Do you ever feel bad saying something negative about a show, a movie, a musical group because you were afraid to hurt somone else's feelings. An example would be Bewitched which is a personal favorite of Monika's and quite a few other people here. However, I hate that show. The episodes I have seen have been idiotic with awful acting. However, everytime I make a negative comment about the show or other shows, I feel bad that I might hurt someone's feelings. Anyone else feel this way?

I think it is okay to say you don't care for a show or an actor and no one will get their feelings hurt. I do think it is plain rude to go to a show site simply to bash a show or the actors (and I have seen that happen.) I actually like Bewitched. I think it is a cute show, not my favorite, but okay. I doubt anyone here would be hurt that you don't care for it. But if you went to the Bewitched board and starting making threads about how much you hate it or replied to others posts with rude or hateful comments, they would probably get hurt. (Of course I know you wouldn't do that!)

The only time I feel uneasy about posting, or worry that I will hurt someone's feelings are when people post things in ChitChat asking for advice or debating topics. I get scared of upsetting someone or having others lash out at me for my opinions. That's why I stay away from here most of the time. Don't know what made me actually reply to this...I guess I am getting brave! ;)

To each his own - is what I say. Agree to disagree, as long as you are not insulting about it. Everyone has their own tastes.

The only time I feel uneasy about posting, or worry that I will hurt someone's feelings are when people post things in ChitChat asking for advice or debating topics. I get scared of upsetting someone or having others lash out at me for my opinions. That's why I stay away from here most of the time. Don't know what made me actually reply to this...I guess I am getting brave! ;)

Sometimes when I post in Chit Chat I worry about hurting someone or maybe making someone angry. Though I usually go ahead and post anyway. :lol:

To each his own - is what I say. Agree to disagree, as long as you are not insulting about it. Everyone has their own tastes.

I've seen you write something about agreeing to disagree before. Oh yeah, about American Beauty. :lol: ;)

I've seen you write something about agreeing to disagree before. Oh yeah, about American Beauty. :lol: ;)
Yes - I hated American Beauty, but I know a bunch of other people who loved it. I could never see the appeal, but oh well. :lol:

I've always liked Bewitched. I grew up with it. :D It doesn't bother me if anyone doesn't like what I like. Everybody's different and has different tastes. It does bother me if I'm posting on a tv board and someone just comes over there to hate on a show though. Other than that...to each his own as Monika said. :lol:

Wow, wouldn't the world be a boring place if everyone liked the same thing!!!

Personally, if someone mentioned that they did not care for a certain show or whatever, that I liked; no, I would not be offended; actually, I prefer having a unique taste for a certain subject (i.e., a television show, movie, book, etc.); in other words, I enjoy being a nonconformist;)

Sometimes when I post in Chit Chat I worry about hurting someone or maybe making someone angry. Though I usually go ahead and post anyway. :lol:

I hear ya. There are some people here that are so "protective" of their favorite shows/movies/performers/whatever they are really crazy about that they have the attitude of "you insult them - you are also insulting me". There are also some people, however, who do go overboard with their comments/criticisms that they invite people's wrath. Both are wrong attitudes to have, but people are people and it takes all kinds to make this world go.

As for myself, I've heard people say that my Howdy avatar looks "scary" at times. It doesn't bother me in the least - because I realize two things:

1. That a lot of my SO friends were born AFTER 1960 and, as a result, know nothing (or very little) about Howdy, which I respect.

AND

2. Not everyone is into everything that everyone else is into. You should never EVER be chastised for stating your opinion. Remember - one fan's 'sweet and cute' is another's 'ugly'. It's all a matter of personal opinion and taste.

Wow, wouldn't the world be a boring place if everyone liked the same thing!!!

Personally, if someone mentioned that they did not care for a certain show or whatever, that I liked; no, I would not be offended; actually, I prefer having a unique taste for a certain subject (i.e., a television show, movie, book, etc.); in other words, I enjoy being a nonconformist;)

You are a person after my own heart. I also love the joy of not doing/being/existing for society's aspirations.

I hope we DEFINITELY become friends.

I have had a number of people tell me they don't like Star Trek. As long as they say so nicely, I don't have a problem with it at all. Everyone has different tastes.

I find myself that whenever I express an opinion here or somewhere I make it a point to be respectful in expressing it for that very same reason.

I hear ya. There are some people here that are so "protective" of their favorite shows/movies/performers/whatever they are really crazy about that they have the attitude of "you insult them - you are also insulting me". There are also some people, however, who do go overboard with their comments/criticisms that they invite people's wrath. Both are wrong attitudes to have, but people are people and it takes all kinds to make this world go.

As for myself, I've heard people say that my Howdy avatar looks "scary" at times. It doesn't bother me in the least - because I realize two things:

1. That a lot of my SO friends were born AFTER 1960 and, as a result, know nothing (or very little) about Howdy, which I respect.

AND

2. Not everyone is into everything that everyone else is into. You should never EVER be chastised for stating your opinion. Remember - one fan's 'sweet and cute' is another's 'ugly'. It's all a matter of personal opinion and taste.

Just walk up to your average Metallica fan and tell them that the band sucks and is nothing but noise. They act like you just insulted their mother. :lol:

I was thinking about something similar on my way to work. What is it in a person's brain that makes one person love a show and another hate it? Or why does one person think an actor is terrible and the other person loves them? No scientist will probably ever figure it out, but I wonder about it.

I always liked I Dream of Jeannie much better than Bewitched, but it's like, why? What is it about the characters or plots that I find more endearing than those on Bewitched?

Oh well...anyway, no, because I like odd things anyway, so I'm more on the receiving end than the bashing end. I think "Sweet Child 'o Mine" is one of the WORST songs ever created and performed, but oh well if it's your favorite. I don't like it and if you can't handle it, you need to toughen up a bit.

You don't like "Sweet Child O'Mine"!!!???? That's it! I'm not associating with the likes of you anymore. :lol: ;)

You are a person after my own heart. I also love the joy of not doing/being/existing for society's aspirations.

I hope we DEFINITELY become friends.
Sweetie, consider me a new friend :hug:

I agree. As long as people aren't going to certain boards just to bash the show, it doesn't really bother me.

You don't like "Sweet Child O'Mine"!!!???? That's it! I'm not associating with the likes of you anymore. :lol: ;)
Good! :snob:

Good! :snob:

:rofl:

Not everyone is going to react the same way to a show - that's just human nature. As long as its couched politely - that's what counts. For example, a friend buys a hideous shirt - you could say "It doesn't do you justice" as opposed to "it looks like sh*t on you" or "anyone who would like a shirt like that is an idiot".

There are some shows I love love love but would put others to sleep or make them reach for an air sickness bag. I generally feel its bad form to go onto a show's bd to state dislikes to the show. (For example I don't really care for Good Times or Three's Company but I wouldn't be likely to go to those bds. to say something uncomplimentary abt. the show.)

Different strokes for different folks....and regardless of what you like...you can always find enuf other fans of what you DO like to share thoughts with....

I used to be one of those people like Doodyville mentioned in the first part of her first post in this thread. Im better about it now :lol:

I really don't get offended by people saying they don't like the same shows/ etc. that I like... because, well, everyone sees things differently... I actually like hearing different views on things... and if I disagree with someone... I try to say it in a completely respectful way. ;)

generally not. actually i usually take pleasure in bashing things that are popular, though i don't do it if i'm talking directly to someone who i know likes what i'm referring to. i'm a bit selective of which situations i let out all my feelings about christianity in. i keep it toned down in places like this board where i know there are a lot of christians. no matter how accepting they are, i don't want to come off as a stereotypical egotistical athiest who thinks christians are brainwashed ******* and everything relating to the religion should be destroyed. hearing christians talk about their beliefs doesn't bother me (so long as they aren't trying to enforce them on me), i don't condone burning churches, and i LOVE the sacred christian chants from the medieval period, even if i don't agree with the words. i even have the church of jesus christ of latter day saints hymn book that i use on a daily basis for musical purposes. i just think it's a terrible religion to follow, and even when was i was a follower myself, my experience with it did nothing but harm to me. my state of mind and the events in my life have been so much brighter since i gave it up once and for all.

Not really. There are so many different types of tv shows that there's no way we would all agree on the same thing. It's fun for me, anyway, to see different opinions of shows that I like.

with regards to tv shows, films and music not really. i agree that variety is the spice of life and that if everyone liked the same bands, tv shows, performers, then that would be boring. there are tv shows and actors and actresses that i like that others are not a fan of and vice versa. and yet no one should be made to feel bad about expressing their preferences on this site.

i do agree with you guys though with regards to going to other tv show posts and bashing a show, the actors saying it is **** or crap- that is just out of order. if you don't like it, fine. you are entitled to your views but it is disrespectful to other members of whom are fans of that show and for them to read such derogatory and hurtful comments. there is a difference between constructive criticism, criticism and outright bashing. and the latter is uncalled for.

I don't see anything wrong about stating your feelings as long as you say it nicely. :)

I'm sure there is stuff I dig that people here dont like (like Bewitched for instance), and thats fine with me.

On the flip side of that I have made it clear that I dislike about 90% of the TV shows made past 1971, and know we have fans here of 80's 90's and 2000's show, but to keep things cool and out of respect I say nothing negative about those shows.

That said if you ask me if I like something or now, I'll be totally straight with you and tell you whether I dig it or not.

Wow, wouldn't the world be a boring place if everyone liked the same thing!!!

Personally, if someone mentioned that they did not care for a certain show or whatever, that I liked; no, I would not be offended; actually, I prefer having a unique taste for a certain subject (i.e., a television show, movie, book, etc.); in other words, I enjoy being a nonconformist;)

Love dat av! Marlo is cute as a button in it & in the series. And this just made me think of another point. Sometimes, tastes change over the yrs. When That Girl first came on TV I was 12-13 and it didn't ring my bell at all - and I esp. thought Don was kinda drippy. Now I look at the show and just adore it & think Donald is one of the sweetest guys ever. Ann should have married him muy pronto, but then there would go the whole story line ....

I don't really worry about that. I worry about hurting people's feelings with more serious things, but if I don't like a show, I have no problem saying it. People have knocked the shows I like on plenty of occasions, and it doesn't bother me in the least. To me it just seems silly to get upset over something so petty.

I generally feel its bad form to go onto a show's bd to state dislikes to the show.
Too bad more folks on The Jeffersons board don't share that viewpoint. It seems there's almost ALWAYS somebody there bashing that show and just criticizing the hell out of it. :rolleyes: LOL, I sure hope I don't start a ruckus by saying that. I honestly don't mean to, but it's generally been my experience whenever I visit that board that there's always somebody there putting the show down for some reason, which doesn't make a whole lot of sense to me. Why visit a show's board if you've got a lot of problems with it? And just for the record, again, I am NOT trying to start a ruckus or step on anyone's toes or start any arguments. That's just my own personal opinion and my apologies if I've offended anyone. Like I said, I didn't mean to. That's just how I feel personally.

It's a question of style of guess. I'd rather discuss something I like then something I dislike. But if someone brought up show A on Board B, I might offer my two cents.

Too bad more folks on The Jeffersons board don't share that viewpoint. It seems there's almost ALWAYS somebody there bashing that show and just criticizing the hell out of it. :rolleyes: LOL, I sure hope I don't start a ruckus by saying that. I honestly don't mean to, but it's generally been my experience whenever I visit that board that there's always somebody there putting the show down for some reason, which doesn't make a whole lot of sense to me. Why visit a show's board if you've got a lot of problems with it? And just for the record, again, I am NOT trying to start a ruckus or step on anyone's toes or start any arguments. That's just my own personal opinion and my apologies if I've offended anyone. Like I said, I didn't mean to. That's just how I feel personally.

It's a question of style I guess. I'd rather discuss something I like then something I dislike. But if someone brought up show A on Board B, I might offer my opinion but would try to do it tactfully.

The plus side of someone bashing a show I like is it makes me rethink JUST WHY I like the show. For example, someone would come onto the I Love Lucy bds. and bash it. The person, of course, had a right to their opinion but their posts made it fresh in my mind why I LOVE I.L.L. Stirring up the pot, however, is just not something I'm comfortable doing.

If I like a person, and I know they're obsessed with a show, actor, etc, I'll hold my opinion, if it's negative. It kind of gets on my nerves, but whatever. I think it's immature for a person to care what anyone thinks of what they love, yet I've seen some go into meltdown mode over criticism over something they love. I love The Sopranos; still, if anyone said or posted that they hate the show with a passion, it wouldn't bother me in the least. If the person made untrue claims against the show, I'd defend it, but that's about it.

Generally, I don't putdown or make fun of other people's favorites TV shows, movies, whatever. I've had people do it to me and it's just not cool. Don't expect me to join in your favorites though.


I had a bizarre experience with this late last year. I made friends with someone through YouTube and he insisted on sending me mix CDs of his favorite songs and a DVD of his favorite music videos after I commented on one of his videos. I have a post office box so I didn't see the harm in it.

He was also a huge fan of a show, I liked when it originally aired in the '80s, but I'm not interested in anymore. I decided to be nice and not tell him how I felt about his crappy music or my disinterest in the show. He was also interested in fairies and had also spent a large amount of time creating a fantasy land on paper. I'm not interested in that kind of stuff at all.


I thanked him for the CDs and DVD and tried to find something nice to say about them even though I didn't like them very much. He knew I liked Lucille Ball and constantly put down her shows because of the physical comedy. At the same time he said that he liked certain episodes of ILL and the Lucy Show. I should have stopped emailing him then, but I felt sorry for him because he had recently been diagnosed with MS and I'm nice.

Since he had sent me a couple packages, I decided to send him some DVD-R's of several classic movies I like and all the Christmas episodes of The Lucy Show because it was Christmas time. He emails me back and totally trashes Lucy again and doesn't say anything about the movies. He didn't even thank me for the thought. I emailed him once more and decided to cut off contact. He never emailed me back, but about a month or two later, he emails me and tells me I'd been a witch with a b since I had sent him the Lucy stuff he didn't like. :lol:

I've learned that if someone doesn't respect your likes and dislikes, he or she doesn't respect you.

Generally, I don't putdown or make fun of other people's favorites TV shows, movies, whatever. I've had people do it to me and it's just not cool. Don't expect me to join in your favorites though.


I had a bizarre experience with this late last year. I made friends with someone through YouTube and he insisted on sending me mix CDs of his favorite songs and a DVD of his favorite music videos after I commented on one of his videos. I have a post office box so I didn't see the harm in it.

He was also a huge fan of a show, I liked when it originally aired in the '80s, but I'm not interested in anymore. I decided to be nice and not tell him how I felt about his crappy music or my disinterest in the show. He was also interested in fairies and had also spent a large amount of time creating a fantasy land on paper. I'm not interested in that kind of stuff at all.


I thanked him for the CDs and DVD and tried to find something nice to say about them even though I didn't like them very much. He knew I liked Lucille Ball and constantly put down her shows because of the physical comedy. At the same time he said that he liked certain episodes of ILL and the Lucy Show. I should have stopped emailing him then, but I felt sorry for him because he had recently been diagnosed with MS and I'm nice.

Since he had sent me a couple packages, I decided to send him some DVD-R's of several classic movies I like and all the Christmas episodes of The Lucy Show because it was Christmas time. He emails me back and totally trashes Lucy again and doesn't say anything about the movies. He didn't even thank me for the thought. I emailed him once more and decided to cut off contact. He never emailed me back, but about a month or two later, he emails me and tells me I'd been a witch with a b since I had sent him the Lucy stuff he didn't like. :lol:

I've learned that if someone doesn't respect your likes and dislikes, he or she doesn't respect you.


Sounds like the guy is playing with a 47 card deck. Sorry you had that bad experience GG.

And BTW, I really appreciate how nice you were to me when I was a newbie and dealing with a very nasty troll on the O & H bds. You rock!

Sounds like the guy is playing with a 47 card deck. Sorry you had that bad experience GG.
I second that.

Besides, how can you like a couple episodes of the show, but despise it as a whole? That doesn't make sense. If you despised it as a whole, you'd hate those episodes, too!

If I like a person, and I know they're obsessed with a show, actor, etc, I'll hold my opinion, if it's negative. It kind of gets on my nerves, but whatever. I think it's immature for a person to care what anyone thinks of what they love, yet I've seen some go into meltdown mode over criticism over something they love. I love The Sopranos; still, if anyone said or posted that they hate the show with a passion, it wouldn't bother me in the least. If the person made untrue claims against the show, I'd defend it, but that's about it.

I pretty much feel the way you do. If someone doesn't like a fav show - fine - different strokes for different folks.

On a personal note, I have been soooo BAD abt not watching the Sopranos - esp. when I bought the whole series from Best Buy, who made me an offer I can't refuse -$175 for the whole series. I WILL get around to watching it - cause I KNOW I will like it. I have seen a few of the eps here and there at friends' houses when it orig aired & liked what I saw. SHOUT's fabulous releases of Room 222 and The Paper Chase got me sidetracked...these shows were at the top of my wish list - I thought I'd be condemned forever to going to the Paley Ctr. to see them. When I do crack out the Sopranos - can we discuss eps? Is there a forum for the Soprano's?

Sweetie, consider me a new friend :hug:


:hug: Thank you. Consider me a new friend, too. :cool: :loveya: We non-conformists have to stick together when we can.

:hug: Thank you. Consider me a new friend, too. :cool: :loveya: We non-conformists have to stick together when we can.

Awww, one of my oldest friends, becoming friends with one of my newest friends!! I can feel the love!! :D ;)

If someone's feelings get hurt because I don't like their favorite TV show, celebrity, type of music, etc. then that's their problem, not mine. I don't let negative things people say about stuff I like bother me. One of my all-time favorite TV shows is Wings, which is always getting bashed by people, so I've really had to learn to bite my tongue. We all have different tastes and a right to express our opinions. I do agree that going to fan sites just to bash or attacking the fans of something is just rude and immature. Unless they're Yankees fans, of course. :lol: :joke:

What makes this board such a fun place is the huge variety of peoples' tastes and the respect that most of us give each other.

One thing that bugs me is when people don't stop and think about the passage of time involved since many older sitcoms first aired. For example, I once read extremely harsh criticism of the final seasons of Petticoat Junction because the characters were singing songs from the late 1920s and early '30s -- in other words, 40-year old songs (at the time PJ was produced). However, if someone sings a song on American Idol today from 1969 -- 40 years ago -- how is that any different?

When people jump on something for being "dated," they don't tend to stop and think that aspects of their current world will become likewise dated eventually. So that's something I consider. Not caring for something is different than slamming it without sound reasons, or never having seen more than 1 episode to judge by.