They've been married since 1979 and have three children (I'm the oldest). My mother has been an alcoholic since 2006, and she has just gotten worse and worse. It's come to a point where I told my dad he should leave her, as she's destroying his life. On Father's Day, he told her to get out of his house. She's gone to stay with her mom (whom she hates, but no one else will take her in).

Everyone who knows her is just so sick of her behavior. I won't take her in, and neither will my sister. Even her best friend is worn out with her. She's been in and out of rehab three times, and it never works.

I do feel sad, but I'm also torn because I know my dad did the right thing. He's consumed with guilt, but he couldn't live with her any longer. Maybe her husband kicking her out of the house will be the wake up call she needed. I doubt it, but I hope so.

Anyways, prayers are appreciated. I would love to have my mother back, but I'm afraid she may be gone for good.

Praying for your whole family.

Liza,

I'm so sorry for you. I understand all too well the toll having a close relative who is an alcoholic can take (my only brother was for over thirty years, and pretty much died of it, unfortunately).

My mom and I went to Al Anon a few times. It wasn't perfect and it certainly didn't "solve" anything, but there were a few things I took away from it that were personally empowering and comforting. It might be something to check out.

Ultimately, whatever happens, know that you cannot change your mom. Only your mom can do that. And you can still love her while you hate her actions. I KNOW it's a very tough line to tread; I'm not sure I ever mastered it myself, really. But again, something to think about.

Good luck and God Bless,

I'm so sorry that your parents situation has come to this but I agree that your Dad did the right thing and I hope and pray that this will be a wake up call for your Mom and she will seek treatment for her disease. (Alcoholism is a disease) You and your family are in my prayers.

I know that kind of pain of watching your parents split. It sucks. The one thing that I want you to remember that every negative emotion you feel, let yourself feel it. You're going to be healing and that can be hard but I know you'll be okay and everything will fall into place.

I will be praying for you, your Father and your Mother

Emily, I am so, so sorry. You and your family will be in my prayers. :bighug:

I'm so sorry to hear about your mother. Most of the people on my mom's side of the family are alcoholics. My uncle died from it a couple years ago. You and your family are in my prayers.

I'm so sorry Liza. I just said a prayer for her, and will continue to pray for her. Hang in there.

My thoughts and prayers are with you Liza

Emily, I'm so sorry to hear about this. An alcoholic's "bottom" can be many things, i.e. the loss of their family, a job, their health, ending up in jail; and sadly for some, the graveyard. Let's pray that this will scare your Mom into sobriety. I'm living proof that can happen. Just know that we're all here for you.

Emily, I'm so sorry to hear about this. An alcoholic's "bottom" can be many things, i.e. the loss of their family, a job, their health, ending up in jail; and sadly for some, the graveyard. Let's pray that this will scare your Mom into sobriety. I'm living proof that can happen. Just know that we're all here for you.

Are you a recovering alcoholic, Janice?

Are you a recovering alcoholic, Janice?
I wouldn't go that far, Lee. Substance abuse runs in my family on both sides. I lost two sisters to drugs and alcohol. In my 20s, I used to party hearty. Lou and I were dating, and I never knew when to call it a night. His ex-wife was an alcoholic, and that was the reason for their divorce. He just told me that he'd never marry me if I continued on the path I was on. So, I toned it down. I'd have a little wine or a drink here and there, but I stopped wearing lampshades on my head.

I'm sorry to hear that.

Thank you all so much for your support and well wishes. I heard from my dad today and he and my brother seem to be doing really, really well. My dad told me it was so nice to come home and not have to deal with someone passed out on the couch.

On the flipside, I called my grandmother, and my mother apparently already got drunk at her house and asked my dad what to do. He told her to cover her with a blanket and let her sleep it off. Sad, but not surprising.

I'm really sorry to hear this Liza. I understand how you feel though. Alcoholism and drug use also runs in my family. My mom's boyfriend Carl drinks beer from morning to night, along with the big thing of vodka he consumes everyday. We haven't even bought food in over two months, because he's needed the food money to pay for his smoking and alcohol.
I'm seeing him waste away everyday, and it's hard, because regardless of his many faults, I still love him like he's my own father. My brother almost died from alcoholism, and drug use, but has been mostly sober in the last few years, although it's still a daily struggle for him. If you ever need to talk to someone who can relate, call on me, and I'll be there!! I wish you, and your entire family the very best.

I'm glad that you, your dad and brother are making the best of things right now. I feel sorry for your grandmother who has to deal with your mother's shenanigans right now. God willing, things will get better - soon!! :bighug:

I'm very sorry, Emily. Its a shame that alcohol has split your family up. However, I do think that your dad did the correct thing.