I know some of the posters grew up in a time where this never happened. Though it's generally not too common these days, it does happen a lot more than it used to. Ladies, would you ask out a guy you liked? Guys, would you be flattered if a lady asked you out? Just curious as to what everyone's opinion is.

i would be really flattered & way more flattered then her saying yes if i ask her- or just asking her in general- lol. Because with guys, theirs a fear or level of rejection we don't want to happen. So I'd say I want more women to ask me out, instead of me doing the work lol.

i would be really flattered & way more flattered then her saying yes if i ask her- or just asking her in general- lol. Because with guys, theirs a fear or level of rejection we don't want to happen. So I'd say I want more women to ask me out, instead of me doing the work lol.


Sounds fair enough. No one likes to be rejected. Here, at least you know she's interested.

Heck yeah! If I found a guy who was really worth pursuing, I'd definitely ask him out. :D

If a girl wants to ask me out, I'd be more than happy. :)

i've asked out a guy before. well, not so much "asked" as simply initiated a relationship by confessing my feelings and letting the conversation go from there. though i probably wouldn't have done it if it weren't that i had already rejected him a few months earlier and just changed my mind, so even in the off chance of rejection, it would have just evened things out instead of screwing up our friendship or anything.

i've asked out a guy before. well, not so much "asked" as simply initiated a relationship by confessing my feelings and letting the conversation go from there. though i probably wouldn't have done it if it weren't that i had already rejected him a few months earlier and just changed my mind, so even in the off chance of rejection, it would have just evened things out instead of screwing up our friendship or anything.


Not often I hear of a girl changing her mind in a situation like that. Personally, if a girl told me she wasn't interested in me and changed her mind, I wouldn't even bother with her. Nothing personal, but my feeling is if she rejected me, why would she change her mind?

I'm too shy to ask a guy out, but I see nothing wrong with ladies doing the asking.

I would be thrilled and honored if a woman thought I was interesting enough to ask out on a date.

I like it better when a guy that I like asks me, then if I ask a guy and he says yes. I might get the feeling that either he's just saying yes to be nice or because he kind of likes me- but if he asks me then I know he actually does really like me.

I like it better when a guy that I like asks me, then if I ask a guy and he says yes. I might get the feeling that either he's just saying yes to be nice or because he kind of likes me- but if he asks me then I know he actually does really like me.


But if a guy asks you out and you say yes, he may feel that you're saying yes just to be nice or because you kind of like him. Just playing devil's advocate here.

Okay, here's what I think. Just cause a girl doesn't actually say the words, that doesn't mean she's not doing the pursuing. I've never said to a guy "would you like to have dinner sometime?" but that doesn't really mean anything.

This is the joy of being female. We decide who we want to go out with, flirt with him, and when he finally asks us out, we just let him think it was completely his idea ;)

That's the big secret guys. Now you know.

Okay, here's what I think. Just cause a girl doesn't actually say the words, that doesn't mean she's not doing the pursuing. I've never said to a guy "would you like to have dinner sometime?" but that doesn't really mean anything.

This is the joy of being female. We decide who we want to go out with, flirt with him, and when he finally asks us out, we just let him think it was completely his idea ;)

That's the big secret guys. Now you know.
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Okay, here's what I think. Just cause a girl doesn't actually say the words, that doesn't mean she's not doing the pursuing. I've never said to a guy "would you like to have dinner sometime?" but that doesn't really mean anything.

This is the joy of being female. We decide who we want to go out with, flirt with him, and when he finally asks us out, we just let him think it was completely his idea ;)

That's the big secret guys. Now you know.


Let's say you saw a guy you were interested in, but you couldn't get his attention. Wouldn't you introduce yourself? The reason I started this topic is because I heard of a few women that asked guys out and was curious to know everyone's opinion.

Let's say you saw a guy you were interested in, but you couldn't get his attention.

Couldn't get his attention - Is he blind? I need an example/scenerio.

Couldn't get his attention - Is he blind? I need an example/scenerio.


Say you walked in somewhere and he had his back to you. When he turns around, he doesn't see you because it is crowded or something like that. Since he couldn't see you, do you intend to get his attention?

Or, what if he's shy and awkward around women and doesn't know you're interested?

But if a guy asks you out and you say yes, he may feel that you're saying yes just to be nice or because you kind of like him. Just playing devil's advocate here.


I don't... lol. I wont say NO and laugh in his face but I wont say yes.

Since he couldn't see you, do you intend to get his attention?

I would walk pass him and smile. If he were super duper cute, I would make a short comment or ask a question about whatever was going on. After that, it would be up to him. If he didn't keep the conversation going, I would move on.

Or, what if he's shy and awkward around women and doesn't know you're interested?

Well then, he has confidence/self-esteem issues he needs to work out on his own. If he doesn't, he's probably going to be waiting a long time in-between dates.

If a man talks to enough women, he'll be able to tell if she's interested. Sure, he'll make mistakes and get rejected, but that's life.

Generally...
It's really hard for a woman to ask a guy out without looking desperate/aggressive.
Men seem to be more into a woman, if he does the asking/pursuing.

I'm too shy to ask a guy out, but I see nothing wrong with ladies doing the asking.

Neither do I. I'd be afraid of rejection though. I don't how you guys do it!!

I think this was fate, but my husband and I kind of asked each other out at the same time. I was getting ready to ask him out and literally seconds before, he asked me if I wanted to go to a movie! I still can't believe it happened that way!

Couldn't get his attention - Is he blind? I need an example/scenerio.

:lol:

maybe he means the guy is oblivious or something like that

I think this was fate, but my husband and I kind of asked each other out at the same time. I was getting ready to ask him out and literally seconds before, he asked me if I wanted to go to a movie! I still can't believe it happened that way!

that's cute :)....but very rare- lol. Good for you though.

ladies, don't have a fear of rejection..leave that to the guys- lol..cause we're scared sh*tless about what you're gonna say...or when we get around you, and if you we like you per say- hypethically here....we're scared to even talk to you to begin with, if you're attractive and a great person/woman. it's tough- believe me.

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maybe he means the guy is oblivious or something like that


I knew this girl who liked a guy who rode on her bus everyday. She really liked him and tried her best to catch his attention. She told me "He doesn't seem to notice me." She found out later he was legally blind. True Story! I guess that's why I asked. :lol:

I knew this girl who liked a guy who rode on her bus everyday. She really liked him and tried her best to catch his attention. She told me "He doesn't seem to notice me." She found out later he was legally blind. True Story! I guess that's why I asked. :lol:

:lol: I Guess he didn't! lol

but if a girl was interested in me, and I liked her, and she was sending out signs and giving clues, I wouldn't be oblivious..I'd read into it, then ask her out, or wait and seem interested- to see if she WILL ask me out- the girl askin the guy in this situation lol.

I think either way, you have to get to the point that if someone rejects you it doesn't ruin your good opinion of yourself.

if all my ex-girlfriends and female friends that were good looking did the asking out, instead of me..It would make things so MUCH easier lol. It's hard to understand females and what they're thinking. They like you but could be just flirting. But respectively they have kids & work hard, even if their teenagers when they play games with guys- so I appreciate them.

I'd likely be very shy. If I could get over that then maybe I would ask a guy out but I'd probably be too nervous.

I asked a guy to go with me to a friends birthday party when I was 17, does that count? It wasn't really like a night-time date though since the party was on a saturday afternoon.

Okay, here's what I think. Just cause a girl doesn't actually say the words, that doesn't mean she's not doing the pursuing. I've never said to a guy "would you like to have dinner sometime?" but that doesn't really mean anything.

This is the joy of being female. We decide who we want to go out with, flirt with him, and when he finally asks us out, we just let him think it was completely his idea ;)

That's the big secret guys. Now you know.
not all guys are smart enough to see that though - I'm so oblivious to any form of flirting that i've actually had girls tackle me to get my attention.

not all guys are smart enough to see that though - I'm so oblivious to any form of flirting that i've actually had girls tackle me to get my attention.

:lol: yeah sometimes that's the only way I guess- lol

not all guys are smart enough to see that though - I'm so oblivious to any form of flirting that i've actually had girls tackle me to get my attention.


That's pretty funny. :lol:

:lol: yeah sometimes that's the only way I guess- lol

It so is!! Sometimes guys just don't get it! :eek: :lol:

if all my ex-girlfriends and female friends that were good looking did the asking out, instead of me..It would make things so MUCH easier lol. It's hard to understand females and what they're thinking. They like you but could be just flirting. But respectively they have kids & work hard, even if their teenagers when they play games with guys- so I appreciate them.


I learned that the hard away unfortunately. It's hard to read them sometimes.