Probably half of the women Iv'e been most attracted to in my life, were plain Jane's, and what some people would call ugly. My therapist is old, has a big nose, not much of a body, but I'm incredibly attracted to her. Her personality is so sweet. She's getting a new job, so I may see her one more time. I hope so anyway. I made her cry the last time I saw her. Told her I'd miss her, I love her, and that she had done more for me in 6 months then the 5 therapists I had previously had done put together. I'm going to miss her. :( I'll see if I can get her email address.

I wouldnt if I were you. She is your therapist and she has to be a professional and keep it that way. You just might be setting yourself up to get hurt.

I've never been huge on looks. I actually like men that have a little weight on them. I'm all about personality and a great sense of humor. I fell in love with my husband the first day I met him. He was just so funny.

You're treading a fine line there, Brad. I'm sure your therapist adores you as a person, but her license is on the line, so she'll want to keep it professional. Just as she's your favorite, I'm sure you're her favorite too. :)

I find this question difficult if not impossible to answer because it seems to me if your really truly attracted to someone you won't see them as a "plain Jane" or "unattractive" even if other people do. It's like that old saying "Love is blind". When you're in love with someone you just don't notice the things about that person that others perceive as being negative. You only see the qualities that attracted you to that person in the first place!

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Nough said.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Nough said.

:yeahthat

I find this question difficult if not impossible to answer because it seems to me if your really truly attracted to someone you won't see them as a "plain Jane" or "unattractive" even if other people do. It's like that old saying "Love is blind". When you're in love with someone you just don't notice the things about that person that others perceive as being negative. You only see the qualities that attracted you to that person in the first place!

When I say plain jane, and unattractive, I'm not talking about my feelings, I'm talking about what the majority of people in this world view as unattractive. I thought I was clear on that, but I guess not. That's why I say the supposedly unattractive, and plain Jane's. They're not unattractive to me at all, their absolutely gorgeous to me. But you know what, most people do judge people based on the way they look. that's the sad reality.

Once and how I thought that person was ever attractive is beyond me. At the time I thought he was. I must have been out of my mind. :lol:

I have had the opposite happen to me where people have thought I was so ugly that I was actually barked at one day in college. It was so stupid. A guy started barking at me. His friends joined in by laughing. When I asked what was so funny I was told, "you're so ugly you deserve to be barked at."

The older I become, the more I am attracted to someone, for their personality and their sense of humor, rather on how they look. Nowadays I tend to become involved with men, whom have depth, rather on how they look on the outside. Just because you are physically attractive (on the surface) does not mean that you are attractive! I have met a lot of "so called" good-looking men, that had zero personality, and found them totally unappealing!

Sooo true!

The person that I have a big crush on now I fell for their personality before I ever even really knew what they looked like (someone I met online and still have not met in person.) Although he is very cute.

Even if I don't find a person particularly handsome when I first meet them, it seems that the more you get to know a person the more handsome they become. I think it's their inner 'handsomeness" coming out. My husband certainly doesn't look like a movie star (and you'll hear no complaints from me about that!) but he's gorgeous to me! To judge someone by their looks is just ridiculous.

Once and how I thought that person was ever attractive is beyond me. At the time I thought he was. I must have been out of my mind. :lol:

I have had the opposite happen to me where people have thought I was so ugly that I was actually barked at one day in college. It was so stupid. A guy started barking at me. His friends joined in by laughing. When I asked what was so funny I was told, "you're so ugly you deserve to be barked at."

That's just awful. :( The whole 'sticks and stones' saying is such a lie. Names can hurt sometimes.

Once and how I thought that person was ever attractive is beyond me. At the time I thought he was. I must have been out of my mind. :lol:

I have had the opposite happen to me where people have thought I was so ugly that I was actually barked at one day in college. It was so stupid. A guy started barking at me. His friends joined in by laughing. When I asked what was so funny I was told, "you're so ugly you deserve to be barked at."
That is just awful Jenny. Some people deserve to be taken out and shot. :mad: I knew a girl when I was in elementary school and some of the kids would bark at her. I knew a guy when I was in Junior High that was made fun of because of his looks. He even had food thrown at him. It's just a cruel world sometimes. No parental guidence I think. :ohno:

That's just awful. :( The whole 'sticks and stones' saying is such a lie. Names can hurt sometimes.
Oh they can hurt. And the hurt can last alot longer than a few broken bones.

Amen to that. I was called my fair share of names growing up and they still haunt me sometimes.

About the therapist and the crush - it just sends up red flags to me. When I was a junior in high school, my church had just hired a new DCE (Director of Christian Education) from St. Louis to head up our youth group. From the moment I first laid eyes on David (who was 28 at the time, I was nearly 17), I had a HUUUUUUUUUUUGE crush on him. Not only that, but when I first met him at our church's VBS in July 1996, he was only a couple of weeks away from getting married. He returned to the church a month later with his new wife in tow, but as the weeks and months went by, my feelings became more and more obvious. I thought I was doing a good job keeping them hidden, but later on I learned I wasn't fooling anybody. Anyway, it caused a permanent rift - the couple accepted a position at a church in Indianapolis before settling in Texas somewhere.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that he was forbidden fruit, just as your therapist is. Even though I never acted on my feelings in a physical way and the feelings were in no way mutual - what if they had been? David was not only married, he was employed by the church. I was still a minor at that time. There could have been major repercussions from both the church and the law - not to mention permanent stains on our respective reputations. Still, I was heartbroken when he left our church and moved away. It took me a long, long time to realize that it was the best thing for everyone involved.

Just be careful, Brad...you've been going through a horrible time already and you don't need more heartache. The Bible says flee temptation...if things get out of hand, maybe you should switch therapists. Just a thought...

No offense to the original poster, but I think what he means is really "have you ever been attracted to someone who's not "conventionally" attractive?" Because as Marv said, if you are attracted to someone YOU obviously find something attractive about them.

And sure, I'd be surprised if there's anyone out there who's never found someone attractive that the rest of society didn't, for the most part. Love is such an individual reaction, and just because American commercials tell us that we are supposed to love (or more accurately, lust after), blonds with stick figures or preening, tanned musclemen does not mean that is how life or biology works.

Ideally you are attracted to the whole person. Anything else is just lust and should probably be avoided, that is, unless you want to bear children with and be committed to someone who you really only care about for their body, which is obviously a dead end road.

To Jenny: yes, that is a horrible thing to have happen to you. My first reaction is to hope that someone somewhere has laid a serious beat down on them all but honestly, people like that are probably being punished enough just by having to live out their miserable lives so full of hate and negativity and insecurity.

I just re-read my opening post in this thread, and now I realize I was all over the place with it. Every once in awhile I'll start a thread, and look at it later, and get totally embarrased. I'll think to myself, what the heck was I talking about? lol. This was one of those times. I should have been more clear, and apologize for not. I understand how you guys thought that I was in love with my therapist. I have never, and will never even think about trying to pursue a relationship with her, trust me. lol! I just think she's absolutely beautiful and she's someone who has done more for me in 6 months, than the 5 or so other therapists I've had in my entire life combined. Her inner beauty just shines through. She would pick me up every thursday instead of me having to have someone in my family drive me to my appointment. I once offered to pay for her gas, and she declined. She's bought me coffee, took me out to lunch, and has done so much more. Iv'e offered to pay for myself, but she always declines my offer, and insists on paying for everything. Two weeks ago she told me that the job was wearing on her, and that she's going to be leaving. That was the same day I put up that thread where you guys were worried about me. I had lost my therapist, and later on I thought I had lost another one of my favorite people in the entire world. I adore her, and love her. (as a friend) more than anything on this planet. Fortunately that ended up being a misunderstanding on my part, and I'm elated to say that she's still one of my closest friends ever. The combination of losing my therapist (who I adore) and thinking I lost one of my all time best friends, was just too much for me to handle that day, and I lost it.

They were more attracted to me.

After the last girl I was with (2006), It seemed that no love has came to me....:(

They were more attracted to me.

After the last girl I was with (2006), It seemed that no love has came to me....:(

So sorry to hear that man. :( I haven't had a woman in my life since May, 2008. Fortunately for me though, it hasn't really bothered me much. I find that things are alot more simple when you are alone. You have to live up to a certain standard when you're in a relationship, and that just doesn't work for me right now. I don't need the pressure.

I know what it's like to be teased and treated cruelly because of the way you look. I was bullied so badly as a kid, it was horrible. I would get taunted because of the way I dressed and the way I talked. I was a very pretty child, but still got teased mercissly. Once somebody in PE class kicked a ball at my face intentionally and almost broke my nose and broke my glasses. I used to get called "hareball", "Thumper", "rabbit", "four eyes", etc. Because of my last name and because I wore glasses. My last name is Hare. They always found something to make fun of me about.
I had a miserable childhood when it came to being bullied. :(
Now that I'm an adult, I have guys hitting on me and other girls saying how pretty I am and how they want to be my friend. How things change when you get older. :) I definitely learned something dealing with that and I will pass it on to my own children.

A professional relationship should always stay a professional relationship. Before you even think about doing anything, you should ask yourself, am I attracted to her because of who she is? Or is it more of a backwards Nightengale syndrome type deal, where you have feelings for her not becuase of who she is, but simply because she has helped you.

And Jenny, I am so sorry to hear about what happened to you in college. Its sad that some people will sink down to those levels in order to have a cheap laugh on someone else's expense.

I do not think that looks matter at all. The boy that I like right now, in all honesty is not the cutest or the best looking, but he is sweet, and kind and fun to be with. Right now we are just friends and I love spending time with him. When I first met him, I hate to say it, but I never pictured myself wanting to date him, I thought he was a bit too, lets say sketchy looking lol. My ex-boyfriend was the same way. He was actually the same boy who bullied me in gradeschool, but he definitely changed in highschool. Anyways, I never pictured myself with him. We only lasted two months, but he was the first kind of serious boyfriend I have had.

I know what it's like to be teased and treated cruelly because of the way you look. I was bullied so badly as a kid, it was horrible. I would get taunted because of the way I dressed and the way I talked. I was a very pretty child, but still got teased mercissly. Once somebody in PE class kicked a ball at my face intentionally and almost broke my nose and broke my glasses. I used to get called "hareball", "Thumper", "rabbit", "four eyes", etc. Because of my last name and because I wore glasses. My last name is Hare. They always found something to make fun of me about.
I had a miserable childhood when it came to being bullied. :(
Now that I'm an adult, I have guys hitting on me and other girls saying how pretty I am and how they want to be my friend. How things change when you get older. :) I definitely learned something dealing with that and I will pass it on to my own children.

Wow that's horrible. I'm sorry you went through that. :bighug:

To Jen, and Andress_Jade, I'm very sorry to hear about how badly you two were treated in school. :( Bullying is one of my least favorite things, and is why I put up that thread a couple weeks ago of bullies getting their butts kicked. I think teachers need to do more, and step in when someone is being bullied. Back in the mid nineties, a kid was in the news. He was an overweight kid who was mocked, and ridiculed so harshly that he brought a gun to school, and took his own life. His last words were, I can't take this anymore. After he took his life, most of the kids started crying, because they realized that they were the main cause of him taking his life. I can't even imagine how much guilt his tormenters must have to this day. The Christian band P.O.D. actually had a verse in their song "Youth of A Nation" about this kid. Here's the lyrics, as well as the video for the song. "Johnny boy always played the fool, he broke all the rules so you would think he was cool, he was never really one of the guys, no matter how hard he tried, often thought of suicide. It's kind of hard when you ain't got no friends, he put his life to an end, they might remember him then, you cross the line and there's no turning back, told the world how he felt with the sound of a gat. Still makes me cry to this day. :(

P.O.D. Youth Of A Nation (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EDKwCvD56kw)

Bullies getting what they deserve (http://www.sitcomsonline.com/boards/showthread.php?t=285821)

Every lyric to Youth of A Nation.

Last day of the rest of my life
I wish I would have known cause I'd have kissed my momma good-bye
I didn't tell her that I loved her; how much I cared
Or thank my pops for all the talks and all the wisdom he shared
Unaware I just did what I always do
Everyday the same routine before I skate off to school
But who knew that this day wasn't like the rest
Instead of taking the test I took two to the chest

Call me blind but I didn't see it coming
And everybody was runnin
But I couldn't hear nothin, except
Gun blast, it happened so fast
I didn't really know this kid though I sat by him in class
Maybe this kid was reachin out for love or
Maybe for a moment he forgot who he was or
Maybe this kid just wanted to be hugged
Whatever it was I know it's because

We are, we are, [we are] the youth of the nation
We are, we are, [we are] the youth of the nation
We are, we are, [we are] the youth of the nation
We are, we are, [we are] the youth of the nation

Little Suzie, she was only twelve
She was given the world with every chance to excel
Hang with the boys and hear the stories they tell
She might act kinda proud but no respect for herself

She finds love in all the wrong places
The same situations just different faces
Changed up her pace since her daddy left her
Too bad he never told her she deserved much better

Johnny boy he always played the fool
He broke all the rules so you would think he was cool
He was never really one of the guys
No matter how hard he tried
Often thought of suicide
It's kinda hard when you ain't got no friends
He put his life to an end they might remember him then
You cross a line and there is no turning back
He told the world how he felt with the sound of a gat

We are, we are, [we are] the youth of the nation
We are, we are, [we are] the youth of the nation
We are, we are, [we are] the youth of the nation
We are, we are, [we are] the youth of the nation

Who's to blame for the life that tragedies claim
No matter what you say it don't take away the pain
That I feel inside, I'm tired of all the lies
Don't nobody know why
It's the blind leadin' the blind
Guess that's the way that the story goes
Will it ever make sense somebody's gotta know
There's gotta be more to life than this
There's got to be more to everything
I thought exists

We are, we are... the youth of the nation
We are, we are... the youth of the nation
We are, we are [we are, we are] the youth of the nation
We are, we are [we are, we are] the youth of the nation

I know what it's like to be teased and treated cruelly because of the way you look. I was bullied so badly as a kid, it was horrible. I would get taunted because of the way I dressed and the way I talked. I was a very pretty child, but still got teased mercissly. Once somebody in PE class kicked a ball at my face intentionally and almost broke my nose and broke my glasses. I used to get called "hareball", "Thumper", "rabbit", "four eyes", etc. Because of my last name and because I wore glasses. My last name is Hare. They always found something to make fun of me about.
I had a miserable childhood when it came to being bullied. :(
Now that I'm an adult, I have guys hitting on me and other girls saying how pretty I am and how they want to be my friend. How things change when you get older. :) I definitely learned something dealing with that and I will pass it on to my own children.

They say that "living well is the best revenge". Looks like you're getting your revenge. Congrats! :)

Most of my boyfriends have been "average" looking by the world's standards. However i am an artist & have never believed in a standard of beauty or handsomeness anyway. If a person is beautiful to you, they are beautiful, period!

Most of my boyfriends have been "average" looking by the world's standards. However i am an artist & have never believed in a standard of beauty or handsomeness anyway. If a person is beautiful to you, they are beautiful, period!

Well said. :thumbsup: I completely agree with you.

Amen to that. I was called my fair share of names growing up and they still haunt me sometimes.

About the therapist and the crush - it just sends up red flags to me. When I was a junior in high school, my church had just hired a new DCE (Director of Christian Education) from St. Louis to head up our youth group. From the moment I first laid eyes on David (who was 28 at the time, I was nearly 17), I had a HUUUUUUUUUUUGE crush on him. Not only that, but when I first met him at our church's VBS in July 1996, he was only a couple of weeks away from getting married. He returned to the church a month later with his new wife in tow, but as the weeks and months went by, my feelings became more and more obvious. I thought I was doing a good job keeping them hidden, but later on I learned I wasn't fooling anybody. Anyway, it caused a permanent rift - the couple accepted a position at a church in Indianapolis before settling in Texas somewhere.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that he was forbidden fruit, just as your therapist is. Even though I never acted on my feelings in a physical way and the feelings were in no way mutual - what if they had been? David was not only married, he was employed by the church. I was still a minor at that time. There could have been major repercussions from both the church and the law - not to mention permanent stains on our respective reputations. Still, I was heartbroken when he left our church and moved away. It took me a long, long time to realize that it was the best thing for everyone involved.

Just be careful, Brad...you've been going through a horrible time already and you don't need more heartache. The Bible says flee temptation...if things get out of hand, maybe you should switch therapists. Just a thought...

That's great advice and I'm sorry you had to go through that. It's really, really hard when you have feelings for someone because IMO there's not much you can do about them... emotionally speaking. I mean, the heart doesn't lie and obviously you can't mask your feelings. I know I sure can't.

Thank you, Andrea - it really was a tough time. It's even worse when you're a teenager with hormones running amok. But if my experience can help teens, if only to teach them what NOT to do, then so be it.

Used to be really crazy over Kelsey Grammer but lately I've been turned off to him because all of the drama he caused in the news. SMH.

Amen to that. I was called my fair share of names growing up and they still haunt me sometimes.

About the therapist and the crush - it just sends up red flags to me. When I was a junior in high school, my church had just hired a new DCE (Director of Christian Education) from St. Louis to head up our youth group. From the moment I first laid eyes on David (who was 28 at the time, I was nearly 17), I had a HUUUUUUUUUUUGE crush on him. Not only that, but when I first met him at our church's VBS in July 1996, he was only a couple of weeks away from getting married. He returned to the church a month later with his new wife in tow, but as the weeks and months went by, my feelings became more and more obvious. I thought I was doing a good job keeping them hidden, but later on I learned I wasn't fooling anybody. Anyway, it caused a permanent rift - the couple accepted a position at a church in Indianapolis before settling in Texas somewhere.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that he was forbidden fruit, just as your therapist is. Even though I never acted on my feelings in a physical way and the feelings were in no way mutual - what if they had been? David was not only married, he was employed by the church. I was still a minor at that time. There could have been major repercussions from both the church and the law - not to mention permanent stains on our respective reputations. Still, I was heartbroken when he left our church and moved away. It took me a long, long time to realize that it was the best thing for everyone involved.

Just be careful, Brad...you've been going through a horrible time already and you don't need more heartache. The Bible says flee temptation...if things get out of hand, maybe you should switch therapists. Just a thought...

I agree with everything you said Monika. Fortunately since getting all the crap out of my system, and after you and my other friends prayed for me about a month ago over at Facebook, My mind has been alot clearer. A true miracle totally transformed me within minutes after you guys prayed for me. I honestly know that many of the mistakes Iv'e made over the last 5 years ago were because of drugs. I would never EVER put myself in a position like that ever. It truly is a miracle, my life has truly transformed since giving that crap up. Five years of misery, with absolutely no break, but as soon as you guys prayed for me, everything changed. I'm not exaggerating at all. I'm sure you all can see the change in me. Atleast I hope you can. :)

By the way Monika, I am so sorry to hear about what you went through as a kid. I remember my first day of the seventh grade I got up from my chair, and as I did, my foot grazed the back pack of this kid named Gabe Beltran. He looked at me and said watch where you're going you fu*k*ng fagg*t. Later on that day I was at the schools assembly, and Gabe was sitting behind me, and spitting on me in front of everyone. I was so humiliated. My 7th and 8th grade years were a living hell. I use to hide in the bushes, and listen for my mom and dad's car to leave, and then I would go back to my house, and skip school. I literally made myself physically ill for those 1, and a half years of 7th and 8th grade. In the 8th grade I had missed so many days of school, that the principal called my mom and said, either Bradley starts attending school everyday, or else he's not welcome here. It took me about a second to make my decision, and I never went back again. I had a tutor named Mrs Paul, come to my house daily in order for me to finish off my 8th grade year. The next year I was put into an alternative school called Eastside Education Center, but the bullying continued, and I dropped out after a few months. Unfortunately I'm not one of those people who became stronger because they were bullied. To this day I am riddled with nfear and anxiety, and hardly go out, because I fear getting mocked and ridiculed like I was in school. The bullying made me a much worse, and never even came close to making me stronger. I will always be haunted by those days, and I doubt I'll ever get over it. Weird thing is, despite all that, I have a ridiculous amount of love for all people. When you see the way I am, it may be annoying at times, lol, but I can assure you, the way I act so nice and everything, it's 110% genuine. Bullies made my life so miserable, that I am repulsed by people who hold onto anger, and lash out. I don't want to be anything like those horrible people who mocked me as well as many others. I love everybody, and that will NEVER change! I just want you and everyone else who was bullied to know that I am so incredibly sorry for what you've been through. Ever need to vent about it, I'm here for you, all of you. I can relate.

By the way Monika, I am so sorry to hear about what you went through as a kid. I remember my first day of the seventh grade I got up from my chair, and as I did, my foot grazed the back pack of this kid named Gabe Beltran. He looked at me and said watch where you're going you fu*k*ng fagg*t. Later on that day I was at the schools assembly, and Gabe was sitting behind me, and spitting on me in front of everyone. I was so humiliated. My 7th and 8th grade years were a living hell. I use to hide in the bushes, and listen for my mom and dad's car to leave, and then I would go back to my house, and skip school. I literally made myself physically ill for those 1, and a half years of 7th and 8th grade. In the 8th grade I had missed so many days of school, that the principal called my mom and said, either Bradley starts attending school everyday, or else he's not welcome here. It took me about a second to make my decision, and I never went back again. I had a tutor named Mrs Paul, come to my house daily in order for me to finish off my 8th grade year. The next year I was put into an alternative school called Eastside Education Center, but the bullying continued, and I dropped out after a few months. Unfortunately I'm not one of those people who became stronger because they were bullied. To this day I am riddled with nfear and anxiety, and hardly go out, because I fear getting mocked and ridiculed like I was in school. The bullying made me a much worse, and never even came close to making me stronger. I will always be haunted by those days, and I doubt I'll ever get over it. Weird thing is, despite all that, I have a ridiculous amount of love for all people. When you see the way I am, it may be annoying at times, lol, but I can assure you, the way I act so nice and everything, it's 110% genuine. Bullies made my life so miserable, that I am repulsed by people who hold onto anger, and lash out. I don't want to be anything like those horrible people who mocked me as well as many others. I love everybody, and that will NEVER change! I just want you and everyone else who was bullied to know that I am so incredibly sorry for what you've been through. Ever need to vent about it, I'm here for you, all of you. I can relate.
I'm so sorry you went through that Brad. :( I know this is not a bullying thread but I have to respond. Your story rings so true to me. I started getting picked on in the 7th grade. It lasted throughout Junior High. I didn't get picked on for my looks. It was mainly because I was shy and I also didn't like to fight. It just got worse as the years went on. Rumors were started about me and kids who I thought were my friends turned on me. It was a living hell. I used to come home and cry in my room asking God why was this happening to me. I never told my parents. I just couldn't. I contemplated suicide. Some of the things I did in that room was downright scary. When I was in 10th grade, I missed school for a month. I left for Christmas break and didn't come back until February. I would always fake being sick. I'd stick stuff down my throat so my parents would hear me gagging. I nearly failed 10th grade but I managed to get back in. Because my parents had been in touch with the school, they weren't going to push it. I didn't have many more instances the rest of my school years. The picking calmed down as my HS years continued but the hurt remains to this day. That's why when I hear about how you and Jenny and some of the other members here were treated, it makes me mad. Like you, I don't think I ever really got over it. I'm so happy to hear that some people did though. Your school years years are supposed to be the best years of your life and these bullies just take your childhood away. I think what did help me survive was my home life which was pretty good. If that wasn't good, I really don't know what would have happened to me.

Sorry about the rant. lol

I'm so sorry you went through that Brad. :( I know this is not a bullying thread but I have to respond. Your story rings so true to me. I started getting picked on in the 7th grade. It lasted throughout Junior High. I didn't get picked on for my looks. It was mainly because I was shy and I also didn't like to fight. It just got worse as the years went on. Rumors were started about me and kids who I thought were my friends turned on me. It was a living hell. I used to come home and cry in my room asking God why was this happening to me. I never told my parents. I just couldn't. I contemplated suicide. Some of the things I did in that room was downright scary. When I was in 10th grade, I missed school for a month. I left for Christmas break and didn't come back until February. I would always fake being sick. I'd stick stuff down my throat so my parents would hear me gagging. I nearly failed 10th grade but I managed to get back in. Because my parents had been in touch with the school, they weren't going to push it. I didn't have many more instances the rest of my school years. The picking calmed down as my HS years continued but the hurt remains to this day. That's why when I hear about how you and Jenny and some of the other members here were treated, it makes me mad. Like you, I don't think I ever really got over it. I'm so happy to hear that some people did though. Your school years years are supposed to be the best years of your life and these bullies just take your childhood away. I think what did help me survive was my home life which was pretty good. If that wasn't good, I really don't know what would have happened to me.

Sorry about the rant. lol

Hey Sonny, thanks so much. I'll reply to your post in a little bit. Reading these stories has really saddened me, and I feel like crying. I'll post again in a couple hours when I regain my composure. God Bless! :)

Hey Sonny, thanks so much. I'll reply to your post in a little bit. Reading these stories has really saddened me, and I feel like crying. I'll post again in a couple hours when I regain my composure. God Bless! :)
That's okay Brad. The same things happening to me. God bless you too. :)

Once and how I thought that person was ever attractive is beyond me. At the time I thought he was. I must have been out of my mind. :lol:

I have had the opposite happen to me where people have thought I was so ugly that I was actually barked at one day in college. It was so stupid. A guy started barking at me. His friends joined in by laughing. When I asked what was so funny I was told, "you're so ugly you deserve to be barked at."

Oh yes, the barking. The girls use to always bark at me. I'm sorry that the kids did that to you. Jen, I told you before, and I meant it, I think you're very pretty. And your inner beauty makes you even more attractive. :)

Unfortunately bullying isn't just a thing kids do. A couple months ago my mom told me something that made me furious. She went to my brothers, and there were these three pretty boy punks drinking, and they started barking, and saying mooo to her. Those pretty boys were lucky, because had I been with her when this happened, I would be in jail for murder!! Anyone who really knows me, knows that insulting my mom is just something you don't do when I'm around. If you do, you'll regret it for the rest of your life, guaranteed!!! I love people and all, but you just don't mess with a guys mother.

I never realized this until I was older and wiser, but the reason that people bully other people is because they are unhappy with who they are and have to lash out at others to make themselves feel better. Nobody bothered to tell me that, so I always thought there was something wrong with me. Also, it used to drive me nuts when an adult would say, 'If you just ignore them, they will stop'. That never worked.

Also, it used to drive me nuts when an adult would say, 'If you just ignore them, they will stop'. That never worked.

Oh, I hated that, too. One of the stupidest pieces of advice - EVER!!! :mad:

Also, it used to drive me nuts when an adult would say, 'If you just ignore them, they will stop'. That never worked.



That is bad advice, and I got that too. It never worked. Sometimes I had to use my fists and that worked a hell of a lot better.

Also, it used to drive me nuts when an adult would say, 'If you just ignore them, they will stop'. That never worked.



That is bad advice, and I got that too. It never worked. Sometimes I had to use my fists and that worked a hell of a lot better.
lol Looking back, I wish I would have done that. I had so much rage bottled up in me I probably really would have hurt somebody.

Another thing I hated to hear from adults...kids will be kids. Yea right. :rolleyes: Maybe if the schools would have enforced a no bully rule than there would not be as many problems as there are. But no...the rule was that if you fight, you both get in trouble no matter who starts it. :ohno:

I never realized this until I was older and wiser, but the reason that people bully other people is because they are unhappy with who they are and have to lash out at others to make themselves feel better. Nobody bothered to tell me that, so I always thought there was something wrong with me. Also, it used to drive me nuts when an adult would say, 'If you just ignore them, they will stop'. That never worked.

Good point. I think that people like that are very insecure themselves and seek to immediately make OTHER people's supposed imperfections the subject before their OWN can become the subject. It's a very manipulative and crafty tactic, but I see it happen again and again.

The truth is that despite all the cliches about how your high school days are supposed to be the happiest of your life, it's really a kind of "Lord of the Flies" where brute force and cutthroat personal politics rule, with the more sensitive, creative and intelligent kids getting treated horribly. Personally, I was afraid to leave high school but once I did I realized that when you are an adult, others are too worried about their own survival to give a damn what your hair looks like, what your weight is, what type of clothes you wear, what type of car you drive, what your interests are, etc.

Of course, college turned out to be just a bit milder version of high school, lol, but once THAT was over, all the nonsensical "comparing" pretty much ended.

I used to get the occasional bullying in junior high -- the worst thing was when two guys teamed up and wouldn't leave me alone.

Another guy was a real jerk and thought he could get in some extra crap by choosing him to be his wrestling partner (opponent) in gym class. I knew right away what he was up to -- he thought I was a patsy and the matches would make him look good. But he didn't know I had wrestling experience, and he got really upset when he found out he couldn't take me down...!

I used to get the occasional bullying in junior high -- the worst thing was when two guys teamed up and wouldn't leave me alone.

But he didn't know I had wrestling experience, and he got really upset when he found out he couldn't take me down...!

:lol: I love that story. Thanks for sharing! I felt the same way when I'd beat the varsity basketball players all the time in games of one on one. I'm short, (5'6") and don't look very athletic, and so like you, people would look at me in fights, and sports, and think they would manhandle me. I mean these guys were like 6 inches taller than me, but they never beat me. The only person who beat me at basketball is my brother. What's strange is that the things I was best at was rebounding and blocking shots, and for someone that short, that's very odd. I may be a bad person for this, but I enjoy seeing bullies get humbled. :lol: Anyway, thanks again for sharing. I enjoyed reading that.

I always did go for plain janes. They wanted nothing to do with me when I was shorter, scrawny, and had acne, and I want nothing to do with them now. Now, I'm 6'4", have a fair amount of muscle, and modeled part time. Guess who had the last laugh? :lol:

I always did go for plain janes. They wanted nothing to do with me when I was shorter, scrawny, and had acne, and I want nothing to do with them now. Now, I'm 6'4", have a fair amount of muscle, and modeled part time. Guess who had the last laugh? :lol:

:lol: I love that man! :thumbsup: It reminds me of the thread I started about a week ago. Dramatic transformations (http://www.sitcomsonline.com/boards/showthread.php?t=286106)

:lol: I love that man! :thumbsup: It reminds me of the thread I started about a week ago. Dramatic transformations (http://www.sitcomsonline.com/boards/showthread.php?t=286106)


That certainly applies to me. My self-esteem has already been knocked down though. No amount of good looks has changed that.