "There are so many phony people in this world who will pretend to be your friend, and then abandon you." These words are 100 percent true, and will be my gospel from now on.

There isn't someone for everyone that is the reality. However, most people will marry. The problem becomes that as you get older you either have to settle or be alone. My story is that I refuse to settle and am fine being alone. However, I have a weird situation now where I'm interested in a male friend but right now he's a mess in the throes of dealing with addiction. He may never get out of it or will and not want to date. So I'm open to other people but only on my terms. For example, when I did online I talked to quite a few guys who lived far away. I told them that if they wanted to meet me they'd have to travel, not me. Why? because many years ago I did a LDR and no interest anymore. I figure if I can't find someone near me (I live about 1/2 hour from Chicago)then it's me. Not interested in traveling and being stuck spending a weekend with a guy I don't know. What if he's a murderer or rapist? So no traveling for me.

There isn't someone for everyone that is the reality. However, most people will marry. The problem becomes that as you get older you either have to settle or be alone. My story is that I refuse to settle and am fine being alone. However, I have a weird situation now where I'm interested in a male friend but right now he's a mess in the throes of dealing with addiction. He may never get out of it or will and not want to date. So I'm open to other people but only on my terms. For example, when I did online I talked to quite a few guys who lived far away. I told them that if they wanted to meet me they'd have to travel, not me. Why? because many years ago I did a LDR and no interest anymore. I figure if I can't find someone near me (I live about 1/2 hour from Chicago)then it's me. Not interested in traveling and being stuck spending a weekend with a guy I don't know. What if he's a murderer or rapist? So no traveling for me.

Why are you wasting time with someone having an addiction problem? Doesn't sound good to me. True, there are some bad men out there, but many good ones as well, like me for example. ;) If you don't want to travel, that's up to you, it's your choice. No risk, no reward.

Wow!!! Just all of you who meet people online be careful!!!! Male and Female. It can happen either way you can run into trouble!! I was watching Nancy Grace the other day and they were talking about a guy and girl that had an online romance for a couple years!!! He was in Alabama, she was in Oregon! Anyway finally they decided to meet. If I'm not mistaken, he even was going to move to Oregon! That's how close he thought they were.

Anyway he gets there and she totally put him off for a couple of days! Finally she agreed to have him come over. And keep in mind again, he traveled all the way cross country. So he gets to her house, she has him come in and sit down and she pours some wine, and tells him to close his eyes. So than she proceeds to BEAT him in the head with a baseball bat!!!!!!!!!! Thank God the poor guy didn't die!!

Google Haley Fox and Samuel Campbell

Wow!!! Just all of you who meet people online be careful!!!! Male and Female. It can happen either way you can run into trouble!! I was watching Nancy Grace the other day and they were talking about a guy and girl that had an online romance for a couple years!!! He was in Alabama, she was in Oregon! Anyway finally they decided to meet. If I'm not mistaken, he even was going to move to Oregon! That's how close he thought they were.

Anyway he gets there and she totally put him off for a couple of days! Finally she agreed to have him come over. And keep in mind again, he traveled all the way cross country. So he gets to her house, she has him come in and sit down and she pours some wine, and tells him to close his eyes. So than she proceeds to BEAT him in the head with a baseball bat!!!!!!!!!! Thank God the poor guy didn't die!!

Google Haley Fox and Samuel Campbell

Yeah online is risky, but you can meet psychos offline too. Just be careful no matter where you meet people.

Wow!!! Just all of you who meet people online be careful!!!! Male and Female. It can happen either way you can run into trouble!! I was watching Nancy Grace the other day and they were talking about a guy and girl that had an online romance for a couple years!!! He was in Alabama, she was in Oregon! Anyway finally they decided to meet. If I'm not mistaken, he even was going to move to Oregon! That's how close he thought they were.

Anyway he gets there and she totally put him off for a couple of days! Finally she agreed to have him come over. And keep in mind again, he traveled all the way cross country. So he gets to her house, she has him come in and sit down and she pours some wine, and tells him to close his eyes. So than she proceeds to BEAT him in the head with a baseball bat!!!!!!!!!! Thank God the poor guy didn't die!!

Google Haley Fox and Samuel Campbell
Wow that's scary. :eek:

Why are you wasting time with someone having an addiction problem? Doesn't sound good to me. True, there are some bad men out there, but many good ones as well, like me for example. ;) If you don't want to travel, that's up to you, it's your choice. No risk, no reward.

I'm not wasting my time, I'm just not looking. Besides to me I refuse to judge addicts if they get help which he is.

Wow!!! Just all of you who meet people online be careful!!!! Male and Female. It can happen either way you can run into trouble!! I was watching Nancy Grace the other day and they were talking about a guy and girl that had an online romance for a couple years!!! He was in Alabama, she was in Oregon! Anyway finally they decided to meet. If I'm not mistaken, he even was going to move to Oregon! That's how close he thought they were.

Anyway he gets there and she totally put him off for a couple of days! Finally she agreed to have him come over. And keep in mind again, he traveled all the way cross country. So he gets to her house, she has him come in and sit down and she pours some wine, and tells him to close his eyes. So than she proceeds to BEAT him in the head with a baseball bat!!!!!!!!!! Thank God the poor guy didn't die!!

Google Haley Fox and Samuel Campbell

It's why I don't do online dating anymore or travel. If I was to do online I'd make sure they lived local.

Wow!!! Just all of you who meet people online be careful!!!! Male and Female. It can happen either way you can run into trouble!! I was watching Nancy Grace the other day and they were talking about a guy and girl that had an online romance for a couple years!!! He was in Alabama, she was in Oregon! Anyway finally they decided to meet. If I'm not mistaken, he even was going to move to Oregon! That's how close he thought they were.

Anyway he gets there and she totally put him off for a couple of days! Finally she agreed to have him come over. And keep in mind again, he traveled all the way cross country. So he gets to her house, she has him come in and sit down and she pours some wine, and tells him to close his eyes. So than she proceeds to BEAT him in the head with a baseball bat!!!!!!!!!! Thank God the poor guy didn't die!!

Google Haley Fox and Samuel Campbell

Yea I agree there are a lot of crazies out there. Proceed cautiously. My problem is, I'm too kind hearted and tend to trust people, and I end up getting feelings hurt.

That's why it's important to go slowly. Nothing turns me off more than men who immediately fall for me.

Nothing turns me off more than men who immediately fall for me.

Well then maybe you're just not a friendly person and difficult to get along with. Maybe that's why you're 44 and still single. :lol: :wave:

That's why it's important to go slowly. Nothing turns me off more than men who immediately fall for me.


A lot of women WISH they had that problem!!!!:lol: I'm finding with friends of mine that are divorced or separated and looking again for a man, they are running into men that aren't serious and don't want to commit! :(

LOL@Retrotvfan4ever dissing IllinoisTVfan hahahahahahahahahahahaha. Retrotvfan4ever, I do agree with you that a lot of people are phony and selfish. That's why I'm single and I'm not dating women anymore because a lot of women are selfish and materialistic especially black women. But I still love them anyway LOL. I like white women too. I've been single for 13 years and I don't get upset about it because I know I'm a good man. MrCleveland, that sucks that you're single but you have to deal with it. I'm in the same situation as you and I've dealt with being single. I just realized that I'm gonna die single and there's nothing wrong with that. You might have to consider dealing with prostitutes if you want intimacy because I've been with several prostitutes hahahahahahahahahahahaha. I don't do that anymore because i don't like wasting money. I've never watched pornos and i don't buy porno magazines. I've never gone to strip clubs too.

Well then maybe you're just not a friendly person and difficult to get along with. Maybe that's why you're 44 and still single. :lol: :wave:

Not at all. Sorry but there is something wrong with a man who is too clingy way too early. I'm a very friendly person and easy to get along with but romance takes time not instant. Considering you are older than me and still single maybe that is why you are still single.

LOL@Retrotvfan4ever dissing IllinoisTVfan hahahahahahahahahahahaha. Retrotvfan4ever, I do agree with you that a lot of people are phony and selfish. That's why I'm single and I'm not dating women anymore because a lot of women are selfish and materialistic especially black women. But I still love them anyway LOL. I like white women too. I've been single for 13 years and I don't get upset about it because I know I'm a good man.

Thanks isiahthomas. I'm a good man too, at least I try to be. Being alone and single has it's advantages, it just gets lonesome at times.

Good luck with your job situation, no one should have to live in fear they might become homeless. I'm not working right now either, but my situation is different. Financially I'm good so I can afford to stay home.

A lot of women WISH they had that problem!!!!:lol: I'm finding with friends of mine that are divorced or separated and looking again for a man, they are running into men that aren't serious and don't want to commit! :(

Yeah I find that a lot too. Generally speaking the men I found who fall at my feet (or anyone else's)are usually not the cream of the crop. The men who don't want to commit are top choice. It's hard to find someone decent.

Not at all. Sorry but there is something wrong with a man who is too clingy way too early. I'm a very friendly person and easy to get along with but romance takes time not instant. Considering you are older than me and still single maybe that is why you are still single.

I'm not clingy, I was being friendly and trying to get to know you. Sorry if you had a problem with that. Conversely, you were cold, unfriendly and hardly had anything to say, it took the longest time till you finally told me your name. :rolleyes: :lol:

I might be single now, but I was in a relationship with a woman for 12 years. The relationship is now over, that's fine, I accepted it, people break up all the time. I've moved on and I'm better off without her. I'm better off without you too. :lol: :wave:

I'm not clingy, I was being friendly and trying to get to know you. Sorry if you had a problem with that. Conversely, you were cold, unfriendly and hardly had anything to say, it took the longest time till you finally told me your name. :rolleyes: :lol:

I might be single now, but I was in a relationship with a woman for 12 years. The relationship is now over, that's fine, I accepted it, people break up all the time. I've moved on and I'm better off without her. I'm better off without you too. :lol: :wave:

If you recall I told you I would meet you halfway, not traveling where you live. I've never met you so I'm not interested in spending the weekend with someone I don't know.Plus, you don't have a car so I would have to be the one to drive there. I already told you I don't like to drive far nor am I interested in a long distance relationship and I'm not interested in moving.

If you recall I told you I would meet you halfway, not traveling where you live. I've never met you so I'm not interested in spending the weekend with someone I don't know.Plus, you don't have a car so I would have to be the one to drive there. I already told you I don't like to drive far nor am I interested in a long distance relationship and I'm not interested in moving.

Yes I know you told me all that. That's OK, not a problem, it's up to you if you don't want to travel. I fully understand. I'll just continue to stay by myself here, perhaps eventually I might meet someone here locally.

I was intimate with a club stripper on Wednesday and i gave her $60 hahahahahahahahahahaha. I've known her for 10 years and she's been loyal to me. She don't have a boyfriend but she has 3 kids. We don't have sex but i massage and kiss her feet while she kisses my chest in the back seat of my car LOL. I wanna have sex with her but i don't wanna get her pregnant because i don't want kids. If we did have sex and she told me she was pregnant, i would be upset. She told me she got her tubes tied but i still don't trust her because i don't want kids. I can barely take care of myself and i don't wanna bring no kids into this world and have them being poor because there's so many poor black kids who don't have fathers.



I decided that i won't be seeing her anymore because I'm tired of paying her for intimacy. I've known her long enough that she should be intimate with me for free. I've never taken her on a date because she would charge me $40 to pay for a babysitter. Her living situation has never been good because she's always lived with her mom and grandmother. She had her own house for a little while but she lost it. Now she's staying with a woman she doesn't know because she was close to being homeless. I don't understand how she can be a club stripper and not have a apartment. I know club female strippers make a lot of money and i don't know what she's doing with her money because there's no excuse for her not to have a apartment. It's not good for her and her kids to be moving a lot.

isiahthomas...I've been to a strip club. It was okay. Porn doesn't appeal to me whether it's on TV or magazines. Boobs...I get it!

Even when I go out...no one asks me. This is my fate until I die...

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Did I mention I tried itsjustlunch.com? If not...I did try these people out, I'd have to pay them a lot of money!

I'm just a chick-repellent! Another reason why I wanna leave Cleveland is because there's no one to fall in love! There's NO fish in this sea, It's been fished-out!

MrCleveland, don't feel bad because you don't have a woman because there's some men who are single and who have never had sex. It's good to have sex because men that have never had it should experience it to see what it feels like but unfortunately some men will never have sex unless they pay a prostitute hahahahahahahahahahaha. Remember En Vogue's My Lovin(Your Never Gonna Get It)song? Hahahahahahahahahaha. They were singing about men that are never gonna have sex with them and that's the way it is because cute women are difficult to get with. I'm lucky that I've been intimate with a few cute women because I would hate to die without having sex but then again I wouldn't be mad if I died a virgin LOL.




Sex isn't the most important thing in the world and I can do without it. It's sad that sex is the most important thing to most men and that's why so many of them will chase women and do anything women want so they can get sex hahahahahahahahahahahaha. That's why so many men go to strip clubs, watch pornos and buy porno magazines because they always got sex on the brain and women know that. I don't chase women and I don't need a girlfriend but I'm always gonna love cute women.

I wouldn't leave Cleveland just because you can't get a woman there LOL. I love the women in Cleveland and i've had better luck with them than the women in Virginia and Maryland where I live. The women in Virginia and Maryland are terrible. I had a few women that approached me in Cleveland and that has never happened to me in Virginia and Maryland.

For me, at least I can say I was in a relationship with a woman for 12 years. But looking back at it now, I should never have got together with her, it was a mistake. But oh well, I can't go back in time and do it over. The relationship wasn't a disaster, but overall there was more bad than good.

She wanted a clothesline outside behind the house. I put one up, then she didn't want to hang clothes outside. She wanted a safety bar installed in the shower. I put one in, then she stopped taking showers and took baths instead. When she first got together with me, she said she was glad I don't smoke because she can't live with a smoker. Well guess what, the guy she's with now is a smoker. Both her and him aren't in the greatest of shape and have health issues. So that's good they can deal with each others problems. :lol:

Your ex-girlfriend is ******** hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha. You're better off without her.

Your ex-girlfriend is ******** hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha. You're better off without her.

LOL yea tell me about it. She did me wrong for sure and I'm much better off without her. There are so many phony women out there, phony like a three dollar bill. I encounter them all the time. I'm just going to keep to myself for awhile and not seek another relationship. Maybe I'll just stay single. Nothing wrong with that. Being alone and single has it's advantages.

You said there's so many phony women like a 3 dollar bill hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha. You're right and that's why I don't talk to them even though I love cute women. I be looking at pictures of hot celebrity women on Youtube often like Amber Heard, Beyoncé, Ali Larter, Jessica Alba, Margot Robbie, Paula Patton, Faith Evans, Gabrielle Union, Mari Morrow, Natalie Portman and Charlize Theron. I say to myself when I'm looking at the pictures, I wish I could have one of them as my woman hahahahahahahahahahaha. Nothing wrong with dreaming LOL.

MrCleveland, don't feel bad because you don't have a woman because there's some men who are single and who have never had sex. It's good to have sex because men that have never had it should experience it to see what it feels like but unfortunately some men will never have sex unless they pay a prostitute hahahahahahahahahahaha. Remember En Vogue's My Lovin(Your Never Gonna Get It)song? Hahahahahahahahahaha. They were singing about men that are never gonna have sex with them and that's the way it is because cute women are difficult to get with. I'm lucky that I've been intimate with a few cute women because I would hate to die without having sex but then again I wouldn't be mad if I died a virgin LOL.




Sex isn't the most important thing in the world and I can do without it. It's sad that sex is the most important thing to most men and that's why so many of them will chase women and do anything women want so they can get sex hahahahahahahahahahahaha. That's why so many men go to strip clubs, watch pornos and buy porno magazines because they always got sex on the brain and women know that. I don't chase women and I don't need a girlfriend but I'm always gonna love cute women.

I'd only have sex after I'm married, but since marriage will never be in my cards...there's one thing I have to say about love...

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And I'll admit...I hate the month of October...it means the cold is about to come in...and I'm also NOT a fan of Halloween!

Mr.Cleveland!! You have good morals and from your posts here you are very personable. I think it's nice how you don't put down woman and act negative or bitter in your posting! ;) Also you are into the Lord and a Church goer. I see you getting a wife in the future! You are just a late bloomer! I think you will eventually find a nice gal that shares your values!;)

isiahthomas...I've been to a strip club. It was okay. Porn doesn't appeal to me whether it's on TV or magazines. Boobs...I get it!

Even when I go out...no one asks me. This is my fate until I die...

http://urbanbohemian.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/pb140819.gif

Did I mention I tried itsjustlunch.com? If not...I did try these people out, I'd have to pay them a lot of money!

I'm just a chick-repellent! Another reason why I wanna leave Cleveland is because there's no one to fall in love! There's NO fish in this sea, It's been fished-out!



That's cute. Sad little guy in the comic!!! But see what I mean, you post in a non negative way about this topic, like finding this funny comic to post!;) That's what I mean when I say you are very personable! ;)

And I'll admit...I hate the month of October...it means the cold is about to come in...and I'm also NOT a fan of Halloween!

I'm with you there, I dislike this time of year too. I just keep fingers crossed and hope there's not too much ice and snow during the winter.

Mr.Cleveland!! You have good morals and from your posts here you are very personable. I think it's nice how you don't put down woman and act negative or bitter in your posting! ;)

Maybe he hasn't had a negative experience and he has no reason to be bitter.

Mr.Cleveland!! You have good morals and from your posts here you are very personable. I think it's nice how you don't put down woman and act negative or bitter in your posting! ;) Also you are into the Lord and a Church goer. I see you getting a wife in the future! You are just a late bloomer! I think you will eventually find a nice gal that shares your values!;)

I agree. Nothing turns off women more than bitter men. I've gone through some of the worst things that men could do to me. I've been cheated on, abused, used for my money, etc. Yet I'm still open to love. However bitter men who blame all women for their misfortune end up alone. I had two guy friends who were very bitter and both died alone.

Guys, some of you may be too delusional in what you can attract. Are you open to women your age or a woman who's a bit overweight? That's the thing I see is men often are angry they are single until I find out they want a woman much younger who is in fantastic shape when they aren't.

True...

I am nice to many. I do have moments when I can be a jerk, but I wouldn't treat women like they're second-class. It just seems that I see all my friends get married and I ask God "Am I cursed to be single"? And I don't love a woman because they're pretty...I see how she can help me and I can help her.

Yet I'm one of those people who live paycheck-to-paycheck, but is responsible.

Maybe I'm TOO nice...

For me, I'm not shutting myself off completely to a new relationship, I leave options open. But if it doesn't happen, that's fine too. Being alone and single has it's advantages. I'd rather be by myself than be in a relationship with a woman who turns out to be unfaithful. This has happened to me once, I don't know if I could handle it if it happened again. Once was bad enough. I have a lot of trust issues currently.

Right now, I think the best scenario for me is to be friends with a woman where we enjoy each others company when we're together, and when we're apart, she does what she wants and I do what I want. No questions, no one gets jealous, no feelings involved. It's called "friends with benefits". That sounds good to me. :lol:

True...

I am nice to many. I do have moments when I can be a jerk, but I wouldn't treat women like they're second-class. It just seems that I see all my friends get married and I ask God "Am I cursed to be single"? And I don't love a woman because they're pretty...I see how she can help me and I can help her.

Yet I'm one of those people who live paycheck-to-paycheck, but is responsible.

Maybe I'm TOO nice...

That sounds like you are thinking clearly and you'd make a great husband. Many guys I know don't because when I ask what they want they either mention looks or things like "she better cook". Looks fade and if they want a woman to cook and clean hire a maid. However things like mutual love and helping each other is the way it's supposed to be.

Maybe he hasn't had a negative experience and he has no reason to be bitter.

Or maybe he's made the choice to not be negative and bitter about everything.

Or maybe he's made the choice to not be negative and bitter about everything.

Could be. If so, then good for him.

MrCleveland when you want intimacy, get with a prostitute hahahahahaha. I've dealt with several prostitutes when i want intimacy because i don't waste my time trying to ask women for dates because a lot of them are mean. I've dealt with a black woman who's a club stripper for a long time and i pay her $60 for intimacy. I'm taking her to a hotel in April to spend the night and she charges me $100. I've spent the night with her at a hotel twice before and it was worth it. I always give her a foot massage and kiss her feet because i have a foot fettish. She kisses my back and kisses my chest. We don't have sex because i don't wanna get her pregnant because she already got 3 kids. She said she got her tubes tied but i don't wanna take any chances because i don't want kids. My money situation is never gonna be good because i can't keep a full time job. I don't wanna bring kids into the world that i can't take care of.



The woman that I've been intimate with at a hotel a few times, her living situation is bad. She's stuck living with her grandmother in a bad neighborhood because she don't have money to get a apartment and she's living on a welfare check and food stamps. She's never had a full time job and she's been a club stripper for a long time. Female club strippers make good money. So i don't know why she can't afford a apartment. Sad thing about her stripping is that when she gets old, she isn't gonna get a social security check. Strip clubs don't give women strippers when they get old social security checks hahahahahahahahahaha. She's only 26 years old and it's pathetic that she got 3 kids and has never had a full time job. It seems she don't care that her life is messed up LOL. There's so many black women in her situation.

My money situation is never gonna be good because i can't keep a full time job.


Paying for hookers probably isn't helping things much, either.

If you don't have money for basic things how do you get money to pay for sex? your priorities are out of wack. As for the stripper, yes they make a lot if they are good so chances are she is wasting her money on things like drugs while she abuses the welfare system.

Paying for hookers probably isn't helping things much, either.

Exactly.

LOL. I don't do that often like i said. There's only 3 women that i pay when i want intimacy and there's only one of them that i see often. She's gonna be the one that i take to a hotel in April to spend the night.

LOL. I don't do that often like i said. There's only 3 women that i pay when i want intimacy and there's only one of them that i see often. She's gonna be the one that i take to a hotel in April to spend the night.

Where are you getting the money? You said you were unemployed and you applied for welfare.

I do have money to buy groceries, buy gas for my car and pay my credit card bill and car insurance. I haven't bought clothes in a long time because i can't afford to. I'm gonna buy 2 pairs of jeans in the spring and I'm gonna buy sneakers in April. I don't pay women for intimacy often. Every now and then i do that.

From your parents? I'm sure they would be thrilled to hear you're paying for a hooker.

I got a part time job and i got a credit card. That's how I'm gonna pay for a hotel room in April to take the club stripper there.

I would never tell my parents that i deal with prostitutes. If i told them that, my dad would put me outta their house LOL.

Your priorities are out of wack. Save that money to better yourself.

My priorities aren't outta wack. Sometimes i want intimacy from women and i have to pay them because women won't date me. I said i don't it often but i do it sometimes.

When you don't have money it is out of wack.

Well whatever. I'll stop paying prostitutes when women date me hahahahahahahahahahahaha. The money i get from my part time job is enough to pay prostitutes sometimes. Like i said, i don't do that often.

Then stop complaining about not getting welfare. I don't want to pay taxes so someone can hire a hooker.

Then stop complaining about not getting welfare. I don't want to pay taxes so someone can hire a hooker.

:thanks: :clap :clap

Then stop complaining about not getting welfare. I don't want to pay taxes so someone can hire a hooker.

Exactly! If someone can come up with the funds for a hooker, then they have no right to be complaining about money issues.

Exactly! If someone can come up with the funds for a hooker, then they have no right to be complaining about money issues.

That's the last type of person I'd date...I have higher priorities! Besides, the lady that I thought would be right still wants to be my friend. I'm considered to her opinion, a man who thinks about love and friendship...NOT sex!

Three years ago, I think I've encountered with a hooker, tow of them...they said they weren't prostitutes, but they said "We're beautiful like that building but we have no money". I try NOT to give people money, but why does my "no" translates to "yes" or "but I insist"? They first asked for a cigarette (I don't smoke but the way my life is...I might start) then they asked me for a dollar. I told them no, but they insisted I give them something. I gave them a buck so they could shut up...they asked for $40...and I didn't have that money. I told them to call someone or go somewhere to seek help, but they refused. I almost called the cops on them for harassing me...I was almost tempted to say "FINE! If You're NOT Prostitutes...Prove It...**** Me"! I never saw those *****es again...

That's because you have morals. I'd never date a man who hired hookers because that would show me he wasn't the one.

I'd never pay for a hooker, that isn't my style, that's not me. I'm on my own since splitting with my ex-girlfriend last year. I'd like to meet someone new, but it's easier said than done, at least for me it is. So I'm just keeping to myself unless something unexpected happens and I meet someone. I've seen ads on TV for the dating website Christian Mingle. It sounds good and is free to join. I've thought about signing up, but I probably won't because I'm skeptical of on line dating sites.

I think you guys would be OK on a reputable Dating site esp. like Christian Mingle. I would steer clear of Craigslist. From what I've heard seems to be a lot of weird, even dangerous people there!

I'd never pay for a hooker, that isn't my style, that's not me. I'm on my own since splitting with my ex-girlfriend last year. I'd like to meet someone new, but it's easier said than done, at least for me it is. So I'm just keeping to myself unless something unexpected happens and I meet someone. I've seen ads on TV for the dating website Christian Mingle. It sounds good and is free to join. I've thought about signing up, but I probably won't because I'm skeptical of on line dating sites.

But in your case, you aren't even making the effort. Like I told you, women aren't going to be thrilled about traveling and meeting at your house because they don't know you. If you are serious about meeting someone you'll either have to consider driving or at least deciding to travel to meet women. Unless of course you try your local area and find a neighbor.

I think you guys would be OK on a reputable Dating site esp. like Christian Mingle. I would steer clear of Craigslist. From what I've heard seems to be a lot of weird, even dangerous people there!

Strangely, I met a decent guy on POF. We didn't hit it off but he was a nice guy (a teacher)and am glad we met. I did that site, OKCupid, Catholic Match, Match and DateHookup. On Catholic Match the guys mostly wanted younger which was frustrating. On the other sites it was mostly guys wanting sex, older guys and guys with kids (I'm not interested in being a stepmother). I met a great guy on Catholic Match but he was too young so we met as friends.

I would steer clear of Craigslist. From what I've heard seems to be a lot of weird, even dangerous people there!

There's a popular poster here who uses it to meet people. (Not me, I'm not popular).

3200 posts!!!:crazy:


Thats true, but I think what retro is saying is that there is a risk in online dating. I agree with him. I mean the people that you do know, are the ones that are crazy, you expect to meet a total stranger? Now, I understand that people do online dating and they find success. That's great for them. It really is. Me. I am more skeptical about it. Lets say you find somebody who is crazy. You never get out of a relationship like that. Even if you do, you go through a lot of aggravation. I dont know from experience but I would just assume.

There's a popular poster here who uses it to meet people. (Not me, I'm not popular).


Ahh!!! :( Well not everyone can be popular like Marcia, Marcia, Marcia. Some people have to be a Jan!!! :lol:


I have never been on a dating site! ;)

3200 posts!!!:crazy:


Thats true, but I think what retro is saying is that there is a risk in online dating. I agree with him. I mean the people that you do know, are the ones that are crazy, you expect to meet a total stranger? Now, I understand that people do online dating and they find success. That's great for them. It really is. Me. I am more skeptical about it. Lets say you find somebody who is crazy. You never get out of a relationship like that. Even if you do, you go through a lot of aggravation. I dont know from experience but I would just assume.

Online to me is a mixed bag. On one hand there are decent people, the ones I met in person last time were good guys, just not for me. On the other hand online (especially the free sites)tends to attract some bottom feeders. I had guys threaten to kill me, find out where I live, find my Facebook page and even report my profile because I didn't date them. If I was to do it again I would do paid ones but I didn't have luck with them so doubt I will. People also tend to become delusional in what they can attract (I saw a profile from a 60 year old man requesting 18-30 year old women). As for crazy people I've had a few crazy boyfriends I didn't meet online.

I'd never pay for a hooker, that isn't my style, that's not me. I'm on my own since splitting with my ex-girlfriend last year. I'd like to meet someone new, but it's easier said than done, at least for me it is. So I'm just keeping to myself unless something unexpected happens and I meet someone. I've seen ads on TV for the dating website Christian Mingle. It sounds good and is free to join. I've thought about signing up, but I probably won't because I'm skeptical of on line dating sites.

I've only had one person I know meet anyone through Christian Mingle and he's a piece of work.:rolleyes:

I'd steer clear of the free sites and try Match.com or EHarmony--even though the EHarmony guy creeps me out a bit. I also strongly suggest creating a separate email account for dating only, just to be on the safe side. I'd also make sure that the first face to face encounter was during the day for something innocuous, like coffee. Speaking as a woman, a low pressure first encounter makes it easier on us and makes you look like a non-creeper.

Seems like the only way to go is the old fashioned way. Either be set up by a friend and or family or going to a bar, church, wherever and meeting the person face to face.

I've only had one person I know meet anyone through Christian Mingle and he's a piece of work.:rolleyes:

I'd steer clear of the free sites and try Match.com or EHarmony--even though the EHarmony guy creeps me out a bit. I also strongly suggest creating a separate email account for dating only, just to be on the safe side. I'd also make sure that the first face to face encounter was during the day for something innocuous, like coffee. Speaking as a woman, a low pressure first encounter makes it easier on us and makes you look like a non-creeper.

I've never done Christian Mingle but have heard they have a lot of sex offenders. It surprised me but apparently many of the predators figure women on religious sites are more desperate to take anything. I know when I was on Catholic Match many of the guys were not very Catholic like.

There seems to be dating sites for everyone. One of the members of a horror movie forum I frequent talked about a dating site he found for horror movie fans.

The problem though is the sites are often too specific that it becomes hard. I tried a site for animal lovers and never had many people there.

I've never done Christian Mingle but have heard they have a lot of sex offenders. It surprised me but apparently many of the predators figure women on religious sites are more desperate to take anything. I know when I was on Catholic Match many of the guys were not very Catholic like.

I can totally see Christian Mingle being a prime hunting ground for sex offenders. They used to have the creepiest commercial where a mom talked about CM finding "the right man for her, and the right man for her young son". They guy had a total creeper vibe to him and the little boy looked uncomfortable as hell. I haven't seen the commercial in a long time, so they probably figured out that making the target viewers want to call CPS was not the action they wanted taken.

A former acquaintance's sleaze ball brother used to brag about how easy it was to get laid at church single's events, especially if he targeted women over 35 who were a little overweight. The pre conceived notion being that they felt like they were nothing without a man and tended to be "docile". puke:

There seems to be dating sites for everyone. One of the members of a horror movie forum I frequent talked about a dating site he found for horror movie fans.

Be_my_bloody_valentine.com??

The bad comments I read here about Christian Mingle convinces me more not to sign up with them. :lol:

I can totally see Christian Mingle being a prime hunting ground for sex offenders. They used to have the creepiest commercial where a mom talked about CM finding "the right man for her, and the right man for her young son". They guy had a total creeper vibe to him and the little boy looked uncomfortable as hell. I haven't seen the commercial in a long time, so they probably figured out that making the target viewers want to call CPS was not the action they wanted taken.

A former acquaintance's sleaze ball brother used to brag about how easy it was to get laid at church single's events, especially if he targeted women over 35 who were a little overweight. The pre conceived notion being that they felt like they were nothing without a man and tended to be "docile". puke:

On Catholic Match it seemed like all the older people were obsessed with marrying but so many (especially the men)had so many weird ideas so I could see it happening there too. Actually, it did, this woman met a guy and they got engaged only he was married. He pretended to be single, wooed her and she found out. I felt bad for her because she wanted marriage and was older and he knew it. Just so sad that woman feel like that. I want marriage but am not desperate.

The bad comments I read here about Christian Mingle convinces me more not to sign up with them. :lol:

Try JDate. Once you go J, you never go away.

What if he's not Jewish? I'm not and no interest in dating a Jewish man. No offense, just that I want a guy who is Christian.

What if he's not Jewish? I'm not and no interest in dating a Jewish man. No offense, just that I want a guy who is Christian.

Just throwing out more options. As mentioned up thread, there are pretty much sites for any religion, occupation, hobby, interest, etc. And last I knew, crossing over was allowed if someone is interested.

True, though some want someone the same religion.

True, though some want someone the same religion.

Also true. Good luck with the search.

Try JDate. Once you go J, you never go away.

Years ago I knew a Jewish girl that I had the hots for, I asked her on a date and she said she couldn't date me because I'm not Jewish. At least that was her excuse, I think she would have dated me regardless of religion if she was really interested. She was overweight but had a knockout hairstyle and gorgeous face, like an angel.

Years ago I knew a Jewish girl that I had the hots for, I asked her on a date and she said she couldn't date me because I'm not Jewish. At least that was her excuse, I think she would have dated me regardless of religion if she was really interested.

Don't take it personally. It could easily be true. Some do look for just the same. But one can increase their chances the more they expand the search options. Good luck to you too. There really is someone for everyone, even if the odds sometimes feel higher then Powerball.

I casually dated a Jewish guy between my divorce and second marriage. I didn't even know he was Jewish at first, until he told me. It didn't make a difference. He didn't look Jewish and for me I'd rather he did! I'm attracted to Jewish men that are very dark haired, dark eyed, They have beautiful dark, soulful eyes! .I always liked ethnic looking guys! Anyway it made no difference with us, but than we weren't planning to get married and raise kids , but even if it got that serious. We would work it out. If two people love each other!

My friend who is Catholic married a Jewish guy. She wasn't a practicing Catholic at all, just was Catholic cause her family is and she was raised Catholic. Like me except I still follow the Catholic religion. Both my husbands are Catholic too. And her husband was Jewish the way my boyfriend was. On the high holy days/family obligation. So that had no affect on them whatsoever. And they were together a lot of years. Ended up divorced, but in no way was it religion related.

Be_my_bloody_valentine.com??

I think it was HollywoodChainsaw Hookers.org

Also true. Good luck with the search.

Thank you. I agree religion may not be an issue but some people have an issue with it. I dated a Jewish guy years ago and he was cool but too many differences (not religious though).

Thank you. I agree religion may not be an issue but some people have an issue with it. I dated a Jewish guy years ago and he was cool but too many differences (not religious though).


Good luck with the search.

Bonnie: divorced, dated a Jewish guy and got remarried. Look, at Bonnie playing the field. Lol;)

Thanks. It can be rough but I see where it all goes. I've had many relationships but knew most weren't the one.

I always say never give up. You never know what is going to happen tomorrow.

That's true. I did meet a guy who could very well be the one but time will tell.

Yeppers. Just make sure he likes good TV..lol.

My hunt for love has been put on hold since I was informed that the building I am living in has been sold and my lease will not be renewed. So now I have to find a new place to live before April

Yeah he likes good tv (no Kardashian fans for me).

My hunt for love has been put on hold since I was informed that the building I am living in has been sold and my lease will not be renewed. So now I have to find a new place to live before April


Sorry to hear that! I know you liked it there. Well hopefully you find a very nice new place! ;)

Good luck with the search.

Bonnie: divorced, dated a Jewish guy and got remarried. Look, at Bonnie playing the field. Lol;)


Nah!! Not that many! :D I'm not at the same caliber as Liz Taylor or Zsa Zsa Gabor! :lol: I'm just older and back than it seemed easier to meet people and form relationships than it is now! :)

It was easier. Many years ago men pursued, wanted to actually date and didn't have issues. Today (at least on dating sites)people just want free sex or free meals and no relationship.

I'm attracted to Jewish men that are very dark haired, dark eyed, They have beautiful dark, soulful eyes!

Yes. Yes we do. Of course, I have blue eyes. I do have some dark soulful eyes, but I keep those in the drawer.

It was easier. Many years ago men pursued, wanted to actually date and didn't have issues. Today (at least on dating sites)people just want free sex or free meals and no relationship.


Yeah I guess a lot of it is because of all the technology ! Before you dated someone from work, a neighbor, the bar, a friend fixing you up with someone, a chance meeting.;) Now with all the computer dating and texting, people feel that they can branch out more and meet many more people and pick and choose more for steady relationships. And in reality it seems like it is working in the reverse. By looking too much they could be actually passing up a person that is right for them! :confused:

As for the men who just want sex I guess they feel more confident online stating that they want to just get laid and No strings attached as opposed to before, they'd have to tell that to a girl's face she would be like Get lost ya creep!! :mad:

Yes. Yes we do. Of course, I have blue eyes. I do have some dark soulful eyes, but I keep those in the drawer.


My Jewish boyfriend had blue eyes too and light brown hair! Maybe it would have lasted longer had he taken his brown eyes out of the drawer!!! :lol: :D

Sorry to hear that! I know you liked it there. Well hopefully you find a very nice new place! ;)


Well step 1 is saving up as much as possible between now and the end of March

Step two is seeking places and contacting places to go view in the beginning of March

Hope to be signing a new lease no later than 4/15

Yeah I guess a lot of it is because of all the technology ! Before you dated someone from work, a neighbor, the bar, a friend fixing you up with someone, a chance meeting.;) Now with all the computer dating and texting, people feel that they can branch out more and meet many more people and pick and choose more for steady relationships. And in reality it seems like it is working in the reverse. By looking too much they could be actually passing up a person that is right for them! :confused:

As for the men who just want sex I guess they feel more confident online stating that they want to just get laid and No strings attached as opposed to before, they'd have to tell that to a girl's face she would be like Get lost ya creep!! :mad:

Yeah while online has helped many who otherwise would be alone it has always given too many choices. Back when I was a teen in the 80's you generally dated someone you knew awhile. Sometimes it was a friend who you knew for years. You knew their friends (who were often your friends too)and their families. They lived by you. Now with online many take chances and often are abused. There is catfishing and people on dating sites looking to screw someone over. There are married people claiming to be single and liars.

Yeah while online has helped many who otherwise would be alone it has always given too many choices. Back when I was a teen in the 80's you generally dated someone you knew awhile. Sometimes it was a friend who you knew for years. You knew their friends (who were often your friends too)and their families. They lived by you. Now with online many take chances and often are abused. There is catfishing and people on dating sites looking to screw someone over. There are married people claiming to be single and liars.


I have a friend who's older than me and she's divorced. She's tried the online thing. And she's come across men who even admit they are married, and just looking for a side fling!:eek: And these are older late 50's -60's year old men! My friend is like Nope. I'm too old for that kind of nonsense and not so desperate to sleep with another woman' s husband! :mad:

I have a friend who's older than me and she's divorced. She's tried the online thing. And she's come across men who even admit they are married, and just looking for a side fling!:eek: And these are older late 50's -60's year old men! My friend is like Nope. I'm too old for that kind of nonsense and not so desperate to sleep with another woman' s husband! :mad:

I get that too and the one lately I've gotten is "since you're older you should be happy having a married man". WTF? Just because I'm older doesn't mean I want to be someone's mistress. Oh and these men are ugly, obese and much older. If I was remotely interested in casual sex he'd have to be hot and in shape, not obese, 60 and ugly face. I hate online dating. I mentioned this before but I friended this guy from a classic tv page on FB. He said he worked where my dad used to and knew me so I figured we may know each other. We would chat often about old shows but lately he's been talking about meeting for sex. I've NEVER discussed sex with him but now he claims I started it and since I chat with him I am interested. There's NO way I'd ever be interested. He's married but since I'm not then it's ok and to him adultery is fine. He told me this.

I do know I am not paying for a dating site membership in 2016

I will only be on the free sites


OKC
POF
craigslist
Tinder

Don't take it personally. It could easily be true. Some do look for just the same. But one can increase their chances the more they expand the search options. Good luck to you too. There really is someone for everyone, even if the odds sometimes feel higher then Powerball.

I appreciate the good words, but living alone isn't so bad, it has advantages, I'm actually thinking I'm better off that way. After what I went through with my ex-girlfriend, I doubt if I will ever trust another woman anyway. I was cheated on and dumped once, I don't think I could take it if it happened again. I felt like my heart was ripped out of my chest, not a good feeling at all.

People are selfish, they will lie and deceive, and don't care if they hurt someone's feelings in the process as long as they get what they want. Women will talk to men and lead them on, then go and start up with someone else. I don't need that BS in my life.

And another thing, modern technology has ruined relationships. With the internet, evil Facebook, and these damn cell phones with the texting, it makes it too easy to cheat on your spouse/partner. These are reasons why I will never trust another woman.

The single life can be lonely, but it's better than getting my feelings hurt again. I can do what I want in my house, don't have to please anybody except myself, have peace of mind and don't have to worry that my woman is cheating on me behind my back.

I appreciate the good words, but living alone isn't so bad, it has advantages, I'm actually thinking I'm better off that way. After what I went through with my ex-girlfriend, I doubt if I will ever trust another woman anyway. I was cheated on and dumped once, I don't think I could take it if it happened again. I felt like my heart was ripped out of my chest, not a good feeling at all.

People are selfish, they will lie and deceive, and don't care if they hurt someone's feelings in the process as long as they get what they want. Women will talk to men and lead them on, then go and start up with someone else. I don't need that BS in my life.

And another thing, modern technology has ruined relationships. With the internet, evil Facebook, and these damn cell phones with the texting, it makes it too easy to cheat on your spouse/partner. These are reasons why I will never trust another woman.

The single life can be lonely, but it's better than getting my feelings hurt again. I can do what I want in my house, don't have to please anybody except myself, have peace of mind and don't have to worry that my woman is cheating on me behind my back.


you are so right about that, advanced created easier ways for people to cheat

you are so right about that, advanced created easier ways for people to cheat

Yep, and there are women who will talk to men, lead them on and act like they're interested, while truth is they're involved with someone else. I don't tolerate that crap either.

Yep, and there are women who will talk to men, lead them on and act like they're interested, while truth is they're involved with someone else. I don't tolerate that crap either.

Okay since this is aimed at me I will respond. I never led you on, I always stated I had a male friend I was interested in. Also, I told you point blank that I wasn't interested in traveling 2 hours to meet unless you decide to meet halfway. I was actually polite to you in pm and since you blocked me I couldn't say this privately.

Okay since this is aimed at me I will respond. I never led you on, I always stated I had a male friend I was interested in. Also, I told you point blank that I wasn't interested in traveling 2 hours to meet unless you decide to meet halfway. I was actually polite to you in pm and since you blocked me I couldn't say this privately.

In my opinion, you led me on. I'm aware you have a male friend you're interested in, but wasn't aware you thought he could be "the one", so to me that means I can't trust you. In the PM I told you I'd be willing to arrange a ride and meet you halfway, but it ain't happening as long as you're interested in anyone else. I have very serious trust issues right now. That's OK, it's like I said, I'm better off alone. :wave:

In my opinion, you led me on. I'm aware you have a male friend you're interested in, but wasn't aware you thought he could be "the one", so to me that means I can't trust you. In the PM I told you I'd be willing to arrange a ride and meet you halfway, but it ain't happening as long as you're interested in anyone else. I have very serious trust issues right now. That's OK, it's like I said, I'm better off alone. :wave:

Anyone could be the one but I always told you about him. I never hid him at all. Not sure how that means I can't be trusted since you and I have no relationship as we have never met. I have a relationship with my friend and whether it becomes more remains to be seen but he is there. You have no right to say I can't be trusted since there is nothing between you and I.

You have no right to say I can't be trusted since there is nothing between you and I.

I have my reasons, I don't expect you to agree. My PM box is open, message me there if you like.

Actually you blocked me so I can't contact you. Now, I don't want to because I don't like jealousy in men.

Actually you blocked me so I can't contact you. Now, I don't want to because I don't like jealousy in men.

I didn't block you, I had my PM box shut off for a while. I opened it in case you wanted to continue our discussion privately. That's OK, you don't have to PM me now, I was done talking to you anyway. There's no use trying to get acquainted with a woman who has an interest in another man/other men, sounds like bad news to me.

You don't like jealous men? I suppose you prefer a man who doesn't care what you do, so you can fool around and cheat. :lol: :wave:

Yes. Yes we do. Of course, I have blue eyes. I do have some dark soulful eyes, but I keep those in the drawer.


A very nice looking Jewish guy who has blue eyes is Scott Disick, Kourtney Kardashian's man! He has beautiful blue eyes!;)

I have blue eyes. I'm glad for that because blue is my favorite color for eyes.

I have hazel eyes and usually I am attracted to men with dark eyes. Oddly my one friend has blue eyes and he is Mexican/Italian which normally don't have blue eyes.

I have green! Well actually a greenish blue. Sometimes they look more blue than green in certain light ,or when I wear blue clothes.

And another thing, modern technology has ruined relationships. With the internet, evil Facebook, and these damn cell phones with the texting, it makes it too easy to cheat on your spouse/partner. These are reasons why I will never trust another woman.



That's ridiculous. If people want to cheat, they will find away to do it. Blame the individual, not the tech. Also, would you want to be with someone who was only with you because they couldn't figure out a way to cheat on you? That doesn't sound like a quality person, IMO.

That's ridiculous. If people want to cheat, they will find away to do it. Blame the individual, not the tech. Also, would you want to be with someone who was only with you because they couldn't figure out a way to cheat on you? That doesn't sound like a quality person, IMO.

While I do think technology has made it easier, I also believe if someone is going to cheat they'll find a way. I've known cheaters long before technology.

Technology also makes it much easier to get caught too. One is much more likely to leave an email, text, search history trail. It was a lot easier in the old days just to slip into the cave next door while Tor was out hunting.

While I do think technology has made it easier, I also believe if someone is going to cheat they'll find a way. I've known cheaters long before technology.


Oh of course!!!! Thank God we aren't from the older generation where women didn't work outside the home and depended solely on their husbands! The men back than were notorious for cheating and it was justified that men will be men, and the wives looked the other way, cause they had no means of support and usually lots of children! :(


IDK about my Dad, if he did at least he was discreet. But I remember some Uncles, friends of my Dad and neighbor men cheating!!! When I was a little girl, I had "big ears" LOL!!! I would be in earshot of my Mom and the gossiping aunts and neighbor ladies!!! :lol:

But yeah these days with technology there Is a larger amount of people to meet and cheat with though! ;)

Technology also makes it much easier to get caught too. One is much more likely to leave an email, text, search history trail. It was a lot easier in the old days just to slip into the cave next door while Tor was out hunting.


That's true! ;)


Opus you are married, right?

Oh of course!!!! Thank God we aren't from the older generation where women didn't work outside the home and depended solely on their husbands! The men back than were notorious for cheating and it was justified that men will be men, and the wives looked the other way, cause they had no means of support and usually lots of children! :(


IDK about my Dad, if he did at least he was discreet. But I remember some Uncles, friends of my Dad and neighbor men cheating!!! When I was a little girl, I had "big ears" LOL!!! I would be in earshot of my Mom and the gossiping aunts and neighbor ladies!!! :lol:

But yeah these days with technology there Is a larger amount of people to meet and cheat with though! ;)

Yeah men cheated often back then and the more professional the more likely. Not all men cheated but many did. I once met a woman who became part of the feminist wave in the 60's and she said part of the reason it occurred is because women often had no choice but to sit and accept it. I doubt my father cheated (he's very devoted to my mom)and so was my one grandfather who was in management at Ford but did hear rumors of my other grandpa, including that he may have had other children (never proven though so this was probably false). My one uncle was known to cheat and knew many friends of my dad's who did cheat. My father would often talk about them and how he felt it was wrong. I'm glad we have choices today because I would divorce a cheating husband, no questions.

Technology also makes it much easier to get caught too. One is much more likely to leave an email, text, search history trail. It was a lot easier in the old days just to slip into the cave next door while Tor was out hunting.

True. I remember when I was doing online dating and caught a few married men. I was able to Google their names and came up with all sorts of things, including their wives names.

Yeah men cheated often back then and the more professional the more likely. Not all men cheated but many did. I once met a woman who became part of the feminist wave in the 60's and she said part of the reason it occurred is because women often had no choice but to sit and accept it. I doubt my father cheated (he's very devoted to my mom)and so was my one grandfather who was in management at Ford but did hear rumors of my other grandpa, including that he may have had other children (never proven though so this was probably false). My one uncle was known to cheat and knew many friends of my dad's who did cheat. My father would often talk about them and how he felt it was wrong. I'm glad we have choices today because I would divorce a cheating husband, no questions.


My first husband did!!! And we were young than. I was pretty and always there for him, he just wanted to "spread himself around" I guess. And I had two small children too at the time! :( It was weird, cause he and I had plenty of sex and good sex! I think he was a bit of a sex addict maybe! :confused:

Needless to say that marriage didn't last, not just cause of that but other things too! Now I have "Mr. Relaible"! He drinks beer and ignores me at times ,but at least he is always home and faithful!!;) :D

My first husband did!!! And we were young than. I was pretty and always there for him, he just wanted to "spread himself around" I guess. And I had two small children too at the time! :( It was weird, cause he and I had plenty of sex and good sex! I think he was a bit of a sex addict maybe! :confused:

Needless to say that marriage didn't last, not just cause of that but other things too! Now I have "Mr. Relaible"! He drinks beer and ignores me at times ,but at least he is always home and faithful!!;) :D

Unfortunately for cheaters it doesn't matter how attractive one is. I had a few boyfriends who cheated and the irony is the women were less attractive. I dumped them after that and glad I found out right away. Good for you for dumping him, he'll keep doing it.

Unfortunately for cheaters it doesn't matter how attractive one is. I had a few boyfriends who cheated and the irony is the women were less attractive. I dumped them after that and glad I found out right away. Good for you for dumping him, he'll keep doing it.


Yeah!! Good riddance!!! It hurt so bad at first , but I got over it and ended up with a better man in the long run!;) One thing though that made me sad, was I had two boys (who I love with all my heart,don't get me wrong) and I always thought our next child would be a girl! Than when we divorced before that could happen! :( He got a new wife, and she had a baby girl! And I was already over 40 when I got with my second husband, and he's already had kids with his first wife, so it wasn't in the cards to have my little girl I guess! But his second wife got to have a daughter! :( :confused:

On the bright side, my sons have a sister, even if I'm not her mother ,it's nice for them! ;)

That's ridiculous. If people want to cheat, they will find away to do it. Blame the individual, not the tech. Also, would you want to be with someone who was only with you because they couldn't figure out a way to cheat on you? That doesn't sound like a quality person, IMO.

True, if someone is determined to cheat, they'll find a way. But modern technology has made it easier, and that's a bad thing.

I just want a woman who'll be faithful to me, if that isn't too much to ask. :lol: I'm not going to worry about it right now, living alone gives me a chance to work on my hobbies and do things I enjoy.

why would a man spend all that money on a ring and then cheat on his wife?

Yeah!! Good riddance!!! It hurt so bad at first , but I got over it and ended up with a better man in the long run!;) One thing though that made me sad, was I had two boys (who I love with all my heart,don't get me wrong) and I always thought our next child would be a girl! Than when we divorced before that could happen! :( He got a new wife, and she had a baby girl! And I was already over 40 when I got with my second husband, and he's already had kids with his first wife, so it wasn't in the cards to have my little girl I guess! But his second wife got to have a daughter! :( :confused:

On the bright side, my sons have a sister, even if I'm not her mother ,it's nice for them! ;)

That is sad but at least you have a better husband. I know a few who wanted a child of a specific gender and ended up getting all of the opposite one.

That is sad but at least you have a better husband. I know a few who wanted a child of a specific gender and ended up getting all of the opposite one.


Yeah!!! Even if he and I stayed together and I were to have another baby, I might have had another boy!:eek: :D I'd be like Fred Mac Murray, My Three Sons! :lol:

After hearing about my friend being cheated on and makes $90,000 a year and drives a new car, I am scared to be in a relationship lol

what will stop a girl from cheating on a guy like me who makes nowhere $90,000 and doesn't drive at all?

I am bumping because I am at a dead end and want a relationship so I tried online again. I redid my Plenty of Fish profile, photos etc. I got several responses and many views but almost all of the guys either are in their 60's or are single fathers (I am basically childfree I suppose). The few that aren't were only looking for casual sex. I am thinking about Match.com but I am afraid to pay if I am just going to attract the same guys. I am also hung up on a guy but we are going nowhere so I am tired of thinking about him (we have chemistry though, go figure). At this point I don't even care about the love of my life, just a guy who is nice.

Then again maybe the timing is off. I am planning to go back to school in the fall and hopefully starting a new job so I won't have a lot of time.

I am bumping because I am at a dead end and want a relationship so I tried online again. I redid my Plenty of Fish profile, photos etc. I got several responses and many views but almost all of the guys either are in their 60's or are single fathers (I am basically childfree I suppose). The few that aren't were only looking for casual sex. I am thinking about Match.com but I am afraid to pay if I am just going to attract the same guys. I am also hung up on a guy but we are going nowhere so I am tired of thinking about him (we have chemistry though, go figure). At this point I don't even care about the love of my life, just a guy who is nice.

Then again maybe the timing is off. I am planning to go back to school in the fall and hopefully starting a new job so I won't have a lot of time.


Match is definitely a scam and too damm expensive

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Match is definitely a scam and too damm expensive

Yeah last time I didn't meet anyone.

Honestly right now I am super busy. I am going back to school for a second Masters Degree and plan on working when I'm not in school so that's more important. I do have a male friend I am interested in but he's busy too. Who knows though what the future holds? His mom told me one time she'd like me to be her daughter in law.

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I hate that I can't address my single status like I can my unemployed status when I am unemployed because it would give me a higher chance of finding someone.


When you unemployed you spend 8-9 hours a day attacking your unemployed status. When you work 40 hours a week all you really have is the weekend to address your single status especially if you don't go to clubs or bars

Well...

...with what went down last month... I'm afraid to get into a relationship...since my mom died, I dunno if I do want to get married or even have a girlfriend...

If a love-life is in my cards, then fine...but I feel that I'm bound to be single throughout my life...

I must bump this...

It's official...I'll NEVER have a woman, NEVER get married, and NEVER have children!

I might as well get rid of all the baby stuff I had and let my name die because I'll NEVER be blessed with that gift!

God wants me to be lonely and miserable...God wants me to be single!

I know God HATES me!

So...I'll let this be my theme...

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I must bump this...

It's official...I'll NEVER have a woman, NEVER get married, and NEVER have children!

I might as well get rid of all the baby stuff I had and let my name die because I'll NEVER be blessed with that gift!

God wants me to be lonely and miserable...God wants me to be single!

I know God HATES me!


No he doesn't, you're a sweet guy and to be honest you're probably looking in the wrong places, like me. Get out there go to events, you're going to find a great woman who will be happy to have you.

It's official...I'll NEVER have a woman, NEVER get married, and NEVER have children!



Stop bragging!! So, you'll never have 3 kids that when your wife divorces you and is awarded child support that puts you in the poor house.That when you go over to her house to pick up the kids for your weekend visitation, only to discover her unemployed boyfriend sitting on the couch wearing a $300 pair of Nikes Yet your own kids wear Walmart store brand. They tell you that he is living with them now, and that they are fed cornbread and beans for dinner every night......YOU ARE MISSING SO MUCH!! ;):D:D:p:D:D;)

No he doesn't, you're a sweet guy and to be honest you're probably looking in the wrong places, like me. Get out there go to events, you're going to find a great woman who will be happy to have you.

I told God "**** You"...will I go to Hell for that or...

But if I want children...I'll HAVE to date someone younger than me...why do I HAVE to have more struggles than the rest of my family?

I know God wants me to be miserable!

One of life's little paradox's revealed: Women are attracted to men who exude self confidence. Hard to feel confident when all you experience is rejection. Your defeatist attitude is NOT working to make you appear more desirable.

Women likely "read" how needy you are emotionally, and that turns them off.

God wants me to be lonely and miserable...God wants me to be single!

I know God HATES me

God doesn't hate anyone and he doesn't want anyone to be miserable!

If you don't give up on finding a woman then you very well could find one someday. On the other hand, if you do give up on finding a woman then it's highly unlikely that you'll ever find one.

I can relate because I struggled to find a wife for many years and there were times where I felt like giving up. I struggled with very low self-esteem and at times self-hatred. I hung in there and I eventually found a woman that I could marry.

I told God "**** You"...will I go to Hell for that or...

But if I want children...I'll HAVE to date someone younger than me...why do I HAVE to have more struggles than the rest of my family?

I know God wants me to be miserable!

If there indeed is a God, that God wants the best for everyone. You believe Cleveland, so believe this too.:happyface

Not everyone is meant to get married and there’s nothing wrong with that.

I know God HATES me!

God doesn't hate you.

You hate you.

No one makes you hate you but yourself.

You may stop hating yourself one day, or you may not.

It is only up to you.

I'm sure you don't believe that, but it's true.

I told God "**** You"...will I go to Hell for that or...

But if I want children...I'll HAVE to date someone younger than me...why do I HAVE to have more struggles than the rest of my family?

I know God wants me to be miserable!

Or how about adoption? Men think they can date younger and sorry most can't. Besides how do you know you are fertile and that a younger woman is?

Im so sorry buddy :(

You gotta put something on the table that the ladies want, if yer gonna try to start a family with one of them. Put yourself in their shoes and take stock of yourself. Would YOU wanna spend the rest of your life with you?

Not every woman is the right one for you. In complete honesty, the biggest favor most women can do for you is give you a hard rejection. That tells you (if you're smart) there is no real opportunity there, that you should stop beating your head against the wall, and look elsewhere . Save you from wasting more of your time with someone not interested in you. The right woman is out there, you just haven't met her yet.

All that stuff you see in the movies about the guy who initially gets quashed by some shrew, but works long and hard to win her heart, and they live happily ever after....will only get you a "stalking" rap in this #meetoo world.

Stay loose, remain fluid, and be vigilant.

Or how about adoption? Men think they can date younger and sorry most can't. Besides how do you know you are fertile and that a younger woman is?

I actually do want to adopt...if I want to be a filmmaker and if my adoptive child wants to be in a film...I'll let them...but I don't want to push them either, I want them to choose.

MrCleveland, you want to know who else has difficulty finding love? Myself.

I also live in an economically-distressed town where everyone I do want to easily marry had already run off with someone else. As a result, all the women I'm going to be stuck with are diabetics, smokers who are unwilling to quit, those with life-threatening diseases/illnesses, those with disabilities (physical or otherwise), tattooed women who aren't willing to pierce their navels, and those who are 40-plus-years old... and those are the ones I just don't want to marry. I am also worrying that the right woman may not be out there at all, and everyone who says she is is lying. A person who just doesn't want to be single anymore even though he or she is doomed to be stuck that way forever might see marriage as the only way to achieve financial security.

Side note, but related, I get a kick out of that Xfinity commercial "you can do better" where they play a double entendre between the mobile service a couple is getting vs the mate each has accepted...where the guy gets really self conscious.

Sometimes I think folks on both side of the gender fence become overly preoccupied with the "I can do better" mind games.

The "equality in the workforce" changes in our society over the past hundred years has certainly taken an advantage historically enjoyed by men, away from them.

Talking on another group on people's marriages, and more than half end in divorce and if people can't pay for the divorce, so many live in major desperation.

Do all you can to keep yourself Happy and Content without bringing a bunch of issues and webs that are woven when people get together. So many who are alone don't realize how so much stress THEY DON"T HAVE......

Cleveland, do service to others and work on YOURSELF. My daughter went thru a hard divorce and she thought she was in the "white picket fence" marriage, at least she does have 2 great kids and she would not be without a dog to take care of and she's going thru a new one now and loving the dog and finds so much company with her.

And with money being a huge issue, why does anyone think of making a family to take care???

There is an old movie called "The Iceman Cometh", where the basic premise is that life without dreams, no matter how far-fetched or irrational those dreams might be, is meaningless.

So, perhaps Mr Cleveland needs to just keep chasing that golden ring?

On top of what I've explained earlier, what about all the women who are in same-sex relationships? I doubt there's any such women in my town, but that will definitely deplete your dating pool.:(

On top of what I've explained earlier, what about all the women who are in same-sex relationships? I doubt there's any such women in my town, but that will definitely deplete your dating pool.:(

When I was in my mid-20s, a close female co-worker was part of what can only be described as a lesbian group -- everyone was aware of their orientation. So when she began saying things about me like "he's big and strong," and even put her hand in my pants pocket a couple of times, I just attributed it to teasing. Much later, I found out she was bisexual. So I learned that not all same-sex activity necessarily precludes opposite sex attraction.

I made my decision...there's NO woman for me...I will live my life alone!

If popular opinion says "some people are born gay and they die gay"...then for me is..."I'm born a virgin, I die a virgin"!

I'll NEVER have a family!

Ah sweetie dont give up!!!!!!!


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Cleveland, I've had some times that I searched hard to find the right "hims" and when I gave up, more good people came into my life. Do give up, but keep your doors open. For sure don't "lock" them.

Nothing at all wrong with being Gay Cleveland...Dont be afraid to find a guy if its how you really feel!!!!

God bless you my friend!

I made my decision...there's NO woman for me...I will live my life alone!

If popular opinion says "some people are born gay and they die gay"...then for me is..."I'm born a virgin, I die a virgin"!

I'll NEVER have a family!

Look at the bright side MR C. At least you'll never have your heart ripped out by someone who told you they loved you, but lied.....

That old bit claiming "better to have loved and lost...etc", is like coming in first in a loser's race. ;)

Reading this thread and it was posted almost 7 yrs ago and Cleveland you mentioned you were 30something, so that would put you at 40 maybe, but I believe I saw a 50 age mentioned, what is it. You mention church a lot, you must have friends there and can you talk to any of them and get some help from them...How about your minister?

My mom said a long time ago: There is a lid for every pot...some lids don't fit well ,, relationships take WORK.