Went on a date friday with a girl and met up for ice cream. We met on a dating site and talk a walk along the waterfront and talked. Then she suggested we have pizza and then walked and talked some more. Then she suggested we sit in her car and talk for a hour.

After the date she calls me when she arrived home saying she had a good time. I texted her sunday and she asked how my weekend was going. Then last night she sends a text asking was I still up? I was like Yes

When she called me she said she didn't feel a romantic spark but is interested in being friends with me:mad:


LOL

Ask her if she's interested in being a friend with benefits, I mean you both had a good time so the ice has been broken.

Ask her if she's interested in being a friend with benefits, I mean you both had a good time so the ice has been broken.


LOL, I just may consider that:wave:

Sorry to hear that Sol. But sometimes the spark isnt there it isnt there. I'd be glad to know now before I commit myself any longer. If that happens, then what do you do? What happened if she said that after you guys moved in together? Or got engaged? You'd be screwed. I tip my hat to you though because you found somebody on a dating site. Not me. I think dating sites has some crazy people on there. But you can say that for people you know in general.

I have dated more than my share of women thru dating sites over the years. I have had much success because from the beginning of any communication we have, I tell them what I am looking for from a woman and they tell me what it is they expect. If we don't agree right from the start - we move on. I don't waste time with women that are looking for a "friend". I can be friendly, but I will not allow myself to be pigeon-holed into the friend zone when I want something else entirely. I get it right - FROM THE START.

Yeah, but dont you think a relationship needs time to build? I mean isn't there a chance that if your friends first, you can become a couple? I've never understood why when you want to date your friend and then when you tell that to them, they say "I'd rather be friends." Ok, then but why does the friendship have to be over as well?

Ask her if she's interested in being a friend with benefits, I mean you both had a good time so the ice has been broken.

You guys are disgusting! Friends with benefits? Are we cave men? That is no way to have a relationship.

I'm more like I can't find a woman in my life, I feel like a chick-repellent!

I can talk to someone, but I have no car and not much money...I guess I'll find love when The Browns go to the Super Bowl!

You guys are disgusting! Friends with benefits? Are we cave men? That is no way to have a relationship.


That type of set up is popular because it's all FUN and no DRAMA

LOL@MrCleveland and TVFactFan hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha. I don't date women because so many of them have a attitude especially black women. If I want intimacy, i'll get a prostitute LOL.

Having sex with a friend is one of the fastest and surest ways to end a friendship. You are NOT supposed to have sex with a good, trusted friend because that's NOT what friends are for. A man is better off seeking a woman that is seeking a man to have sex with. You can't change the goal halfway into the hunt. Stay the way you started and you will avoid mixed signals and misunderstandings. For a more accurate example of what I mean check out a show on cable called "Friendzone". Every week they showcase two people that have been real-life friends for YEARS - and how ONE Of them makes the move to become "more than friends." Needless to say this consistantly results in REJECTION, EMBARASSMENT, HEARTBREAK, TEARS and quite soon after that - the end of a YEARS-LONG Friendship that could have gone on INDEFINITELY.

I kind of disagree. I still dont understand why its all or nothing. I dont what the big deal is. I'd rather have that person, friend or girlfriend, in my life than to not have that person in my life at all. I would think in some cases, true friends will overcome it if one of them wants to be more than friends.

I kind of disagree. I still dont understand why its all or nothing. I dont what the big deal is. I'd rather have that person, friend or girlfriend, in my life than to not have that person in my life at all. I would think in some cases, true friends will overcome it if one of them wants to be more than friends.


That's what I decided to do, be friends with her so she can help me with future women:lol:

So whenever i have a date with someone attractive I will be asking her advice

Yeah, but sometimes, when you ask a friend whose a girl advice on another girl, the girl that helping you could develop feelings for you. That does happen sometimes.

Yeah, but sometimes, when you ask a friend whose a girl advice on another girl, the girl that helping you could develop feelings for you. That does happen sometimes.


She is already giving mixed signals saying she is looking forward to talking to me later

That's not platonic talk. Lol

TVFactFan, my advice to you about dating is stay away from black women hahahahahahahahahahaha. Get a white woman. I hate black women because of their nasty attitude. I just watched a video on Youtube of a white woman speaking about why black men are dating white women and she spoke the truth about black women's bad behavior. Let black women tell it, it's always black men's fault that black women don't stay with them LOL. They wonder why so many black kids don't have fathers.

Here's the bottom line: A person MUST decide why it is that they are dating in the first place. Is it for sex only? Is it to get married? Is it to find a father for their child? Is it for financial stability? Unless it's for financial stability you MUST tell the person as soon as possible what your intentions are so that she doesn't waste her time and you don't waste yours. The time you spend building a "friendship" with a woman would be better spent finding a lover if that's why you are seeing her in the first place.

I hated online dating. I was dating to find a husband (though I wanted him to be a boyfriend first) and failed. The guys I liked never liked me and I was attracting losers. I gave up and started searching offline. Met a guy I became fiends with who lives by me (we met through mutual friends)but as of now we are just friends because he is dealing with issues. No idea if it'll be more but it's better than only online. We aren't friends with benefits, just friends. I'm not sure why I attracted losers online, I'm pretty, educated, thin, and childless yet all I attracted were the opposite.

Cleverfun3000, I'm surprised you don't have nothing funny to say about black women because you usually diss them LOL. I don't trust black women because all they care about is how much money black men can give them and what can black men buy them hahahahahahahahahahaha. I don't really trust white women either but I'd rather have a white woman than a black woman. Most women no matter what their race is only care about how much money men got and what kind of cars men got. Dating is a joke because men and women can't be trusted. When men get a good woman, they'll cheat on her because men feel like they gotta get sex often. When women don't give them sex when they want it, men will cheat. That's just the way it is. Sex and money are the only 2 things that matter in relationships because most men and women don't love each other LOL.

Not all women only care about money. I don't care whether he has money or what car he drives.

When she called me she said she didn't feel a romantic spark but is interested in being friends with me:mad: Im so sorry buddy.... Sounds like another bad date.... I was hopefull you wouldnt have to go thru anymore http://i59.tinypic.com/72tuzr.gif

Not all women only care about money. I don't care whether he has money or what car he drives.


Me either! I was never one to care a lot about what material things a man could give me! I'm an older woman and things were simpler back in the day for meeting and dating before the internet dating came along. The only blind dates were if a friend fixed you up with someone she knew or something. It just seemed like it was easier to find somebody you liked and who liked you. And us girls weren't nearly as gold digger-ish as they are now it seems. I mean some were of course , but not every day regular women.;)

I sometimes wonder God forbid if something were to happen to my husband or if he left me or something and I did want to meet another man how it would go? I'm so out of the dating scene for years!:confused: LOL!!!

I want to be out of dating but can't seem to find anyone. I met the man of my dreams but for now he doesn't want anything (or I don't think he does)because he's dealing with some issues. We are friends though. I met him through people (he lives a few blocks away). I tried online and all I met were liars, guys not fitting my requirements and men I didn't connect with.

Me either! I was never one to care a lot about what material things a man could give me! I'm an older woman and things were simpler back in the day for meeting and dating before the internet dating came along. The only blind dates were if a friend fixed you up with someone she knew or something. It just seemed like it was easier to find somebody you liked and who liked you. And us girls weren't nearly as gold digger-ish as they are now it seems. I mean some were of course , but not every day regular women.;)

I sometimes wonder God forbid if something were to happen to my husband or if he left me or something and I did want to meet another man how it would go? I'm so out of the dating scene for years!:confused: LOL!!!


As a guy, I totally in agreement with basically giving the world to a woman. But, I think a woman shouldnt sell themselves short. I think its great you dont care about material things and believe me, that's a woman that I like. But, women do sometimes deserve the world, you know? I mean if a woman has been crapped on for whatever reason her whole life, than I think its ok to give her some material things. She deserves it.

I am sorry things did not work out with you and your date. I have been in that situation plenty of times. I have been dating guys since I was 14 years old and now I am 45 years old. I have never been married and probably never will be. I have actually been in your position before and also the position of the person that just wants to be friends many of times. I really think when it comes to a relationship and potential marriage you have to be 100% sure that this is what you want in a partner. If you get that vibe that it is not the one then there really should be no reason to pursue it. When I was in my late teens and twenties I found myself just hanging onto a relationship for the pure enjoyment of sex. Now I think I have grown up some although I still enjoy sex a lot, but have common sense to not do it if I know the guy isn't someone I really want to be with for the long haul.

I am sorry things did not work out with you and your date. I have been in that situation plenty of times. I have been dating guys since I was 14 years old and now I am 45 years old. I have never been married and probably never will be. I have actually been in your position before and also the position of the person that just wants to be friends many of times. I really think when it comes to a relationship and potential marriage you have to be 100% sure that this is what you want in a partner. If you get that vibe that it is not the one then there really should be no reason to pursue it. When I was in my late teens and twenties I found myself just hanging onto a relationship for the pure enjoyment of sex. Now I think I have grown up some although I still enjoy sex a lot, but have common sense to not do it if I know the guy isn't someone I really want to be with for the long haul.


I would hope so because sex is only a temporary activity. Actually being with someone is ongoing lol

I would hope so because sex is only a temporary activity. Actually being with someone is ongoing lol
Yes it certainly is. I also seem to have a fear of commitment issues. I have had long term relationships in the past as recently as in my late 30's, but when it came down to possible marriage I was ready for splitsville. :)

Cleverfun3000, I'm surprised you don't have nothing funny to say about black women because you usually diss them LOL.

No, Isiahthomas, I don't "diss" black women - I always respond when YOU diss back women. I believe that women act not according to their race, but according to their own individual character - just like men do.

I dont think I'm in a hurry to get married either Lissa. I think while its good to be married there are times where its tough. And to me, the tough stuff outweigh the good stuff.

Then there are these stories: I had been chatting on OkCupid with this guy. I wasn't excited about him but keep my options open. On the site he kept asking for my Facebook page but I told him I don't give my page to anyone I've never met. Long story short, he got my photo from OKC and Googled to find my FB page and tried to friend me after I told him I wouldn't friend him. I then told him I met someone and wanted to have a relationship with them. This is true, I met a guy near me through friends but as of now we are just friends. The guy started getting freaky, pulling the poor me card. I removed photos from all my dating sites and Facebook and my Facebook photo is of a popular long running animated comedy. I deleted most of my dating profiles except the ones connected to forums or quizzes (like OKC)and those I kept state I'm only there for forums or quizzes. Yesterday I got another friend request from him, I deleted and he immediately tried to friend me again. I've had many guys like him who wouldn't leave me alone but luckily the others never found my Facebook page. I haven't spoken to him in over a year.

Honestly, if things don't work out with the guy I like I'll never try online again. As a never married, childless religious person, I strongly seek someone like that (especially the childless part, I will not bend on that). Yet the majority of the men who contacted me had kids (my profile clearly stated childless only), or were perverted. I actually had men with multiple illegitimate kids by different women complain I'd ignore them but why would I consider them? I'd have non religious or people with vastly different religious views contact me then attack my views. The dads were the worst, I'd get threatened and called every name. All the effort spent on harassing me could have gone to looking for someone into them.

Then there are these stories: I had been chatting on OkCupid with this guy. I wasn't excited about him but keep my options open. On the site he kept asking for my Facebook page but I told him I don't give my page to anyone I've never met. Long story short, he got my photo from OKC and Googled to find my FB page and tried to friend me after I told him I wouldn't friend him. I then told him I met someone and wanted to have a relationship with them. This is true, I met a guy near me through friends but as of now we are just friends. The guy started getting freaky, pulling the poor me card. I removed photos from all my dating sites and Facebook and my Facebook photo is of a popular long running animated comedy. I deleted most of my dating profiles except the ones connected to forums or quizzes (like OKC)and thee I kept state I'm only there for forums or quizzes. Yesterday I got another friend request from him, I deleted and he immediately tried to friend me again. I've had many guys like him who wouldn't leave me alone but luckily the others never found my Facebook page.

Honestly, if things don't work out with the guy I like I'll never try online again. As a never married, childless religious person, I strongly seek someone like that (especially the childless part, I will not bend on that). Yet the majority of the men who contacted me had kids (my profile clearly stated childless only), or were perverted. I actually had men with multiple illegitimate kids by different women complain I'd ignore them but why would I consider them? I'd have non religious or people with vastly different religious views contact me then attack my views. The dads were the worst, I'd get threatened and called every name. All the effort spent on harassing me could have gone to looking for someone into them.


I heard people who have done that when meeting on dating sites and never understood why. Why the hell would I add someone to my FB list I met on a dating site? for what?

I heard people who have done that when meeting on dating sites and never understood why. Why the hell would I add someone to my FB list I met on a dating site? for what?

There are only two types of guys I'd add from dating sites: those I met who I decide to date and those who become friends after meeting. Both situations wouldn't be until I knew them a bit of time. I don't randomly add people on Facebook.

There are only two types of guys I'd add from dating sites: those I met who I decide to date and those who become friends after meeting. Both situations wouldn't be until I knew them a bit of time. I don't randomly add people on Facebook.


So you had guys agree to be your friend after a date?

So you had guys agree to be your friend after a date?

In one case we were meeting as friends. We had been chatting awhile and realized we could never be a relationship.

In one case we were meeting as friends. We had been chatting awhile and realized we could never be a relationship.


Why?

He was much younger, lived 5 hours away and just dating for the first time.

I don't waste my time talking to women because I don't like their attitude. A lot of cute women are mean towards men especially black women. It's sad that so many ignorant men will diss and laugh at men who don't have a girlfriend and are virgins and I don't see anything funny about that. There's men who are single and have never had sex and they wanna be with women. Only thing most cute women care about whether they're black or white when they meet men is how much money they got and what kind of car they got hahahahahahahahahahahahaha. If you don't have those things, you can forget about getting a cute woman LOL. That's just the way it is. I wanna tell men who've never had a girlfriend and are virgins that don't get upset if you never have a girlfriend and you never have sex. Sex isn't important and if i was a virgin, i could care less if i died a virgin LOL. Black men are the worst at dissing and laughing at black men who are single and are virgins. I used to get dissed and laughed at by them when I was in high school and I used to let it bother me. These same ignorant black men who be laughing at black men that aren't getting sex, they got kids and aren't taking care of them LOL. They have the nerve to get mad when they gotta pay child support LOL.

Stay away from Seeking Arragements.com their website claims that there are sugar babies looking for sugar daddies, but in reality they are just prostitutes.

Isiah not all women are like that. I've gotten my share of horrible men so it is both genders.

Glad to see I'm not the only one in this position. Though, it's not a good one to be in.

A guy I've been seeing on and off (just dating and talking to/getting to know better) has decided after years of friendship and flirting all the time that we are not right for each other. Thanks for leading me on...*bleep word*

I'm just gonna let it go. Not going to mess up my diet (which is working so well) and binge on food. Or, cry...But, just let it go. I am so sick of dealing with men. It's not worth my time to even worry or care about being with anyone anymore. Ya know.

But, good luck to anyone who wants to continue in the endless game of love. It pays off for some people to keep searching. So, good luck guys. But, I give up. There is a heck of alot more to life. And, instead of feeling bad about this. I'm gonna feel good about other stuff.

I'm such a sad loser, who has never had a date. But I have also seldom been interested in the guys, who I have met in real life. And I'm so afraid that if I tried to meet someone, it would just turn out to be a disaster. And I prefer to stay single over making a mistake with the wrong guy.

For all it's worth. I'm sorry for all of you male and female if you are having a hard time finding a person that is right for you! You never know , maybe Mr. or Mrs. Right is there, and you just don't know it. Love will find you in the strangest situations! Just see, and don't try and maybe you will find somebody who is right for you, even if you are just friends at first!

For all it's worth. I'm sorry for all of you male and female if you are having a hard time finding a person that is right for you! You never know , maybe Mr. or Mrs. Right is there, and you just don't know it. Love will find you in the strangest situations! Just see, and don't try and maybe you will find somebody who is right for you, even if you are just friends at first!

Just so much sh*t for me to remember before a date

1. Make sure I walk on the sidewalk closet to the street

2. Make sure I flirt

3. Strong eye contact

4. Ask her open ended question

5. Relate to her feelings

6. Share similar stories and experiences with her

7. establish common ground

8. talk about my future goals


When I was 22 all I had to be was CUTE and EASY to get along with and we were dating LOL

^^^ You're over-thinking it. Just be yourself. Like Bonnie said, don't try so much. Don't try and someday Ms. Right will find you when you're not even looking.

^^^ You're over-thinking it. Just be yourself. Like Bonnie said, don't try so much. Don't try and someday Ms. Right will find you when you're not even looking.


The main issue I was having was breaking the ice in the beginning so often I set the wrong tone.

My last 4 dates have been much better with 2 leading to second dates.

The main issue I was having was breaking the ice in the beginning so often I set the wrong tone.

My last 4 dates have been much better with 2 leading to second dates.
Are you using those silly dating web sites? I met my ex husband in 1999 at the Bellmont race track. :lol: We've been apart for a while now, but I haven't resorted to the dating sites.

Are you using those silly dating web sites? I met my ex husband in 1999 at the Bellmont race track. :lol: We've been apart for a while now, but I haven't hats 't resorted to the dating sites.

That's the only way I can meet women because I don't go to bars or clubs or approach women in public

That's the only way I can meet women because I don't go to bars or clubs or approach women in public
Do you go to church socials or mixers? Have you thought of joining a bowling league?
Well, if the dating sites are working out for you, then I wish you lots of luck. :)

That's the only way I can meet women because I don't go to bars or clubs or approach women in public

Likewise.

That's the only way I can meet women because I don't go to bars or clubs or approach women in publicSometimes I think its better to be alone TVfactfan,I dunno.......

For all it's worth. I'm sorry for all of you male and female if you are having a hard time finding a person that is right for you! You never know , maybe Mr. or Mrs. Right is there, and you just don't know it. Love will find you in the strangest situations! Just see, and don't try and maybe you will find somebody who is right for you, even if you are just friends at first!

I like your post a lot because it relates to me more than anyone could know. Three years ago I met a guy I instantly clicked with. I met him through a charity we are both active with. There is strong chemistry, we have so much in common and our families like each other. It's gotten to the point he confides in me more and more. His mom often makes comments about me, such as telling people about me and saying she wants to spend time with me. However we haven't dated one on one. Our families all attended a festival together but we haven't gone out. He has a lot on his plate now (he just went to court the other day on a driving issue) so that could be it, but on the other hand I worry I'm wasting time. I'm not waiting around, I'm just not interested in dating anyone else (plus I have issues myself I need to tackle).

For all it's worth. I'm sorry for all of you male and female if you are having a hard time finding a person that is right for you! You never know , maybe Mr. or Mrs. Right is there, and you just don't know it. Love will find you in the strangest situations! Just see, and don't try and maybe you will find somebody who is right for you, even if you are just friends at first!
You have to wonder where Mr Right is though, when he still hasn't turned up after 31 years. :(

I don't like the gamble I have to take when meeting someone online which is paying for dinner and not knowing if she wants to see me again.

If I do that for 4 girls that's over a $100 which starts to get pricy

You have to wonder where Mr Right is though, when he still hasn't turned up after 31 years. :(

When I was using dating sites I made it a policy to never respond to any ad where the woman was looking for this so-called Mr. Right character. Another turn-off is when they use only glamour shots photos.

When I did online I made the first date casual. No dinners usually because I didn't want a lot of money and time wasted for no chemistry.

IllinoisTVFan, if most cute women weren't the same, I wouldn't be single for 13 years. I've given up on dating because I don't like most cute women's attitude whether they're black or white. Most cute women are golddiggers. So don't say they aren't.

Then I have to wonder what you mean by "cute women". It sounds like you should take a chance on women, who aren't so "cute". Maybe they will like you better?

Then I have to wonder what you mean by "cute women". It sounds like you should take a chance on women, who aren't so "cute". Maybe they will like you better?


Yes exactly. If you meet a girl who you don't think is really that pretty , if she is a nice, sweet person , easy to talk to with common interests to yours. You will find something pleasant looking about her and she might start to become really pretty in your eyes as you get to know her and her inner beauty will shine through! ;)

That happens with us girls too, we will meet a guy who maybe isn't our "dream boat" looks wise at first, but there ends up being more than meets the eye! ;)

IllinoisTVFan, if most cute women weren't the same, I wouldn't be single for 13 years. I've given up on dating because I don't like most cute women's attitude whether they're black or white. Most cute women are golddiggers. So don't say they aren't.

Isiah that isn't true. I am cute (former model) and was never a golddigger. Perhaps your problem may be seeking above your league. When I did online I was often sought out by obese men, much older and the like and they'd call me names for rejecting them. I've seen men seek out the women every guy wants then get mad they didn't want them. Meanwhile the average woman fails at online because the men she wants want a woman who'll never want them.

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As I have said before, I have dealt with more than my share of beautiful women of basically all nationalities and the ones who look the absolute best are the ones that want you to spend the absolute most on them. Why? Because the line to date these women go out the door, around the corner and down the block. And the gorgeous women know this. So they make the rules about what it takes to keep you at the front of the line. The more you spend on them and their bills, the more you keep their attention. Ask Bonniegirl how she feels about a broke, cheap man with a nice personality that keeps her laughing.

Well, I guess I have to repeat the cliché that money isn't everything. Sure, it would be nice to get a treat some times. But if he would be good to me otherwise, who cares if he's cheap or broke?

http://i.imgur.com/2R9p3mA.png (http://lunapic.com)

As I have said before, I have dealt with more than my share of beautiful women of basically all nationalities and the ones who look the absolute best are the ones that want you to spend the absolute most on them. Why? Because the line to date these women go out the door, around the corner and down the block. And the gorgeous women know this. So they make the rules about what it takes to keep you at the front of the line. The more you spend on them and their bills, the more you keep their attention. Ask Bonniegirl how she feels about a broke, cheap man with a nice personality that keeps her laughing.


OK why are you calling me out by name here? :mad:

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As I have said before, I have dealt with more than my share of beautiful women of basically all nationalities and the ones who look the absolute best are the ones that want you to spend the absolute most on them. Why? Because the line to date these women go out the door, around the corner and down the block. And the gorgeous women know this. So they make the rules about what it takes to keep you at the front of the line. The more you spend on them and their bills, the more you keep their attention. Ask Bonniegirl how she feels about a broke, cheap man with a nice personality that keeps her laughing.

Personally I don't care if a man is broke. Here's the thing, the best looking women will have the most choices usually so most men would be advised to look elsewhere. Sorry, but not all men will get a pretty woman. They waste their time and the pretty woman and end up single. Meanwhile the plain Jane remains single too because the man is too busy pursuing the woman out of her league. Why would a man want to spend money on a woman who won't appreciate it?

Yeah, it makes you wonder. And I can't help thinking about Alan from "2 ½ men". He kept wasting time pursuiting the same kind of shallow bitches, who dated his more successful brother Charlie, just because they were "so hot". He could never settle for a "plain Jane", despite that he should have understood that they most likely would have appreciated him more. ohno:

Meanwhile the plain Jane remains single too because the man is too busy pursuing the woman out of her league.

I'll gladly take the plain Jane type over someone extremely beautiful any day of the week.

Good! :D

I'm not a plain Jane but am an older single and that is just as bad on dating sites. Guys avoided me often on dating sites. On some sites these guys actually stated thery only wanted women 10 (but usually more)years younger. For some reason I was attracting men I thought were ugly and would get rejected by average looking men.

I'm not a plain Jane but am an older single and that is just as bad on dating sites. Guys avoided me often on dating sites. On some sites these guys actually stated thery only wanted women 10 (but usually more)years younger. For some reason I was attracting men I thought were ugly and would get rejected by average looking men.

Yeah!! I'm older too! I'm 53!!! I have never been on a dating site! I read your other post Illinois TV fan, I'm by no means of model looking status , but I was a cute girl , mainly my body which was nice and cute, tiny. I'm only 5'2'. My face is OK . I'm of Polish decent mainly (if you all are familiar with what a Polish girl generally looks like) LOL , anyway. I was a cute enough girl and had a really good body back in the day and long pretty hair ! ;) I NEVER had a problem meeting or attracting men and I been married twice now! IDK what would happen now though! :confused: OMG if I suddenly was on the dating scene again! Most likely it wouldn't be as easy , Older and 30 pounds heavier. And OMG what a topic, It would be so awful if something were to happen to my current husband, being that I don't want to cheat, and the ONLY way I would date again is if well . I'm not going to get into that! :(

This is in response to Cleverfun3000, who never answered my post as to why I was singled out? :confused: ;)

That's not so bad, you can never have too many friends. At least she was honest and upfront with you.

That's not so bad, you can never have too many friends. At least she was honest and upfront with you.

I can't be her friend because I am sexually attracted to her

Yeah!! I'm older too! I'm 53!!! I have never been on a dating site! I read your other post Illinois TV fan, I'm by no means of model looking status , but I was a cute girl , mainly my body which was nice and cute, tiny. I'm only 5'2'. My face is OK . I'm of Polish decent mainly (if you all are familiar with what a Polish girl generally looks like) LOL , anyway. I was a cute enough girl and had a really good body back in the day and long pretty hair ! ;) I NEVER had a problem meeting or attracting men and I been married twice now! IDK what would happen now though! :confused: OMG if I suddenly was on the dating scene again! Most likely it wouldn't be as easy , Older and 30 pounds heavier. And OMG what a topic, It would be so awful if something were to happen to my current husband, being that I don't want to cheat, and the ONLY way I would date again is if well . I'm not going to get into that! :(

This is in response to Cleverfun3000, who never answered my post as to why I was singled out? :confused: ;)

My mom is almost 100% Polish and in her day was beautiful. She could have played Barbie in a commercial. I'm a bit darker but offline never had trouble attracting men but online? Yuck. Offline I attract all types, online just men I don't want. Oddly offline I attract mostly younger men.

My mom is almost 100% Polish and in her day was beautiful. She could have played Barbie in a commercial. I'm a bit darker but offline never had trouble attracting men but online? Yuck. Offline I attract all types, online just men I don't want. Oddly offline I attract mostly younger men.


There is a big population of Polish people in the Chicago area! :) ;) :wave: I'm in California originally from Pa. A few years ago a guy asked me if I was Polish, and I said yes I am, am he said I thought so, I used to live in Chicago and there are a lot of Polish people there and the women are really beautiful like you ! ;) Such a nice compliment! :)

We do tend to have exotic shape eyes for a white person and high cheekbones and a distinct nose. The only trouble is us Polish women tend to get a little heavy set with age! :(

I read there are more Polish people in Chicago than almost anywhere else and it seems everyone I know has some Polish. Unfortunately I got dark hair instead of blonde. I do have high cheek bones though. I look more Hispanic or Native American though.

I read there are more Polish people in Chicago than almost anywhere else and it seems everyone I know has some Polish. Unfortunately I got dark hair instead of blonde. I do have high cheek bones though. I look more Hispanic or Native American though.


:) ;) :wave:

:wave: :wave: :wave:

LOL@Cleverfun3000 hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha. I agree with IllinoisTVFan also that I shouldn't be trying to go after the hottest women because they'll never want me. They'll only want me if they think they can use me LOL. Maybe I should go after plain Jane women. IllinoisTVFan, how old are you? Maybe I should go on a date with you but you would have to come to Maryland where I live for that to happen LOL. Do you have a picture of yourself to show me? If you do, show it to me in my pm box.

I'm 37 years old and I've had a very rough go of things in the dating world. I've been into online dating for about all of the last 10 years. It hasn't worked for me, but at the same time it seems like my best option for dating by far. I've met 22 women in person as a result from online dating. I've been on a lot of long trips. I've been on a lot of 1st dates, some 2nd dates, but not very many 3rd dates. With around 2/3rd's of them it was their idea not to see me again. I've heard everything from "we aren't connecting" to "we don't have enough in common" to "I've decided that I don't have time for a relationship" to "I've decided that I enjoy being single" to "I'm not feeling it" to "I'm not suitable for you" to "there's someone else that I like better." I have to try really hard to even get someone to respond to me. It's not uncommon at all for me to sit down and write to 20 women and not get a response from any of them. Still, I'm not anywhere close to giving up on finding a wife. I want a wife too bad to give up.

I can't be her friend because I am sexually attracted to her
I'm physically attracted to my best friend, lol.

LOL@Cleverfun3000 hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha. I agree with IllinoisTVFan also that I shouldn't be trying to go after the hottest women because they'll never want me. They'll only want me if they think they can use me LOL. Maybe I should go after plain Jane women. IllinoisTVFan, how old are you? Maybe I should go on a date with you but you would have to come to Maryland where I live for that to happen LOL. Do you have a picture of yourself to show me? If you do, show it to me in my pm box.

That's not to say you wouldn't find a hot girl, just that so many men who are at the bottom of the looks scale think they deserve a hot woman. I'm not a plain Jane, but have many friends who are and they complain about men avoiding them.

Unfortunately I don't travel much but I'll look you up if I ever come to Maryland.

I'm physically attracted to my best friend, lol.


What happen was we talked for 3 weeks before meeting and she was more attractive than I expected so I really was feeling her

So it's no way we can be friends.

I can't see myself being married, being a friend with man or woman. I am so used being by myself I would feel so out of place being cozy with anyone. In 20 years of so I will be headed to the grave yard. Good luck to all who want companionship in some form.

She text me last night asking me how I am doing. Mixed signals

How do I unsubscribe to this thread. I am tired of these stupid comments popping up in my email. Several of you know nothing about relationships then try to come off as experts.

The things you said about African american women were disgusting!

How do I unsubscribe to this thread. I am tired of these stupid comments popping up in my email. Several of you know nothing about relationships then try to come off as experts.

The things you said about African american women were disgusting!


You can always log out :lol:

I'm a 53 year old male, but look about 10 to 15 years younger than my age. I was in a relationship with an older woman in her 60's, but the relationship is over, she jilted me and wanted to leave me to be with another man, so I let her go. It's probably just as well, she has health problems and has to take several prescription pills every day in order to stay healthy. I should thank her new boyfriend for taking her off my hands, she is his headache now, he can deal with her problems, it's not my worry anymore. I live alone currently, which sucks sometimes, I haven't lived alone before, but I'm enjoying my quiet single life and trying to survive with the cards I've been dealt.

I am open to another relationship, but the next one will have to be with a younger woman, no more older women for me. I don't have any kids, I would like to meet a younger woman and have kids before I'm too old to be a father. :lol:

As a never married, childless religious person, I strongly seek someone like that (especially the childless part, I will not bend on that).

I haven't been married, am childless, and live in southern Indiana. Perhaps we can get acquainted and hook up sometime. What do you think? Send me a PM if you like.

I haven't been married, am childless, and live in southern Indiana. Perhaps we can get acquainted and hook up sometime. What do you think? Send me a PM if you like.


Ok player LOL

Well what do you look like? I don't really travel but let me know if you come to Illinois.

Well what do you look like? I don't really travel but let me know if you come to Illinois.

I consider myself an above average looking man, I look younger than my age of 53, I'm not bald and don't have grey hair, people who I've asked to guess my age say I appear to be in my late 30's or early 40's. I used to live in Chicago, but three years ago I sold my house there and bought a very nice home in southern Indiana where property tax is much cheaper. I'm happy here, all I need is a special woman to love and share life with.

How about you, what do you look like? We can talk via PM if you like.

I'm 37 years old and I've had a very rough go of things in the dating world. I've been into online dating for about all of the last 10 years. It hasn't worked for me, but at the same time it seems like my best option for dating by far. I've met 22 women in person as a result from online dating. I've been on a lot of long trips. I've been on a lot of 1st dates, some 2nd dates, but not very many 3rd dates. With around 2/3rd's of them it was their idea not to see me again. I've heard everything from "we aren't connecting" to "we don't have enough in common" to "I've decided that I don't have time for a relationship" to "I've decided that I enjoy being single" to "I'm not feeling it" to "I'm not suitable for you" to "there's someone else that I like better." I have to try really hard to even get someone to respond to me. It's not uncommon at all for me to sit down and write to 20 women and not get a response from any of them. Still, I'm not anywhere close to giving up on finding a wife. I want a wife too bad to give up.

An unsolicited piece of advice for you. First, don't ever, ever give up on finding a wife. Second, be sure that each and every woman you deal with is drop dead gorgeous and sexy. Women are a helluva lot of trouble and you gotta be sure that then trouble is WORTH IT.

Eh... So there will be no love for the ones, who aren't so gorgeous and sexy? Nice...

Eh... So there will be no love for the ones, who aren't so gorgeous and sexy? Nice...


I think just the ones who are ugly and hedious:lol:

Eh... So there will be no love for the ones, who aren't so gorgeous and sexy? Nice...


Furienna, this is coming from a guy who on another thread said he wouldn't care if his wife or girlfriend cheated on him with another man! So I wouldn't take too much stock in what he has to say! :confused: ;)

He also dissed me on this thread before I guess cause I'm older or whatever, never did get the reason for that! :confused:

I consider myself an above average looking man, I look younger than my age of 53, I'm not bald and don't have grey hair, people who I've asked to guess my age say I appear to be in my late 30's or early 40's. I used to live in Chicago, but three years ago I sold my house there and bought a very nice home in southern Indiana where property tax is much cheaper. I'm happy here, all I need is a special woman to love and share life with.

How about you, what do you look like? We can talk via PM if you like.

Are you fat? Sounds blunt but I got tired of obese men contacting Mr. Not saying he has to be hot but not obese.

An unsolicited piece of advice for you. First, don't ever, ever give up on finding a wife. Second, be sure that each and every woman you deal with is drop dead gorgeous and sexy. Women are a helluva lot of trouble and you gotta be sure that then trouble is WORTH IT.

Men are a lot of trouble too. Many beautiful women are golddigers, an average guy would be better with an average woman.

Are you fat? Sounds blunt but I got tired of obese men contacting Mr. Not saying he has to be hot but not obese.

LOL no I'm not fat. I have an average build, I'm 5 feet 9 inches tall and weigh 170 pounds. I think you and I should get better acquainted, I have a feeling we'd get along pretty well. ;)

Eh... So there will be no love for the ones, who aren't so gorgeous and sexy? Nice...

There is love for the average or not so sexy woman, but only if she is very very nice and smiles often and is sweet as pie ALL THE TIME. If not, she will be left, or cheated on by her man with a woman who has a nasty disposition but is smoking hot in a bikini. Just saying it's easier to put up with a bad woman with a good body than the other way around.

There is love for the average or not so sexy woman, but only if she is very very nice and smiles often and is sweet as pie ALL THE TIME. If not, she will be left, or cheated on by her man with a woman who has a nasty disposition but is smoking hot in a bikini. Just saying it's easier to put up with a bad woman with a good body than the other way around.

I don't know what's worse, you for writing that piece of garbage or those that actually believe it. :rolleyes:

There might be some truth to it though. Some women are left for a younger "hotter" woman, when they reach their middle age and lose some of their sex appeal. :(

There might be some truth to it though. Some women are left for a younger "hotter" woman, when they reach their middle age and lose some of their sex appeal. :(

True, but eventually captain stud muffin will get old and gray just like the women and when he does the shoe will be on the other foot if his chosen younger woman at the time decides it's time to start digging for gold again. :lol:

Yeah, but he will probably keep chasing the young hot things as long as they want him, and maybe even beyond that point. :rolleyes:

Well you know if a man cheats he will cheat! It doesn't really have to to with what his wife or girlfriend looks like , it's like a macho thing or if an easy girl is offering, the guy might think, hey why not? My wife or Girlfriend won't find out w, what the heck! A lot of times the wife or girlfriend is actually BETTER looking than the girl he is cheating with!

Furienna, please don't worry, you are a very nice person and I'm sure you are pretty. You have good morals and a guy would love a nice woman who hasn't been around with a lot of men. Hang in there and don't let this guy on here who insists all women Have to be beauty queens to be worth anything get to you!

I don't know what's worse, you for writing that piece of garbage or those that actually believe it. :rolleyes:


Thank you Zoneboy for standing up on behalf of us women! ;) :wave:

Furienna, please don't worry, you are a very nice person and I'm sure you are pretty. You have good morals and a guy would love a nice woman who hasn't been around with a lot of men. Hang in there and don't let this guy on here who insists all women Have to be beauty queens to be worth anything get to you!
Oh, you don't have to tell me I'm pretty. I know I'm not! :rolleyes:

But you know what? I'm better off being single than being with a man, who would cheat on me or even abuse me. There are so many creepy men out there, that I don't feel like pushing my luck. I'm jealous at my sister some times, because she got married four years ago. But at least I'm better off than my brother, who keeps hanging on to a woman, even though she has been mean to him several times.

There might be some truth to it though. Some women are left for a younger "hotter" woman, when they reach their middle age and lose some of their sex appeal. :(
Of course it's TRUE. It happens all the time. Most men prefer to be with women when they are at their sexiest (20 - 34 years old) and will find a way to leave the woman they are with if she can't compare to the smokin' hot bombshells he sees each and every day of his life. Men were and are raised to seek out, find and be with the sexiest woman they can imagine. Maternal -type women are functional, practical and family friendly - but I have no desire to be intimate with any woman that looks like, is built like or can be mistaken for someone's grandmother. I am sure some of them have very nice personalities and would make good PLATONIC friends, though.

And now we have dating site ads popping up on SO. lol

And now we have dating site ads popping up on SO. lol


really?

really?
Yea. They're advertising Asian girls and Russian girls. They've been all over the website tonight. They even have a website for people over 40. lol

Yea. They're advertising Asian girls and Russian girls. They've been all over the website tonight. They even have a website for people over 40. lol
MEN OVER 40 - The women have to be younger - a LOT younger than 40. . .

Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha. Cleverfun3000, you're a funny guy. You said most men go after the cute women and you said you don't want a old ugly woman hahahahahahahahahahahaha. I don't blame you. I'm not asking women for a date anymore because I'm sick of their attitude. I like white women more than black women but white women aren't asking me on a date and I'm afraid to approach them. Most white women are with white men and that's never gonna change. I seriously doubt a white woman is gonna ask me on a date. I've only dated one white woman who I used to work with at a factory in Cleveland and I spent the night at her house twice. I thought it was weird that she broke up with me and didn't tell me why. I never did nothing wrong to her. It's probably best that she broke up with me because she has 3 sons and I don't wanna be bothered with women that got kids.

MEN OVER 40 - The women have to be younger - a LOT younger than 40. . .

So women like me who are attractive, in shape, educated etc should have to settle for old fat slobs because men our age is seeking younger? You know what happens, these men end up alone and so do the women.

So women like me who are attractive, in shape, educated etc should have to settle for old fat slobs because men our age is seeking younger? You know what happens, these men end up alone and so do the women.
Which women end up alone? And the reason men go for sexy gorgeous women 20-30 years old, has NOTHING to do with where they end up. Having and being with a woman like that is about enjoying the ride. If you stay with her too long, she will lose her looks and you are back to square one. The shelf life on these flawless bombshell babes never, ever extend past the time that they look drop dead gorgeous.

Which women end up alone? And the reason men go for sexy gorgeous women 20-30 years old, has NOTHING to do with where they end up. Having and being with a woman like that is about enjoying the ride. If you stay with her too long, she will lose her looks and you are back to square one. The shelf life on these flawless bombshell babes never, ever extend past the time that they look drop dead gorgeous.

Do you have relationship experience? First off, guys on dating sites wanting younger are still there so no luck. Second, most guys want a partner not a doll.

Bump.

Now when I match with a woman on a dating site, she wants to talk on the app for a year before moving things to the phone:lol:

I can DEFINITELY understand the pain you had a couple of years back, TVFactFan. About a month ago I started going out with this woman I met through one of my friends. So, after a good couple of dates I was ready to “do the dirty”, and wanted to make sure she was onboard, of course. She was okay with it so we did “it” and the next morning I decided to hit her up via text and I told her good morning and I asked her what she was doing. Well, she replies with “I want to tell you something” so I responded back and I said “what’s up” and she has the Naomi Oates nerve to text back “I don’t think I’m interested in you anymore.”

After I saw that I immediately blocked her ass.

Now when I match with a woman on a dating site, she wants to talk on the app for a year before moving things to the phone:lol:
DAMN :lol:

I never hated the dating process but it was Work. And when I was in that process the process was personal ads or meet somewhere wherever. I can only imagine now adays...glad that part of my life is history.

Two questions from this woman that made me want to vomit

Do you like animals
Do you go to Church



Good Night and Goodbye:wave:

Two questions from this woman that made me want to vomit

Do you like animals
Do you go to Church



Good Night and Goodbye:wave:
I can take it you don’t ask no woman if they go to church either

I can take it you don’t ask no woman if they go to church either

Nope

Two questions from this woman that made me want to vomit

Do you like animals
Do you go to Church



Good Night and Goodbye:wave:

It's better than these two questions:

Do you see marriage in your future?
Are you looking forward to being a father?

:lol:

It's better than these two questions:

Do you see marriage in your future?
Are you looking forward to being a father?

:lol:


So many women think putting this in their profile will avoid them being disappointed. A man can still lie lol

"IM DATING WITH A PURPOSE SO IF MARRIAGE IS NOT YOUR GOAL SWIPE LEFT"

:lol::lol::lol::lol: