Car accident. He was 30. I'm devastated.

We'd known each other since the eighth grade, and were in theater together all through high school. We were roommates from 2002-2004, and he was my only friend from Spokane who came to my wedding. The last time I saw him was late January, when he came to Oroville just to hang out with me.

He just sent me a message on Facebook five days ago, asking about my baby (my wife and I are expecting). "When do I get to be a surrogate uncle?" was the last thing he said to me.

Sorry about the rambling message, but my head is swimming. I'm so, so sad.

I'm sorry to hear this.

I'm very sorry for your loss. You and your friend's family are in my prayers.

I'm so sorry about the loss of your friend Brad. I can't even imagine what you're going through. I will pray for you, as well as for everybody else who's been affected by the loss of your friend. Hang in there my friend.

I'm so sorry, Brad. God bless his loved ones and may he :rip:.

Sorry to hear that.

Brad, I'm so sorry for the loss of your dear friend. He sounds like he was a great guy. The two of you had such deep, shared history, that I can't find the words of comfort to help ease your pain. Time is the only healer for a such a profound loss as this.

I wasn't much older than you when my sister died suddenly, many years ago, I was devastated beyond words. It didn't feel normal; I was consumed with grief. I went to the library and left with an armload of books on grief. I needed some answers, as I was going down in flames emotionally.

One of the books touched me, really helped me; namely by validating my grief and reassuring me that I wasn't losing my mind. I wish I could remember the name of it. It dealt specifically with sudden, unexpected deaths. The dynamics of grief are different with such a loss. It was titled something like, No Time to Say Good-Bye, or something along those lines.

You've got a sad journey ahead of you, my friend. The birth of your son and his early days won't diminish your friend's death as much as some may think. They are two separate and powerful emotional chapters in your life which need, and in a sense, deserve their own due in your heart. Again, so sorry for your devastating loss.

im so sorry for your loss brad

Sorry to hear of your friend's passing.

I am so sorry for your loss Brad. My prayers are with you during this awful time. Life just isn't fair sometimes. :(

I'm very sorry to hear this. It's beyond tragic.

May he :rip:

I know it's hard to lose a friend or family member suddenly Brad. I had a friend die in November 1999. It was so sudden and sad. She died of a blood clot in her leg. She was only 21 (10/18/1978-11/20/1999).

Brad, I'm so sorry for the loss of your dear friend. He sounds like he was a great guy. The two of you had such deep, shared history, that I can't find the words of comfort to help ease your pain. Time is the only healer for a such a profound loss as this.

I wasn't much older than you when my sister died suddenly, many years ago, I was devastated beyond words. It didn't feel normal; I was consumed with grief. I went to the library and left with an armload of books on grief. I needed some answers, as I was going down in flames emotionally.

One of the books touched me, really helped me; namely by validating my grief and reassuring me that I wasn't losing my mind. I wish I could remember the name of it. It dealt specifically with sudden, unexpected deaths. The dynamics of grief are different with such a loss. It was titled something like, No Time to Say Good-Bye, or something along those lines.

You've got a sad journey ahead of you, my friend. The birth of your son and his early days won't diminish your friend's death as much as some may think. They are two separate and powerful emotional chapters in your life which need, and in a sense, deserve their own due in your heart. Again, so sorry for your devastating loss.

That book sounds like it was helpful. I haven't read it. I can't imagine how awful the grief was that you suffered.

I received a call from Jim the day before my wedding. He was living in Southern California, and I was living in Northern California.

"What time's your wedding tomorrow? I want to make sure I'm there, and I'm also going to film it."

He left early in the morning, bought three camcorders and drove 8-9 hours so he could be here by 2 pm. Friends like that don't come every day.

I'm sending light and love to you and your friend

I'm so very sorry for your loss.

I'm very sorry to hear about your loss AKA - please accept my condolences.

So very sorry to hear about your friend.

Thanks, gang. It's been a rough 24 hours, but I appreciate all the love. It means a lot to me. I've lost three friends in the past five weeks, but this one hurts the worst. Somehow, though, your words, thoughts, prayers and advice makes it a little easier. Thanks again.

I am so sorry about your loss Brad. My thoughts and prayer are with you.

Sorry to hear about your loss, Brad.

I lost one of my closest friends when we were just 21.
It was really rough.

Stay strong.

Thank you, thank you, thank you to everyone. Your support and love means a lot.

Here are a few pictures of Jim and me in high school plays. The first is "Guys and Dolls" (spring of '97, when we were sophomores). We're the two handsome gentlemen on the right of the picture.

The second is "Arsenic and Old Lace" (fall of '98, senior year). We're the two extremely handsome gentleman on either end of the couch. I played Teddy; he played Mortimer.

The third is Jim and another dude in "Guys and Dolls." :)

http://i56.tinypic.com/2mgkxz4.jpg

:)

sorry about your loss! :(

It comes and goes in waves. I had a really hard today yesterday, but I'm feeling good right now. Spent this morning in the nursery at church with about seven babies. I had a one-year-old princess on my lap the whole time. Whenever I tried to put her down to play with the other babies, she'd cry (that boosted my self-esteem a lot ;) ).

Thanks again, everyone, for your continued support.

Janice found a nice article with a great mini-bio of Jim that does him a lot of justice. The article can be found here (http://www.tehachapinews.com/news/local/x1500767777/Bear-Valley-collision-results-in-one-death-two-injured).

Janice found a nice article with a great mini-bio of Jim that does him a lot of justice. The article can be found here (http://www.tehachapinews.com/news/local/x1500767777/Bear-Valley-collision-results-in-one-death-two-injured).

That was a great article Brad. Thanks for sharing! Your friend seemed like an amazing person who loved life, as well as his friends. He is obviously a man who impacted the lives of many, and who was loved by many. He seemed like a guy with great passion for life, and love for all the things he did. God Bless Him, and may he rest in eternal peace.

I'm just seeing this now, Brad. I am very sorry for your loss. :(

Sorry about the loss of your friend. *thoughts and prayers* going out.

Thanks, guys. I want to somehow get back to acting to honor his memory, but I'm severely disabled now and probably can't. Jim and I started in theater at the same time. I'm so proud he never gave up on it, and made it as far as he did.

I love those pictures. Oh happy days, right Brad? Although his time on earth was short, he lived life to the fullest; and he touched the lives of everyone who had the good fortune of knowing him.

I am sorry to hear about your loss, Brad.

Tomorrow it will have been an entire month. It's crazy he's been gone that long!

My wife and I have decided to change our son's middle name from Bradley to James, in his honor.

I know it's hard. Even though I'm sure it seems impossible right now, it will get easier. You won't forget, but it won't hurt as much. That's a nice tribute to your friend giving your son his name as a middle name.

I am so sorry about your loss. :(

I'm so sorry about your loss.ohno:

I can't believe it's been a year. 366 days. I still miss him like crazy. Not a day has gone by that I haven't thought about him.

Here's a really nice article about Jim written by his girlfriend: http://www.statesmanexaminer.com/content/what-james-taught-me

That year went by fast. The first anniversaries are doubly hard. It's so so sad that he doesn't know Harrison. He'll be in your heart forever, but it will get better; time is a healer. That is a nice piece that his girlfriend wrote.

:hug:

Thanks, Janice. I couldn't have gotten through the year without you.

Car accident. He was 30. I'm devastated.

We'd known each other since the eighth grade, and were in theater together all through high school. We were roommates from 2002-2004, and he was my only friend from Spokane who came to my wedding. The last time I saw him was late January, when he came to Oroville just to hang out with me.

He just sent me a message on Facebook five days ago, asking about my baby (my wife and I are expecting). "When do I get to be a surrogate uncle?" was the last thing he said to me.

Sorry about the rambling message, but my head is swimming. I'm so, so sad.


I am sorry for your loss.My prayers go out to you and his loved ones.I know how you feel i just lost my Grandpa.A month ago,it came out of no where.

Hopefully with time it will get easier and hurt a little less.