About you with others? I'll be honest with you, I've been paranoid about this ever since I first came online. One of the reasons I come across as being so nice, is because of this very reason. I don't want someone to dislike me, and make up lies about me to my friends. I know there are people out there like that. The main reason I come across as being nice is because it's just my personality, but I'd be lying if I said the risk of making enemies didn't play a part. I get paranoid when I don't hear from a friend for awhile, sometimes thinking that someone made up a lie about me that my friend believed. Actually makes me so nervous, it makes me physically ill at times. The internet can be a scary place sometimes!!! I don't know, maybe it's just me, but does anyone else here ever have similar worries??

I don't trust anyone, so yeah, I can be paranoid as well. I think people at work are talking about me all the time. Wouldn't surprise me if online people were too.

I used to get that way but not anymore. I learned long ago that for whatever reasons everyone will not accept you, so I just deal and go on with my life.

oh lord yes. this is why i no longer even tell anyone that my best friend exists if they don't already know. he's always been quite a heartthrob among girls, and i'm his best friend and we have feelings for each other even though we're not dating anymore, so i get a lot of crap. girls have always lied to us about each other to try to ruin our relationship, and it's mostly to him about me. it was worse in high school, but it still goes on in college. one of them once made up stories about me physically attacking and beating her when i'd never even laid a hand on her ugly ass (she also used to beg him to cheat on me with her while we were dating). the intent here obviously was to make him appalled and disgusted at me, comfort her out of sympathy, and thus increase the chances of her getting with him. he had a girlfriend once who was so jealous of me, she would twist around and take everything i said about him out of context, and report it to him to try to make him mad at me. it's so ******** and childish, but to their misfortune he's not an idiot and he knows he can trust me over them, so i never actually feel threatened by it. it's just very annoying that no one has ever left us alone.

I've felt this way from time to time. Though it's not because I'm worried that people are talking behind my back. If I don't hear from someone in a while, I start to worry that I may have said something to offend them.

I don't trust anyone, so yeah, I can be paranoid as well. I think people at work are talking about me all the time. Wouldn't surprise me if online people were too.

I've said things about you to other people, Cathy, but it has always been good stuff. :)

I've said things about you to other people, Cathy, but it has always been good stuff. :)
:eek: There's good stuff???



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:eek: There's good stuff???



:p

Of course there is. :lol:

I used to get that way but not anymore. I learned long ago that for whatever reasons everyone will not accept you, so I just deal and go on with my life.

You took the words right out of my mouth. A couple of years ago, I wanted everyone to like me. Then a guy I worked with flat out told me he hated me, for no reason (he actually said that), and slowly but surely I began to realize not everyone is going to like me. There will always be people who don't agree with my opinion or not like me for whatever reason they find (and there have been a couple of people like that throughout these past couple of years). I stopped caring about what they thought a while ago. It's just not worth it; too much stress and heartache over people who could care less about you.

You took the words right out of my mouth. A couple of years ago, I wanted everyone to like me. Then a guy I worked with flat out told me he hated me, for no reason (he actually said that), and slowly but surely I began to realize not everyone is going to like me. There will always be people who don't agree with my opinion or not like me for whatever reason they find (and there have been a couple of people like that throughout these past couple of years). I stopped caring about what they thought a while ago. It's just not worth it; too much stress and heartache over people who could care less about you.




RIGHT ON

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I don't worry about it online, but it's actually happened in my own family. I don't care or get paranoid anymore, because that half of the family is nothing but hypocrite lunatics, anyway.

I don't worry about it online, but it's actually happened in my own family. I don't care or get paranoid anymore, because that half of the family is nothing but hypocrite lunatics, anyway.

I can't imagine anyone having anything bad to say about you, Michael. You're too nice of a guy. :)

You took the words right out of my mouth. A couple of years ago, I wanted everyone to like me. Then a guy I worked with flat out told me he hated me, for no reason (he actually said that), and slowly but surely I began to realize not everyone is going to like me. There will always be people who don't agree with my opinion or not like me for whatever reason they find (and there have been a couple of people like that throughout these past couple of years). I stopped caring about what they thought a while ago. It's just not worth it; too much stress and heartache over people who could care less about you.

That's a really good point, Megan. No matter how hard we try, there are always going to be people who aren't going to like us.

I can't imagine anyone having anything bad to say about you, Michael. You're too nice of a guy. :)

:lol: Thanks. The sad thing is that it's all adults. A couple aunts and uncles, and one of my older cousins. It was mostly in the past, but who knows if it's still going on. I really don't care what they have to say, though, because they are awful people.

:lol: Thanks. The sad thing is that it's all adults. A couple aunts and uncles, and one of my older cousins. It was mostly in the past, but who knows if it's still going on. I really don't care what they have to say, though, because they are awful people.

I have an uncle who is kind of a jerk too. He never has anything nice to say about anyone. Well, besides himself.

People are going to talk about you, regardless (allow them). There is nothing you can do about it. People are going to accept or not. I had my fair share of others not liking me for no apparent reason, and the bottom line is, I would care less. Life is way too short. The most important thing is to worry about what your true friends think and the individuals that love you, screw the rest!

I used to get that way but not anymore. I learned long ago that for whatever reasons everyone will not accept you, so I just deal and go on with my life.
Same here. I don't really care what people think - I know who I am and what I'm about. I do my own thing and try to stay out of the way. If people don't like that, then tough.

Believe me, Brad - it's happened to me many times, both in real life and on the Internet. I cry nad get really sick when it's someone I thought was a real friend doing it to me (but then they aren't a real friend, are they?) It hurts for a while, then I get back on the horse.

You guys have a really healthy attitude about this. I'm coming to the realization that it's actually ok not to be liked by everyone, and if people disagree with you on certain matters, it dosn't necessarily mean they don't like you I think being aware of this fact can save people a great deal of heartache and hurt.

People are going to talk about you, regardless (allow them). There is nothing you can do about it. People are going to accept or not. I had my fair share of others not liking me for no apparent reason, and the bottom line is, I would care less. Life is way too short. The most important thing is to worry about what your true friends think and the individuals that love you, screw the rest!

That is very good advice, and so true.

What I wrote before about people not always accepting you, I am trying to keep in that frame of mind but I am really having a hard time now because somebody whom I thought I was friends with took me off their friends list on Facebook. If this person dosent want to be friends with me anymore I feel they should come out and say so. I dont know why I am letting this get to me.

People are going to talk about you, regardless (allow them). There is nothing you can do about it. People are going to accept or not. I had my fair share of others not liking me for no apparent reason, and the bottom line is, I would care less. Life is way too short. The most important thing is to worry about what your true friends think and the individuals that love you, screw the rest!

You said it sistah!

What I wrote before about people not always accepting you, I am trying to keep in that frame of mind but I am really having a hard time now because somebody whom I thought I was friends with took me off their friends list on Facebook. If this person dosent want to be friends with me anymore I feel they should come out and say so. I dont know why I am letting this get to me.

Guess what, I can totally relate. I just looked on my facebook, and realized I went from having 30 friends, to 29. :( I don't even know who took me off, I haven't figured it out yet. I hate when people do **** like that too. It's not so much them taking me off that bugs me, it's like you said, it's them not having the guts to explain why they took you off. The not knowing why is what drives you crazy. Just so you know Mickey, I have no plans on ever taking you off my list, and if I did for some reason, I'd let you know why first.

Guess what, I can totally relate. I just looked on my facebook, and realized I went from having 30 friends, to 29. :( I don't even know who took me off, I haven't figured it out yet. I hate when people do **** like that too. It's not so much them taking me off that bugs me, it's like you said, it's them not having the guts to explain why they took you off. The not knowing why is what drives you crazy. Just so you know Mickey, I have no plans on ever taking you off my list, and if I did for some reason, I'd let you know why first.
that was probably because i deactivated my account last night (had some issues), so no worries. :) there's an option to re-activate it and i may do that sometime, but in the meantime my account is gone.

that was probably because i deactivated my account last night (had some issues), so no worries. :) there's an option to re-activate it and i may do that sometime, but in the meantime my account is gone.

Oh, okay, I didn't even realize it was you. Sorry if my message offended you, I only said what I said about people who just take you off for no reason with no explanation. I definitely don't mean you. You know I love ya Sarah!!! :heart: :hug:

Guess what, I can totally relate. I just looked on my facebook, and realized I went from having 30 friends, to 29. :( I don't even know who took me off, I haven't figured it out yet. I hate when people do **** like that too. It's not so much them taking me off that bugs me, it's like you said, it's them not having the guts to explain why they took you off. The not knowing why is what drives you crazy. Just so you know Mickey, I have no plans on ever taking you off my list, and if I did for some reason, I'd let you know why first.



Thank you Mel that means a lot.


Anyway I have decided to stick to my guns about what I posted earlier about how some people will not accept or like you for whatever reason. Thats just the way life if and I should be used to it by now. That said I still cant help but to be curious about this. The person whom decided to remove me from their Facebook page, I will see this person from time to time and I will be nice to them. Today I will see that person's husband and will ask him if maybe I did something to offend or upset his wife.

Yes all the time... Im having that problem now actually........


I caint staind ppl who it either!!