This week will be my first week living on my own. My sister packed up her stuff Friday. My mother has packed some of her stuff and will be packing more and bringing it to her boyfriend's house. Some of their things have already been taken over to my mother's boyfriend's house.

This is a major change for me. It's difficult to handle. The timing is particularly bad as I am still recovering from major surgery. I think the stress of my mother and sister planning to move exacerbated my abdominal pain which turned out to be gall stones. That led to an emergency gall bladder removal. I hope the stress I'm under now as they have moved and only have things left to come get won't overwhelm me too much. The real test will come Monday when no one comes home. My mother won't be coming home from work and my sister won't be coming home from school.

They now have a new home and I'm not a part of it. :( My mother, her boyfriend and my sister will be a "family" without me. :( I would move with them, but they won't let me. It's breaking my heart.

:bighug: Jenny, I hope and pray everything will work out for the best for you. Remember that you ARE a very special and sweet lady, and you have a "family" here at SO!!!!

Jenny...

We're your family. I'm sorry that things aren't working out and you're not getting any support from your mom, her boyfriend, and your sister.

I hope you can recover from that as well.

I think it's awful that they're moving while you're still recovering. I don't understand that at all. :ohno: Just remember Jenny that you have friends here that care for you. I hope everything turns out alright in the end. You are in my prayers and God bless you. :(

I'm sorry for all you're going through :hug: I consider the people here family, so you have us if you ever need anything

Janice kept us updated on your condition ever step of the way, Jenny, and I know how particularly special you are to each other. I'm so thankful you have her. After all you've done for your relatives, I'm outraged at how they are treating you - just a few days after major surgery!!!! :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad:

I said a special prayer for you in church today - and asked God to send His angel care over you, as well as people near you to help. Just know how much you are loved!!! :bighug:

Thanks everyone. :) I appreciate it.

Janice kept us updated on your condition ever step of the way, Jenny, and I know how particularly special you are to each other. I'm so thankful you have her. After all you've done for your relatives, I'm outraged at how they are treating you - just a few days after major surgery!!!! :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad:

I said a special prayer for you in church today - and asked God to send His angel care over you, as well as people near you to help. Just know how much you are loved!!! :bighug:

Yes, I am very grateful to Janice for her kindness. She has been very nice to me and so helpful. It has meant a lot to me. I'm lucky to have her as a friend. :)

Jenny I'm sorry your going through this major change in your life at the same time you are recovering from surgery. I will keep you in my prayers.

Best of luck to you

Though I think it was very thoughtless of your mother to leave when you are are recovering from your sickness, I think its pretty exciting that you are now living on your own. You are not going to have to deal with with either your sister or mom anymore. :)

I'm sorry to hear about what's happening in your life at this time but I can see you have many friends here that will help you through this tough time.

Jenny,

Living on your own for the first time is indeed very scary and daunting. At first it seems overwhelming, but I KNOW you can do this. You are a smart and capable young lady and there are far less capable people than you living on their own.

My advice is to take things one day at a time and reward yourself for the 'little victories' you will have along the way. Don't try to worry about or do everything at once. I know from experience that doesn't work too well.

Best of luck. As everyone else has said, you have people who care about you here. As regrettable (and bewildering) as your family situation is, you are more than an extension of your family. You are yourself and that's pretty special. :)

Jenny, you know how I feel about you and that this is breaking my heart as well. Living alone isn't for everyone. You've lived your entire life with your family, and now it's just over. It's like being locked out of their home. Just know I'm here for you. Monika's right, you are very special to me. I look forward to the day we meet.

You're gonna be okay, Jenny. I don't know how a mother can do this to her child but I know when it's all said and done, you'll be a stronger, better person. Know that there is always help when you need it.

How can your mother do this to you, her own child? It sounds like your
mother never really cared for you in the first place, Jennifer. Why don't
you just cut her and your sister off completely? Your mother chose her
boyfriend over you, so why should you waste your time grieving? Move on
with your life. Like Janice said, I believe you are strong enough to make it
on your own. I do hope you fully recover from your Gallbladder surgery and
you can return to good health.

Jenny, sorry to hear about what happened. Just said a prayer for you and hoping everything will ultimately work out.

Thanks everyone. :) It's nice to have people who care. :) Thanks for your words.

Thanks so much Janice. You rock. :)

It's been three months sinec my mother and sister moved out.

My mother told me last evening that she is engaged. It came as somewhat of a shock. I know she's really happy. I'm not sure when she will get married. Whenever they get married they will be an offical family. I don't feel I'm part of it.

The Christmas holiday is creeping up soon. I'm guessing that's going to be a little rough for me.

It's been three months sinec my mother and sister moved out.

My mother told me last evening that she is engaged. It came as somewhat of a shock. I know she's really happy. I'm not sure when she will get married. Whenever they get married they will be an offical family. I don't feel I'm part of it.

The Christmas holiday is creeping up soon. I'm guessing that's going to be a little rough for me.
I'm sorry you don't feel like your part of your Mother's family. But you are and always will be a part of the Sitcoms Online family!

I'm sorry you don't feel like your part of your Mother's family. But you are and always will be a part of the Sitcoms Online family!

I second that emotion.

Third!

And please don't let this site be down on 12/25 this year, because I like to talk to you guys!

I'm not only giving nothing for anyone this christmas...I'm also not dressing up either.

Maybe next year....

It's been three months sinec my mother and sister moved out.

My mother told me last evening that she is engaged. It came as somewhat of a shock. I know she's really happy. I'm not sure when she will get married. Whenever they get married they will be an offical family. I don't feel I'm part of it.

The Christmas holiday is creeping up soon. I'm guessing that's going to be a little rough for me.


I hope everything works out for you.

consider me fourth!!:bighug:

Consider me fifth. :)

I hope everything works out for you Jenny. :)

Thanks everyone. :)

After they get married, you should start calling him "Daddy", just to piss him off. :lol:

Seriously, I'm sorry to hear about this latest turn of events. It hasn't been the best year for you, medically or family-wise. I hope you have a better year in 2011. :)

Thanks Janice. :) :hug:

Jenny, I wish you, nothing but the very best, and happiness. Stay strong, sweetie:hug:

I'm still trying to adjust to not living with my mother and sister. It's been tough. I've lost some weight (part of that had to do with being sick last year with gall stones). I think part of it is sadness from being left behind.

Today my mother and sister came by. Things didn't go well at the grocery store. There was a situation with kitty litter. At the check out at the register my mother got right up in my face (very close) and used a mean tone. It made me feel bad. My mother has gotten very petty when it comes to buying things. She's not about to help me if she doesn't absolutely have to. She's gone so far as to try to sneak things by me so that I have to buy them.

I was completely left out of being mentioned in my mother's engagement video. She talked about everything and everyone she was thankful for. She named everyone, including in-laws. I was the only one she didn't mention. It was like I didn't exist or I wasn't worthy enough to mention.

I'm still trying to adjust to not living with my mother and sister. It's been tough. I've lost some weight (part of that had to do with being sick last year with gall stones). I think part of it is sadness from being left behind.

Today my mother and sister came by. Things didn't go well at the grocery store. There was a situation with kitty litter. At the check out at the register my mother got right up in my face (very close) and used a mean tone. It made me feel bad. My mother has gotten very petty when it comes to buying things. She's not about to help me if she doesn't absolutely have to. She's gone so far as to try to sneak things by me so that I have to buy them.

I was completely left out of being mentioned in my mother's engagement video. She talked about everything and everyone she was thankful for. She named everyone, including in-laws. I was the only one she didn't mention. It was like I didn't exist or I wasn't worthy enough to mention.

Jenny,

I'm so sorry your mother continues to treat you this way. She doesn't seem like much of a mother, IMHO. I think of my own mom, and hearing stories like yours makes me appreciate her even more than I did before, God rest her soul.

I guess my only advice is to assure you that you DO NOT deserve to be treated like this. Keep reminding yourself that your mother's attitude is NOTHING to do with anything bad about you, and EVERYTHING to do with some very basic flaw in her. She's throwing away what could be a great relationship with you, and that's her loss. Maybe someday she'll realize that. Maybe.

But don't let her mood rule your life. You are your own person, and that's pretty special. Be proud of yourself and what you have accomplished. And as always, remember we're all here for you if you need us at SO.

We are all rooting for you!!!! :)

oh i am very heart with your story,and i dont know which kind of lady your mom is and how could she do this with you,i hope so god will give you that much strength to fight with all the circumstences,,,,,,:( :(