I was reading a Cosmopolitian magazine, and there was an article on what men don't want from thier girlfriends.....


1. They don't want a girl that talks bad about her ex..... because either it proves she's not over her ex, or if her and her current boyfriend break up, she might trash him9the currnet boyfriend) to her NEW boyfriend.....

2. They don't want a girl who always agrees with them, because that hints that she has no resolve, and any other boy might take her away nfrom her currnet bf if she doesn't have a resolve.

3. They don't want her too be too sweet, because sooner or later, she begins to get annoying or starts reminding him of his little sister, who he does NOT want to date.

4. A girl who is dependent and clingy turns him off very quickkly, because he then becomes her "savior", more than her boyfriend. He does NOT want to have to take care of a grown ass woman..........

How are any of those things surprising?

How are any of those things surprising?
lol, that's what i was thinking. i thought cosmopolitan was for women out of high school.

I think these are things that both sexes dont want in a partner.

i would think that most guys (and girls too for that matter) wouldn't want to be with someone that talks at all about their ex - not just the bad stuff.

I wouldnt dare insult a girlfriend (or any other female) by comparing them to the last few ex girlfriends I had.

Now...for three reasons why I married my husband:

1. He knows that E,S,P and N aren't the only letters in the alphabet.

2. He doesn't like to spend six hours in the bathroom grooming and putting on colonge like David Beckham, then getting upset because he can't dress like Kanye West.

and

3. His idea of "TV Night" includes watching Dragnet, Adam-12 and Emergency on Hulu.com.

Now...for three reasons why I married my husband:

1. He knows that E,S,P and N aren't the only letters in the alphabet.

2. He doesn't like to spend six hours in the bathroom grooming and putting on colonge like David Beckham, then getting upset because he can't dress like Kanye West.

and

3. His idea of "TV Night" includes watching Dragnet, Adam-12 and Emergency on Hulu.com.

You've got a real keeper!:crazy: I mean that sincerely.....;)

Now...for three reasons why I married my husband:

1. He knows that E,S,P and N aren't the only letters in the alphabet.

2. He doesn't like to spend six hours in the bathroom grooming and putting on colonge like David Beckham, then getting upset because he can't dress like Kanye West.

and

3. His idea of "TV Night" includes watching Dragnet, Adam-12 and Emergency on Hulu.com.

Does he have a brother?

How are any of those things surprising?

I said that they were surprising because I assumed that a guy would like a girl to agree with him a lot and I thought he would LOVE it if she compared him to her ex in a good way.... Like saying, "My ex was such a jerk. I'm glad you're not a jerk." I thought that would be a compliment to him, the new boyfriend.....:confused:

I said that they were surprising because I assumed that a guy would like a girl to agree with him a lot and I thought he would LOVE it if she compared him to her ex in a good way.... Like saying, "My ex was such a jerk. I'm glad you're not a jerk." I thought that would be a compliment to him, the new boyfriend.....:confused:
STOP TALKING ABOUT YOUR EX

...and then avoid touchy subjects like religion, politics, sports and breakfast cereals - unless you already know and agree with the other person's point of view.

I said that they were surprising because I assumed that a guy would like a girl to agree with him a lot and I thought he would LOVE it if she compared him to her ex in a good way.... Like saying, "My ex was such a jerk. I'm glad you're not a jerk." I thought that would be a compliment to him, the new boyfriend.....:confused:

Not exactly...

I speak for myself here; not many guys like to hear about the ex. It makes you feel like you have expectations to live up to and shoes to fill.

Compliments can also turn around very quickly, like saying "Well my ex never behaved like you are now..." or "at least my ex knew what I wanted..."

Best to leave any mention of your ex's (good or bad) out of current relationships. They are over and out of the picture and you have moved on.

I said that they were surprising because I assumed that a guy would like a girl to agree with him a lot and I thought he would LOVE it if she compared him to her ex in a good way.... Like saying, "My ex was such a jerk. I'm glad you're not a jerk." I thought that would be a compliment to him, the new boyfriend.....:confused:
excessive talk about your ex can indicate that your mind still hasn't left him. your new boyfriend may know that you don't like the guy anymore, but he's going to want to be the only person you're holding up to relationship standards. he won't enjoy being constantly compared who isn't supposed to matter anymore. if it gets bad enough, he may even become slightly jealous that you still pay so much attention to your ex. i'm a girl of course, but this type of thing applies to most people, not just guys. if i started dating a guy and all he talked about was how i'm so much prettier than his ex and how i'm not a whore like his ex, i wouldn't like it.

...and then avoid touchy subjects like religion, politics, sports and breakfast cereals - unless you already know and agree with the other person's point of view.
:lol:

James and Sarah, you both seem to be right. Cosmopolititian magazine says the only thing you should be saying about your ex to your boyfriend is "Jack who?" If Jack is your ex boyfriend as if you have completely forgotten about your ex or dont even care about him anymore.

Crabs ? ;)

Does he have a brother?

Yes, actually he does. The only difference between the two is that the brother's idea of TV night is watching "Stargate:SG1", "Lost In Space" and "Mythbusters" anywhere he can.

He, too, is also happily married - and has two children! Sorry!

if i started dating a guy and all he talked about was how i'm so much prettier than his ex and how i'm not a whore like his ex, i wouldn't like it.


:lol:

I don't know, Sarah, if a guy told me that I was prettier than his ex and not a whore like she was, I'd like it...... I'd be :D For a while though.... Then if he did it excessivley, I'd be like, :rolleyes: it's okay the first few times, after that it can get annoying.....

I don't know, Sarah, if a guy told me that I was prettier than his ex and not a whore like she was, I'd like it...... I'd be :D For a while though.... Then if he did it excessivley, I'd be like, :rolleyes: it's okay the first few times, after that it can get annoying.....
yeah, that's what i mean. saying it once after you've been dating for a while would probably be fine. it just isn't something you'd want to bring into every conversation.