At what age do you think is right to have sex?? Some of my friends are already having it, and we're only 14!! I say wait til you're married, but apparently not everyone agrees!

AT AGE FOURTEEN????!??!?! OH WOW!

I say when ever YOUR ready, you know?
People feel mature enough to do it at different ages.

I'm sorry, but 14?!? That's too young. I wouldn't care if I was ready at age 13 laying in bed at night gettin hornier by the minute. I think 14 is WAY too young.

I mean, what if you get pregnant? Yes, I know it was your choice to have sex, but then what will you do? Drop out?

What will you do if the guy rapes you? What if it's like a 3 minute thing? What if your physically ready but not emotionally ready? There are just so many what-ifs.

Originally posted by Jean Smart Forever
I'm sorry, but 14?!? That's too young. I wouldn't care if I was ready at age 13 laying in bed at night gettin hornier by the minute. I think 14 is WAY too young.

I mean, what if you get pregnant? Yes, I know it was your choice to have sex, but then what will you do? Drop out?

What will you do if the guy rapes you? What if it's like a 3 minute thing? What if your physically ready but not emotionally ready? There are just so many what-ifs. Oh yeah. I can think of a few more 'WHAT IFs.' But I choose to shut my trap.

Just to clarify,
-I wasn't saying fourteen is old enough. I agree that fourteen is very young, and I can't see a fourteen year old really...Wanting too. That's how old my older sister is, and I don't think she is mature enough.

I just meant that people mature at different ages, and some feel ready before others. Some want to wait until there wedding night. (Which I btw find very romantic, if two people love each other and choose to wait.. I dunno somthing about that makes my mushy romantic side come out.)

Personally, I don't think or believe that
there is a certain age where it's considered to be okay to have sex. It's
more of a feeling, a feeling of maturity
and a feeling of right and wrong. If you
want to, you want to! If you don't, you
don't! JMO!!!!!

I aggree with Angel. The right time to have sex is within the person and the connection that the two people have with each other. I aggree though that 14 is a bit on the young side

Originally posted by NancyMcKeon1987
I say wait til you're married,

I totally agree with you (This is my opinion) I mean sex is a beautiful thing (not that I've ever done it) and you should wait and do it with the man you marry beacuse then it will mean more and then if you get pregnant at least you know that your husband is going to stick around beacuse you should talk about this before you get married.

Originally posted by angelofmusic
I agree that fourteen is very young, and I can't see a fourteen year old really...Wanting too.

You can't see a fourteen year old wanting to have sex? I'm sure lots of fourteen year olds want to, especially guys.

But yeah 14 is too young. I dont think there is any exact age as someone else mentioned.. just once you're mature enough. You should also be in love and really love that person.

Originally posted by tootieismyfav


You can't see a fourteen year old wanting to have sex?

I was referring to the ones I know, (My sister and her friends many of whom are my friends). That seems to be the last thing on there minds. I know that there are girls out there doing it, it just seems to me like they couldn't REALLY be enjoying it. I did know one thirteen year old girl who wasn't a virgin.. She lived next door to me for like a month, and had a horrible reputaion. She didn't deny anything that people were saying about her, but it seemed like she just couldn't say no to guys. She didn't seem to be enjoying being sexaully active.
Originally posted by tootieismyfav

I'm sure lots of fourteen year olds want to, especially guys.

You know I almost typed that it's different for guys, and that there are a lot more guys wanting to sex, then girls. But I didn't want to insult any of the guys here. And I realised that I don't know any fourteen year old guys who want too, and it's reather stereo-typical.

I also think you should wait until you get married before having sex. I am a virgin, but I know at least two girls who go to my school who aren't virgins. And, I've known them since grade nine. So, they were about 14, as well. Also, way too young in my opinion. I'm 16 now and I'm going to wait until marriage before having sex.

While I do think that fourteen is a tad young, I say that whenever you're ready is the right time. I was nineteen when I lost my virginity.

Althuogh it is down to each indivivdual person to know how they feel, I don't think you can make a serious descision like that until you are around 18.

All of the guys in my grade want to have sex so bad, and we're only in 8th grade! Some of them have already. My best guy friend had sex so many times with his girlfriend that he lost count and once was in the back of her mom's car while she was in the store for 5 minutes. I was schocked, but what can you do??

Originally posted by NancyMcKeon1987
My best guy friend had sex so many times with his girlfriend that he lost count and once was in the back of her mom's car while she was in the store for 5 minutes.

:eek2: OMG!!!!!! THAT IS GROSS!!!!!!!! I wouldn't have sex until I was at the very least, 18. And I agree, 14 is WAY too young.

Originally posted by NancyMcKeon1987
All of the guys in my grade want to have sex so bad, and we're only in 8th grade! Some of them have already. My best guy friend had sex so many times with his girlfriend that he lost count and once was in the back of her mom's car while she was in the store for 5 minutes. I was schocked, but what can you do??

5 minutes?! He must be really bad at it in order to do it that fast...

14 is wayyy too young. That's all i have to say!

Originally posted by JoJoJoJoJoJoJoJoJo


5 minutes?! He must be really bad at it in order to do it that fast...

:rotflmao:

Yes, 14 is way to young, but there is so much temptaion out there. Ads are using way too much sex to promote products, and I think that that is just wrong. Sex is not something you do when you're bored, it's a beautiful act of love between two people who care for each other, and I also agree to wait to have sex until you're married. My psychology teacher was telling us one day that sex is the number one reason why couples break up. Also, we were watching this movie about abuse in our psychology class, and it showed this one woman who was a victim of incest by her father when she was 9!! And it scared her for life! No joke, she was in a bad family and that just ruined her life. She had 2 pregnancies, one at 9 and one at 11. It was really sad to see her talk about because she was all in tears and I couldn't even describe her actions. I know I trailed off a bit, but if you wait until decide to have sex and pregnant, you will have to suffer the consequenses. And a baby isn't something you keep and get bored w/, like Mossop said in another topic, a baby is somethiung you take care of all of you're life, not just until it is 18. It is a lifelong commitment you will have to make. And if you wait until the right time, you will feel so much better, because then you are ready for anything that might come your way.

14 is young...but if that person understands and is mature, both physically and emotionally, and goes to see a doctor and uses condoms and birth controls and knows the consequences, then I think it's ok. You know? But they should wait till like after high school. school has enough pressure-academics, sports, extra curriculums, psats, parents nagging u, stanford 9, college and to add sex on there is like really big. but whatever. :D

It's up to the individual to make the decision but I personally think that 14 is way too young. When I was around that age I was anxious to have sex but now that I'm grown I realize that it's best to wait until you're married. Just an opinion.

I agree that 14 is waaaaaaay to young to be jumping into bed with people. Like many of you I also like to think that your first time should be with someone whom you really love and who really loves you, but not eveyone can have that. I'm nearly 20 and I've never been in a serious relationship - sometimes I think I'll never have that - and so the idea of waiting for someone who loves me seems a bit crazy. I've waited 20 years and noones been interested in me - I dunno if I can wait another 20 years!
Childhood is a very special thing and once you have sex (which is a very 'adult' thing) your childhood is effectively over.
Kids nowadays seem to be in too much of a hurry to grow up and that depresses me.

Double post - sorry.

mkay well i dont have that much to say but.....well im 14...and i know um...*thinks..* three people who have done it.....a lot..:rolleyes: :rolleyes:

Originally posted by Mossopp
I agree that 14 is waaaaaaay to young to be jumping into bed with people. Like many of you I also like to think that your first time should be with someone whom you really love and who really loves you, but not eveyone can have that. I'm nearly 20 and I've never been in a serious relationship - sometimes I think I'll never have that - and so the idea of waiting for someone who loves me seems a bit crazy. I've waited 20 years and noones been interested in me - I dunno if I can wait another 20 years!
Childhood is a very special thing and once you have sex (which is a very 'adult' thing) your childhood is effectively over.
Kids nowadays seem to be in too much of a hurry to grow up and that depresses me.

I totaly agree with that, people seem in too much of a hurry to grow up-it will happen to them!
People should know when the time is right and shouldn't just do it because of peer preasure or because they think they have to do it by a certain age.

I say umm when your ready to. But like no younger than 18 or 19. . *shrugs*

Well, I dont wanna leave high school as a virgin so I'm gonna wait until I'm at least 16 or 17. Thats just my opinion tho....your ready when your ready and I feel that I will be ready then.

Originally posted by Divisionbabe05
Well, I dont wanna leave high school as a virgin so I'm gonna wait until I'm at least 16 or 17. Thats just my opinion tho....your ready when your ready and I feel that I will be ready then.


AAHAHAHAHAHA!!


Lord, I must have a fluckied up school...I could give you a huge list of everyone i know who isnt a virgin...

The problem with saying stuff like "when you feel you're ready" "there's no one age" "do what's best for you" is that people don't know when they're ready. They have no idea the responsibility that comes with being that intimate with someone and how much more painful it is when you break up after having done it with them. They think they are ready, then once they've done it, run the risk of having a child come out of it, and have opened themselves up that much to someone, without the committment you have with marriage, the outcome can be brutal. That person may leave you, that person may have just done it with you cause you're available, and not because they truly love you. And yes, that can all happen when you're married, but at least, you have that license, you have that ring. You have heard that other person make that step and commmittment for you.

Those are just my defenses from my corner of beliefs that I'm waiting till marriage. It shows you care enough about that other person to say, "I am not giving myself and have not given myself to anyone but you." awwww, hehe

Originally posted by sue z q
The problem with saying stuff like "when you feel you're ready" "there's no one age" "do what's best for you" is that people don't know when they're ready. They have no idea the responsibility that comes with being that intimate with someone and how much more painful it is when you break up after having done it with them. They think they are ready, then once they've done it, run the risk of having a child come out of it, and have opened themselves up that much to someone, without the committment you have with marriage, the outcome can be brutal. That person may leave you, that person may have just done it with you cause you're available, and not because they truly love you. And yes, that can all happen when you're married, but at least, you have that license, you have that ring. You have heard that other person make that step and commmittment for you.

Those are just my defenses from my corner of beliefs that I'm waiting till marriage. It shows you care enough about that other person to say, "I am not giving myself and have not given myself to anyone but you." awwww, hehe

Hey, I haven't seen you in a while here. Welcome back! :wave:

Originally posted by EricMatthews


Hey, I haven't seen you in a while here. Welcome back! :wave:

She's basically been on TD and TDFF boards........ lol

Originally posted by Teddys_Gurl
She's basically been on TD and TDFF boards........ lol

Oh, well then welcome back to CHIT CHAT! :wave:

I do think that 14 is a bit young for American children to be having sex. (sexual mores are not constant...there are some cultures where sex is encouraged and endorsed at around age 8). I do not, however, think it is necessary to wait until marriage. But that is according to my own personal moral compass, each person has their own. Personally, I think it is better to wait to do it with someone you love, and who you know loves you. That is what I did and I can honestly say I do not have any regrets about my first time. However, I don't hold to the idea that all sex you ever have necessarily has to be with someone you love, I just think it's better if the first time is with someone you love.

The problem, I think, with waiting until marriage, is that it may cause some people to rush into a marriage before they are ready. There is all this talk about the responsibility and emotion involved in loosing your virginity, but there is also a great deal of responsibility involved in marriage that I think many people tend to overlook. I personally do not see the reasoning behind waiting for a slip of paper and a ring, especially if you've been with the person for awhile. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years, and we have discussed marriage but we both want to wait until we are out of school, on our own, able to support ourselves, and able to pay for our own wedding. Now at the rate we're going, it's probably going to be another 4 years before we're at that point :lol: but I think it's better to not rush into marriage.

I'm so glad to hear that most of you believe in waiting until you are married or in love. Yes 14 is way too young to be having sex, but I know a lot of my friends were doing it at that age. Personally, I think it's wrong and people should wait until they are married. Anyway, there's so much responsibility w/ sex like pregnancy,ewwww diseases, and emotions. Around here, people just act like sex is just for fun, and I bet most of the people in my school aren't virgins. I think there are about five or six teenage mothers (some more are still pregnant) just in my grade! A lot of girls had babies in junior high. One girl had a kid in 6th grade! It's sad because I think there's only about 300 people in my school. People act like it is the "norm" around here, and some of my teachers said that the county has the highest teenage pregnancy rate in the whole U.S.!!!!! I guess it's because I live in Hicksville U.S.A....I don't even want to get started about all the diseases people say are around here....Everyone says there is a lot of hepititis. Anyway, yes 14 is way too young for sex. Please wait a while!!!

Blair, is anyone taking on the responsibility for teaching sex education in your county? Parents, schools, the druggist, the manacurist, the pet store owner, the school valedictorian, the librarian, churches, or... maybe even the local doctors and nurses? I'm teasing about no laughing matter but, geez, "1 million people, 15 last names," is a clue that things ain't right.

lol...I LOVVVVED that "West Virginia: 1 million ppl, 15 last names" haha that was great! Newayz.....about sex. I say, do whatever you want!

Originally posted by kittflynn
Blair, is anyone taking on the responsibility for teaching sex education in your county? Parents, schools, the druggist, the manacurist, the pet store owner, the school valedictorian, the librarian, churches, or... maybe even the local doctors and nurses? I'm teasing about no laughing matter but, geez, "1 million people, 15 last names," is a clue that things ain't right.
I hear ya! It ain't right, but I don't know what to do about it. In healh class we learned about birth control and all, and there's even a clinic in my school where they give away free birth control!!!! I live in a very depressed area where there are hardly no jobs or anything, but that doesn't mean all the teenage girls should get pregnant! We don't have manacurists or pet shops, but there's plenty of churches that should help or something! I don't know, this place is weird. I don't think it's like other small towns. I hate to say that but "1 million people, 15 last names" is not really a joke. I'm not like that though! No one else in my town even has the same surname as me but my Mom. WEll I've said enough for now. Please pray for my town or something. I was beginning to think all places were like this!!!!

Well Im in the 8th grade (im 13 so whoo hoo) and i dont know who is and who isnt a virgin but it think there are at leadt 2 out of 63 who arent. my freind was in the car and was like "Ok I know soemthing about what frank and sarah did and... I cant tell u what but its a big deal and... AHHHHHHHHH Im gonna go crazy" and we continued to talk and i continued to pry and i said "Well was it illegal!?" and she was like "... In some states." and i was like "oooooo." and she was like YAAAAAA!. So that was scary considering I wouldn never sleep with either of them... because... ew I dont think many people would... my freind and I argue about sex and the impotance of waiting till ur married and she said that she has to or she'll go to hell, BUT, if the most popular hottest guy in school wanted to she would do it. My theory is do it if u really want to and try not to get pregnant because in catholic school... they wont let u take a leave of absense for pregnancy. I KNOW everyone wants to have sex eccept for my one freind who still says "EWWWWWWWW" about it (the one who will onyl sleep with the popular guy)... One time last yr I was walking down the hall and heard to 8th graders (9th graders now) talking and one was like "God I wanna have sex sooooo bad" and I had to walk really fast to keep from lafin but... well it was funny if u heard him. Anyway, whether I say I will or not, knowing me as well as i do, chances are I will not leave high school a virgin... which i wouldnt even wanna do in the first place.. But still in all honesty Id do it now if... umm, a decent guy showed up in this town which aint gonna happen. Oh well Next yr Ill have alot of nice catholic guys around. I think I'll prey on the actually religious ones and completely mess up their morals. Actually i said id sleep with Tucker Whelchel (LW;s son) just to make her mad... She'd probably try to kill me with a broom. Ok as alot of u know IM WEIIIIIIIIRD so ignore anything I just said. U should never take a lunatic seriously. Because if I ruled the world people would all have white hair with zebra stiped and girls would wear baggy pants and guys would wear skirts and jewlery and cows would help me rule and EVERYONE WOULD BE NAMED CUCUMBER!!! MWAAAAAAAHAHAHAHAHAAAAAAAA! HAHAHAHA! HAAAAAAAAAAAAA!

-Ahem- Ok.

I think 14 is too young also. I dont know if there is a certain age, but it should be when you are responsible enough to live with the consequences. Also if you didn't read the USA Today a couple weeks ago here's an article that may shock us not in junior high anymore, I know it shocked me, and it wasnt THAT long ago i was in junior high.
http://story.news.yahoo.com/news?tmpl=story&u=/usatoday/20020315/ts_usatoday/3944779

My mom read that article at her doctors office, and since I'm 14, I got "interviewed" on the way home. She's like, "Do you know people who have done it??" and all that. I'm like yeah, but I think that it's wrong until you're married. She looked at me like, yeah, right. Then, when my whole family was in town for my confirmation, we were talking about when my little brother hurt himself, and my mom goes, "Well...as bad as that hurt, sex hurts a lot worse, right everyone??" everyone looked at her like she was crazy, and between you and me, she is. :lol:

She's on this crusade to make me not have sex. I keep telling her that she has nothing to worry about, but then again, maybe that's what everyone tells their parents when they are doing it and trying to keep it a secret.

BTW...I only know one (possibly) pregnant girl. She's been my best friend since we were about 1, and she had sex once and she took a test yesterday and it was positive. I keep trying to convince myself that those things are wrong all of the time. They are, aren't they???

http://www.findarticles.com/cf_dls/g2601/0006/2601000686/p1/article.jhtml

Although home pregnancy tests may be advertised as having an accuracy of 97% or better, studies indicate that, in practice, pregnancy tests performed in the home may incorrectly indicate that a woman is not pregnant (a false positive result) between 25-50% of the time.Studies also indicate that the false negative results are usually the result failing to follow the package directions or testing too soon after a missed menstrual period. Waiting a few days after the missed period was expected can increase the accuracy of the test. Blood and urine tests performed by a laboratory are from 97-100% accurate in detecting pregnancy.

I think you should wait until after you are married. I had sex for the first time when I was 15 years old.

Originally posted by Teddys_Gurl
http://www.findarticles.com/cf_dls/g2601/0006/2601000686/p1/article.jhtml

Although home pregnancy tests may be advertised as having an accuracy of 97% or better, studies indicate that, in practice, pregnancy tests performed in the home may incorrectly indicate that a woman is not pregnant (a false positive result) between 25-50% of the time.Studies also indicate that the false negative results are usually the result failing to follow the package directions or testing too soon after a missed menstrual period. Waiting a few days after the missed period was expected can increase the accuracy of the test. Blood and urine tests performed by a laboratory are from 97-100% accurate in detecting pregnancy.


Thank you. I was trying to convince myself most of all, and it wasn't working too well, but the article kind of helped. lol She tested too soon, so she's gonna test later.

I've always said "Wait till your married".

There is no "right" age. It's whenever you feel you're ready for it. Think about it carefully though. You might not be ready when you think you are. Consider all possibilities. And if you have ANY doubt, don't do it.

Use a condom, and get on birth control (or make sure the girl is*.) I can't stress enough about using both forms of contraceptives. Aside from all the disease risks, I've seen three of my friends get pregnant when they were on the pill. It's not fool-proof, and if you are damn sure you don't want kids you'll be smart and use both.


*Don't always believe the girl is on birth control just because she says so, guys. Make her show you her prescription. It sounds very untrusting and she might get offended if you bring it up the wrong way, but you can never be too careful. Also talk about ALL the possibilities with your partner before you do it. This might save you headaches and/or child support money later. Just trust me on this one.

I think if two people feel the same way about each other and love each other than go for it! If people get nervous or don't want to get pregnant than the guy just wears a condom, I don't think it's that big of a deal if there is a condom because its safe sex. jmo...

while I wouldnt say there is a set age, I think you should wait for after marriage.

14 is a bit young and even if they think they are ready for sex more than likely they will regret it after they've done it

Yeah, I def think that u need to wait until ur married to have sex.... people need to s-l-o-w down....lol

I don't think should be told to wait till marriage.. i mean, i always say.. wait for the right GUY not for the RING

I must've skipped this one when it first came up. I think 14 is a little too young to be having sex. Sex may be a glamorous sport to some, but the scores that could happen just aren't worth it at that age. Can you imagine what it would be like to be 14 and have a kid already? You haven't really had a chance to live at 14. I've seen it before- all the fun ceases to a close when the baby comes along.

You are the only one that can determine if the age is right for you. I would atleast wait and get to know a guy really well before doing anything though. Even if you think you know a person, it could all get shot to hell. I've had numerous friends that got pregnant with a guy they thought the knew soooooooo well and the guy ditched em when the words "I'm pregnant" came out of their mouth.

Just be sure that you want to do it, and don't allow someone to pressure you into it. If the person says "If you don't have sex with me, you must not love me." That's bull****. Plain and simple truth.

Originally posted by Jenny
If the person says "If you don't have sex with me, you must not love me." That's bull****. Plain and simple truth.

Oh yea. People these days seems to be rushing into everything so fast.

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Can I ask a question? Why is everyone want to grow up so fast? Once you loose you're childhood, it's gone. Enjoy you're life now. Good things come to those people who wait.

There was a pregnant girl in my 6th grade class. That was 6 years ago now, & if the girl would've stayed in school, she'd be a senior & her child would be starting school..There's A LOT of hepititis & aids where I live too. I like go to school in a body condom.

Ok. My turn. Im 18, and yes a virgin. Im not going to wait til Im married (what if I NEVER get married?!), but then again I might- Im not in a relationship nor have I been in one before, so its kind of hard for me to say. Ive always promised myself and I think everyone should too (IMO!) to have sex after school. Not, not after 7th period, but after you graduate. That way, you are all done with school, so you cant mess up your life. Getting pregnant while still in school is a complete waste of an education if you ask me, unless of course you were raped, or for some odd reason wanted a kid @ the time. And sex on prom night? Totally over-rated. 14 and having sex? Ew. Yea, when I was 14 I was always thinking of sex etc. (No, I wasnt a horny lil tease lol), but I knew I would never want to do it @ the time. I think its totally distgusting when I see, like, 12-14 year old punk boys on Jenny Jones etc. bragging about their sex life. My God! By the time theyre 20 theyll have enough STD's for their whole town. And a 14 yr old boy having sex in the first place? First off, he probably has NO idea what to do, and second, if he does, he probably SUCKS at it! 5 minutes? OMG lol is even enough time to....nevermind! You get the picture. Basically I feel ATLEAST wait til you are all done with school, then maybe marraige. I am class of 2002, and I remember the freshmans motto (they were class of 2003) was: The beer is cheap, the sex is free, we're the class of 2003! OMG..when I was 14 I was still watching cartoons!

Originally posted by ~°~RockAngel89~°~
My friends 13 and shes had sex b4. U should be able to have sex when u think ur ready
I agree, wait until you're ready, but I can honestly say I doubt ANYONE is ready @ 13!! Let alone 16! I seriously doubt anyone whos has sex @ 16 was actually ready. They were either pressured by their bf/gf or just hyped up about it from what they see and hear of TV etc.

Originally posted by Original Prankster
Can I ask a question? Why is everyone want to grow up so fast? Once you loose you're childhood, it's gone. Enjoy you're life now. Good things come to those people who wait.

That's what I would like to know too. Like Chris says, when you you lose your childhood its gone forever. You will never be able to turn back the clocks and wish it back.

Welcome back to the boards Chris. I've been wondering where you went too.

Welcome back, Chris


Yeah, id wait till i was older for the... what the topics about

Chris, I wonder why u changed ur avatar and stuff

Originally posted by Jenny


That's what I would like to know too. Like Chris says, when you you lose your childhood its gone forever. You will never be able to turn back the clocks and wish it back.

Welcome back to the boards Chris. I've been wondering where you went too.

I'll post a new topic about it so everyone sees it. Not a lot of people might see it here.

I have to agree that 14 is a bit TOO young.I always planned to wait till I got married so there's something to look forward to to make that special night even more special.

It's true your ready when your ready.Hopefully their are no 9 year olds reading this post right now screaming "I'm Ready! I'm Ready!" :lol:

Anyway if there WAS a set age I'd say around 18.

I think you should at least be in love when you do decide to lose your virginity. I think by age 16 is ok but not any younger. And if you are a teen use some sort of protection that prevents pregnancy.

Originally posted by .:MilKnPepSi:.
I am class of 2002, and I remember the freshmans motto (they were class of 2003) was: The beer is cheap, the sex is free, we're the class of 2003! OMG..when I was 14 I was still watching cartoons!

That is sad that society has turned to this. I'm class of 2003 and I'm proud to say I don't drink and I am a virgin. I was still watching cartoons on tv, too when I was 14. Usually Tom And Jerry on Teletoon.

Originally posted by Bootsy Whoosh
I do think that 14 is a bit young for American children to be having sex. (sexual mores are not constant...there are some cultures where sex is encouraged and endorsed at around age 8).

One of my friends actually has a "theory" about this. She says that in "olden days" people got married a lot earlier, and therefore had kids earlier. If you were married at 16 (in many cultures and whatnot, the average age for getting married was much earlier..), then you would be having sex at 16.
Nowadays, people get married much later, but start having sex around the same age..mid to late teens. Anyway, my friends observation was that the age that people started sexual activity has not changed much, it's just the customs that have changed....

14!!!! i'm 14!!! thats way too young! yuck! but I head there was
some girls in my grade that had sex in like grade 5 or 6!!
eeeeeeeeeeewwwwwwwwwww. there not around anymore.
anyway I'm waiting till the wedding night!

Originally posted by Original Prankster
Can I ask a question? Why is everyone want to grow up so fast? Once you loose you're childhood, it's gone. Enjoy you're life now. Good things come to those people who wait.

you are so right, your so mature! lol!

Originally posted by britt britt
but I head there was some girls in my grade that had sex in like grade 5 or 6!!
10 year olds having sex? :rotflmao: prolly rite after their moms told em about sex

WEll, I am a Christaina nd believe strongly in my values. I belieeve it is worng to have sex before marrige. I mean God created sex for married people. I want to ahve sex of course nd there are times I just go crazy, but I know in my heart that it is the roight thing to wiat. thats my 2 cents.
PS sorry to bring religion into this...

Well, I think the perfect age to have sex is 14, or 15.

hah...

Ok Chrysal (hehe) iM REPLYING TO UR REPLY BUT IM TO LAZY TO look for it to quote but anyways...Again with Jenny Jones...Do u have every episode taped?! HUHUHUHUHUH!? LOL

ok yeah...all you people are going to burn in hell for having sex outside of marriage...yeah well im kidding i think....idk but i somehow think God will do justice idk..I would say just wait until your amrried to be on the safe side lol

14 IS to young, I lost my virginity at 15 :D but chef says people are ready at 17

I'm 23 and I'm a virgin. I am not married so I haven't had sex yet. It's just that simple.

Originally posted by Georgia's on my Mind
Ok Chrysal (hehe) iM REPLYING TO UR REPLY BUT IM TO LAZY TO look for it to quote but anyways...Again with Jenny Jones...Do u have every episode taped?! HUHUHUHUHUH!? LOL

ok yeah...all you people are going to burn in hell for having sex outside of marriage...yeah well im kidding i think....idk but i somehow think God will do justice idk..I would say just wait until your amrried to be on the safe side lol
First off...Its CRYSTAL! hehe
Jenny? NO. Jerry? Maybe.;) :p

Oh...and go to school!! lol

Originally posted by Georgia's on my Mind

ok yeah...all you people are going to burn in hell for having sex outside of marriage...yeah well im kidding i think....idk but i somehow think God will do justice idk..I would say just wait until your amrried to be on the safe side lol
Wow.. that has got to be the most ignorant statement i've ever heard... you do realize that sex IS NOT a sin? And if "your" God is gonna punish me, or call whatever he does to me, "justice" for having sex outside of a wedding ceremony...then I am thankful that i am not religious.

"Wait until marriage to be on the safe side, lol" ~~> i'm not "jk" or "lol"ing here... i'm not about to live this life in fear of what might happen to be in the next one

To tell all you god believers, I don't believe it. It's kinda stupid. And, it's also stupid for countries to fight over what god we have! If there is a god, someone's wrong. And, since I don't believe in god (and things that come along with it such as: devil, jesus, hell, heaven, ghosts) I don't believe that sex is a sin. You aren't killing anybody! Or hurting anybody...

14/15 year olds that think they need sex need to go to the bathroom for a little while.

Originally posted by Notorious
You aren't killing anybody! Or hurting anybody...

If you have an STD and give it to someone that can lead to death in cases such as AIDS or other things that people will have forever like herpes. STDs equal hurting yourself. And no condom protects against STDs 100% so that can't always save you.

I think the whole "You'll go to hell for sex before marriage" crap is bull.......

Originally posted by tootieismyfav


If you have an STD and give it to someone that can lead to death in cases such as AIDS or other things that people will have forever like herpes. STDs equal hurting yourself. And no condom protects against STDs 100% so that can't always save you. That wasn't the point to what that person was saying. And STD's are available to married people as well as single people. There is no 100% guarantee for much of anything in life. We all just do the best we can. if you choose to have sex prior to or any time outside of marriage, and many of you who say you won't may find that you will, than educate yourself on the subject. Don't bury your head in the sand or go along with the mind-control "Abstinance only" type of so called education, which doesn't face up to, or prepare people for the realities of life.The abstinance only promotion is a terrible burden on the psyche of young people and leads to confusing feelings of guilt. It's fine to try to follow that path but there's no reason not to learn as much as you can about any eventuallity that might come to pass. No--condoms aren't a 100% guarantee, but remaining abstinant until marriage, no matter how much you think you'll do that, is sure not a 100% guarantee.

Originally posted by kittflynn
but remaining abstinant until marriage, no matter how much you think you'll do that, is sure not a 100% guarantee.

If you're both tested, it pretty much is. Unless one of you cheats, or whatever, you know that you wont get an STD. They dont just pop up out of nowhere.

I'm still sticking with staying a virgin until I'm married. That's the way I was brought up, what my religion says to do, and what I believe in.

OF COURSE YOU'RE NOT GOING TO GO TO HELL FOR HAVING SEX OUT OF MARRIAGE........STUPID! (im not sure who said that, but it was stupid, unless you were joking) Just a question, why do people always act likes it bad for girls to loose their virginity, but for guys it's okay? Why?! Speaking for myself, we have, um...needs too...equal, if not stronger to a guys....and I think it's all about what you want, not about what society thinks is right, or what anyone else is telling you is the right thing. Just do your best to keep it safe when you decide to have sex! Sex is a beautiful thing.........and that's my opinion....:p

Originally posted by BubbleLuvGrl026
OF COURSE YOU'RE NOT GOING TO GO TO HELL FOR HAVING SEX OUT OF MARRIAGE........STUPID! (im not sure who said that, but it was stupid, unless you were joking) Just a question, why do people always act likes it bad for girls to loose their virginity, but for guys it's okay? Why?! Speaking for myself, we have, um...needs too...and I think it's all about what you want, not about what society thinks is right, or what anyone else is telling you is the right thing. Just do your best to keep it safe when you decide to have sex! Sex is a beautiful thing.........and that's my opinion....:p

OMG! About that boys: good, girls: bad thing! I completely agree! I've noticed that so many times, and it's ********. It's like, this boy and girl at my school had sex lots of times, she ended up the "slut" and he was the "pimp." I dont get it.

Originally posted by BubbleLuvGrl026
Speaking for myself, we have, um...needs too...equal, if not stronger to a guys....

I don't buy that girls have a stronger sex drive than guys lol

Originally posted by AliciaKeysForever


OMG! About that boys: good, girls: bad thing! I completely agree! I've noticed that so many times, and it's ********. It's like, this boy and girl at my school had sex lots of times, she ended up the "slut" and he was the "pimp." I dont get it. Yes, this happened to a friend of mine. She had sex with a guy in school, (while not the smartest thing to do, I know....she couldn't wait a few hours? lol)she was labeled the slut, a ho, and everything else, and even got suspended longer than the guy! that was just so f-cking wrong to me when the guy was the one who talker her into it. The guy when he came back, was praised by all his friends, male and female, but when my friend got back, she was given sooo many akward and nasty eyes which just pisses me off, because she's a nice and sweet person. Why does society have to be this way? Isn't this 2002 where females and males are suppose to be equal....But I guess it's stilll not... And all the kids that gave her dirty looks and stuff, a bunch of hypocrites cuz they talk about sex ALL THE TIME, even if they never had it, all told me they believe that sex outside of marriage is wrong and that she was on her way to hell. That's why I still hate when people say that someone's going to hell cuz they have sex. Like we cant be FORGIVEN?! I believe in God but I believe He's suppose to be forgiving.

Originally posted by BubbleLuvGrl026
Yes, this happened to a friend of mine. She had sex with a guy in school, (while not the smartest thing to do, I know....she couldn't wait a few hours? lol)she was labeled the slut, a ho, and everything else, and even got suspended longer than the guy! that was just so f-cking wrong to me when the guy was the one who talker her into it. The guy when he came back, was praised by all his friends, male and female, but when my friend got back, she was given sooo many akward and nasty eyes which just pisses me off, because she's a nice and sweet person. Why does society have to be this way? Isn't this 2002 where females and males are suppose to be equal....But I guess it's stilll not... And all the kids that gave her dirty looks and stuff, a bunch of hypocrites cuz they talk about sex ALL THE TIME, even if they never had it, all told me they believe that sex outside of marriage is wrong and that she was on her way to hell. That's why I still hate when people say that someone's going to hell cuz they have sex. Like we cant be FORGIVEN?! I believe in God but I believe He's suppose to be forgiving.

a girl who has sex in the school bathroom is a slut i think. anyone with class could wait until they got home....

Originally posted by tootieismyfav


a girl who has sex in the school bathroom is a slut i think. anyone with class could wait until they got home....

What's a guy who wants to, then?

Originally posted by tootieismyfav


a girl who has sex in the school bathroom is a slut i think. anyone with class could wait until they got home.... ok then.........but why is more blame put on her than him?! if she's a slut then so is he. You cant say that she has less class than he does, when he was the one who talked her into it, however foolish it was.

Originally posted by AliciaKeysForever


If you're both tested, it pretty much is. Unless one of you cheats, or whatever, you know that you wont get an STD. They dont just pop up out of nowhere.

I'm still sticking with staying a virgin until I'm married. That's the way I was brought up, what my religion says to do, and what I believe in. Tested? How often? Is it reaslitic to expect that married couples would ask one another to be tested at regular intervals, or when one thinks the other might have been on the prowl? What if the person you intend to marry insists that they have also been abstinant up to your wedding day, and refuse to be tested? Are you just going to take there word for it or what?

Let's say you decide to go to college, get a career started and then, either finding someone to fall madly in love with turns out to be a problem, or you've been with someone you've been in love with all of that time but one or both of you aren't ready to be married. Now you're 27 years old, and still a virgin. Does that sound like the "right" way to live? The "right" thing to do? Or is there some sort of limit to the "wait till you're married" school of thought.

yeah it seems females are the nasty ones when they have sex even though without the guy it wouldn't have happened. It's just as equal, when a girl screws a guy she is automatically labeled a slut but when a guy does it it's no big deal, thats wrong. and a girl who has sex in the bathroom at school is a slut and the guy isn't? yeaaaaaaaaaah rrriiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight! I think guys are dirtier anyway, most of them are players. tsk tsk tsk...

Woah....Wow...Did I cause some problems, lol I said it my post I'm kidding I think...And I was joking I mean come on, For just having sex God is not going to ban you from eternity in heaven... Also Personally, I don't think sex is a sin....Sex before marriage is a mortal sin from the way I have been brought up....so thats just the way I feel, It is just as bad as if you steal ect..

Personally, I don't see anything wrong with being a virgin until I get married. I know a lot of people who have sex just because they don't want to be an outcast, they want to fit in. If you're worried because other people will think you're a virgin and be mean to you, ignore them. No one should be pressured into sex. Some people do it when they are ready. That's fine. Some do it when they're married. That's fine too. The only person who should care if you had sex is you and your partner. I don't think the whole world needs to know.

Originally posted by kittflynn
That wasn't the point to what that person was saying. And STD's are available to married people as well as single people.

Amen! Amen! and, Amen!

Originally posted by tootieismyfav


a girl who has sex in the school bathroom is a slut i think. anyone with class could wait until they got home....

Wow. I can't believe someone would have sex in the bathrooms at school. I'm not quite sure how I should reply to this. I could expect people having sex at home, but this is a first to hear people do it at school too. I'm unsophisticated. :( All the people ever did in the bathrooms when I went to school was smoke cigarettes.

Originally posted by Original Prankster
Personally, I don't see anything wrong with being a virgin until I get married. I know a lot of people who have sex just because they don't want to be an outcast, they want to fit in. If you're worried because other people will think you're a virgin and be mean to you, ignore them. No one should be pressured into sex. Some people do it when they are ready. That's fine. Some do it when they're married. That's fine too. The only person who should care if you had sex is you and your partner. I don't think the whole world needs to know.


Gotta agree with Chris again. I think people do it to fit in. Sally just had sex with John. Greg did it with Mona. I must admit that a person could feel like an outcast if he/she thinks they are the only virgin in the school. I think a person thinks that when they have sex then they become more of a person. I'm not sure if I worded that correctly. It's like when a person takes a drink of alcohol, they kind of get the feeling they are in charge now and that nobody can tell them what to do anymore.

I think sex at a young age should be kept behind closed doors. If people didn't have the urge to brag about it, I don't think people would label people a whore or slut or player. The people I went to school with probably thought of it more as a plaque then they did anything else. Sally could go giggling to her girlfriends saying that she just bedded the quarterback and then say how good he was in bed. Sex is supposed to be a beautiful thing, but I believe when you are 14 or something you are looking more for recognition than having a true relationship. The same with the guys in my school. If they saw a situation where they could, then they would. Then they would go back to their friends and say how he got the head cheerleader and how good she was in the sex dept.

I found a used condem in the Cafeteria last year.

Originally posted by Notorious
I found a used condem in the Cafeteria last year.

Wondeful.......

Originally posted by Notorious
I found a used condem in the Cafeteria last year.
Mmmkay. thanx for sharing.

Originally posted by BubbleLuvGrl026
ok then.........but why is more blame put on her than him?! if she's a slut then so is he. You cant say that she has less class than he does, when he was the one who talked her into it, however foolish it was.

If guys were labeled as sluts then he'd be one too. but i agree he is just as to blame as her.

alright at the hotel me and my friends were staying at for a game...um they found a condom and put it on our door to be funny...yah it was great nope

Originally posted by kittflynn
Tested? How often? Is it reaslitic to expect that married couples would ask one another to be tested at regular intervals, or when one thinks the other might have been on the prowl? What if the person you intend to marry insists that they have also been abstinant up to your wedding day, and refuse to be tested? Are you just going to take there word for it or what?

Let's say you decide to go to college, get a career started and then, either finding someone to fall madly in love with turns out to be a problem, or you've been with someone you've been in love with all of that time but one or both of you aren't ready to be married. Now you're 27 years old, and still a virgin. Does that sound like the "right" way to live? The "right" thing to do? Or is there some sort of limit to the "wait till you're married" school of thought.

No, you dont take their word for it. You refuse to do anything until they are tested, and if it means the end of a relationship, I guess it is.

I think that I'm going to get married when I fall in love, and that would have to be the only man that I ever have sex with. And to me, that does sound like the "right' way to live.

Originally posted by hockeybabe528
alright at the hotel me and my friends were staying at for a game...um they found a condom and put it on our door to be funny...yah it was great nope

Me and my friend filled a condom with water and threw it on her ex boyfriends front yard. Very funny.

Originally posted by AliciaKeysForever


Me and my friend filled a condom with water and threw it on her ex boyfriends front yard. Very funny.


LOL THATS GREAT!!!!!

Now, Im not the biggest religious person here, but I DO have my own beliefs and morals, and I think its somewhat insulting for other people here to bash people for their beliefs. So you dont think theres a Heaven and Hell, etc? Thats fine, but thats a persons belief, just like yours is Atheism. I dont base my morals on religion, I base them on whats best for me. Now, I dont think if you have sex before marriage youre going to burst into flames, do what you want..but seriously...14 year olds having sex? Ew. Like I said before...like they even KNOW what they are doing. I never had the "sex" talk with my parents, or the drugs, smoking, etc. I guess they got lucky with me that I dont do any of that stuff- in which they should be eternally grateful that Im not some knocked-up weed smoking ho! lol. I dont think a girl who haves sex just one is or should be called a SLUT, unless of course, the guy she is with is not ever her BF or FRIEND for that matter. Yea, STD's dont pass through married couples, but married couples are more commited to eachother and DO have to take blood tests in order to get the license. And sex in the bathroom? Gross.
Oh, and Im sorry, but if a guy can coax a girl into "Put out, or get out", then yea, shes trashy. Everyone has the right to say no, so the only person to blame afterwards is yourself. Yea, the guys a you know what for coaxing you, but if you dont want it, say NO! What does HE care if youre losing your virginity or you dont feel ready? He's just glad to be getting something other than Mr.Righty because carpal tunnel is a biatch--Oh God..can I say that??? lol Sorry if I cant!!

Originally posted by Notorious
I found a used condem in the Cafeteria last year.

cool the kids in my class found the.. wrapper thing for one in the garbage... it was open and the condem gone, so i assume someone used it... which is disturbing because... doode it is the language arts room in middle school! But as of now i would have sex at age 14. actually i wouldn't mind it at all... at least id have something to talk about!

We found a used one in our science class last year and everyone was throwing it around..

;) lol

I do say, 14 is to young. My first time having sex, i was 16. well, i used a condom. but, that is beside the point. still, your friends are whacko if they are having sex at their age. insane!

Originally posted by Kay Scarpetta
We found a used one in our science class last year and everyone was throwing it around..

That's nothing. When I was a freshman, our teacher found a used condom in our RELIGION classroom. Yep, it was an all boys Catholic Prep school, and I hated it. But it was sooooooooo funny cause no girls are allowed on campus, ecxcpet like after school and stuff.

Ok that is really nasty....lol way to much info

Not as bad as soem girl last yr. or so being caught my a teacher giving her boyfriend some...you know in the girls bathroom. Loser.:rolleyes: