I have a female friend that is bisexual. She has had boyfriends, so she isn't a lesbian. Anyway, when I first met her, she treated me differently than her other guy friends, but I didn't take it any further because she had a girlfriend. They broke up and she started dating another girl. They broke up in February.

She's been single since then and I'm not sure if she'd be interested in going out with me. Thing is, I don't know if 1)She still has feelings for me and 2)If this would end our friendship if it didn't work out. I have no idea what the hell to do. She may have had feelings for me at first, but I don't know if she still does. Is this something worth pursuing?

I would suggest putting all your cards on the table. Talk to her about this, thats the only way you will know if she has feelings for you or not.

Agreed. Nothing ventured - nothing gained.


There are many things I wish I had done in my early 20s that I now regret NOT doing. Try to live your live so that if you have regrets, it's from doing something and not because you didn't try something.

I would suggest putting all your cards on the table. Talk to her about this, thats the only way you will know if she has feelings for you or not.


I've thought about this, but I've always chickened out. I've always been awkward around women.

I think just talk to her to see how she feels about you if you sense she does and you have a strong feeling. Pursue your feelings.

I've thought about this, but I've always chickened out. I've always been awkward around women.



I can relate to that but I figured out long ago there isnt a reason to feel awkard around females, and lots of times they feel awkard around men.

It works both ways. And girls are less likely to be as forward with their feelings. Some are still quite traditional, dropping hints and hoping the guy will make the first move.

I have NEVER looked down upon any guy who approached me. And if she does turn you down, don't feel uncomfortable around her afterwards - you can still be friends.

Think of it from your point of view. Even if you weren't "into" a particular girl, wouldn't you still be flattered to be told she liked you?

I think just talk to her to see how she feels about you if you sense she does and you have a strong feeling. Pursue your feelings.


I sensed it 2 years ago. The only thing that stopped me was she had a girlfriend. The only thing I'm afraid of is if I do pursue and she isn't interested or if she is and it doesn't work out for whatever reason, it can end our friendship.

It works both ways. And girls are less likely to be as forward with their feelings. Some are still quite traditional, dropping hints and hoping the guy will make the first move.

I have NEVER looked down upon any guy who approached me. And if she does turn you down, don't feel uncomfortable around her afterwards - you can still be friends.

Think of it from your point of view. Even if you weren't "into" a particular girl, wouldn't you still be flattered to be told she liked you?


That is true, though girls are much more forward these days. Aside from two girls, I never knew which girls were into me. Sure it can be flattering, though it also depends how they approach you.

That is true, though girls are much more forward these days. Aside from two girls, I never knew which girls were into me. Sure it can be flattering, though it also depends how they approach you.
True, but you know how you'd want to be approached.

I'd just be honest. Maybe bring it up as casually as you can that you were interested in her when she was in a relationship and see how she responds to that. If you got the feeling from her that she might have liked you, then you were probably right (and that was maybe her being as forward as she could).

It doesn't have to wreck a friendship. I used to think that too, but I had a couple of friends when I was 19 tell me they were into me more than just a friend (and one had been my best girlfriend all thru highschool). With both people, I let them down gently, told them I was flattered (and I was) and we still were able to be friends.

I've also broken up with guys and we were still friends afterwards. Especially if it's a mutual breakup.

Like I said, as I've gotten older, I just know that most of what I regret in life is from NOT doing something or taking the chance rather than taking it. You only go this way once afterall - carpe diem!! (seize the day)

I sensed it 2 years ago. The only thing that stopped me was she had a girlfriend. The only thing I'm afraid of is if I do pursue and she isn't interested or if she is and it doesn't work out for whatever reason, it can end our friendship.

I can see where you are afraid there. I was in a similar situation with a guy back in high school and friendship didn't end but we sort of drifted apart and we really don't keep in touch anymore. Has she seen anyone else since her February breakup?

I can see where you are afraid there. I was in a similar situation with a guy back in high school and friendship didn't end but we sort of drifted apart and we really don't keep in touch anymore. Has she seen anyone else since her February breakup?


Nope. Not a single date. Out of all her guy friends, she has the most in common with me.

I still see her regularly. She has finals for college, so now wouldn't be a good time to bring this up. I'm planning on bringing it up in about a week or two, though I'm not sure how to tackle the matter.

Been awhile here. Anyway, I asked her out and she said yes, so I guess there's hope after all.

Been awhile here. Anyway, I asked her out and she said yes, so I guess there's hope after all.

That's great news. I hope things go well for you.

That's great news. I hope things go well for you.


I hope so too. I'm optimistic so far.

A little over a month since my last post. Anyway, we are probably going out on Wednesday. Both of us have been busy since. At this point, it's probably either a movie, mini golf, or to a boardwalk type of area similar to Atlantic City.

A little over a month since my last post. Anyway, we are probably going out on Wednesday. Both of us have been busy since. At this point, it's probably either a movie, mini golf, or to a boardwalk type of area similar to Atlantic City.

Hey, that's awesome!! I'm glad things are working out. I hope the date goes well! :D

Hey, that's awesome!! I'm glad things are working out. I hope the date goes well! :D


I hope it does too. Her mom even loves me, so at least she would be supportive if it works out.

I hope it does too. Her mom even loves me, so at least she would be supportive if it works out.

Now THAT is something special, trust me!! :)
If I could only find a guy that I loved, and my mom really liked, I'd be in 7th heaven! :lol:

I'm so happy things are working out for you.